FabSwingers.com forum: Asian guys?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi I just wondered what is the perception of guys of Asian heritage (by Asian I mean Indian Pakistani etc.)

I see a few profiles which state 'no Asians' I just wondered if people have had bad experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met a number of Asian girls through swinging and found them lovely in both looks and personality

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Asia is such a large region I think its a shame people cut out so many potential meets with that one phrase. I have no problems with any race, colour or creed myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the nice ones.

Don't like the others.

Don't like the 'our preference' thing that seems to be on a lot of profiles.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I myself have no problems with any race or skin colour, the Asian as in Pakistani / Indian origin guys who've been to my gang bangs have all been very nice. However whenever I'm organising one the when it comes down to the 'please don't invite' rules from the ladies No fat guys and no Asians, as in Pakistani / Indian origin. They're usually happy with oriental, ie Chinese / Vietnamese etc which most countries count as Asian, Britain it normally means Pakistani / Indian. It seems that lot of ladies have had problems either in or out of swinging with men from with this background. To be truthful last Saturday I went out down the Manchester gay Village with a lovely TV, the only negative response was from the two taxi drivers on the way there and back, the first one seemed quite uncomfortable although still polite. The second one on the way back was quite rude and to be honest if it hadn't been 6am I would have have got out but didn't fancy trying to flag down another at that time when half way back from the Village. When we drove into the apartment blocks where I live and passed the bins area the driver asked if we were going to go behind the bins? The lovely witty TV I was with remarked no we were going back to my rather lovely apartment to fuck like bunnies in a rather nice bedroom. Personally I felt like twatting him, but didn't feel like spending the rest of the day in the cells when we could be fucking like bunnies

Attitudes like that don't exactly endear people towards a race or another group of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i either like a guy or i dont!

one of my regular fuck buddies is indian and hes bloody fit and a nice guy.

but no matter what race/colour a person is to me i either like someone or i dont.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

To each his own but I never make sweeping statements like that.. except for assholes. .. im gonna put on my profile no assholes. . Think it will work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't have it on our profile, but I rarely find Asian men attractive so the chances of us playing with an Asian are not as high as non Asian.

There are always exceptions of course and over the years we have played with the occasional Asian guy.

It's just down to preference, nothing to get upset about. Some people don't like bi couples or people of our age.

Wouldn't you rather know this up front instead of wasting time chasing people who arent interested in you. There's plenty of others who are.

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton

I have had bad experiences in the past, this being due to attitude, and has put me off, so now it is my preference.

But I will say, I have friends who are of different race / creed, so it is not being racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Screwed if you are a fat asian guy then lol. I have never seen a guys profile saying 'no asians' only seems to come from females. No idea why but im not fussed, most seem to be able to look past race.

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By *ucy and CarlCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Nothing personal I just don't have an attraction towards Asians. As I know some Asians don't have an attraction to white European women

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Hi I just wondered what is the perception of guys of Asian heritage (by Asian I mean Indian Pakistani etc.)

I see a few profiles which state 'no Asians' I just wondered if people have had bad experiences? "

My experience of what the 'guys of Asian heritage' is largely tainted by those who live in my area, who have a tendency to drive around in packs or just sit in a parked car as apparently that's the cool thing to do, with the windows rolled down and like to call me nasty things in Punjabi as I walk past (most of which I understand as I've heard it all before!).

They wear lots of bling and designer clothes.

This would be a description of stereotypical young Asian male in Halifax and I can probably safely say Huddersfield too.

I don't really have anything positive to say about young white males in Halifax either lol it's like Chav central.

Of course with all generalisations there are exceptions and I'd never say 'no Asian men' .on my profile, I judge each person on a case by case basis.

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

It is hard for a Asian guy on here, I see 1 in every 3/4 profiles say "No Asians"

We are not all that bad or rude.

Worst I heard was a reply saying "I don't meet guys like you, brown!" Thought a simple no thanks would of been enough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is hard for a Asian guy on here, I see 1 in every 3/4 profiles say "No Asians"

We are not all that bad or rude.

Worst I heard was a reply saying "I don't meet guys like you, brown!" Thought a simple no thanks would of been enough!"

One out of 3/4 ??? Really! You must be unlucky in profiles you look at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To each his own but I never make sweeping statements like that.. except for assholes. .. im gonna put on my profile no assholes. . Think it will work?

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Think everyone has the right to like or not to like.

If people don't like that then it's there lookout. We all have choices in life and in the swinging world.

1. Like big black cock

2. Like BBW

3. Like men with hair

4. Like men with no tattoos

5. Like women who are bi

Does it mean people who have preferences are racist or judgemental no. It just means we all have our preferences.

Would shag a midget doesn't mean to say I don't like them.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet Asian guys, and i'll openly admit its because I had a bad experience with one, it was the first and last Asian guy I meet off here

Saying that if I got to know one thro going to clubs, parties, socials etc, and I liked him I would play with him but I would never meet one off here that I had never met before again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's all fair enough - excepts perhaps for fat people and tattoos which is a lifestyle choice.

But I guess the question that underlies it all is why is it that people would feel Asian men to be ugly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had messages and winks from couples and girls who have 'no asians' on their profile lol.

It's all about individual choice. But you are right, most fabbers do seem to be able to look past race.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There have been many profiles that i have come across, especially in London (as thats where im from) which state they aren't looking for asians. So, it is quite hard trying to organise a local meet as, most profiles tend to say this.

However, at the end of the day. It is their preference. And i respect that. There have been many i have spoken to, although outside of London, have no issue with my race nor my age.

Guess, you just have to find that right profile. It is a bit frustrating when a profile catches your eye but you dont meet their requirements.

But hey, you can't have everything.

Im asian, and its not like i can change that. As long as someone doesn't judge me, and they take their time to get to know me..they'd know what kind of person i am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think everyone has the right to like or not to like.

If people don't like that then it's there lookout. We all have choices in life and in the swinging world.

1. Like big black cock

2. Like BBW

3. Like men with hair

4. Like men with no tattoos

5. Like women who are bi

Does it mean people who have preferences are racist or judgemental no. It just means we all have our preferences."

I make my personal preferences clear on my profile...it's not designed to offend but to avoid pointless messages.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"Think everyone has the right to like or not to like.

