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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally your choice to play or not and with whoever you choose. when I have visited clubs there are often people who don't play. No one questions their reasons.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

There is and never has been a requirement to "play" in a club, its a very odd myth that seems to have cropped up.

No always means no and if people wont accept that a word with the management will either get them talked too or thrown out.

the only ammendment to the above is "some" clubs out there enforce dress standards in parts of the clubs, ie if you move into the play areas in some you will be required to strip off or in a females case strip down to undies/sexy lingerie, there are also towel clubs where the requirement from the off is to be in a towel and nothing else.

However with the above clubs they tend to state on the websites (if you read them) what sort of club they are and the requirements so if you find this too intimidating for a first time you can avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. There is no pressure on anyone to play. I did the same for my first club visit, went with another female and neither of us played. Just enjoy yourself and let the staff know its your first visit and they will look after you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

There are no rules saying that you have to play when you visit a club. If you decide you want to, then feel free to, other than that, have a drink, a chat and a good look round.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Not a problem at all. A good club will make it very clear that the only rule is that no means no.

However, if you are considering couples night then a man who wanders off on his own leaving a non-playing partner in the social area may not be well received. If however he has put effort in and gets an invite that's different. But there are some men who try to get access to couples only events by taking a non-playing partner.

To cloud the issue further I haven't been playing recently but have been going to my local club sometimes with male friends on couples night. I have been going for the social side and have been made very welcome as has my friend. But both he and I know the fine line there is between escorting a friend to couples night and gaining entry to behave like the worst type of single man.

Hope this makes things clear as mud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to go to my firstbclub too. Just want to see what happens..i dont have to be naked for that do i. I dont want to catch a cold lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to go to my firstbclub too. Just want to see what happens..i dont have to be naked for that do i. I dont want to catch a cold lol

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Take a good look at club websites before going, 'wet' clubs you normally have to be in just a towel or underwear, So well worth checking out dress codes before going.

If it is very cold, always worth asking others to help keep you warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never any pressure to play, might feel slightly more comfortable on a couples and single fem night, different atmosphere to when they let single men in, I'm not saying it's a bad atmosphere just always found it more relaxed on a couples evening

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I want to go to my firstbclub too. Just want to see what happens..i dont have to be naked for that do i. I dont want to catch a cold lol

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I think in the South East the only ones that require "kit off" would be Kestrals (daytime) VA (play areas )and Liberty elite (play areas).

Ourplace4fun, AB fabs, Jaydees, Tease2 and I believe Eurkeas do not have a clothing policy (apart from dressing well!)

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Never any pressure to play, might feel slightly more comfortable on a couples and single fem night, different atmosphere to when they let single men in, I'm not saying it's a bad atmosphere just always found it more relaxed on a couples evening "

Depends what you want from clubs. I only play with single men so my first visit on a couples night lasted for about twenty minutes. After I got the tour and the feel of the place I left with the intention to return on open nights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all.

I'm not a club virgin, I've been to a few with my male friend but it was different because we were playing. Most of the clubs were full of single guys but they left me alone. (Probably because I was with him.)

My female friend will be playing but I probably won't be so that's why I wanted to check.

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

Been to clubs few times, sometimes played, sometimes haven't.....depends who's there and how confident I'm feeling....fact is you paid to get in so doesn't matter either way.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

I mainly use clubs for just socials so no you won't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never any pressure to play, might feel slightly more comfortable on a couples and single fem night, different atmosphere to when they let single men in, I'm not saying it's a bad atmosphere just always found it more relaxed on a couples evening

Depends what you want from clubs. I only play with single men so my first visit on a couples night lasted for about twenty minutes. After I got the tour and the feel of the place I left with the intention to return on open nights."

No I understand what your saying but I think there is less pressure to play in a couples only night

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

We go to Townhouse quite regularly and you can do as much or as little as you want. More often than not we go have a few drinks play a bit of pool and chat with like minded people then go home.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I have been to a few clubs and not played. Never felt any pressure to play and just used it as an opportunity to get to know like minded people. Honestly as stated above by lots of women it really is fine. Even in dress down clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only go on mixed nights and never have an issue.. I also often go to chameleons and don't play.. just socialise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

No pressure to play in any club...although I personally would avoid a greedy girl night if you don't want any expectations from the guys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?

