FabSwingers.com forum: Too many verifications

By *ixma OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It may be a swingers site but does seeing too many verifications on someone's profile put you off meeting them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't put me off, as long as there's one veri which shows they meet and aren't likely to be a time waster then that's helpful to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wbut what does put us off is profiles which read like war and peace of do,s and donts, some people feel the need to write evrything in life which they either like or dislike and it just becomes boring and tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone shows every verification anyhow and some meet and don't verify ,know I meet someone regular and have stopped verifying him.

We all have different opinions but for me it wouldn't put me off at all ,I like to get to know the person I'm meeting rather than rely on what others have written anyhow.

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By *ixma OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It doesn't put me off totally afterall it is a swingers site but if I did view a woman's profile that had say over 20veri's I would think is she just trying to sleep with every guy off fab but as previously said, not everyone displys their veri's so it's a chicken and the egg conundrum really, lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I get put off by repeat veris from one person - it's a bit ownery and stalkery. Surely one veri suffices, more just makes me think I'd be intruding or liable to get messages from her...

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"It doesn't put me off totally afterall it is a swingers site but if I did view a woman's profile that had say over 20veri's I would think is she just trying to sleep with every guy off fab but as previously said, not everyone displys their veri's so it's a chicken and the egg conundrum really, lol"

I've seen profiles with over 100 but if you read them they are repeat veri's. social veri's, people they met at parties but didn't play with. It's a swingers site. The whole point is to meet for NSA. It wouldn't put my off at all. Plus some people have been on here years!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have been on and off a few times over the years too so you can never tell how many veris they've got/had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!

If it was 20 in a week? A busy woman!

But in a year? That's less than once a fortnight! And as for the not displaying all veri's comment - that's where the new veri summary comes in very handy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get put off by repeat veris from one person - it's a bit ownery and stalkery. Surely one veri suffices, more just makes me think I'd be intruding or liable to get messages from her...

If she only had 20 veri's I would think she was doing a crap job of sleeping her way through the site, considering there's about 10,000 blokes on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may be a swingers site but does seeing too many verifications on someone's profile put you off meeting them?"

Nah, its a sign of a go-er!

Game on!

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Too many people are hung up on verifications. We all have different definitions of what is too many for a start.

Personally it does not bother me how many or how little someone has. In my 20s when I had just come out of a 6 year relationship, I slept with a lot more men than I do now.

If its NSA as someone has already said then the number does not matter. Even if someone has a different partner most nights of the week. Or just once in a while.

I am not put off by verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The purpose for veris it to say the person/couple is who the say they are. I dont see a need for multiples from the same person. Also just because someone verifys another doesn't necessarily mean they've slept/played together only that they have met and know each other. It doesn't bother me if someone has a lot though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many more times are we going to have this little chesnut rolled out..????

If the amount of someones veris bothers you then there are two options:

1. Move on to someone else.

2. Address the true issue, which is YOUR attitude towards this lifestyle.

If anyone (male/female/couple/tranny - you name it!) wants to have three meets a day, everyday for the last five years (and that's 5,475 meets before you reach for the calculator), what has it got to do with YOU? It's THEIR life - NOT yours!!

And something you need to remember about veris (unless the new summary is published...) is that the user's profile you are viewing may only have the veris THEY want you to see on display. If they only have five showing, they 'could' have another ninety NOT on display. So how do you feel about that? Cheated? Deceived? Foolish? Questioning your own attitudes?

There is a correct answer... If you can work out which one it is, you'll be on the road to enjoying this lifestyle a whole lot more.....

ted.

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

And how would you feel if someone made this judgement about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you view that as excessive then don't contact her...simple as that! Think you'll find though that there are many on here that would view 20 veris as a quiet month...doesn't mean they're trying to fuck anything that's on offer though considering how many there are on this site, and even if they were then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?"

And you Don't think women on pof or badoo are not doing exactly the same... with no veris to look at... believe me they are.. I was one of them till I found fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's far too much obsession with verifications in these Forums. I don't even read them.

I'm a grown-up, and I can make my own mind up about someone, without needing to read other people's opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?

And you Don't think women on pof or badoo are not doing exactly the same... with no veris to look at... believe me they are.. I was one of them till I found fab.

I have no idea or interest in what women on pof or badoo are doing. They are dating sites, this is a swinging site and I fail to see the relevance to my post.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It may be a swingers site but does seeing too many verifications on someone's profile put you off meeting them?"

Too many over what span of time......

for example, I have a few... but i have been here best part of 4-5ish years....

the only thing that may put me off is multiple verifications from the same person, as that smacks a bit of "territory marking"......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?

And you Don't think women on pof or badoo are not doing exactly the same... with no veris to look at... believe me they are.. I was one of them till I found fab.

I have no idea or interest in what women on pof or badoo are doing. They are dating sites, this is a swinging site and I fail to see the relevance to my post."

