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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is in no way a moan or winge just an observation about an experience I've had on here and thought I would share.

I started chatting to a guy who was new to the site a few weeks ago. He was polite and we got on exchanging messages. We had a quick social meet and as we had an attraction and wanted similar things we arranged another meet to have fun. We kept messaging before our meet. He postponed once which was fine, I understand we all have a life outside of the site. Forty five minutes before our meet he leaves the site. Since then he has been back on the site at least three times and left a few days after. We have chatted each time he's been back on but I wouldn't arrange to meet him again. He's asked me to verify him which I declined as I don't feel that it would be right to.

Just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences.xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

not with men leaving and coming back on but certainly with men talking to us, arranging to meet and then leaving and in one case actually meeting us for a drink then leaving. I reckon I'm so scary they had no choice but to run away

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Not with arranging a meet but I do notice people who message me and have new profiles every few weeks. I wouldn't arrange a meet with them anyway if they can't decide what they're doing! Lol.

You did right not to verify him tho he shouldn't of asked seeing as you didn't meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt waste my time chatting to someone like that. i dont like ditherers. if someone messes me about i block them only sometimes they contact me again, i might read their message then realise who they are and block them again.there are plenty of other more reliable men on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People don't genuinely think about their reasons for trully being here. They fantasize and like the concept, then suddenly realise that the focus of fantasy is actually a real person.

Its sad but I'm betting probably a large percentage of us progress no further than being curious. Honesty would have been better I guess. Life's strange I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

another good reason to meet experienced men with verifications.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"They fantasize and like the concept, then suddenly realise that the focus of fantasy is actually a real person.

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True! And following on from the realisation that its a real person is the stage fright

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

When I first joined (many many moons ago) I was probably a little bit more naive than I am now, and I friended all sorts of people. One was a MM couple from the North East who would join, friend me, chat for a while, then leave. It happened so many time in the end I started to think it was admin deleting them as they were trying to evade a site ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They fantasize and like the concept, then suddenly realise that the focus of fantasy is actually a real person.

True! And following on from the realisation that its a real person is the stage fright"

True, sad thing is though, I think many peoplewould uunderstand if they were openly told that nerves have got them, or they have doubt about it all etc.

No one is forced into here so being respectful isn't really that hard....sadly being angry or impolite makes it all easier to deal with short term.

Think before you take the leap....do you really want this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People don't genuinely think about their reasons for trully being here. They fantasize and like the concept, then suddenly realise that the focus of fantasy is actually a real person.

Its sad but I'm betting probably a large percentage of us progress no further than being curious. Honesty would have been better I guess. Life's strange I guess. "

So true! I've had so many fantasists contact me it's unreal. I'm becoming quite an expert at sussing them out fairly quickly now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not with arranging a meet but I do notice people who message me and have new profiles every few weeks. I wouldn't arrange a meet with them anyway if they can't decide what they're doing! Lol.

You did right not to verify him tho he shouldn't of asked seeing as you didn't meet! "

They did meet though. And personally OP I would verify them as they did meet you and so you can verify they are genuine.

The reason why they have been on and off since you can only speculate but I believe you are right to not arrange a further meet as seem somewhat unreliable postponing the second meet not for him going on and off the site imo.

We meet a guy who is on and off and the site regularly due to work and he deletes his profile rather than hide it.

All horses for courses

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Not with arranging a meet but I do notice people who message me and have new profiles every few weeks. I wouldn't arrange a meet with them anyway if they can't decide what they're doing! Lol.

You did right not to verify him tho he shouldn't of asked seeing as you didn't meet!

They did meet though. And personally OP I would verify them as they did meet you and so you can verify they are genuine.

The reason why they have been on and off since you can only speculate but I believe you are right to not arrange a further meet as seem somewhat unreliable postponing the second meet not for him going on and off the site imo.

We meet a guy who is on and off and the site regularly due to work and he deletes his profile rather than hide it.

All horses for courses"

Oh yeah sorry it's been a long day.

Yeah veri's are just to say genuine. You could just put 'I can confirm this man is genuine' and leave it at that. Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not with arranging a meet but I do notice people who message me and have new profiles every few weeks. I wouldn't arrange a meet with them anyway if they can't decide what they're doing! Lol.

You did right not to verify him tho he shouldn't of asked seeing as you didn't meet!

They did meet though. And personally OP I would verify them as they did meet you and so you can verify they are genuine.

The reason why they have been on and off since you can only speculate but I believe you are right to not arrange a further meet as seem somewhat unreliable postponing the second meet not for him going on and off the site imo.

We meet a guy who is on and off and the site regularly due to work and he deletes his profile rather than hide it.

