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By *lleyCat1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love them gives us an opportunity to meet real genuine people and if there's an attraction we can play, a lot easier than meeting people of here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

They are not everyones cup of tea. I don't mind them as its an excellent way to meet new people, but some can be cliquey, some can be quiet (a pain if you've travelled a long way) and some can be truly awful. If you're happy with not going then fine.

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By *lleyCat1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

They are not everyones cup of tea. I don't mind them as its an excellent way to meet new people, but some can be cliquey, some can be quiet (a pain if you've travelled a long way) and some can be truly awful. If you're happy with not going then fine."

I am happy with not going, and it's the cliquey thing that puts me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to the individual

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x"

If it's the Manchester social in Sept were going and will look after u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

No, you're not alone! They don't appeal to me either, not confident enough to go. Plus I'd have to travel hours to get to one anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x"
told you you be ok x

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester

I'm too scared of going to a club aswell....

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

not for us either. tried it a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps one time its something to do in ur life????

not caring as long as u arent judging what u think happens in a swing club I suppose.. thats what fucks me off, people claiming they are seedy etc etc...so in reflection are actually saying theres something wrong with the thousands that go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too scared of going to a club aswell....

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but there are two of you

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I'm too scared of going to a club aswell....

but there are two of you"

If u mean us....I know but too scared as don't want to be just sat there like a pair of dummies.

Everyone to there own but at the min it's not for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love clubs and parties. Its nothing to do with sex, doesn't matter if we play with others or keep to ourselves, bit o just love the vibe. I like the fact you can dress up and walk around, chatting to people, maybe have a dance, socialise whilst eating, watch sex, indulge in play, go in hot tubs or swimming pools, there's just lots of people to tallk to etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x"

you'll be fine, I'll look after you xx

(PP)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love clubs and parties. Its nothing to do with sex, doesn't matter if we play with others or keep to ourselves, bit o just love the vibe. I like the fact you can dress up and walk around, chatting to people, maybe have a dance, socialise whilst eating, watch sex, indulge in play, go in hot tubs or swimming pools, there's just lots of people to tallk to etc. "

this is what we like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x

If it's the Manchester social in Sept were going and will look after u "

Its the one on Saturday x

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

Nope you are not alone

I have been but only once and it just wasn't my cup of tea. Maybe it was a bad night or just my inability to open up but i found it very clingy/cliquey, rude people and the single males in there who personified what some on this site dislike about single males. Unfortunately i didn't last the night and decided to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"perhaps one time its something to do in ur life????

not caring as long as u arent judging what u think happens in a swing club I suppose.. thats what fucks me off, people claiming they are seedy etc etc...so in reflection are actually saying theres something wrong with the thousands that go!"

Yes that annoys me too, people who imagine that if you go to clubs you automatically have gang bangs with everyone in there, it's a very silly and immature perception

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too scared of going to a club aswell....

but there are two of you

If u mean us....I know but too scared as don't want to be just sat there like a pair of dummies.

Everyone to there own but at the min it's not for us "
i doubt you be like dummies if you confident to come on here shouldnt be a prob

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x

If it's the Manchester social in Sept were going and will look after u

Its the one on Saturday x "

Yes were going so u won't be alone

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I Minnie has never wanted to go to a club but am going to a social on my own am absolutely terrified but I know there are some lovely people here In the forum who will look after me x

If it's the Manchester social in Sept were going and will look after u

Its the one on Saturday x

Yes were going so u won't be alone "

Come and say hi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]"
you sorted already min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min"

They are only saying hi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x "
its a start x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

clubs wont be for everyone. We only have experience of one and it had good bits, excellent bits and some awful bits . Doesn't matter if you don't like them its not mandatory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets"

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x"

True x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference! "

That's what I thought too. Just saying they don't appeal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference! "
id love to see your legs walk into a club plus the rest of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x"
u be fine minnie wish i could come x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference! id love to see your legs walk into a club plus the rest of you x"

ha ha if I ever get the urge to venture to a club, I'll let you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not interested in house parties, and seldom play at clubs with peeps that I do not already know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference! id love to see your legs walk into a club plus the rest of you x

ha ha if I ever get the urge to venture to a club, I'll let you know "
wow x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I love clubs and parties. Its nothing to do with sex, doesn't matter if we play with others or keep to ourselves, bit o just love the vibe. I like the fact you can dress up and walk around, chatting to people, maybe have a dance, socialise whilst eating, watch sex, indulge in play, go in hot tubs or swimming pools, there's just lots of people to tallk to etc. "

Us too we've had some amazing times both going to clubs on our own and as a couple - made some lovely friends as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my thing either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x"

So do I x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I x"
we go 1 day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x"

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx"

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By *ncoreMan
over a year ago

poulton

We really dislike private meets and much prefer clubs. Our first experience was in a club. There is no pressure, relaxed easy go atmosphere and made some nice friends. This is at infusion and bath swingers. Both of which were fantastic! Private meets feel more awkward to us but we don't really know why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried it once definitely not for me. Get on ok without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx

"
we sort summat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx

we sort summat x "

Great xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx

we sort summat x

Great xx"
time for bed said zebadee if can sleep x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

I go often as a single woman alone, and they are great friendly placs, and off to cupids sat night for the forum party, dont evr be frightened of going alone!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go often as a single woman alone, and they are great friendly placs, and off to cupids sat night for the forum party, dont evr be frightened of going alone!!! "

Am going to alone x Minnie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx

we sort summat x

Great xxtime for bed said zebadee if can sleep x"

Goodnight said dougle xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 23/07/13 23:07:24]you sorted already min

They are only saying hi x its a start x

True x u be fine minnie wish i could come x

So do I xwe go 1 day x

Xxx

we sort summat x

Great xxtime for bed said zebadee if can sleep x

Goodnight said dougle xx"
lol x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"I go often as a single woman alone, and they are great friendly placs, and off to cupids sat night for the forum party, dont evr be frightened of going alone!!!