If people don't like that then it's there lookout. We all have choices in life and in the swinging world.

1. Like big black cock

2. Like BBW

3. Like men with hair

4. Like men with no tattoos

5. Like women who are bi

Does it mean people who have preferences are racist or judgemental no. It just means we all have our preferences.

I make my personal preferences clear on my profile...it's not designed to offend but to avoid pointless messages. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid.

Alas it's the p.c. World we live in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid.

..i do.

I do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all fair enough - excepts perhaps for fat people and tattoos which is a lifestyle choice.

But I guess the question that underlies it all is why is it that people would feel Asian men to be ugly?"

nobody says they're ugly...they don't find them attractive as a potential sexual partner...that's a huge difference and an almighty assumption you've made there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being of Asian dcent myself most people say just go after people who are more open to different races but hate it when someone tars me with Asian brush when am clearly not well not fully fyi dads Indian/Spanish moms white

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weve not met many. But the indian/pakistani men we have encountered are usually more pushy and rude than other races. Appear to have less respect for females and often have the oriental curry garlic aroma about them which does put us off. But then again so does the bo of alot of other people. So we are not keen on asian males ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

myself I had a few times when I spot a nice profile and scroll down then it says no Asian kinda gets annoying

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Isn't it sad that to have a preference you're seen as racist, judgemental etc.

I don't find Asian, short, fat, old, wheelchair bound, hirsute, ginger, dwarf men sexually attractive: so?!!

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

"Weve not met many. But the indian/pakistani men we have encountered are usually more pushy and rude than other races. Appear to have less respect for females and often have the oriental curry garlic aroma about them which does put us off. But then again so does the bo of alot of other people. So we are not keen on asian males ourselves"

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

But not all of us are like that, i know for a fact im the complete opposite to that!! And due to the stereotype I think that some people don't even entertain the thought of meeting a Asian guy even if they think that they are good looking!

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

"myself I had a few times when I spot a nice profile and scroll down then it says no Asian kinda gets annoying"

Mate you will get used to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people get too hung up on profiles that they don't fit. If I see a profile a don't fit then I just move on there will be one that does fit for me.

I look at loads of profiles where the person/couple does not fit my preferences so do not understand what the issue is.

You may not like seeing no asian just as much as another bloke does not like seeing no one under 6ft. The one thing I can guarantee that the biggest barrier you will see will not be based on your ethnicity but based on being a single male guaranteed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"being of Asian dcent myself most people say just go after people who are more open to different races but hate it when someone tars me with Asian brush when am clearly not well not fully fyi dads Indian/Spanish moms white"

What you mean 'tars you with asian brush'. You may not like your asian side but most of us are quite happy being asian thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean 'tars you with asian brush'. You may not like your asian side but most of us are quite happy being asian thank you very much. "

I think what he means is a lot of women see Asian guys as having no respect for woman, which wether you like it or not they do, people will always sterio type certain cultures

I'm Sicilian tho I've lived in England since I was 3 ive been turned down because of this and yeah ive been sterio typed many times, but what you going to do?

Some people will turn you down because of your race there's nothing you can do about it you just have to move in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'd think if someone is turning you down based purely on your ethnic background perhaps you're better off not meeting them? I'm not sure of want to spend time with people who base their meeting criteria on skin colour and place your were born.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean 'tars you with asian brush'. You may not like your asian side but most of us are quite happy being asian thank you very much.

I think what he means is a lot of women see Asian guys as having no respect for woman, which wether you like it or not they do, people will always sterio type certain cultures

I'm Sicilian tho I've lived in England since I was 3 ive been turned down because of this and yeah ive been sterio typed many times, but what you going to do?

You could start by not stereotyping people yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not going to entertain Asian men anymore because they never bring an Asian woman with them. If they did, all good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all fair enough - excepts perhaps for fat people and tattoos which is a lifestyle choice.

But I guess the question that underlies it all is why is it that people would feel Asian men to be ugly?

nobody says they're ugly...they don't find them attractive as a potential sexual partner...that's a huge difference and an almighty assumption you've made there"

And that's tedious pedantry about semantics. It seems a fair assumption that if your 'preference' is to find a whole race of people unattractive that you judge them ugly in some form or another.

To me a 'preference' is for those things I prefer. It's distinct from my prejudices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try being half Indian half white British, you fit in to very few profiles...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean 'tars you with asian brush'. You may not like your asian side but most of us are quite happy being asian thank you very much.

I think what he means is a lot of women see Asian guys as having no respect for woman, which wether you like it or not they do, people will always sterio type certain cultures

I'm Sicilian tho I've lived in England since I was 3 ive been turned down because of this and yeah ive been sterio typed many times, but what you going to do?

You could start by not stereotyping people yourself."

well I guess that told me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you mean 'tars you with asian brush'. You may not like your asian side but most of us are quite happy being asian thank you very much.

I think what he means is a lot of women see Asian guys as having no respect for woman, which wether you like it or not they do, people will always sterio type certain cultures

I'm Sicilian tho I've lived in England since I was 3 ive been turned down because of this and yeah ive been sterio typed many times, but what you going to do?

You could start by not stereotyping people yourself.

well I guess that told me

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just asians as I have seen quite a few profiles of women wanting black only so its down to their taste...and who are we to judge anyones taste...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all fair enough - excepts perhaps for fat people and tattoos which is a lifestyle choice.

But I guess the question that underlies it all is why is it that people would feel Asian men to be ugly?

nobody says they're ugly...they don't find them attractive as a potential sexual partner...that's a huge difference and an almighty assumption you've made there

And that's tedious pedantry about semantics. It seems a fair assumption that if your 'preference' is to find a whole race of people unattractive that you judge them ugly in some form or another.

To me a 'preference' is for those things I prefer. It's distinct from my prejudices."

I don't believe it is a fair assumption at all...I don't find young men sexually attractive...I'm not the least bit interested in fucking them...do I then from your assertion find all young men ugly? Far from it...maybe it was being a touch pedantic but it was a slow morning

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By *aughtylittlemeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I wouldn't meet a Asian guy, I no I'm tying all guys together but living in a very cultural area and spending my teen years having Asian guys trying to talk me into there cars and being called a slag for declining it has put me of for life, I have mates in work fem/male that are Asian but I couldn't go down the sex routes.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid.