Lol. She was actually agreeing with your post. Just saying that pof or badoo doesn't display how many meets you've had.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

You are displaying 15 veri's....rapidly approaching being a tart yourself!

I, of course did not bother to actually read the content.

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?

And you Don't think women on pof or badoo are not doing exactly the same... with no veris to look at... believe me they are.. I was one of them till I found fab.

I have no idea or interest in what women on pof or badoo are doing. They are dating sites, this is a swinging site and I fail to see the relevance to my post.

Lol. She was actually agreeing with your post. Just saying that pof or badoo doesn't display how many meets you've had."

guess I forgot my thumbs up lol.. sheesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you sir, are a fool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you sir, are a fool."

Naw, hes just jealous hes not one of the guys who verified her!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

So its alright for blokes to have lots of veris but not me? Well I'm glad you'd filter yourself out. Saves me a job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I get put off by repeat veris from one person - it's a bit ownery and stalkery. just makes me think I'd be intruding"

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I get put off by repeat veris from one person - it's a bit ownery and stalkery. Surely one veri suffices, more just makes me think I'd be intruding or liable to get messages from her...

I totally agree. I mentioned this exact point a while back, and nearly got eaten alive on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seval veris I don't display but that's just because it's the same guy/s I've met several times. I don't feel the need to display all.

But no, several veri's don't put me off, as there are social veris, cam veris, and meet veris. They all add up and hopefully all point out peoples qualities and personalities to show they genuine and not timewasters!

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

So 20 veris is too many? What if that's over a long period of time, like a year or two, or more?

If you find that a woman having 20 veris is a turn off, that's your problem, not hers. It goes back to the old misogynist idea that a woman who sleeps around is a slut and a man who sleeps around is a stud. I actually find that idea quite offensive.

And if you do think like that then I don't think swinging is for you. If I put all the veris I had from another site on here I'd probably be well over 20. But so what? I could have so many more but to be honest, I just don't have the time

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

To further my previous comment (as i know there's the chance i will be misunderstood).....

I don't get put off by too many verifications. In fact, i actually don't believe there is such a thing as too many verifications. I brought this up in the thread i created yesterday.

Lots of verifications actually leads me to believe that the person is genuine and more inclined to actually meet than most (just based on a glance of the profile of course)

However, if it is lots of webcam veris, then i just click off the profile. My stance on those is very clear. Also, if it is just a load of repeat veris from the same person, then i'm also wary.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Doesn't put me off at all, I enjoy ladies / couples who enjoy sex, know what they want and know how to get it.

Life is for enjoyment and that's why we are all on a singers site.... to enjoy sex.

Or I am anyway !

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

So on a swingers site where the primary goal of people is to have as much NSA as they choose to have, there are actually people who think others can have TOO MANY meets????

I think I may have fallen down the rabbit hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God this thread hasbeen done to death .lol.next ?! Poppyxx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So on a swingers site where the primary goal of people is to have as much NSA as they choose to have, there are actually people who think others can have TOO MANY meets????

I think I may have fallen down the rabbit hole. "

Not everyone though, just women. We should be chaste and virtuous and stay at home doing embroidery.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I get put off by repeat veris from one person - it's a bit ownery and stalkery. just makes me think I'd be intruding

I have a number of repeat veris. It's never been raised by any of my meets as an issue and I will continue to display them.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"So on a swingers site where the primary goal of people is to have as much NSA as they choose to have, there are actually people who think others can have TOO MANY meets????

I think I may have fallen down the rabbit hole.

Not everyone though, just women. We should be chaste and virtuous and stay at home doing embroidery.

And that would leave the men pleasing themselves, so they should be happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not bothered either way re number of verifications,everybody has to start somewhere so having none doen't mean anything and if somebody has been swinging for years they can and do have loads,it's a swinging site not a dating site:-thought the idea was to have NSA fun with people you find attractive/fun?If you want to be on a dating site join e-harmony or something!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"So on a swingers site where the primary goal of people is to have as much NSA as they choose to have, there are actually people who think others can have TOO MANY meets????

I think I may have fallen down the rabbit hole.

Not everyone though, just women. We should be chaste and virtuous and stay at home doing embroidery.

And that would leave the men pleasing themselves, so they should be happy.

Hehehe

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"not bothered either way re number of verifications,everybody has to start somewhere so having none doen't mean anything and if somebody has been swinging for years they can and do have loads,it's a swinging site not a dating site:-thought the idea was to have NSA fun with people you find attractive/fun?If you want to be on a dating site join e-harmony or something!"

That's not what you said yesterday! You said you're put off by women with too many veris

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not what you said yesterday! You said you're put off by women with too many veris

we never did,we didn't comment

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

That's not what you said yesterday! You said you're put off by women with too many veris

we never did,we didn't comment "

Oh crap sorry! I got a couple of user pics confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not what you said yesterday! You said you're put off by women with too many veris

we never did,we didn't comment

Oh crap sorry! I got a couple of user pics confused.

no probs,we wouldn't say that about lots of verifications:-we fall into that category!

