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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here"

i have noticed some people expect this now on here

if i cant afford to go out and meet if (i wanted to)i dont i will wait till im in a postion to pay my way

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

i have noticed some people expect this now on here

if i cant afford to go out and meet if (i wanted to)i dont i will wait till im in a postion to pay my way"

I am the same, just seems some people are taking advantage , obviously it must work though or they wouldn't ask

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

i have noticed some people expect this

now on here

if i cant afford to go out and meet if (i wanted to)i dont i will wait till im in a postion to pay my way

I am the same, just seems some

people are taking advantage , obviously it must work though or they wouldn't ask "

Is there really people on here that have asked you to bring drugs and fags with you to a meet with them

That is sssooo cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant say I have noticed this but then I suppose because i'm a single woman people wont expect me to provide everything for a meet, I usually get it the other way round, guys offering to pay for everything to meet me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

i have noticed some people expect this

now on here

if i cant afford to go out and meet if (i wanted to)i dont i will wait till im in a postion to pay my way

I am the same, just seems some

people are taking advantage , obviously it must work though or they wouldn't ask

Is there really people on here that have asked you to bring drugs and fags with you to a meet with them

That is sssooo cheeky "

I read one a couples profile once that they expected the guy to pay for their babysitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG , really !! ive not come across this yet ,,, woe must be nieve ........ it should be dutch all the way .... less its a room youve booked anyway (working away) and just invited someone to join you

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

i have noticed some people expect this

now on here

if i cant afford to go out and meet if (i wanted to)i dont i will wait till im in a postion to pay my way

I am the same, just seems some

people are taking advantage , obviously it must work though or they wouldn't ask

Is there really people on here that have asked you to bring drugs and fags with you to a meet with them

That is sssooo cheeky "

Yep, and I have seen it on people's headlinea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one. "

How very English of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

things is if i agree a social i will pay for my drink as its fair that way

then if i want to leave i can knowing i have paid for my drink

some people think i brought someone a drink and they owe me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We expect you to provide a cock or pussy !!!

We will not meet you otherwise

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"things is if i agree a social i will pay for my drink as its fair that way

then if i want to leave i can knowing i have paid for my drink

some people think i brought someone a drink and they owe me

"

I think that most people with good manners wouldn't expect anything in return for a meet, others are obviously hard faced chancers

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Underwear is another thing I have seen requested on quite a few profiles...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

How very English of you "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"things is if i agree a social i will pay for my drink as its fair that way

then if i want to leave i can knowing i have paid for my drink

some people think i brought someone a drink and they owe me

I think that most people with good manners wouldn't expect anything in return for a meet, others are obviously hard faced chancers "

but this thread isn't about people with good manners its about people who expect

I must admit I always buy drinks on a social for the same reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"things is if i agree a social i will pay for my drink as its fair that way

then if i want to leave i can knowing i have paid for my drink

some people think i brought someone a drink and they owe me

I think that most people with good manners wouldn't expect anything in return for a meet, others are obviously hard faced chancers

but this thread isn't about people with good manners its about people who expect

I must admit I always buy drinks on a social for the same reason"

Yes it is about manners, it's bad manners to expect people to provide something for a meet, manners isn't all about saying please and thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here"

Your last sentence made me feel quite queasy

I always take enough condoms to share and a bottle of wine for a home visit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here

Your last sentence made me feel quite queasy

I always take enough condoms to share and a bottle of wine for a home visit. "

I think your missing the point, do the people you meet expect a bottle of wine, obviously condoms is a different matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I arrange to meet a stranger, I 'expect' about an hour's pleasant conversation, in a pub or cafe. I expect to pay for my own drink.

I HOPE that the person I'm meeting puts his phone on silent, for emergencies only. I HOPE that, if we get on, we will become friends, and that we will observe the usual friendly courtesies (host cooks, guest brings a bottle of wine, etc)

I don't trade sex for treats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it not class as prostitution?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have seen variations of this a lot, asking for hotels to be paid, meals and drinks, admission to house parties, women wanting lingerie to be bought for them, people wanting household jobs to be done for free, down to people requesting only professional photographers with studios to take pictures and provide copies for free.

Yes they are all freeloaders.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does it not class as prostitution?"

I think that's probably going a bit to far, but it's close,

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I get you now. Ok, I take the wine because I'm the guest and I consider it good manners. If I were asked to pay for a hotel room or childcare or fags or anything else, I'd politely decline the offer of sex. There is a profile I've looked at in which the couple demand that the 'guest' pays for their room in a top quality hotel and are amusingly insistent that they enjoy a 'high standard of living' (at other peoples expense, clearly) and I wonder if the guest gets an hour or so of mechanical dull sex before they boot him out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when arranging a meet not long ago, the male of the couple asked me what was in it for them??

so I asked what he meant, and replied, where are you taking us for dinner, expected wine and more so called hospitality.

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By *hecat007Woman
over a year ago

Round the corner

I had a guy offer to pay taxi money and hotel room too this just makes you suspect there desperate and not kind sooner them be generous in bed rather than splash the cash

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

20 Bensons or no blowie, mister.

That is sheeeeeer class.