Believe it or not...many do. In fact.... *looks at watch*....aren't we due a moaning about the term BBC thread soon? We haven't had one this week.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

I'm not asian, i have a natural tan

Just want to take a seat in this thread cause i have a sneaky suspicion its going to be fun

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

I havent met an asian guy from here and i wouldnt either. I lived in a very asian st , in nearly 3yrs of living there only one person spk to me. I had a guy let himself into my flat and trired to grope me. My landlords were asians and broke the tenancy leaving me homeless. I know not everyone is the same but its put me off.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Was a time when everyone who went to watch the football on a Saturday afternoon was branded a "hooligan" too. They might have been nice as pie, but the label stuck.

As usual with this kind of thread, which comes around every few weeks, there is the bout of PC pussyfooting by those who want to say things to make themselves look "likable". I don't think that they will identify or solve your problem though. Maybe a little hard to take points with which you can work with, and see how you go...

Acceptance of your cause isn't made any easier by the steady stream of news reports of gang rapes, and grooming of disadvantaged white girls for sex by gangs of Asian men. It reinforces the stereotype, and for as long as it's in human nature to use the stereotype as a way of weighing up the options as part of the "self preservation" mechanism, (whether that's right, wrong, politically correct or not, is another matter) you'll have a problem for as long as it's easy to ignore or delete a written approach.

You're best hope is to meet people in person. See where your nearest club is, and show yourself to be different from the stereotype and you may get accepted. Let people form their opinions based on what their brains ears and noses are telling them as well as their eyes, and you'll have four ways to impress, rather than just reading a written profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's all fair enough - excepts perhaps for fat people and tattoos which is a lifestyle choice.

But I guess the question that underlies it all is why is it that people would feel Asian men to be ugly?

nobody says they're ugly...they don't find them attractive as a potential sexual partner...that's a huge difference and an almighty assumption you've made there

And that's tedious pedantry about semantics. It seems a fair assumption that if your 'preference' is to find a whole race of people unattractive that you judge them ugly in some form or another.

To me a 'preference' is for those things I prefer. It's distinct from my prejudices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're from an identifiable group of people and one of those people does something wrong, some people will equate 1 person to all people. For every "Asian gang" there's many more sex crimes committed by white people. In the uk they're a less homogenous community therefore Gary Glitter and Jimmy Savile don't equate to all white men are paedophiles. It's the nature of the beast I'm afraid, a bit like all Asians being the same even if they come from countries far more diverse than Western Europe. For example Pakistan, Bangaldesh, India, Sri Lanka, Afghanistan all seem to be the same place according to many people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As usual with this kind of thread, which comes around every few weeks, there is the bout of PC pussyfooting by those who want to say things to make themselves look "likable". I don't think that they will identify or solve your problem though. Maybe a little hard to take points with which you can work with, and see how you go.."

Because people would only give their 'PC' opinions in the vain hope of appearing 'likeable'?!

It's not the 1970's anymore - incredibly some people might actually believe that PC stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people would only give their 'PC' opinions in the vain hope of appearing 'likeable'?!

It's not the 1970's anymore - incredibly some people might actually believe that PC stuff."

I have to say I'm often irritated by the the use of the phrase 'PC' being used as an insult! It's normally also used in a

"I'm not a racist but...." Type of Discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people would only give their 'PC' opinions in the vain hope of appearing 'likeable'?!

It's not the 1970's anymore - incredibly some people might actually believe that PC stuff.

I have to say I'm often irritated by the the use of the phrase 'PC' being used as an insult! It's normally also used in a

"I'm not a racist but...." Type of Discussion "

I think I probably use the term from time to time - usually 'health and safety' related! But there's nothing 'PC' about not being an ignorant racist muppet.

And yes "Some of my best friends.." etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people would only give their 'PC' opinions in the vain hope of appearing 'likeable'?!

It's not the 1970's anymore - incredibly some people might actually believe that PC stuff.

I have to say I'm often irritated by the the use of the phrase 'PC' being used as an insult! It's normally also used in a

"I'm not a racist but...." Type of Discussion "

As you say most people use it as an insult usually to try and detract from their own unpleasant views and a pre-emptive strike at those who will inevitably challenge their stance.

I'm not a racist, I'm not a homphobe, I'm not a sexist, I'm no a misogynist, I am anti violence and anti war. And people say I'm PC and view it as a bad thing?

No good ever came from hated, narrowmindedness and bigotry.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Because people would only give their 'PC' opinions in the vain hope of appearing 'likeable'?!

It's not the 1970's anymore - incredibly some people might actually believe that PC stuff.

I have to say I'm often irritated by the the use of the phrase 'PC' being used as an insult! It's normally also used in a

"I'm not a racist but...." Type of Discussion "

Apparently it's now 'PC' to express an interest FOR Asian men. Hmmm, that's a new one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I probably use the term from time to time - usually 'health and safety' related! "

How on earth does political correctness connect to health and safety legislation?

My other hate of the term, is that people use the phrase "political correctness gone mad" to descrivbe anything that they disagree with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asia is such a large region I think its a shame people cut out so many potential meets with that one phrase. I have no problems with any race, colour or creed myself."

agree, same view myself

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

As a black man I have no problem with a profile saying whites only as I consider it to be their loss to deny themselves such a magnificent opportunity

Plus the black guys only profiles kinda balances things out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I really find it difficult to believe that someone can find a whole race unattractive. I mean for instance the guys at the Indian takeaway near me aren't attractive at all but they are 5 or 6 guys out of about half a billion! And on the other hand some of the Asian guys on this thread are simply gorgeous!

How can anyone dismiss a whole race on the grounds of attractiveness? I bet these same people don't say "we don't don't find white guys attractive - just our preference!" I mean..white guys hey..they're all bloody gorgeous, every single one, right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage"

The thing is, it's even worse than that because Asian covers more than one race!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage"

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Asia is such a large region I think its a shame people cut out so many potential meets with that one phrase. I have no problems with any race, colour or creed myself.

agree, same view myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!"

I'd like to read ur mind and get in fast..hard..slow and deep..with my oral...and then my cock

whOOps...sorry threadjacking!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!

I'd like to read ur mind and get in fast..hard..slow and deep..with my oral...and then my cock

whOOps...sorry threadjacking!"

