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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

when people meet for the first time do you,get right down to it, or meet for a drink get to know each other first

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

either or

depends when we are

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Always meet for a drink and chat first myself and very, very rarely play on the first meet.

Leave them wanting to meet you again (or not) is my motto....

Of course compatability works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"either or

depends when we are"
thanks for answering so quickly that has to be a record lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always meet for a drink and chat first myself and very, very rarely play on the first meet.

Leave them wanting to meet you again (or not) is my motto....

Of course compatability works both ways."
my excact thoughts thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play on first meet but only arrange to meet when we're sure we want to play with the person/s.

Also we usually arrange first meets in a club or at a party where we already know people. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we meet at a party or a club we will play there and then, but prefer not to on personal meets.

We like to have a drink and a good old chin wag, just to make sure we are on the same wavelength so to speak.

At a club or a party we seem to "fast track" people, lol. Don't know why, but it's probably because we are ready to roll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I drive so I don't drink lol Never had a meet that hasn't started off without at least half an hour of chat, and thats not just on the first meet either. Usually have a chat at the end too or in the middle if I need time to gather myself lol

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

That's a fair point, if I meet someone at a club or party then naturally any one on one meet after would include play.

Have to admit I have broken my no play on first meet rule when the attraction (both ways) has been electric.

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

take each meet on its merits...lol some just social 2 start, some ye just cany wait to get funky...lol

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

And of course I do play with people I have just met at parties and clubs, particularly at parties where I tend to have my best times.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I am very fortunate I guess in that I live on my own now.

I go to clubs so sex is often instant, if eyes meet across a crowded room.

I also live in a very lovely home with great security, thats why I chose it.

So I feel fairly safe having guys over my little 1-1 house parties.

Some guys clothes are ripped off as soon as they enter, others after a drink or dinner, so its all possible, and very enjoyable.

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

had one meet

we had agreed it was just for coffee and a chat

when they arrived we sat for a few mins chatting then I went to make the coffee

came back in to the room to find the fem sitting there butt naked legs wide open

him saying do you like it

needles to say coffee went very cold lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to get to know the person first, not really a wham bam kind of person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

WE DO LIKE TO MEET PEOPLE FIRST EVEN IF THE ATRACTION IS THERE,JUST TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE NOT NUTTERS LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind playing on a first meet but whether it's the first, second or tenth there is ALWAYS a social aspect first.

"Hi, come in, may I take your clothes" would be a massive turn-off for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"WE DO LIKE TO MEET PEOPLE FIRST EVEN IF THE ATRACTION IS THERE,JUST TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE NOT NUTTERS LOL"

We've had a few nutters but they can make excellant meets!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the past but now prefer to get to know someone.

If its a club then thats different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have done both but prefer to play on first meet if all agree but were never afraid to say no either ...best be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when people meet for the first time do you,get right down to it, or meet for a drink get to know each other first"

depends really, i never meet anyone for sex, if i meet someone for the first time its always for a drink and see how it goes, however if we get on i am happy to play on a first meet but if we dont i just go home lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its better if you meet for a coffee or something rather than everyone turn up on the night/meet and have the awkwardness and have mixed expectations of whats going to happen. I think being on the same wavelength as it were helps to put people at ease, which is always a good thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree, but i always tell people im meeting its only a drink and that im not commiting myself to having sex till we have met, if they read more into that, thats theor problem not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet for coffee, but we like to be prepared too, however the other folk in Starbucks are quite surprised when 10 of us turn up in full latex/leather bondage gear carrying all the whips,chains,spreader bars etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol i remember when i was 17 and was staying in a travelodge in oxford i went out to get something to eat at 1am and as i walked down the corridor all the room doors were open and there was pvc, leather, whips, chains and red balls in every single one, i was quite disturbed at the time :S

Now i would probably invite myself in to watch :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually shag em - provided they got a nice big cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like to meet for coffee, but we like to be prepared too, however the other folk in Starbucks are quite surprised when 10 of us turn up in full latex/leather bondage gear carrying all the whips,chains,spreader bars etc. "

That must be what problem is for us - we live in Barnsley and Starbucks are 2 scared to even consider a Barnsley branch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be a little chat first, see their mannerisms and attitude. One of the THE ultimate gift, to let someone use your body.

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

I have been known to play on the first meet, but it's the exception to the rule. I'd rather go meet for a drink and a chat at first with no promise on both sides of anything more. That way if a fire is lit between us, we can go with the flow. If not, or as some people can suffer cold feet/nerves, then we arrange to meet again or not. No presure!

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By *aravancoupleMan
over a year ago

A Secret Hideaway In the caravan of love

9 times out of 10 we meet for a drink and a chat to see how we all get along.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think it is a case of playing it by ear...

I have had people come round where we have talking for hours and just having a good time and I have also had people come round and basically take there clothes off as soon as they get thru my door...

people are different and if everyone was the same then the world would be a much more boring place....

as long as you are prepared and go at the speed you are comfy with then in the end that is all that matters...

in the end you can only go at the speed of the slowest person anyway.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when people meet for the first time do you,get right down to it, or meet for a drink get to know each other first"

have to meet for a drink/coffee or whatever first , makes itr better in my opinion.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I think it is a case of playing it by ear...

I have had people come round where we have talking for hours and just having a good time and I have also had people come round and basically take there clothes off as soon as they get thru my door...

people are different and if everyone was the same then the world would be a much more boring place....

as long as you are prepared and go at the speed you are comfy with then in the end that is all that matters...

in the end you can only go at the speed of the slowest person anyway....."

Thank god, a voice of reason on the thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DONT INVITE THEM TO YOUR HOUSE IF YOU HAVENT SEEN A RECENT PIC

as we did this once. just turned up overweight ugly and bad manners and we got thrown out SO BE WARNED LOL

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

how do you know if its a recent pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

EASY THEY WILL TELL YOU.

THEY WILL SAY THIS IS A RECENT PIC LOL

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By *averiMan
over a year ago

Swindon to bristol

of course, I should have thought of that! lol

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By *icker2010Man
over a year ago

cambs/london/Norfolk

depends, when we are arranging orgies they are usually come to the flat, glass of wine and then down to action, latecomers usually find we are all naked in the bedroom, but we tend to play with people we know well, so there not much need for icebreakers lol, new folk are broken in gently though, sometimes people find its a bit full on and dont want to play, thats fine, we are very chilled. I think if you are having a party and there are going to be new people there it is courtesy to everyone to have some chat first, if only to give everyone chance to back out if the chemistrys not right

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By *zMaleMan
over a year ago

penzance

Swinging is basically a social event. I like to be friends with whoever I meet. Having said that I have been to clubs where things have clicked then made friends after lol.

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By *onConformistLikeUMan
over a year ago

Chorley

I fuck on the first date.

I also cuddle on the first date if that's what tickles a girls pickle.

I'm not just all about the shaggin and I don't get turned on by girls with nothing going on upstairs. I'm a social animal. The thrill of the chase is important to me.

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