No pressure to play in any club...although I personally would avoid a greedy girl night if you don't want any expectations from the guys x"

Good point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been to clubs quite a few times now and ive not played yet... my prerogative ive paid my entry.. ive respected the dress code.. Ive never ever been asked.. Theres so many people in there.. How would they know lol stamp your ass?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to go to my firstbclub too. Just want to see what happens..i dont have to be naked for that do i. I dont want to catch a cold lol

I think in the South East the only ones that require "kit off" would be Kestrals (daytime) VA (play areas )and Liberty elite (play areas).

Ourplace4fun, AB fabs, Jaydees, Tease2 and I believe Eurkeas do not have a clothing policy (apart from dressing well!)"

No shell suits or trainers then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyones from London then id love some company to take me to a club and break me in gently lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyones from London then id love some company to take me to a club and break me in gently lol

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just GO...

never mind trying to get a meet beforehand

go to the club, act decent, chat as much as u can...see if u get lucky, or u might get some invite at a later date to somewhere else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

who would know if you didn't play with anyone, the staff dont follow you about making sure you shag

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

to play or not to play .. surely its up to you xx you may get asked ... but no means no x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to xotix for our first ever time n only played with hubby in a lockable room...but crafty bugger didnt lock it..we wasnt disturbed tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?"

SteelHeels - the frame of mind to be in when it comes to clubs is to treat it like any vanilla venue - and 'anything else' that happens on top is a bonus, and that goes irrespective of how 'gorr-juss' (or otherwise!) anyone is!!

As others have said - there is never any pressure to play at anytime - so if you go with the approach I suggest, YOU won't feel pressured and anyone who chats to you won't (or shouldn't) feel rejected if you politely say 'No, thank you'..

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?

who would know if you didn't play with anyone, the staff dont follow you about making sure you shag "

Hmmm... Ruby and I had an instance which would contradict that..... at a party though, not a club...

ted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thinking of going to a club with a female mate. Will I get chucked out if I decide not to play with anyone? Is it ok to just go along for a social visit?

who would know if you didn't play with anyone, the staff dont follow you about making sure you shag

Hmmm... Ruby and I had an instance which would contradict that..... at a party though, not a club...

ted."

Do they have a clipboard and give you a tick each time you shag someone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you go to a club you pay for membership to enter the building and use of the facilities. That is all.

How could anyone enforce a rule that you must have sex with someone whilst in there.

Sex of course does go on in there but many people just go for the experience, for watching, for the chance to wear underwear as outerwear.

We are members of chams and, if we get chance, go in the daytime to use the jacuzzi or sit on the sundeck if it's a nice day. The management have never thrown us out because we haven't offered our bodies to others.

I'm not really sure why people have this view about clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is no rules to what you do in a club just go and enjoy, do what you want with whom you want or not , don't let anyone push you into anything your not ready for,goes both ways too don't follow or get pushy with others, have fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to go to my firstbclub too. Just want to see what happens..i dont have to be naked for that do i. I dont want to catch a cold lol

I think in the South East the only ones that require "kit off" would be Kestrals (daytime) VA (play areas )and Liberty elite (play areas).

Ourplace4fun, AB fabs, Jaydees, Tease2 and I believe Eurkeas do not have a clothing policy (apart from dressing well!)"

eureakas is clothing optional but has towel only in wet rooms and naked swim in the outside pool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive been to clubs and on 3 occasions havnt played with anyone,its your choice if noone takes your fancy then enjoy yourself,no pressure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been going to clubs for years on and off and flirt and chat most the time ...... Rear if I ever play there ... maybe back at hotel after night of flirting .. so its up to you .. Do what you feel is right for you . x

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We are the same too, we rarely play in clubs or parties as we use these places to meet people & plan for future meets at our home of theirs.

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