FabSwingers.com forum: nasty or no thanks...easy choice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi i am a nice guy i am always polite and respectful and never abusive but i get a torrent of abuse from couples who who have

looking for: men

age limit 20-45

lol why dont they just say no thanks, i know they probably get tones of messages but still come on peeps its ment to be fun! even for single guys too?

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

what do you mean by torrents of abuse?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably because they don't have to? you should never EXPECT anything from anyone in this world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" its ment to be fun! even for single guys too?

Nope, definitely not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get loads of e mails from guys am not looking for who dont read my profile so why the hell should i reply to them with a No thanks ?

pubic hair

big build

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

So why bother contacting people who clearly say NO SINGLE MALES in the first place..they have put that for a reason..

Surely there enough nice single females on here?..or even couples wgo do want an extra male to make up a trio?.

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"So why bother contacting people who clearly say NO SINGLE MALES in the first place..they have put that for a reason..

Surely there enough nice single females on here?..or even couples wgo do want an extra male to make up a trio?."

That's not what he said - he said he contacts people who ARE looking for single males.

To answer the OPs original question - It's everyone own choice who they reply to and just because they say they will meet single men it doesn't mean they have to reply to everyone who contacts them.

Just the tuppence worth of a single male!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal take on this is that, I have in my profile right at the top that I am not looking for more playmates, and will not respond to unsolicited PMs.

Therefore, if peeps cannot read and still send me PMs, then they should not be surprised if I ignore and do not reply to their messages!

Can't be fairer than that IMHO!

And if peeps ask why I do not hide my profile, my response is that I have chosen not to, as my friends enjoy peeking at the photos from time to time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if members are abusive in their messages report them to admin cos abuse is not tolerated of anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he isnt actually saying why arent they answering he's saying why are they hurling abuse at him for contacting them when their profile says there looking for men

i dont get the rudeness on this site sometimes, the majority of people and i mean like 98% are lovely and friendly then you get the odd one that ruins it by being really rude or even abusive its just plain daft x

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Your right there _b430..

Apologies to the OP..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I did not come across as rude or abusive, merely stating what I do when I get an unsolicited message, that's all.

I would never hurl abusive to anyone who takes the time to PM me, no matter how crude the message may be, and most of them are very crude one liners!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had an abusive reply yet,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant stand rude ppl .... defo no need for it .... but look at it this way ur lucky they dont wanna meet it would prob have been a rubbish nite anyways.

good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people seem to think they got the upper hand on here and other sites when a single guy gets in touch and think they got the right to be abusive.

If i was you i would report the people who are/have been abusive to you.

Good luck x

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

"cant stand rude ppl .... defo no need for it .... but look at it this way ur lucky they dont wanna meet it would prob have been a rubbish nite anyways.

good luck xx"

Never rude here tands and still need to deliver that keyring

so on my way asap lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is there could be something about you that goes against what they have on their profile. You've taken into account their age preferences but you can't accommodate, have they asked for playmates to be able to? Have they asked for shaved playmates etc.

If this is the case then they are within their right to be harsh in their response.

No one has to reply to you and some will be nicer than others! Par for the course I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people seem to think they got the upper hand on here and other sites when a single guy gets in touch and think they got the right to be abusive.

If i was you i would report the people who are/have been abusive to you.

Good luck x"

well said!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"cant stand rude ppl .... defo no need for it .... but look at it this way ur lucky they dont wanna meet it would prob have been a rubbish nite anyways.

good luck xx

Never rude here tands and still need to deliver that keyring

so on my way asap lol xxx"

lmao i agree u are never rude .... awaiting my keyring xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS. I am rude and make no apologies to men who write telling me who I should see, what pics I should have etc.

It would never cross my mind to initiate such a message but I have no qualms in responding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join :

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/19100

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

"PS. I am rude and make no apologies to men who write telling me who I should see, what pics I should have etc.

It would never cross my mind to initiate such a message but I have no qualms in responding! "

Oh yes the expectation that to be a "proper" swinger I should have gynae pics on my profile always sits well with me

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

I've been lucky I guess, only one nasty reply to a message sent, so instant "block"! As there are so many of us single men on here some people just like the power trip!

Dont let the odd rotten egg spoil your fun, there are lots of good single ladies and couples who will give you respect if you show them the same!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The thing is there could be something about you that goes against what they have on their profile. You've taken into account their age preferences but you can't accommodate, have they asked for playmates to be able to? Have they asked for shaved playmates etc.

