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sounds like relationships getting in the way there, and the reason why so many have an issue with single guys, some are here for free and easy pussy, not all, some understand and enjoy swinging. | |||
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" they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, " Maybe they have to hurry home to their 'other half' | |||
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and the fact that I could talk a Glass eye to sleep | |||
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then said it was to just watch the mrs play with her toys for an `hr then leave with no contact with her allowed
wtf is that about
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Apparantly he was just passing!
R was at work and I was furious and not a little scared!
We moved some time later and NEVER EVER have guys at our home....
BUT!! We have met some lovely guys!!
J XXX | |||
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"its not just single guys had a cpl message me wanting me to meet them
then said it was to just watch the mrs play with her toys for an `hr then leave with no contact with her allowed
wtf is that about
i did not take them up on their fantastic offer "voyeurism??? maybe they checked your interests before contacting you | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !!" Did you not provide any tables or napkins? Reckon that must have been why 
This thread has made me want KFC! | |||
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"KFC???? Nooooooo Keeeebab! "Lol... I think I actually will! Just don't know of any drive-though babbys to make my point | |||
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"KFC???? Nooooooo Keeeebab!
Lol... I think I actually will! Just don't know of any drive-though babbys to make my point "Durrrrr I am soooo Fick....didnt get it! Anyhoo Keeebab with Chilli sauce and extra pickles... | |||
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"KFC???? Nooooooo Keeeebab!
Lol... I think I actually will! Just don't know of any drive-though babbys to make my point
Durrrrr I am soooo Fick....didnt get it!
Anyhoo Keeebab with Chilli sauce and extra pickles... "Lol... noooo, definitely garlic sauce and some salad (got to keep it healthy!). They do 'em in a massive naan type thingy in a place round here, awesome! Anyone for a meet in half an hour? | |||
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"KFC???? Nooooooo Keeeebab!
Lol... I think I actually will! Just don't know of any drive-though babbys to make my point
Durrrrr I am soooo Fick....didnt get it!
Anyhoo Keeebab with Chilli sauce and extra pickles...
Lol... noooo, definitely garlic sauce and some salad (got to keep it healthy!). They do 'em in a massive naan type thingy in a place round here, awesome!
Anyone for a meet in half an hour? "Have i missed the dead line not had a kebab in years | |||
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"Unfortunatly....the many spoil it for the FEW good guys! We have had similar problems...and....now get this! One guy turned up uninvited at our house some days after a meet
Apparantly he was just passing!
R was at work and I was furious and not a little scared!
We moved some time later and NEVER EVER have guys at our home....
BUT!! We have met some lovely guys!!
J XXX "Snap !! That was the problem we had with the one and only 'problem' single guy. He was 'just on his way to the tip, an thought he'd pop in' - ..... ffs 
And we had a couple do exactly the same thing - Just turned up at our house out of the blue
Some people seem to read more into swinging than the fun that it's supposed to be. They seem to think that once they've been invited to your house that it's an open ticket to pop in any time they are passing and clearly that isn't the case ..
But it's by no means limited to single guys ....
