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Gents - Chemistry and Connection

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By *adyA01 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

Ladies please also feel free to comment!

I like to build a bit of chemistry and connection first with a guy and I know many other ladies feel the same! Obviously there are men and women on here who just like to get right down to it!

So my question Gents is - is chemistry and connection important to you, many of you will take the time to build it first, but is that because you have realised you need to, to get some of the women on here or because it is genuinely important to you?

Fire Away!!

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By *adyA01 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

Come on gents! You can't all still be sleeping at this time on a sunday morning

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Come on gents! You can't all still be sleeping at this time on a sunday morning "

It's the word 'connection' in the post title. Gives men the shivers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on gents! You can't all still be sleeping at this time on a sunday morning "
Maybe its not important to them or maybe they are still asleep?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

You may have chemistry online and in texts and over the phone...However it can soon disappear when you meet and you find there is no chemistry in the real world...

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Chemistry, connection..

attraction, personality, sexuality..

all part of what makes another desirable..

looks etc are only a small part of it and as for fucking someone 'cold', no ty..

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By *adyA01 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

Lol ladies! Very good points!

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By *istress-MazikeenWoman
over a year ago

bolton


"You may have chemistry online and in texts and over the phone...However it can soon disappear when you meet and you find there is no chemistry in the real world... "

I can relate to that, as it has happened to me.

Got on really well online, but meeting freaked me out.

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By *adyA01 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wellington


"You may have chemistry online and in texts and over the phone...However it can soon disappear when you meet and you find there is no chemistry in the real world...

I can relate to that, as it has happened to me.

Got on really well online, but meeting freaked me out."

Got to be honest has happened to me as well!!!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"You may have chemistry online and in texts and over the phone...However it can soon disappear when you meet and you find there is no chemistry in the real world...

I can relate to that, as it has happened to me.

Got on really well online, but meeting freaked me out."

It happens as you can't see their body language or how they act in real life...you are only seeing what they write over a screen or say on the telephone...our perceptions of that person could be what they are not in real life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come on gents! You can't all still be sleeping at this time on a sunday morning "

Chemistry is important, sex without it is not good at all x

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By *iftygreyshadesMan
over a year ago

Aberaeron

Without chemistry sex is an act rather than a mutually enjoyable experience - personally I have to have that friendship and chemistry first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course chemistry is important, it brings somany things to the table.

I keep saying, sexy iisn't just a look, inets personality, outlook, fun, smiling and giving.

We can all pick up on body language of others, flirting language, teasing, etc.....those are important factors for us all.

I couldn't just have sex with someone I not engaged with on levels that satisfied me.

No I'm not trying to be Mr angelic....just know I like a little bit more than a hole on offer.

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By *atinhotMan
over a year ago

London


"Chemistry, connection..

attraction, personality, sexuality..

all part of what makes another desirable..

looks etc are only a small part of it and as for fucking someone 'cold', no ty.."

Yes all above plus I would add sensuality, the flirt game is the one I cherish more it gets me so hot and lustful...we are here for fantasies realization rather than "emptying our balls" (sorry for the language ladies) although there are some weird people out there that seems to be thinking and acting as the total opposite and gives you such bad idea of men in this website (I would add some couples too though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to build some sort of connection first, too. However, I'm frightened to put that in our profile in case it scares some off - it could be taken the wrong way, I guess.

Husband is dubious about me building these relationships, but I'm finding it essential and all part of the game. I like to be turned on in mind and body.

Mrs Bling

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By *atinhotMan
over a year ago

London


"I like to build some sort of connection first, too. However, I'm frightened to put that in our profile in case it scares some off - it could be taken the wrong way, I guess.

Husband is dubious about me building these relationships, but I'm finding it essential and all part of the game. I like to be turned on in mind and body.

Mrs Bling"

nothing wrong with that Bling and other genuine couple will love that too. As part of a couple in the past we preferred a social night first like friends although discussing also some kinky aspects of our life and then another meeting on a later date starting easy with dinner and then deciding whether to continue somewhere more private. Result was awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chemistry, connection..

attraction, personality, sexuality..

all part of what makes another desirable..

looks etc are only a small part of it and as for fucking someone 'cold', no ty.."

+ 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like to build some sort of connection first, too. However, I'm frightened to put that in our profile in case it scares some off - it could be taken the wrong way, I guess.

Husband is dubious about me building these relationships, but I'm finding it essential and all part of the game. I like to be turned on in mind and body.

Mrs Bling

nothing wrong with that Bling and other genuine couple will love that too. As part of a couple in the past we preferred a social night first like friends although discussing also some kinky aspects of our life and then another meeting on a later date starting easy with dinner and then deciding whether to continue somewhere more private. Result was awesome! "

Thanks. Might just update the profile today

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By *reybearMan
over a year ago

medway

There has to be the chemistry there or the body won't respond for me.. I don't think I could do one of those 'walk into the room and she's on the beds legs open' scenarios..

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Ladies please also feel free to comment!

I like to build a bit of chemistry and connection first with a guy and I know many other ladies feel the same! Obviously there are men and women on here who just like to get right down to it!

So my question Gents is - is chemistry and connection important to you, many of you will take the time to build it first, but is that because you have realised you need to, to get some of the women on here or because it is genuinely important to you?

Fire Away!! "

absolutely.....

I like to get to know the people with whom I am having sex with..