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By *ixma OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

I've seen profiles with over 100 but if you read them they are repeat veri's.

social veri's, people they met at parties but didn't play with. It's a swingers site. The whole point is to meet for NSA. It wouldn't put my off at all. Plus some people have been on here years!! "

That's a fair point

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By *ixma OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

If you are going to judge women for having what you feel are too many verifications, maybe the swinging scene isn't the right place for you?

And you Don't think women on pof or badoo are not doing exactly the same... with no veris to look at... believe me they are.. I was one of them till I found fab.

Ha ha that's a whole new debate as there are loads on pof. As I previously said not everyone puts on there veri's plus I'm not playing judge and jury just playing devils advocate and putting the question out there, it's called a debate folks

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By *ixma OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

oops did I say 20, silly me I meant over 200 hundred or was that 2000, lol

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Well I'm a social whore, as most of mine are social veris.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

If any 1 verify's us then we will post it even if they are from people that we have met befor otherwise we could go for a good few months between veri's. at least that way people can see we are still in the game and still getting out and having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont show our veri's, not that there is anything wrong with them in fact they are very good, we dont feel the need to read every veri a possible meet has although we do see the benefit of them

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"oops did I say 20, silly me I meant over 200 hundred or was that 2000, lol"

See the problem arises when the amount of time someone has been swinging is ignored. According to Fabs my summary says 71 females and 49 couples. "You slut!" some might say (as some women have chosen to pass me by because I "play too much") but here's the thing - I've been on here close to 10 years.

Doing the math works out to once in 30 days. How does that make me a slut?

Judgemental folk need to move on, sort out their own issues and stop spending (or rather, wasting) their time wondering what others are up to and trying to put them down.

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"How many more times are we going to have this little chesnut rolled out..????

If the amount of someones veris bothers you then there are two options:

1. Move on to someone else.

2. Address the true issue, which is YOUR attitude towards this lifestyle.

There is a correct answer... If you can work out which one it is, you'll be on the road to enjoying this lifestyle a whole lot more.....

ted."

Here here -well said that man x

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I have seen almost every meet more than once.. I might display them I might not.. I Change my mind daily and it may put some off but I can live with that...

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I have seen almost every meet more than once.. I might display them I might not.. I Change my mind daily and it may put some off but I can live with that...

And its completely upto you - if you have only 10 veris, all from the same person.. who's business is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would put the cat amongst the pigeons if it showed verifications from all swinging sites - impossible I know - but a good read

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

"I have seen almost every meet more than once.. I might display them I might not.. I Change my mind daily and it may put some off but I can live with that...

And its completely upto you - if you have only 10 veris, all from the same person.. who's business is that?"

why its mine of course. .. lovely

.. well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would put the cat amongst the pigeons if it showed verifications from all swinging sites - impossible I know - but a good read

People seem to forget that there's life outside Fab. And that people may (shock horror!!) meet people that aren't on this site.

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

"Would put the cat amongst the pigeons if it showed verifications from all swinging sites - impossible I know - but a good read

People seem to forget that there's life outside Fab. And that people may (shock horror!!) meet people that aren't on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would put the cat amongst the pigeons if it showed verifications from all swinging sites - impossible I know - but a good read

People seem to forget that there's life outside Fab. And that people may (shock horror!!) meet people that aren't on this site.

Always best to have a back up plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, it's a good thing; the more verifications a person has then the more real they are.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"oops did I say 20, silly me I meant over 200 hundred or was that 2000, lol"

I think you'll need to dig harder than that to be convincing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this problem but the other way around... By that I mean I've been judged because someone I met on here has 4 or 5 different guys a week. Doesn't bother me in the slightest, as far as I'm concerned when I met her protection was used. But that hasn't stopped other (I can only describe them as shallow and narrow minded) woman from saying no simply because of this other person I had met ages ago.

Possibly wouldn't of minded so much is most of them didn't have long lists themselves!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it doesn't, what is off putting is when you get the introductory message that says 'check out my verifications as proof that I am a good lover/at sex/big cock' etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No it doesn't, what is off putting is when you get the introductory message that says 'check out my verifications as proof that I am a good lover/at sex/big cock' etc etc

Yes! I hate that! Funny though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had this problem but the other way around... By that I mean I've been judged because someone I met on here has 4 or 5 different guys a week. Doesn't bother me in the slightest, as far as I'm concerned when I met her protection was used. But that hasn't stopped other (I can only describe them as shallow and narrow minded) woman from saying no simply because of this other person I had met ages ago.

Possibly wouldn't of minded so much is most of them didn't have long lists themselves!!

If someone is so narrow-minded that they check out the verifications of a person who has verified you ..... they're not someone you really want to meet, anyway!

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