Save it for Saturday, filthy man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes torjames: Ive seen asian guy whove fooled people into believing they were italian...

anyway, there are too many variables that make people think 'they' look like eachother

spend almost 2mins with someone and ur bound to see the shared facial responses and of course,

the main thing that stops us being clones, the genetic diversity which is inside and outside our own races

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!

I'd like to read ur mind and get in fast..hard..slow and deep..with my oral...and then my cock

whOOps...sorry threadjacking!

Save it for Saturday, filthy man!

geezalick x

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"I really find it difficult to believe that someone can find a whole race unattractive. I mean for instance the guys at the Indian takeaway near me aren't attractive at all but they are 5 or 6 guys out of about half a billion! And on the other hand some of the Asian guys on this thread are simply gorgeous!

I'm moving up north instead

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"yes torjames: Ive seen asian guy whove fooled people into believing they were italian...

anyway, there are too many variables that make people think 'they' look like eachother

spend almost 2mins with someone and ur bound to see the shared facial responses and of course,

the main thing that stops us being clones, the genetic diversity which is inside and outside our own races"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!

I'd like to read ur mind and get in fast..hard..slow and deep..with my oral...and then my cock

whOOps...sorry threadjacking!

Save it for Saturday, filthy man!

geezalick x

Just try and stop me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"there are different types of people in every race that have features that are not given as a stereotypical image.

I just get annoyed when people generalize an entire races attractiveness even tho in those groups there will be people that almost certainly WILL be attractive to them.

it could be a black man, devoid of negro features, could be a white woman with negro features etc etc..

its pretty much a part of being human and sharing genetic heritage

I must learn to type faster...or you could just stop reading my mind and getting in faster and saying it better!

I'd like to read ur mind and get in fast..hard..slow and deep..with my oral...and then my cock

whOOps...sorry threadjacking!

Save it for Saturday, filthy man!

geezalick x

Just try and stop me!

fucksake going for a quiet drink in a club and this woman just thrusts her fanny in my face...altho, was a nice new name for the cocktail

squirtycumbucket

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

I suppose some people have racial preferences just like they have preferences for other physical features. As long as that is all it is then I don't have a problem with it. After all, we can't be attracted to everyone and every type.

I have personal preferences for physical features, but I don't feel the need to put it in my profile as I have always found an exception to my general rule of 'preference'. However, I do not have a preference for any particular race, colour or creed and I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow. And I have never found any race, colour or creed any better or worse sexually than another.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow..."

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

My shag list is far too monochromatic, need to do something about that.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

I'd like to see a transcript of that conversation!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

My shag list is far too monochromatic, need to do something about that.

I just have to find a green man and a purple man and I have the full complement!

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

My shag list is far too monochromatic, need to do something about that.

I just have to find a green man and a purple man and I have the full complement!

Did you shag the blue man group?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one experince with a asian guy and it was a good one. X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

My shag list is far too monochromatic, need to do something about that.

I just have to find a green man and a purple man and I have the full complement!

Did you shag the blue man group?

I'm not telling, and they'll keep quiet about it too.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

My shag list is far too monochromatic, need to do something about that.

I just have to find a green man and a purple man and I have the full complement!

Did you shag the blue man group?

I'm not telling, and they'll keep quiet about it too.

was this a smurf gang bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I probably use the term from time to time - usually 'health and safety' related!

How on earth does political correctness connect to health and safety legislation?

My other hate of the term, is that people use the phrase "political correctness gone mad" to descrivbe anything that they disagree with."

haha actually I have no idea and even as I wrote it I was thinking 'really?!'

Truthfully I was 'pussyfooting' around my honest opinion which is that it's an arsehole term mostly used by arseholes.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

I'd like to see a transcript of that conversation!"

It's Friday tomorrow so i let my team have a Non 'PC' hour. So all jokes, piss takes and abuse are allowed and i will definately find a way of slipping that quote in somewhere

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

I'd like to see a transcript of that conversation!

It's Friday tomorrow so i let my team have a Non 'PC' hour. So all jokes, piss takes and abuse are allowed and i will definately find a way of slipping that quote in somewhere

Well you must report back and tell us how you did it!

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

" ... I have pretty much shagged the racial rainbow...

Best quote on the thread!!

I'm going to try and get this into a conversation at work

I'd like to see a transcript of that conversation!

It's Friday tomorrow so i let my team have a Non 'PC' hour. So all jokes, piss takes and abuse are allowed and i will definately find a way of slipping that quote in somewhere

Well you must report back and tell us how you did it!

Considering i'll be quoting you i will give you an update. Tomorrow is going to be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are."

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

I think that, and I'm white.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are."

This this and this again! Got the best doctor ever right now and he is Pakistani, don't wanna shag him mind! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

This this and this again! Got the best doctor ever right now and he is Pakistani, don't wanna shag him mind! Lol"

that's the problem with some people they think because you don't want to shag someone you don't like them, which is utter tosh, its fine to say you don't find someone attractive, you can still like them as a person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

This this and this again! Got the best doctor ever right now and he is Pakistani, don't wanna shag him mind! Lol

even in my clown outfit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even in my clown outfit?"

sod off

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

There is a fair bit of False equivalence in this thread. At least it is more level headed discussion than previous attempts.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

This this and this again! Got the best doctor ever right now and he is Pakistani, don't wanna shag him mind! Lol

Pretty much my point, why do poeple equate sexual non-atraction to racism? I am not in the least turned on by gay men but have friends who are gay, same goes for TVs, just nit my thing sexually but I would chat to 'them' in the pub!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"It's true in places we've lived that there are many Asian taxi drivers and lots of young Asian lads doing the irritating things young lads do.

There are also lots of Asian doctors, along with those working in the banks and the friendly lads doing the tills in the supermarket.

Guess the difference is that when the chavs are doing their thing in the local parks we don't walk past thinking 'white scum' albeit that's what they are.

This this and this again! Got the best doctor ever right now and he is Pakistani, don't wanna shag him mind! Lol

Does that make me homophobic? Hell no, I just dont wanna shag men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am of Asian origin. Born and bred in Yorkshire.

I have had a few people on here, who have said. Sorry don't meet Asians, and I respect their wishes.

One lady who said no, after chatting for several weeks, decided to meet up and was pleasantly suprised.