All horses for courses

Oh yeah sorry it's been a long day.

Yeah veri's are just to say genuine. You could just put 'I can confirm this man is genuine' and leave it at that. Lol x "

I know the feeling lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Know the feeling. Met a guy for social got on great so went on to have fun. Then he deleted his account on fab, he came back twice since and each time arranged a meet but then didn't turn up or deleted his account again. I texted and told him that's it no more messing me about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Although he is a real person I'm glad I didn't verify him as genuine as I don't feel his behaviour is genuine. I wouldn't want another woman to arrange to meet him based on a green tick I gave him. I could put in a verification what my experience was but he would not display this on his profile but would still have the green tick.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"Although he is a real person I'm glad I didn't verify him as genuine as I don't feel his behaviour is genuine. I wouldn't want another woman to arrange to meet him based on a green tick I gave him. I could put in a verification what my experience was but he would not display this on his profile but would still have the green tick. "

I agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although he is a real person I'm glad I didn't verify him as genuine as I don't feel his behaviour is genuine. I wouldn't want another woman to arrange to meet him based on a green tick I gave him. I could put in a verification what my experience was but he would not display this on his profile but would still have the green tick.

I agree with you "

I agree with you as well. He doesn't deserve a green tick, if he failed to turn up for your second meet, no matter what his reasons were.

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By *aith boyMan
over a year ago

Worthing

all these lucky blokes who get a meet and cancel !!!... i wish i had those opportunities, but if i was messed about.. i would name and shame..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"all these lucky blokes who get a meet and cancel !!!... i wish i had those opportunities, but if i was messed about.. i would name and shame.."

But then I would be penalised by getting a ban so not worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt waste my time chatting to someone like that. i dont like ditherers. if someone messes me about i block them only sometimes they contact me again, i might read their message then realise who they are and block them again.there are plenty of other more reliable men on her."

How do they contact you if you've blocked them ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is in no way a moan or winge just an observation about an experience I've had on here and thought I would share.

I started chatting to a guy who was new to the site a few weeks ago. He was polite and we got on exchanging messages. We had a quick social meet and as we had an attraction and wanted similar things we arranged another meet to have fun. We kept messaging before our meet. He postponed once which was fine, I understand we all have a life outside of the site. Forty five minutes before our meet he leaves the site. Since then he has been back on the site at least three times and left a few days after. We have chatted each time he's been back on but I wouldn't arrange to meet him again. He's asked me to verify him which I declined as I don't feel that it would be right to.

Just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences.xx"

If he comes back on you should report him. Verifications are for actual meets and are to help with security checks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wouldnt waste my time chatting to someone like that. i dont like ditherers. if someone messes me about i block them only sometimes they contact me again, i might read their message then realise who they are and block them again.there are plenty of other more reliable men on her.

How do they contact you if you've blocked them ? "

they must leave, then come back again, some have more than one profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is in no way a moan or winge just an observation about an experience I've had on here and thought I would share.

I started chatting to a guy who was new to the site a few weeks ago. He was polite and we got on exchanging messages. We had a quick social meet and as we had an attraction and wanted similar things we arranged another meet to have fun. We kept messaging before our meet. He postponed once which was fine, I understand we all have a life outside of the site. Forty five minutes before our meet he leaves the site. Since then he has been back on the site at least three times and left a few days after. We have chatted each time he's been back on but I wouldn't arrange to meet him again. He's asked me to verify him which I declined as I don't feel that it would be right to.

Just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences.xx

If he comes back on you should report him. Verifications are for actual meets and are to help with security checks"

I did think about reporting him but he had either cancelled before the meet or I had noticed he had left the site before we were due to meet so I never actually had my time wasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is in no way a moan or winge just an observation about an experience I've had on here and thought I would share.

I started chatting to a guy who was new to the site a few weeks ago. He was polite and we got on exchanging messages. We had a quick social meet and as we had an attraction and wanted similar things we arranged another meet to have fun. We kept messaging before our meet. He postponed once which was fine, I understand we all have a life outside of the site. Forty five minutes before our meet he leaves the site. Since then he has been back on the site at least three times and left a few days after. We have chatted each time he's been back on but I wouldn't arrange to meet him again. He's asked me to verify him which I declined as I don't feel that it would be right to.

Just wondering if anyone has had any similar experiences.xx"

It would seem he was only interested in you verifying him. Stating the obvious, i know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These kind of guys get off on the idea of swinging rather than the reality. They're probably married with kids, and feel guilty putting up webpages on Fab. Two seconds after they've wanked they take them down. I'd say if people flirt with you online and then give you more than one excuse for not meeting, it's the run around, so move on.

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