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mm this thread makes me glad i have kept some emails as some are just plain fibbers | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !!" they usually the ones who are playing away, only got 2 hours while the wifes at her yoga class lol | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !!" This is why I wont meet single guys, they make too many demands and ask to many questions | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !! This is why I wont meet single guys, they make too many demands and ask to many questions "Once again the good single guys suffer due to the actions of a few idiots, who wouldn't have respect under any circumstances. Please you lovely couples don't tar us all with the same brush, some of us are all you ask and more! | |||
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" Once again the good single guys suffer due to the actions of a few idiots, who wouldn't have respect under any circumstances. Please you lovely couples don't tar us all with the same brush, some of us are all you ask and more! "Most adults will know that not everyone is the same | |||
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" Once again the good single guys suffer due to the actions of a few idiots, who wouldn't have respect under any circumstances. Please you lovely couples don't tar us all with the same brush, some of us are all you ask and more! "You really don't need to keep reminding us of this fact, we are adult enough to know that not all single guys are the same. It is beginning to look like begging, and that's not attractive to a woman. | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !!" ............. which is all well and good, but then it is a case of everything going both ways... I have had cases where I am expected to be so "greatful" for a meet then they have set out a lorry load of demands.... like I am suppose to be some kind of "stunt cock" there for their pleasure alone..... Everyone is suppose to get something out of the experience... not just the couple, not just the single I have heard about single bi-fems who have felt like they have been used by couples for there own ends... just as much as couples who feel like they have been used by single guys.... so if we are going to have a fair and honest discussion then I think it is only right to acknowledge that some couples are not perfect either... look.... an idiot is an idiot, regardless of them being single or part of a couple or even god forbid, both of them..... maybe it is a case of talking to people more before meeting.... maybe it is a case of choosing ya playmates better.. I don't know the situation, but if this is the way that people are treating others then maybe... just maybe something has to change! some single guys attitudes... some couples attitudes... attitudes of people in general | |||
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !! ............. which is all well and good, but then it is a case of everything going both ways... I have had cases where I am expected to be so "greatful" for a meet then they have set out a lorry load of demands.... like I am suppose to be some kind of "stunt cock" there for their pleasure alone..... Everyone is suppose to get something out of the experience... not just the couple, not just the single I have heard about single bi-fems who have felt like they have been used by couples for there own ends... just as much as couples who feel like they have been used by single guys.... so if we are going to have a fair and honest discussion then I think it is only right to acknowledge that some couples are not perfect either... look.... an idiot is an idiot, regardless of them being single or part of a couple or even god forbid, both of them..... maybe it is a case of talking to people more before meeting.... maybe it is a case of choosing ya playmates better.. I don't know the situation, but if this is the way that people are treating others then maybe... just maybe something has to change! some single guys attitudes... some couples attitudes... attitudes of people in general " Funnily enough we had a conversation with a man last week on MSN. We were chatting about likes and dislikes etc and he kept coming back with the answer " yes, whatever suits you both" When we pointed out that if we are going to meet, it has to suit you too..he replied that the couples he had been in contact with had called all the shots and as that was his only experience then he thought that was how things worked in swinging. So yes, you are right, maybe more attitudes should change. | |||
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"Unfortunatly....the many spoil it for the FEW good guys! We have had similar problems...and....now get this! One guy turned up uninvited at our house some days after a meet
Apparantly he was just passing!
R was at work and I was furious and not a little scared!
We moved some time later and NEVER EVER have guys at our home....
BUT!! We have met some lovely guys!!
J XXX "
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Regarding over-familiarity, I like to chat to anyone I get to play with about "normal" things, simply to get a feel of what kind of person they are, it might help me unmask someone who turns into a nutter once my trousers are on the floor.
I'm not being nosey. I don't want to know their life history, or detailed specifics, but if someone freezes when I ask what they do for a living, it's probably going to be awkward somewhere down the line when real-life intrudes, and it will at some point, on their fantasy. Especially if they have volunteered the information first that they have to be up for work in the morning. Surely it is expected that the next words out of my mouth would be:
"Oh, OK, no problem,what is it that you do?"
Swinging, indeed sex in general, for me at least, is about a little more than the physical bang bang. At the very least, you have to get from the street/bar/club to a room, you can't just teleport in, naked, ready to go.(I wish) There has to be a little human interaction.
If I happen to bump into a Mother-in-Law walking up someone's garden path (and that has happened to me on the way out one morning), I'd like to think that my playmate needn't worry about me being indiscrete and saying something embarrassing. That's easier if you know just a little about someone.
Similarly, if I do happen to bump into someone I've seen in a club, or maybe their profile on here, I'm never going to mention that, it's their private life. If they've invited me into their home and sex life, I'm going to respect that and not broadcast the fact to all and sundry.
So, for "dropping in" on someone at a later date uninvited......sheesh, no chance, very crass. It's a shame, but a fact of life, that not everyone has common sense, perhaps the bloke just didn't think before popping in for a cuppa. (Then again, he may well have thought he might get some more action, in which case, he's a Double Dickhead)
I have been invited to family BBQs and stuff with a couple I have played with, simply because they enjoyed my company, not just my cock, they knew I was a normal, sane individual who can hold a decent conversation, and wasn't going to embarrass them. We are "friends" now, not just playmates, and I feel honoured to be accepted and treated as such.