A lot is down to having a bad experience, or knows someone who has had a bad experience.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

A person's sexual orientation/ identity is NOT even remotely close to the same thing as their race.

And it is perfectly fine to have a preference right up until the point when you completely discount one ENTIRE race from consideration. Not because of your biology, but rather because of sociological factors.

People who claim not to find Asians attractive would probably see things different if they had grown up in an area that was predominantly Asian, and they had been influenced by "Asian" media, which has its own set of beauty standards.

There's a big difference. I wish more people would be able to see it and accept that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A person's sexual orientation/ identity is NOT even remotely close to the same thing as their race.

There's a big difference. I wish more people would be able to see it and accept that."

Agree.

It's not preferences - everyone has those. But discounting a whole race is not that, and I've yet to read a valid argument for why somebody would choose to do so other than admissions of prejudice.

The argument about sexuality doesn't really relate - its not like you can always tell somebody's sexuality and most people must at some point have fancied somebody only to learn their sexualities differ - or very likely have a celebrity crush oblivious to their sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A person's sexual orientation/ identity is NOT even remotely close to the same thing as their race.

There's a big difference. I wish more people would be able to see it and accept that."

so what are you saying that's its not ok to not want to shag a certain race of people?

so we are just all supposed to want to shag everyone regardless of whether theres an attraction or not?

some people just arnt attracted to certain races, be that Indian/Asian, Chinese, African or white

And in my book its perfectly ok to not want to have sex with certain races so long as your polite about it

im not meeting anyone I don't want to in fear of being branded racist if I don't, sorry

I do not dislike any racer and I wouldnt choose my friends based on race, that does not mean I want to shag them tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference - you 'prefer' tall, Swedish, blondes..

NOT the same as 'if you're Asian I won't find you attractive'.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

so what are you saying that's its not ok to not want to shag a certain race of people?

so we are just all supposed to want to shag everyone regardless of whether theres an attraction or not?

some people just arnt attracted to certain races, be that Indian/Asian, Chinese, African or white

And in my book its perfectly ok to not want to have sex with certain races so long as your polite about it

im not meeting anyone I don't want to in fear of being branded racist if I don't, sorry

I do not dislike any racer and I would choose my friends based on race, that does not mean I want to shag them tho"

Not what i said at all.

IT IS PERFECTLY FINE TO HAVE PREFERENCES. The clue is in the word. You PREFER one thing over something else. That implies that given the choice, you'll make the choice in favour of the thing you prefer. You still weigh up the options. You don't COMPLETELY discount one option, because it doesn't become a choice then does it?

But you can't say that you don't find Asian men (just an example) attractive just because one Asian man tried to steal your car many moons ago (as some have tried to explain similarly in this thread). That stops being a preference and becomes a prejudice.

That's discounting a whole race (or sub race if we want to be truly specific) because of the actions of one person. How does that even make any sense on a sexual level?

If you had two men of exactly the same proportions - height, weight body mass, facial features, etc, but one was white and the other of "Asian" descent. And let's say you were attracted to the white guy. Are you telling me that you wouldn't be attracted to the Asian guy too? Despite being exactly the same as the white guy, bar the colour of his skin and/ or knowledge of his descent?

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

A person's sexual orientation/ identity is NOT even remotely close to the same thing as their race.

There's a big difference. I wish more people would be able to see it and accept that."

You miss my point i think. This is not a 'dating' site, it is about meeting people for NSA sex, by and large, and therefore socialogical factors rarely enter into it. If one is not 'turned on' by a certain skin colour for example then that is just how they are. I quite agree with you that if it is for socialogical stereotyping reasons it is racism, however on a site like this most people are not looking to 'get past' skin deep attraction. I have met black girls who tell me they are just not sexually attracted to black men for example, many of their friends/family are black men, they are not racist just when looking for a purely sexual partner, it is not their 'thing'. When looking for a permanent partner, they would make no such distinction.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

PS Happy to meet anyone myself, as long as there is mutual sexual attraction and we get along so no real axe to grind. I would also say I personally think it is unecessary to overtly say this is a no-no on a profile, just politely say 'no' or ignore when messaged as you would with anyone you are not attracted to.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

My best mate said to me once, years ago when she was single, that she could never go out with an asian guy because she didn't find asian guys attractive.

Wrong, she just hadn't yet met an asian guy she was attracted to.

Her husband is asian.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best mate said to me once, years ago when she was single, that she could never go out with an asian guy because she didn't find asian guys attractive.

Wrong, she just hadn't yet met an asian guy she was attracted to.

Her husband is asian."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My best mate said to me once, years ago when she was single, that she could never go out with an asian guy because she didn't find asian guys attractive.

Wrong, she just hadn't yet met an asian guy she was attracted to.

Her husband is asian."

That's the funny thing about attraction anyway - it's pretty fickle

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"PS Happy to meet anyone myself, as long as there is mutual sexual attraction and we get along so no real axe to grind. I would also say I personally think it is unecessary to overtly say this is a no-no on a profile, just politely say 'no' or ignore when messaged as you would with anyone you are not attracted to."

Thanks for the replies, i do get where you are coming at this from somewhat. I guess i don't think i could ever say to myself that i couldn't find women of a particular race attractive. Mainly because even within specific racial groups, people differ. I'd be doing myself a disservice if i didn't at least allow for the possibility of discovering one lady from a racial group that i could find attractive.

I guess that's just me.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

"My best mate said to me once, years ago when she was single, that she could never go out with an asian guy because she didn't find asian guys attractive.

Wrong, she just hadn't yet met an asian guy she was attracted to.

Her husband is asian.

That's the funny thing about attraction anyway - it's pretty fickle

Exactly. And it often pops up when you least expect it.

My friend actually went on her first date with her now husband, a matter of weeks after she made that comment.

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By *teph65Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

In my experience asian guys are very good in bed

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By *teph65Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

In my experience asian guys are very good in bed

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I guess that's just me."

And you are quite right to be you and are not unique in that i am sure, I am pretty much the same, personally i do not get why anyone would discount an entire 'race' but respect their right to do so in an environment like this, i would not respect it if this were a pure chat n make friends type environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only ever had 3 Asian guys message me, and all 3 were married and sneeking around, which I won't be part of (my profile states this) I would love to meet a genuine single Asian guy.. I wouldn't pass him by if he met my critearia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

..at the end of the day it all falls down to choice. People are on this site to have the ability to choose who they want to meet. If they have a preference or a type of person they dont want to meet, thats their prerogative.

