FabSwingers.com forum: winks

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why do people send WINKS!!!!don't you think it's better to send a message,even if it's just an hello!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I do not receive many. It's more some eegit who thinks because I am bi, that I will want to suck him off & send me a 1-liner. I'm not that desperate to be honest. I tend to send messages if I can be bothered to trawl through the profiles & find one interests me, but I get a feeling of desperado doing that I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like winks

We love winks

Winks to us mean that the person that sent it is interested in getting to know us better.

If we are not interested in them we simply ignore the wink.

As we always respond to every mail we get we find winks so much easier to deal with. if we like what we see and want to know more we wink back, we would then expect them to mail us since we have all shown an interest in each other and they made the first move.

If on the other hand we are not interested in getting to know them better, for instance if they don't have any pictures, won't meet smokers or we simply dont find thier profile/pictures attractive we just ignore the wink. We don't have to send a negative but polite response.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We like winks

We love winks

Winks to us mean that the person that sent it is interested in getting to know us better.

If we are not interested in them we simply ignore the wink.

we do get a few winks a week,and yes if we are interested we do wink back,but even if we arn't and ignore it most the time they end up sending us a message any way...so really the wink was a waste of time.we always reply to messages ever if it's a nice thanks but no thanks..also say you at chams a few times sasha wasn't you there 24th dec

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wink ... I like to wink

always winking me..

Im a constant winker

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Now dontcha just know that the OP will now be winked at by the people that read this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away."

don't mind a wink or two but do prefer a nice message,even if it's just an hi how you 2 doing!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love winks and often use them to acknowledge people on our friends list just to say hi if we haven't got time to have a proper message chat.

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By *ourgeMan
over a year ago

stourport nr kidderminster

like winks , i think it say to people , that i have looked at their profile and i like what i see , and give chance just to have look to see who winked , so then its up to the person if they want get back in touch,with out bomb barding with messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now dontcha just know that the OP will now be winked at by the people that read this

what's a op XX lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now dontcha just know that the OP will now be winked at by the people that read this

what's a op XX lol"

original poster .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Now dontcha just know that the OP will now be winked at by the people that read this

what's a op XX lol

original poster ....."

oh i see lol,if i do get winks off this i won't mind,more the merrier but we do prefer a nice message xx

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

winks are ok but a message is better

happy wi anything ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a nice message is great and we are not against them but we hate the ones you like

"hi how you doing"

that means we have to reply with

"we are great thanks"

then your into a dozen one liners backward and forwards until finally they ask if you want to meet and you have to point out that your over thier age criteria or they "wont meet smokers" or they have no pictures or you simply are not interested, try saying that beforfe they ask and its "how up yourself are you we were only being sociable and chatting we didnt say we wanted to meet"

So yes we dont mind the initial contact being by mail but one liners or "talk arounds" dont do it for us either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waste of time.

We couldn't give a stuff whether someone is interested or not. It's completely irrelevant unless they want to take it further than just expressing an interest.

We're also not going to message someone back just because they winked at us, because we don't want to waste our time.

We're quite happy not to approach anyone at all, and simply read the odd message that does land in our inbox and decide go/no-go then.

We've got a strong core of top-quality friends we can play with, so we believe we can afford to lose out on a few good ones who are allergic to typing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away."

Ditto xx xx K&T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, some people seem so very serious.

Winks are handy to me, though to be honest I/We rarely wink anyone.

As I've stated before, people are not always entirely honest or forthcoming in their profiles on what they seek, winks are handy for those not quite sure if they fit their criteria, a little wink to say hi, would you care to take a look at my profile and if interested then wink back, it's still left in the hands of the initiator to make the first move in messaging.

Fact that winks are an option, they will be used, I do wish people would stop being so uptight about such a thing, this is supposed to be about fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T"

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

BRB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I so agree with JednSasha. Winks are a quick no pressure way of saying you like the look of someone. If you don't agree delete the wink and move on. If you do, wink back and wait for a proper message.

It works for me and don't understand why someone would be upset by a wink?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I so agree with JednSasha. Winks are a quick no pressure way of saying you like the look of someone. If you don't agree delete the wink and move on. If you do, wink back and wait for a proper message.

It works for me and don't understand why someone would be upset by a wink?"

lol...never said i was upset by a wink,just saying i prefer a message than wink after wink after wink..xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

yes you are,it does state right at the top of our profile no single man,did you just not bother reading it..????

BRB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for me and don't understand why someone would be upset by a wink?

lol...never said i was upset by a wink,just saying i prefer a message than wink after wink after wink..xx"

Some do get upset by it though, strange really, I've seen people suggest people winking them are wasting their time, not sure how, if they don't take any interest in winks then don't look at the wink list, people rant about them being lazy, when I think they are lazy for not considering the usage of winks and needing it all spelt out to them hence messages being the only way to contact.

Thanks for your message, but just to help out a little, if interested I would suggest winking back, or messaging, if not interested then there's no need to reply, that's the ideal thing about winks, trouble is some people are too lazy to use the site properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

yes you are,it does state right at the top of our profile no single man,did you just not bother reading it..????