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By *rystal denisonWoman
over a year ago

trowbridge

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By *rystal denisonWoman
over a year ago

trowbridge

I had a meet last weekend In a hotel , he paid for it ( i had planned t go half ) and he also paid for me to get a massage with him ... Was nice downside I didn't go home for 2 days lol upside it was fun

Guess when I was 18/19 I would auto think the guy must pay it all but now I am more 50/50

Although if a guy only wants to fuck and fuck off well then he can pay the room and someroom service too

Treat me like a whore I Will most defo act like one

If he treats me with respect he will get that in return

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"when arranging a meet not long ago, the male of the couple asked me what was in it for them??

so I asked what he meant, and replied, where are you taking us for dinner, expected wine and more so called hospitality.

"

I would have said: "I was planning on taking you both out for an elegant champagne dinner and to stay in a top hotel, however, I've had an offer from a better couple who are not so rude and ignorant to ask 'what's in it for me?', so will be taking them instead".

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one. "

Milk and 2 sugars please

Bit cheeky of people to ask for someone else to cover all expenses. I'm happy to go 50-50 with someone i'm meeting even more for FwB but to cover the full lot is a piss take

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Alas in life there are piss takers, fab is the same. If I find that people are take, take take we don't meet them again. Then again if I find out that they are into drugs when we meet them that's game over straight away, regardless where we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"cant say I have noticed this but then I suppose because i'm a single woman people wont expect me to provide everything for a meet, I usually get it the other way round, guys offering to pay for everything to meet me "

+1

I do however offer to pay for the meal or drinks, if they insist on paying for the Hotel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are quite a few,they cant travel and cant accommodate as well, they want you to pick up give them a life of luxury and drop them odd after, but The saddest thing of all there are men who are sad enough willing do it, I cant stand skanks like that but if men are willing to do it then why not in there position, bet a single male Would go far lol

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We were once invited to a party. People sat around chatting for half an hour or so until all the attendees were present.

Then the host stood up and said 'usual rules people, £25 per couple £15 per single male'

We looked at each other, got up and left! The cheek of somebody to invite you to a party and then without prior notice tell you its gonna be £25.

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

We've never been asked to provide an gifts or luxuries !! Obviously everyone knows all Geordies are skint !!

John & Shel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one. "

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that "

That takes the biscuit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that

That takes the biscuit! "

Nope never been offered a biscuit but I have definitely eaten there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv asked a couple of meets to pick me some cigs up on the way but only if their passing a shop and I always give them the money back. Would never expect any one to provide anything other than themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever consider meeting people of similar backgrounds to mine....

Independent...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that

That takes the biscuit!

Nope never been offered a biscuit but I have definitely eaten there "

Pmsl!! But it didn't cost anything other than washing the bedding! !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they're idiots.

We mostly entertain at home. We don't expect anyone to bring anything and we provide all refreshments happily. We are grateful for those visiting to make the effort and cost to travel to us.

Hotel meets that we're rarely done, we have always paid all the room cost because we stay in it. Again we buy drinks and snacks in for those travelling to meet us.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that

That takes the biscuit!

Nope never been offered a biscuit but I

have definitely eaten there

Pmsl!! But it didn't cost anything other than washing the

bedding! !"

At least he contributed towards the messing up and dampness of the bedding. Would it have been ungracious and churlish to ask for a contribution towards the washing powder? After all, if the guy had looked at you aghast, you could have offered to wash it at 30• as it's cheaper than 40.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't expect anything and a lot of the time I meet on the boat and sleep over as I know thy had to travel and thy had to pay for there petrol , its only fair ... and I make sure I have drink and nice things too , lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


" wouldn't expect anything and a lot of the time I meet on the boat and sleep over as I know thy had to travel and thy had to pay for there petrol , its only fair ... and I make sure I have drink and nice things too , lol"

A boat? Cool!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

There are some references to this on the site, not sure whether there's been an increase lately or was it often the way..

we steer well clear, self respect is something we value as individuals and with others we meet..

have reported a Cpl who wanted £20 to attend a gb at their place, was told there were about a dozen guys confirmed already..

when we asked what the dosh was for, instant block..

think they got booted but are back under another name..

hey ho..

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I provide tea or coffee at mine. That's it. Anything else and they can do one.

That's a lie! you provide more than tea and coffee. I can personally vouch for that

That takes the biscuit!

Nope never been offered a biscuit but I

have definitely eaten there

Pmsl!! But it didn't cost anything other than washing the

bedding! !

At least he contributed towards the messing up and dampness of the bedding. Would it have been ungracious and churlish to ask for a contribution towards the washing powder? After all, if the guy had looked at you aghast, you could have offered to wash it at 30• as it's cheaper than 40. "

It was a free service. I'm dead generous like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually after a social meet, If we agree to meet up again, it's more than likely back at mine. I consider myself to be a good host and cater in. Any money that is spent by either should be 50/50...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here"

It's called “Rinsing” or the other latest phrase “Rinsing Guys“

Google it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not sure if its because of the economic recession but there seems to be an increase in freeloaders on here. People who expect hotel rooms, alcohol,drugs, fags etc before they will meet, is this on the increase?? Or have there always been chancres on here"

Most of the people I meet offer to pay towards drinks etc. They certainly dont ask me to pay. I do always pay though. If someone asked me to pay, I would probably say 'lets go 50/50' lol

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By *allDarkFoxForYouMan
over a year ago

Winchester/London

In my time on fabs I have seen loads of scenarios whereby a fee is expected at a house party.

I've seen a lady who requires 40 fags for a blowjob and the most absurd one was an ad for a bukkake party at a travel tavern whereby 30 guys were required at 50 pounds a head.

£1500 for a night in a travel tavern spells kerching!!

It's all pseudo prostitution

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