One thing i have realised is once someone gets to know you. Race does not become an issue. Its up to you to show not all asian men are like the stereotype.

My veris speak forthemselves and everyone that i speak to in the chatrooms. We always have a good laugh. If my race causes an issue. Then they arent for me either.

It works both ways.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"I myself have no problems with any race or skin colour, the Asian as in Pakistani / Indian origin guys who've been to my gang bangs have all been very nice. However whenever I'm organising one the when it comes down to the 'please don't invite' rules from the ladies No fat guys and no Asians, as in Pakistani / Indian origin. They're usually happy with oriental, ie Chinese / Vietnamese etc which most countries count as Asian, Britain it normally means Pakistani / Indian. It seems that lot of ladies have had problems either in or out of swinging with men from with this background. To be truthful last Saturday I went out down the Manchester gay Village with a lovely TV, the only negative response was from the two taxi drivers on the way there and back, the first one seemed quite uncomfortable although still polite. The second one on the way back was quite rude and to be honest if it hadn't been 6am I would have have got out but didn't fancy trying to flag down another at that time when half way back from the Village. When we drove into the apartment blocks where I live and passed the bins area the driver asked if we were going to go behind the bins? The lovely witty TV I was with remarked no we were going back to my rather lovely apartment to fuck like bunnies in a rather nice bedroom. Personally I felt like twatting him, but didn't feel like spending the rest of the day in the cells when we could be fucking like bunnies

Attitudes like that don't exactly endear people towards a race or another group of people."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid.

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"..at the end of the day it all falls down to choice. People are on this site to have the ability to choose who they want to meet. If they have a preference or a type of person they dont want to meet, thats their prerogative.

One thing i have realised is once someone gets to know you. Race does not become an issue. Its up to you to show not all asian men are like the stereotype.

My veris speak forthemselves and everyone that i speak to in the chatrooms. We always have a good laugh. If my race causes an issue. Then they arent for me either.

It works both ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

But were not stereo typing its from actual experience, this is what weve encountered, for instance how many times would you eat fish if it made you feel ill, doesnt mean all fish is bad just means it doesnt suit you, and the same goes for the Asian guys, weve sampled didnt like wont try again

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

All *asian men* are yucky and should he avoided because based on stereotypes and meets with one or two which clearly represent all they smell wrong, dress wrong, talk wrong, behave wrong.

(Note: you can replace *asian men* with any other combination of colour, race, gender, ethnic origin etc etc)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Actually that's the very definition of stereotyping. You've sampled a few and judged the rest based on that sample. I'm assuming not all the men of European descent (that includes British people) that you've met in your life have been amazing, so why see Europeans?

Judging an entire race as "fish that make you sick" is stereotyping. However that is your choice not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

This at least IS a preference. Coming on here to fulfil a fantasy is what most people do. As others have pointed out to be seeking something indicates nothing of anything else. To rule out Asian blokes completely suggests you have a particular problem with them.

It's not the same.

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By *andcCouple
over a year ago

London and Cheshire

Don't like the 'our preference' thing that seems to be on a lot of profiles.

???? But surely that's YOUR preference!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Judging an entire race as "fish that make you sick" is stereotyping. However that is your choice not mine

Maybe your right but im not going to try eating fish until I find one which doesnt make me sick, and the same applies to Asian Men, the few weve encountered were not nice, we are not going to try loads more as its time consuming and we could be playing with people of our choice. If thats stereo typing than thats fine, we choose who and what we want to spend our time with and Asian men wont be part of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Judging an entire race as "fish that make you sick" is stereotyping. However that is your choice not mine

You see although I don't get that, at least it's honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Judging an entire race as "fish that make you sick" is stereotyping. However that is your choice not mine

You see although I don't get that, at least it's honest. "

Unless they have 15 inch cocks then our principles go out the window lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Can I enquire as to whether you have ever had a bad meet with non~Asian males?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all. "

To be completely clear, all I'd like is some honesty from people. Those who say NO ASIANS on their profile are not only making it perfectly clear that over a billion people in the world aren't what they're looking for. They'll often base this on very little information and if they used the same criteria they claim to use for every race then I suspect they'd be living in a small cave somewhere. All races have twats and all of those twats are that way because of who they are not where they were born. So if you have NO ASIANS on your profile please do the rest of us the courtesy of being honest about your reasons and not dressing it up with "I'm not racist but" type statements.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's

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By *otswoldMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"It is hard for a Asian guy on here, I see 1 in every 3/4 profiles say "No Asians""

It's not you, it's the baggage associated sensational press comment. Try a holiday in Cap d'Agde (France) where, at the very least, you can expect to start with a clean slate when you arrive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I enquire as to whether you have ever had a bad meet with non~Asian males? "

The only correct response that can be given here of course is....

Of course not all white people are perfect . Except for Stewart Hall, the Krays, Tony Blair (that was just for you guys) etc etc

But then we judge them as individuals not as white people.

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reading through the posts...can i just say where does racism come into it??

or am i wrong?

i meet guys i like and get on with no matter what race someone is anf if i think a guys fit i will meet them.

but have to say i know women and men who only date and fancy certain people.

one of my best mates is mixed race..yet only dates white guys..she has loads of black/asian friends though.. but only likes white men.

i asked her once why this the case.. and she said just attracted more to white guys....is that racist? or just preference and choice?

i also know guys who only date asian girls...i know girls who only date black men.

i dont know if when someone has a preference as to who they fancy can explain it in a way where someone wont see it as being racist?

we are all different...and as long as people are polite thats the main thing.

i dont know if anyone gets what i mean haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you guys are saying & this is not against you or anything but I feel that is the stereotype many people have of Asian men.

Rude, offensive, no respect for females, smells of food or cooking and can't speak proper English.

There are some of us nice, decent, fun & genuine Asian guys out there just give us a chance!!

Can I enquire as to whether you have ever had a bad meet with non~Asian males? "

In all Honesty no we have not met one bad non-Asian male, but the word is actually met here, weve had a few bad experiences with non Asian guys during exchanges of mails where they have been obnoxious when we tell them we wont meet them, but every meet with them has been extremely enjoyable.

