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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is anyone else having the same problem? We seek female's or couple's where the female plays alone or with male watching, but all we ever seem to find is fakes or time wasters? Struggling so much... any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two things ....

~ single bi-females who will play with couples are very rare on here. And many of these will expect play to be limited to girl/girl. If you find a single bi-female who will play with both of you, you need to be very careful in your approach. Make it clear that her wishes are very important to you - if she gets the feeling that you're trying to treat her as your plaything, she'll likely walk away. Doesn't make her a fake or a timewaster, it just means that your needs don't match.

~ couples are unlikely to appreciate your requirement that you play with their female, but their male doesn't play with your female. When I was in a couple, we wouldn't have played within these rules. Instead we would have sought out other couples where BOTH halves of BOTH couples had fun. Didn't make us fake or timewasters, it just meant we weren't what you were looking for.

Also, you may want to consider the fact that the age of your male may be off-putting for some people. Horny 23 year old male wants sex with other men's partners, but won't share his own partner or she won't play? This can read as a typical young man's fantasy of 'having his cake and eating it'.

You're entitled to your preferences, of course, but I think you should be realistic that you're not likely to find many people who suit you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're looking for a couple where just the female plays and the male has to watch you've limited your search parameters massively. To me it would set of alarm bells.

You and your partner want to have fun with my partner but I'm not allowed to join in? Why? Is it because you don't want your partner being touched by another man? If so is suspect that you've reduced the number of couples on here happy with that to a handful then you'd have to find a couple happy with the fact you're in your early 20's and all of a sudden you've turned this into a needle in a haystack. It's not about time wasting it's about numbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two things ....

~ single bi-females who will play with couples are very rare on here. And many of these will expect play to be limited to girl/girl. If you find a single bi-female who will play with both of you, you need to be very careful in your approach. Make it clear that her wishes are very important to you - if she gets the feeling that you're trying to treat her as your plaything, she'll likely walk away. Doesn't make her a fake or a timewaster, it just means that your needs don't match.

~ couples are unlikely to appreciate your requirement that you play with their female, but their male doesn't play with your female. When I was in a couple, we wouldn't have played within these rules. Instead we would have sought out other couples where BOTH halves of BOTH couples had fun. Didn't make us fake or timewasters, it just meant we weren't what you were looking for.

Also, you may want to consider the fact that the age of your male may be off-putting for some people. Horny 23 year old male wants sex with other men's partners, but won't share his own partner or she won't play? This can read as a typical young man's fantasy of 'having his cake and eating it'.

You're entitled to your preferences, of course, but I think you should be realistic that you're not likely to find many people who suit you.

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Couldn't have said it better

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