BRB.

No I didn't bother reading that, as I was only winking due to this thread, and not through actual interest as I diodn't read your profile or look at your pics to know whether or not I hold interest, as we are not seeking just now with lack of time, so why tease myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

yes you are,it does state right at the top of our profile no single man,did you just not bother reading it..????

BRB.

Anyway, my response to just tried to wink you wasn't in reply to you, but the one that said Ditto xx xx K&T

I'm confused now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

yes you are,it does state right at the top of our profile no single man,did you just not bother reading it..????

BRB.

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i really can't understand your wink then,the thead is about winks or messages if you read the first thread,you would have seen that we prefer a message to a wink,thanks for the wink anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we wink to show were interested in a person.likewise if they wink at us it shows us that there interested in us. then we take it from there.

feel free to wink away.

Ditto xx xx K&T

Just tried to wink you, but I'm blocked.

yes you are,it does state right at the top of our profile no single man,did you just not bother reading it..????

BRB.

i really can't understand your wink then,the thead is about winks or messages if you read the first thread,you would have seen that we prefer a message to a wink,thanks for the wink anyway

It was just a tease, you start a thread on winks and so get winked.

I bet I'm not the only one to wink after reading your thread on winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, and I'm not a single guy either, this profile I use so people know which one of us has posted, Coll only pops on every so often though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Waste of time.

We couldn't give a stuff whether someone is interested or not. It's completely irrelevant unless they want to take it further than just expressing an interest.

We're also not going to message someone back just because they winked at us, because we don't want to waste our time.

We're quite happy not to approach anyone at all, and simply read the odd message that does land in our inbox and decide go/no-go then.

We've got a strong core of top-quality friends we can play with, so we believe we can afford to lose out on a few good ones who are allergic to typing."

Exactly how I feel: couldn't have worded it better myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Waste of time.

We couldn't give a stuff whether someone is interested or not. It's completely irrelevant unless they want to take it further than just expressing an interest.

We're also not going to message someone back just because they winked at us, because we don't want to waste our time.

We're quite happy not to approach anyone at all, and simply read the odd message that does land in our inbox and decide go/no-go then.

We've got a strong core of top-quality friends we can play with, so we believe we can afford to lose out on a few good ones who are allergic to typing.

Exactly how I feel: couldn't have worded it better myself!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It works for me and don't understand why someone would be upset by a wink?

lol...never said i was upset by a wink,just saying i prefer a message than wink after wink after wink..xx"

Some people send a wink because its a way of making contact with less commitment.

Messages don't always go answered and we admit to being guilty of that.

Also some people fear rejection, for one reason or another,sending a wink means they're interested but don't want to commit to sending a message.

If you get a wink and like the look of the senders profile,send one back,chances are you'll then get the message you require.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we join this site we agree to abide by the rules.

As it stands there is a facility to send a wink to anyone you wish.

If you send a wink you are not breaking any rules. therefore if someone replies with any abuse for you sending the wink you should report them to the site admin.

However, we all have preferences and if someone chooses to put a note on thier profile to the effect that they do not wish to recieve winks from anyone we should all respect that.

So those who do not wish to recieve them should put something to that effect on thier profiles or ignore them when they recieve them and not complain about getting them.

True many people do not bother to read profiles but they are the kind of people you probably don't want to meet anyway so you at least you will know who they are and you can choose to ignore them or block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind winks at all. It means it shows an interest and can be an ice breaker.

Happy winking folks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

so glad i put this on here,ive start a really debate...lol

i think your all getting me wrong here i said i prefer a message to a wink,never said i don't like winks,but don't you think a message is a bit more personal......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"so glad i put this on here,ive start a really debate...lol

i think your all getting me wrong here i said i prefer a message to a wink,never said i don't like winks,but don't you think a message is a bit more personal......"

Absolutely but our earlier post explains why some people prefer sending a wink first.

If you wink back to the ones you like,as we said, you'll probably recieve a personal message.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"so glad i put this on here,ive start a really debate...lol

i think your all getting me wrong here i said i prefer a message to a wink,never said i don't like winks,but don't you think a message is a bit more personal......

Absolutely but our earlier post explains why some people prefer sending a wink first.

If you wink back to the ones you like,as we said, you'll probably recieve a personal message.

XXXX"

soooo if i sent you a wink will i get 1 back lolxxxx

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

I think it depends which one of the two you prefer having ignored..

But if you send a wink you'l know that people may well look at your profile and decide whether or not to send one back depending how much they like what they see..

I think a brief message is more polite and can say a bit more about you..

What really gets my goat though are people who send friend requests and then ignore you when you send a message back with it saying Hi etc...

I must admit, first impressions of this site were good..I thought everyone was really friendly..well..with each other..but it looked welcoming...not so, if you try to engage in conversation in a chat room you are ignored (by conversation we mean something more than 'very nice') and equally ignored in the introductions..