Am going to alone x Minnie x "

sure i will see you there, and you will be ok,promise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I go often as a single woman alone, and they are great friendly placs, and off to cupids sat night for the forum party, dont evr be frightened of going alone!!!

Am going to alone x Minnie x

sure i will see you there, and you will be ok,promise"

I know x

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"We really dislike private meets and much prefer clubs. Our first experience was in a club. There is no pressure, relaxed easy go atmosphere and made some nice friends. This is at infusion and bath swingers. Both of which were fantastic! Private meets feel more awkward to us but we don't really know why?"

We can relate to that. We have met a few couples and even some single guys off the web, but we find meeting someone for the first time in a bar or pub having a chat then back to ours or theirs for a shag way too clinical.

In a club we can chat to lots of different people (couples and singles) and if it clicks we can go into a play room. If it doesn't then just move on without any embarrassment for either party.

We have had some great, mediocre, and crap nights, but that is all part of the fun and have met some long lasting friends on the way

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Basically then some people like to go to clubs and some don't, some people like to meet privately and some don't. Who'd have thought it eh

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

Clubs don't interest me either. But I have found they are a great way to socialise and talk with other like minded people. Also watching others can be quite hot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm too scared of going to a club aswell....

but there are two of you"

I go on my own.....you should try it at least once

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By *lleyCat1969 OP   Man
over a year ago

Folkestone


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

it doesn't appeal to everyone, but what i normally say to people is don't knock people who do go to them from a viewpoint of ignorance of never been

clubs are a good way of networking, so from that aspect you are closing another avenue to getting meets

To be fair I don't think the OP was knocking anyone who goes to clubs just voicing a personal preference! "

Thanks

That wasn't what I was saying. I know enough people who enjoy clubs to know what they're really like, and also to know they're not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I'm not interested in them either.

I've been to two clubs, both were dirty, seedy and not what swinging is about, in my view. I will not meet or play in clubs as a result.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Nope. I'm not interested in them either.

I've been to two clubs, both were dirty, seedy and not what swinging is about, in my view. I will not meet or play in clubs as a result.

"

well i am lucky then to live near a club that was rated by the "sex in the cities guide for 2013" as one of the top 5 in the uk, so my experience is nothing like yours....

there are a lot of pre-conceived notions of what clubs are like, but a lot of people have never set foot inside one.

one of the things about the one I got to is that it is a very social club and atmosphere... but the onus is still on people to talk to others rather than sitting in corners like lemons....

sex is not the be all and end all.... and i think that is the one thing the club I go to gets across well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all.

They are not everyones cup of tea. I don't mind them as its an excellent way to meet new people, but some can be cliquey, some can be quiet (a pain if you've travelled a long way) and some can be truly awful. If you're happy with not going then fine.

I am happy with not going, and it's the cliquey thing that puts me off."

Have you been to one?

I think the cliquey thing only ever bothers people that want to be a part of it - same as the moans about it on this forum from time to time.

Sometimes we prefer clubs, sometimes not - but it is a lot easier to just go along to a club than it is to plan a private meet and I think we're getting lazier

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By *ptimum trajectoryCouple
over a year ago

gloucester

Clubs offer a vibe unique to that club.so I think if you have not enjoyed one particular club , don't write them all off. If the idea of going to one scares you then embrace it and face it (if nothing else it will open your eyes). I have discovered a lot about what I thought I liked and disliked and had my preconceptions smashed. Of course clubs aren't for every one but on the whole they are a safe and fun place to learn more about yourself or just meeting likeminded lifestylers not to mention most of them are like a sexual gymnasium with loads of apparatus to play on....well thats my bit said, if you want me I'll be on the monkey bars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was very very sure I did not want to do clubs or parties mainly because of things I'd seen posted on here about people touching you without permission and really being unable to be assured about it being a no pressure environment-i liked to be in control of my meets, who was there, who was playing and who was watching...but I also knew that I was limiting my partners experience and it was something he really wanted to try. So under no pressure from him I agreed that we would at least go and have a look at one or two with a no play understanding so that I could see and judge for myself...the first place we went to I hated...it did seem seedy and grubby and i couldn't wait to leave but then we met a friend who was await advocate of clubs and made me feel confident about going so decided to try another one...now it's another facet of our swinging life we've added to the mix...an occasional pleasure that enriches the choices we have to make within this past time.,I'm positive some other clubs are definitely not for us based on the reviews we've read and some of the dress codes but I'm learning to keep a more open mind about things I'd ruled out completely previously..,I guess it's all a learning curve isn't it? Janey

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

No your not alone.

We have tried a couple of clubs and decided they are not for us.

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By *gents 3 and 4Couple
over a year ago

truro

We went too one wont name the club but it was awful, we had real bad experience felt very hostile in the end as we didn't play as our first time there.

Left early and vowed never too visit another one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

Nope, you're not alone! I'm not keen either.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Am I alone in being the only person not interested in swinging clubs? It really doesn't appeal to me at all."

Nor I!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Reading the thread I get the impression that some people have been put off by one or two bad experiences.

We have been to more than 30 clubs in 5 different country's and believe me there are some really shitty ones. However we have been to some very good (and one or two excellent) ones, so we think it is better to visit a few before making the general observation "I don't like clubs"

As an example there are lots of pubs but one or two bad ones doesn't make all pubs the same. The same applies to swinger clubs.

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