If this is the case then they are within their right to be harsh in their response.

No one has to reply to you and some will be nicer than others! Par for the course I'm afraid."

i dont think anyone is 'well within their rights' to be abusive in responding to messages.

Everyone on here has the right to be so without receiving abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi i am a nice guy i am always polite and respectful and never abusive but i get a torrent of abuse from couples who who have

looking for: men

age limit 20-45

lol why dont they just say no thanks, i know they probably get tones of messages but still come on peeps its ment to be fun! even for single guys too?

I bet i get more abuse than you do from guys i say 'no thanks; to

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I agree with Sassy, I get cross when people mail me without reading my profile As I can easily tell if they have read it. Also no point mailing me if your not local and over 50 say if that is what my profile specifies.

If your from scotland and you 55 then dont mail me as the answer will probably be an abrupt one or just deleted.

Single men often do this and then there are the ones who stand out because they have read my profile and so am more interested in them.

Mind you have had a couple recently who didnt read my profile!

Did have a single guy who messaged saying he wanted to jack himself off for me before going to work. Strangely I deleted without reading, as dont think it has in my profile that I like to see men jack of on cam for me!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"hi i am a nice guy i am always polite and respectful and never abusive but i get a torrent of abuse from couples who who have

looking for: men

age limit 20-45

lol why dont they just say no thanks, i know they probably get tones of messages but still come on peeps its ment to be fun! even for single guys too?

You still haven't told us why you recieved this 'torrent of abuse'.

A bit sceptical about this....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im never rude but if somethin doesnt interest me i just delete xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have never intentionally contacted anyone who has sain no men and dont expect a reply but my piont was if you do reply a no thanks is all is needed and not abuse lol if you go t the effort of replyingn why not be polite about it? anyway thanks to everyone who was brave enough to share an opinion all were valid and helpful!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You still haven't told us why you recieved this 'torrent of abuse'.

A bit sceptical about this....

i just ment abuse from them saying we dont want to meet singl guys read the f*%king profile, when i have and i match it. that sort of thing.

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

Because single women and m/f/ couples are way outnumbered by us single blokes they can be as rude as they like. I actually think some get a real buzz out of dismissing us out of hand and being downright rude.

The rudest are often the ones without verifications......what does that tell you?

However I have been knocked back quite a few times with the great politness and with a 'good luck'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You still haven't told us why you recieved this 'torrent of abuse'.

A bit sceptical about this....

i just ment abuse from them saying we dont want to meet singl guys read the f*%king profile, when i have and i match it. that sort of thing."

Best thing to do hun is block them and move on,try not to take it personally x

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

I always reply to any contact. Mostly I just say " You are not what I am looking for, sorry" but I admit to putting in the odd sarcastic reply when I get friends invites from overweight 58 year old bald chaps, or couples whose profiles say that the female wants a bi girl and the male will only watch, with no pics of either . . . .

I can only hold my tongue for so long.

Sorry to any who have felt abused by this, but some people need to learn to READ.

Rant over.

hugs

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had an abusive reply yet,"

I have had one or 2 over the years. I usually just reply with a "thanks for your reply & I hope you find what you are looking for"

Most couples get loads of contact so I just check that mail has been read & if it has assume that if no reply is forthcoming then im not what they are looking for & move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well i got told i was nothing but a 2 bit used whore yesterday buy a single guys so claimed to be polite, friendly and fun to be around on his profile, then he proceeded to look thro my verification and be nasty about the people i had met too lol and all i said was sorry but your to young for me

We all get abuse on here, to be honest i've got to the point now where i expect it and accept thats its just another part of swinging that will not going away, like no shows etc, just got to laugh about it and move on i guess

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

if we are not intrested, we send a polite no thank you. we have had a few nastys, but you know the saying, (sticks and stones)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well i got told i was nothing but a 2 bit used whore yesterday buy a single guys so claimed to be polite, friendly and fun to be around on his profile, then he proceeded to look thro my verification and be nasty about the people i had met too lol and all i said was sorry but your to young for me

Must have really stung that a two bit used whore turned him down eh, funny how he liked the idea of a two bit used whore until he was told no, certainly seemed to young if he still has dummies to spit out.

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