In addition so has our meet with a nice polite black guy from London, probably one of the nicest people we have ever met on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's"

The only information people need to make a decision to meet a certain group of people is if they are going to be attracted to them. If not there is no reason to talk to them about meeting. Simple.

I take it you would be fine if someone has only looking to meet white men on there profile as that IS a preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's

The only information people need to make a decision to meet a certain group of people is if they are going to be attracted to them. If not there is no reason to talk to them about meeting. Simple.

I take it you would be fine if someone has only looking to meet white men on there profile as that IS a preference. "

Not sure what you mean

I've made it clear we won't meet people who express a racial preference. If they only meet whites then I'm afraid I don't see the difference between that and "we don't meet Asians" or "we don't meet blacks".

Unless I misunderstand what you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am saying that you said it was fine for a woman to say only looking for black men. As that is a preference

So I take it you would think it's fine to say only looking for white men instead of no Asian or black men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am saying that you said it was fine for a woman to say only looking for black men. As that is a preference

So I take it you would think it's fine to say only looking for white men instead of no Asian or black men"

No I didn't. I don't like that concept either. I get the idea of inter racial sex being a turn on to some people but not sure why you'd exclude others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)"

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

If any of my fellow Fabsters wish to put -

No black guys

No white guys

No asian guys

No bi men

No lesbians

No single women

Or any number of people they don't wish to have sex with then please bloody well do so. Its your life, your

body and your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that what some folk are forgetting is quite simply we still just about have semblance of free speech.

I am not and never will be politically correct. If someone decides they do not wish to meet asians i use this as this is what o p mentioned originally then that is entirely their choice.

It does not mean because someone who is in offering sex cannot decide who what colour or type of person they wish to be sexual with is frankly ridiculous it does not mean the person does not like asians in general life but just not sexually.

How can this be wrong. Its so easy to play the race card nowadays and in part is one of the problems facing society.

I think some posters here are being disingenous by alluding to fact sexually asians may not turn them on and turn it into a racial issue.

Time to accept fact some prefer to meet asians some do not get over it and stop moaning and feeling sorry for yourself

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

Surely it means straight people are sexist too! The only way to avoid any accusations is to have a mass gb, all FS members present and all fuck everyone regardless of sex, colour religion or sexual preference! As long as I get the mark up on the condoms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any of my fellow Fabsters wish to put -

No black guys

No white guys

No asian guys

No bi men

No lesbians

No single women

Or any number of people they don't wish to have sex with then please bloody well do so. Its your life, your

body and your choice.

you forgot no fatties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

What even with the Scots?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any of my fellow Fabsters wish to put -

No black guys

No white guys

No asian guys

No bi men

No lesbians

No single women

Or any number of people they don't wish to have sex with then please bloody well do so. Its your life, your

body and your choice.

you forgot no fatties

Easier to just say "I don't meet"

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By *ustyBrunette35Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

"If any of my fellow Fabsters wish to put -

No black guys

No white guys

No asian guys

No bi men

No lesbians

No single women

Or any number of people they don't wish to have sex with then please

bloody well do so. Its your life, your

body and your choice.

you forgot no fatties

I was scared the forum police would come and get me if I put no fatties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If any of my fellow Fabsters wish to put -

No black guys

No white guys

No asian guys

No bi men

No lesbians

No single women

Or any number of people they don't wish to have sex with then please

bloody well do so. Its your life, your

body and your choice.

you forgot no fatties

I was scared the forum police would come and get me if I put no fatties

luckly I know no fear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

They are perfectly entitled to have sex with whomever they wish. However to then try to claim it's just a preference isn't true in the majority of cases. If you read some of the posts you'll see it's not a "preference" it's based on stereotypes.

If people were honest I'd be more impressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi I just wondered what is the perception of guys of Asian heritage (by Asian I mean Indian Pakistani etc.)

I see a few profiles which state 'no Asians' I just wondered if people have had bad experiences? "

I find there are very few as I have tried to search for Asian couples,women, men but not coming across many

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

What even with the Scots?

Och aye, apparently we are too loud though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed. "

what does it matter why?

I've been turned down in the past because i'm not English, the fact of the matter is they had no interest in me because of this, do they then have to justify why my nationality bothers them? no of course they don't, I wouldn't even ask

people don't have to answer for themselves they have the rights to choose who they want to meet for whatever reason surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was talking about honesty in the discussion above not about when they reply or don't reply to a message. People are trying to justify their behaviour and they are attempting to soften how it looks by claiming it's their preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are well within their rights to sleep with who they choose and see fit.

All I'll say is that there's no need to be nasty about it.

I do find it funny though when I see people looking at my profile having strongly stated in theirs that I don't fit their criteria! Block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

What even with the Scots?

Och aye, apparently we are too loud though!"

Ah but that's as a consequence of all the whiskey you get through. I like a good knees up with the jocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are well within their rights to sleep with who they choose and see fit.

All I'll say is that there's no need to be nasty about it.

I do find it funny though when I see people looking at my profile having strongly stated in theirs that I don't fit their criteria! Block!

Perhaps they're checking in case you're Avatar pic is shadowed out , you know like they do on tv and in papers to disguise people's identities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging for us is to some extent about fulfilling fantasy and in many ways is nothing to do with our everyday real life. The people we have sex with whilst swinging often reflect that.

We both have an "ideal" type in terms of looks that fits in with our fantasies and so at times this is what we look for whilst swinging.

This does not mean that we have anything against people who are not the exact criteria of what we are looking for at that time, it just means that we do not wish to have sex with them.

I (the fem) have a very mixed heritage and am one of the least racist people you are going to meet, but if my current fantasy is to shag someone who looks like Daniel Craig, then that rules out a hell of a lot of people. Some of those will be ruled out for being the wrong height, some the wrong build, some the wrong age, some the wrong gender, some the wrong colour and some for just their facial features.

Ruling out any of these people does not make me ___ist ( insert word of choice), it just means I am exercising my right to chose who I have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are well within their rights to sleep with who they choose and see fit.

All I'll say is that there's no need to be nasty about it.

I do find it funny though when I see people looking at my profile having strongly stated in theirs that I don't fit their criteria! Block!