The way I look at my swinging is friends first and then if anything was to happen from that then that is a bonus.. and that means talking and getting to know them

it doesn't mean I have to know life stories... but enough to make me feel confident in any decision I am going to make about potentially playing or not.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I like the build up as much as the event itself. Very unlikely to happen without some chemistry especially meets that involve me travelling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I must have a good amount of chemistry, connection not so fussed about but I can't just meet and fuck anyone, I'm not a performing monkey. That said I have days when I'm ridiculous horny and just want a quickie but 99% of the time a meet from here has a good deal of build up before sex, couple of messages, meet for a drink and chat once for sure maybe twice, then if we're all in for a penny we're in for a pound, no pun intended

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry


"Chemistry, connection..

attraction, personality, sexuality..

all part of what makes another desirable..

looks etc are only a small part of it and as for fucking someone 'cold', no ty.."

This sums up so much of what I would have typed

I and my fone typing thumb thank you sunny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry is essential for me, I love to chat, have banter, have a few phone calls and then decide to meet.

Whilst it doesn't guarantee a good match I find it makes the first meet so much more relaxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I like the build up as much as the event itself. Very unlikely to happen without some chemistry especially meets that involve me travelling."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry and connection in my opinion goes hand in hand.

For me it's not all about sex, there has to be the connection, also from conversation you can figure out if the chemistry is there early on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may have chemistry online and in texts and over the phone...However it can soon disappear when you meet and you find there is no chemistry in the real world... "


"Chemistry, connection..

attraction, personality, sexuality..

all part of what makes another desirable..

looks etc are only a small part of it and as for fucking someone 'cold', no ty.."

+ 1s on both of these from me.

It's why I always insist on meeting socially first. I much prefer meeting regularly for repeat fun with the same people, and I believe in both parts of the term 'fuck buddy' equally!

As has already been echoed by several other men in the thread, cold shower robot sex doesn't appeal to as many of us as the single guy's reputation on here might otherwise suggest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My honest answer is yes and no! Please see below:

In terms of one to one meets with singles & couples it is important for me to build on chemistry developed during message exchanges, phone calls camming, etc prior to a first meet. Especially if the people have stated they would like repeat meets if all goes to plan.. Chemistry and sexually compatible, permitting!..

Chemistry in general, 'hitting it off' during the first initial meet is a crucial element of a successful social and hopefully leads one to ascertain what makes the people tick sexually..

I would be a liar though if I didn't state I have in the past on rare occasions met up with couples within a couple of hours following a few brief exchange of messages... In a nutshell.. 'We like the look of you.. Do you want to come over and fuck my wife/lady'...

If the lady is very hot... I've agreed and played..

Spontaneous meets can sometimes be fantastic!! Granted not everytime!!

Similarly for gangbangs too... Based purely on a sexual act you see...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies please also feel free to comment!

I like to build a bit of chemistry and connection first with a guy and I know many other ladies feel the same! Obviously there are men and women on here who just like to get right down to it!

So my question Gents is - is chemistry and connection important to you, many of you will take the time to build it first, but is that because you have realised you need to, to get some of the women on here or because it is genuinely important to you?

Fire Away!! "

They are important to me, especially when we're going to be doing repeated meets. Sure a "quick wham bam thank you ma" can be fun but it never normally leads to anything more than a one.

I can't imagine many guys take the time for chemistry and a connection just to meet women on here as there are more than enough vanillas out there who are happy to get straight down to it for a quickie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be totally honest here, and say that I can, and have, met up with someone without any build up, or had chance to see if there was a connection.

I could function perfectly well, and both parties had a great time.

My view is that more men (Not all!) than women, do not feel the need to make a connection with someone before sex.

That said, I do much prefer meeting someone, after much flirting, and chatting, as it adds to the excitement, and very often, leads to a more relaxed meet, full of anticipation and excitement. It really is surprising to me, how well you can feel you know someone, even from a handful of messages, over a few days.

I have been chatting regularly to one female half of a couple now for 5 or 6 weeks, and we're both really looking forward now to meeting, as the excitement keeps building!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Chemistry and connection over the suggested idea of good looks, the three a bonus but what mainstream considers stunning we perhaps won't x

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn

Yes I have to have a connection and chemistry to meet.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Chemistry and connection is very important to me. I normally get to know somebody online first before even contemplating asking to meet. Getting to know somebody online allows you to build up a connection in a non pressured way. I have to like anybody I meet. It also helps you out the weirdos and fakes lol.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Ladies please also feel free to comment!

I like to build a bit of chemistry and connection first with a guy and I know many other ladies feel the same! Obviously there are men and women on here who just like to get right down to it!

So my question Gents is - is chemistry and connection important to you, many of you will take the time to build it first, but is that because you have realised you need to, to get some of the women on here or because it is genuinely important to you?

Fire Away!! "

Chemistry or spark with a partner is extremely important to me personally. If i dont connect with someone dressed im not going to enjoy or be able to last when undressed.

As you say some people are happy to just get down to it straight away others like to take their time and find just as great a pleasure in the build up as they do in playing. Me being of the latter nature chemistry is a must for any potential playmate or FWB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there has to be some chemistry and i love to get to know someone. Theres many i have been speaking to for years! (Maybe thats too much chemistry lol).

..i usually meet those i have got to know. It does it for me. Although a spontaneous fuck is good too. But thats rarely possible for me on fab.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

of course chemistry is important . we all like to be liked . a little flirtation goes a long way

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By *arkinberksMan
over a year ago

Ascot

I guess it's what makes the difference between a meaningless shag and a mutually enjoyable experience that both parties would like to repeat. For me there has to be some connection however tenuous. Simple physical attraction isn't quite enough. I guess it comes down to a simple tenet - if a thing is worth doing, it's worth doing properly

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