Unfortunately, like Jekido2009 says above, I have also met couples who expect a chap to disappear the moment the deed is done, literally. Personally, I like to lie back, get my breath back and recover with some idle banter before getting myself together to leave (or for Round 2, whatever!), I can't just disappear in a puff of smoke. In fact, it's not about whether I "like" to do it, I have to do it, I'm usually shattered!
People should remember that the other person, in this case, the down-trodden single bloke, is just that, a PERSON, not a sex aid as part of a fantasy. Like said above, not a "stunt cock".
If you don't want to meet a real life independent free-thinking person, don't invite a man to your home blind. Instead, go looking for a quickie in a layby whatever. No interaction, no entanglement. Better still, clubs, you could be anyone from anywhere , no-one need know. Little danger of being surprised at home by someone you've played with afterwards.
All that said, and getting back to the OP, I agree with the answer above somewhere - the guy was probably married, and yes, he WAS taking the piss!
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"Blimey, what is it with single guys these days, we've recently had 2 who we thought we may get along with, then they expect to come round, impose a time limit and treat it like a drive-by f**k, come on guys show some respect !! ............. which is all well and good, but then it is a case of everything going both ways... I have had cases where I am expected to be so "greatful" for a meet then they have set out a lorry load of demands.... like I am suppose to be some kind of "stunt cock" there for their pleasure alone..... Everyone is suppose to get something out of the experience... not just the couple, not just the single I have heard about single bi-fems who have felt like they have been used by couples for there own ends... just as much as couples who feel like they have been used by single guys.... so if we are going to have a fair and honest discussion then I think it is only right to acknowledge that some couples are not perfect either... look.... an idiot is an idiot, regardless of them being single or part of a couple or even god forbid, both of them..... maybe it is a case of talking to people more before meeting.... maybe it is a case of choosing ya playmates better.. I don't know the situation, but if this is the way that people are treating others then maybe... just maybe something has to change! some single guys attitudes... some couples attitudes... attitudes of people in general " Hey Fabio Great post, and agree 100% we always like everyone to have fun! We do have some guidelines when meeting obviously. However, we try and get all that sorted before we meet. I have the final say to play or not, and you cant make that decision until you actually meet! We once met a guy who when we met I just didnt like (im a woman I never said logical!).....to his credit he was fine about it all and we parted on reasonable terms! The fact is, all 3 or 4 or 5 people have to be happy! We do like meeting single guys! And dont want to Put you all down! Take care J xxx | |||
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"Attitudes like this make it EVEN harder for the guys on here who are honest and polite. The fact he was putting time restaints on means he's married is my guess!" Not necessarily: I had a single man who wanted to come around for a couple of hours to "de-stress" between meetings!
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If someone tells you what they would like from their swinging experience and it does not meet with your requirements I really do fail to see how they are being disrespectful.
The fact that they are being honest and up front should see them applauded as opposed to the condemnation of one or two on here.
There is a distinct whiff of the usual superiority being voiced here, it's almost as if some folk believe that they are due a bit of "bowing and scraping"
Emails we receive are nothing more than genuine requests, some are are infinitely more suitable than others but at the end of the day they are simple requests.
We are not that precious that we believe anyone needs to pay homage at the feet of Mrs B and that within the swinging world we are all equal.
If we don't like an emails content we say "thanks but no thanks" and move on not in least bit offended by the question.
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"@ the OP and a few others in this thread. I am really struggling here to find the correlation between disrespect and someone asking politely for something
If someone tells you what they would like from their swinging experience and it does not meet with your requirements I really do fail to see how they are being disrespectful.
The fact that they are being honest and up front should see them applauded as opposed to the condemnation of one or two on here.
There is a distinct whiff of the usual superiority being voiced here, it's almost as if some folk believe that they are due a bit of "bowing and scraping"
Emails we receive are nothing more than genuine requests, some are are infinitely more suitable than others but at the end of the day they are simple requests.
We are not that precious that we believe anyone needs to pay homage at the feet of Mrs B and that within the swinging world we are all equal.
If we don't like an emails content we say "thanks but no thanks" and move on not in least bit offended by the question.
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