Perhaps they're checking in case you're Avatar pic is shadowed out , you know like they do on tv and in papers to disguise people's identities

Haha. Well it is now as far as they're concerned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are well within their rights to sleep with who they choose and see fit.

All I'll say is that there's no need to be nasty about it.

I do find it funny though when I see people looking at my profile having strongly stated in theirs that I don't fit their criteria! Block!

Perhaps they're checking in case you're Avatar pic is shadowed out , you know like they do on tv and in papers to disguise people's identities

Haha. Well it is now as far as they're concerned!

Lol ah well plenty more women in the pot for you

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Okay I'm going to throw this firework in

If not liking / finding Asians attractive is racist

Does that mean that gays and lesbians are sexist

Are your trying to ruin a perfectly good row with humour?

;-)

Erm yes

okay I'm busted I'm outta here

What even with the Scots?

Och aye, apparently we are too loud though!

Ah but that's as a consequence of all the whiskey you get through. I like a good knees up with the jocks

Happy to put your knees up anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am one of the ones who states "no asian/black guys" on her profile!! Gulp! I am not racist in any shape or form or saying that all asian/black guys look the same/are the same, as I know from experience that they are not and there are some that I would happily abuse! Mwah ha ha!!

However, also from experience, I know that these guys would be the minority for me (my personal preference) so I choose to risk missing out on them rather than have lots of messages from people that I may not find attractive.....Mind you, at the end of the day it is all irrelevant as hardly anyone reads profiles anyway so I still get messages!!

I am a BBW and do not feel the need to start a forum post as to why so many guys have profiles stating they only want to meet "fit" women! Just see it as their loss (my loss!) and move on!

We all have different tastes, thank god, which is what makes a site like this so great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's"

but I like bushy fannys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's

but I like bushy fannys!"

Don't they get stuck in your tash?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people have no Asian or black men on there profile people take offence but if a single woman has only interested in black blokes no one bats an eyelid. this"

It's not the same.

Of course it is the same. A certain group of people are being excluded and is generally put across by the colour of there skin. It's just worded slightly different that is all.

Having said all that, Tor and I will definitely not meet people who express a racial preference on their profile, makes me feel like I'd be meeting people stuck in the 1970's

but I like bushy fannys!

Don't they get stuck in your tash? "

the possible Mayan in my blood leaves me not a very hairy person, which is great during sacrificial virgin rituals..unfortunately fab has very few of them...and the rituals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed. "

What stereotype is that then?

I don't like the look of dark skin and features.. I don't find it attractive!

Has nothing to do with the person themself, just their physical attributes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed.

What stereotype is that then?

I don't like the look of dark skin and features.. I don't find it attractive!

Has nothing to do with the person themself, just their physical attributes.."

so u dont like tanned people?

base response comment btw lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed.

What stereotype is that then?

I don't like the look of dark skin and features.. I don't find it attractive!

Has nothing to do with the person themself, just their physical attributes.."

That's sort of the definition of stereotyping. You place a group together Under one heading and

Ignore the individual differences.

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over a year ago

"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed.

What stereotype is that then?

I don't like the look of dark skin and features.. I don't find it attractive!

Has nothing to do with the person themself, just their physical attributes..

That's sort of the definition of stereotyping. You place a group together Under one heading and

Ignore the individual differences. "

So ur saying different races of people don't have different physical features to other races?

So orientals don't have different eyes? Black people don't have afro hair? Asians don't have skin that is darker than a caucasian? I have to look at each individually to find the pale and blonde types I find attractive then?

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over a year ago

Who you find attractive is up to you and what you describe is genetic differences. Stereotyping is applying a like, dislike or attribute to those genetics.

So people are blue eyed and have brown hair is genetics. I don't like those people because they look like ghosts is stereotyping.

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over a year ago

Quite a good topic here!

Being Asian myself I can understand where people are coming from. Personally I don't mind the race/background of anyone, obviously you'll find that you're not attracted to everyone from that race /background but there will be a few that make it worth the hassle. An example I always tend to use is every apple tree has good apples and bad apples, personally I'd rather plant the tree than not plant it at all!

What I don't understand is when people rule out 'Blacks and Asians' due to past experiences. What I mean is if that same person has these experiences in the future with a white person, would they then rule out every white person too and move on to another race?

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"There's a Asian couple on here who advertise to only wanting to meet other Asians and they have every rights to do so

I have also seen a black couples profile who hold house parties for black people only

I've seen white people looking for no blacks and Asians

Not everyone is into interracial sex, lots of people prefer to stick to their own race, personally I can not see a problem with it, I really don't see how any of them are doing anything wrong

If people were honest I'd be more impressed.

What stereotype is that then?

I don't like the look of dark skin and features.. I don't find it attractive!

Has nothing to do with the person themself, just their physical attributes..

That's sort of the definition of stereotyping. You place a group together Under one heading and

Ignore the individual differences.

So ur saying different races of people don't have different physical features to other races?

obviously u didnt read much of the above on different characteristics INSIDE races.

there are black people with white features, white people with black features, dont like dark eyes, well theres dark people with green eyes. its nothing always about inbreeding its just the fact we are human...or indeed sharing our common ancestry.

asian people arent all small( i mean far easter), some dont have narrow eyes.

basic fact.

to label one race as all being the same, even features wise shows a disntinct lack of understanding genetics, and of course stereotyping.

I have no issues with preferences, but I can use a bit of knowledge on the poor use of statistics to engulf an entire race or indeed sex

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If you read further above you'll find it's something to do with fish

of course no one will answer the question correctly as they'll come back to preferences rather than being honest and say they just don't like Asians

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over a year ago

Isn't this more about outlook and behaviour rather than the way people look?

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over a year ago

I suppose I can mostly see this, coming from a mixed backround, and seeing my sister raise 5kids, they all look different in the sense some are more tanned than the others.

but I know from my mixed family abroad, mixing has been the norm since slave trading days, and even then with the indigenous

so in effect, there starts to be people from a race who dont look like the stereotypical image.

and as Ive said again and again, even within in cultures/races that dont mix so much, there are people who 'stand' out from their race

I still dont grasp the concept that people find it strange to meet me as paddy...not imagining im patrick...and probably almost certainly not imagining I'd sound scottish.

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