Ok we are Sunday league..we dont want to go out and rump with someone different every week..we are too shyself conscious for clubs and parties..we not into dogging or gang bangs..but we have swung though but that seems like its not enough

I dont know what more you can do..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it depends which one of the two you prefer having ignored..

But if you send a wink you'l know that people may well look at your profile and decide whether or not to send one back depending how much they like what they see..

I think a brief message is more polite and can say a bit more about you..

What really gets my goat though are people who send friend requests and then ignore you when you send a message back with it saying Hi etc...

I dont know what more you can do..

believe me it's not only you,in the directing room there does seem to be a little bit of a click going on,a number of times ive been in there and said hi and all that,in the end i gave up so i don't bother now..once i even said what do i have to do in here to get an hello swing from my lamp shade..with no response..so it's not only you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do people send WINKS!!!!don't you think it's better to send a message,even if it's just an hello!!!!"
i did got a few myself 1 from a couple an 1 from a gay-bi.

They obviously did not read my profile as I clearly stated no males or couples but yet they took a chance I didn't reply to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it depends which one of the two you prefer having ignored..

But if you send a wink you'l know that people may well look at your profile and decide whether or not to send one back depending how much they like what they see..

I think a brief message is more polite and can say a bit more about you..

What really gets my goat though are people who send friend requests and then ignore you when you send a message back with it saying Hi etc...

I dont know what more you can do..

quit moanin about it for a start lol!!! you do what u want how u want when u want!! i dont like the chat i prefer the forums as its slower and more varied and someone always answers a post!! honestly u will find what u want eventually and those that ignore u thats thier choice dont worry about it!! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it depends which one of the two you prefer having ignored..

But if you send a wink you'l know that people may well look at your profile and decide whether or not to send one back depending how much they like what they see..

I think a brief message is more polite and can say a bit more about you..

What really gets my goat though are people who send friend requests and then ignore you when you send a message back with it saying Hi etc...

I dont know what more you can do..

to so true,i never worryi'm to laided back to worry or care,and to be really honest i only go in the rooms for a bit of a perve lol........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honest the forums are better u get such a diverse mix and the odd battle lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have started to use them more over the last week or so,but i still need my perve fix lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he he !!! good old honesty i love it!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no longer use the chatroom as it was becoming a place where all they said was 'hi' and 'bye'

The forums on the other hand i like to offend the offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"he he !!! good old honesty i love it!! xx

nothing wrong with saying it how it is lol but that's just me..can i ask as well,you said on your profile your ideal man was drop dead fred but's that rick mail did you mean right said fren lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I no longer use the chatroom as it was becoming a place where all they said was 'hi' and 'bye'

The forums on the other hand i like to offend the offended

its one of the reasons why i wont use it either

we should start our own room for outcast pmsl!!!!!!!!!

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

I have stated on my profile that I use winks, to me this is a filter, people that contact me should expect winks, Like most posters on here state, they are a nice way to initiate 1st contact, when I am interested in the "WINKER", I reply with a message.

As for the chat room, I would not go as far as calling it a clique,but there is a degree of rudeness.

So forums and my small number of like-minded friends is all I need, chatroom's loss

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

Well, I hope our post didnt look like we were moaning for the sake of it

But its frustrating because our 'free' time is limited because we have kids at home so when we get the odd Saturday night to ourselves we like to push the boat out a bit..

We was trying to do 'what we want and how we want' in not only the directing room but also the lobby and general chat..

Mrs CamSwing asked quite a few times if there were any couples (whos cam wasnt 'broken' and wife wasnt in bed,out,at her mums'

etc) who fancied a little fun...nothing!..so we can relate to King of Leons 'Swing from the lampshade story. LOL

Mzynty...I'd love to agree about the forums..but we posted a brief 'hello' about ourselves in the 'Introductions thread..7 days later we had one reply..I have been checking the comp all day to make sure we are not using invisible ink! lol

I hope you are right about 'finding what we want eventually' its a great site and the fact that nobody talks to us hasnt detered us yet from sticking it out a little longer (scuse the pun!!) lol

Thanks for the comments..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks can be mysterious...I love em!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Winks are ok - as a few peeps said earlier you can just delete 'em if you don't think you'd click - a bit lazy but hey - we all feel a bit lazy at times! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wink back and get a phone number magic isnt it lol

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By *Ecouple113Couple
over a year ago

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We love winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it at times, its easier than thinking of an original message each and every time when its mostly going to be ignored (rightly or wrongly) anyway.

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By *umpingJackFlashMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near you?

"I do it at times, its easier than thinking of an original message each and every time when its mostly going to be ignored (rightly or wrongly) anyway.

True, I get lots of messages ignored, with not even a "No Thanks", If I wink and get no response no problem, but if I spend the time to try say something witty in a message I'd hope to get something back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do it at times, its easier than thinking of an original message each and every time when its mostly going to be ignored (rightly or wrongly) anyway.

True, I get lots of messages ignored, with not even a "No Thanks", If I wink and get no response no problem, but if I spend the time to try say something witty in a message

I'd hope to get something back!

I don't expect them to reply if they're not interested, its the norm, just makes winks easier than wasting time.

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