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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do guys think there getting a shag when you say you are happy to meet up for a coffee is coffee some kind od code word for lets have sex lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Isnt it? Shit!

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I am not a man and don't see the the point in meeting for a coffee

Thats what I do with family and friends

I am here to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do guys think there getting a shag when you say you are happy to meet up for a coffee is coffee some kind od code word for lets have sex lol"

If I've arranged to meet for a Coffee that's what I expect, things can change sometimes though, I just don't expect a Bonk for a Costa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it goes back to the days when you would meet someone on a night out and invite them back for a "coffee" lol

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"I think it goes back to the days when you would meet someone on a night out and invite them back for a "coffee" lol "

I think you might be right

Don't get me wrong if a guy buys me a coffee great but I can go to the club and buy my own coffee and get as much cock as I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did get confused as to the offer of coffee or sex once,

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I'm now banned from Starbucks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

what happened to my other post its gone grrrrrr

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Why do guys think there getting a shag when you say you are happy to meet up for a coffee is coffee some kind od code word for lets have sex lol"

I know exaclty what you mean.

It bugs me as some seem to have the attitude of "well I'm here now... why aren't you gagging for it".

Nothing wrong with wanting a chance to sound people out before dropping your knickers... if that is how you like to do things.

I also find it puts off some of the easy shag hunters, who think any hole is a goal and want an instant fix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some Folk think because you've messaged them that they will get a Bonk !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s the nature of a swinging site unfortunately, some like to socialise as such, others don’t, it’s just something we all have to live with.

If you asked someone on the street what swingers do, highly doubt meeting for a coffee would be in their answer.

Communication is the key.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I am not a man and don't see the the point in meeting for a coffee

Thats what I do with family and friends

I am here to fuck

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well said that woman xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i meet for coffee and just that seems to cut down on the instant gratification crew who would literally fuck a barbers floor !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i meet for coffee and just that seems to cut down on the instant gratification crew who would literally fuck a barbers floor !! "

If I arrange to meet for a Coffee I want a Coffee !

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

We would (and have met) ladies with the intention of having fun straight away if we are all happy with each other, but have been more cautious with single guys... the only one who turned up for the pre-shag coffee was fantastic, and the meet a few days later was great...we're meeting him again tomorrow for another biMMF... several others didn't turn up for the chat, (even after texting and calling several times to assure us they were still up for it, on the way etc....and didn't contact us subsequently ... draw your own conclusions.) I think we'd be more relaxed meeting a couple, especially with a good track record on the site here, but unless there's that initial tingle when you meet, why would you want to shag someone you didn't like enough?

JMHO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowadays, I would always meet a potential playmate for a drink first, be it a coffee or a pint, without any promise of playing.

I can't just play with anyone - there has to attraction, mental as well as physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

uv got a way of puttin it so ladylike!! xx

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx "

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere..."

wanna flick my 'coffee' bean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere...

wanna flick my 'coffee' bean? "

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I crunch them whole if they are covered in dark chocolate!

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

I meet people often for "just coffee" specially on first meets. As a single fem I feel safer meeting publicly first and there have been a few times I have been disappointed by the person, they talk a good talk on a computer but when face to face bore the shit outta me.

I have to get on with someone before I can shag them but if chemistry there at the coffee ....well its a case of hurry up and just do me!

who's free for coffee tomorrow?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And remember the correct way to describe the coffee of your choice.

Mine is strong with lots of cream and sugar, and I'll give you the Pantone reference numbers for the colour range as soon as I can get hold of a colour chart!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere...

wanna flick my 'coffee' bean? "

Laine! If i'd said that it would have been treated as a crass comment by a single guy and i would have got pelters for it!!

p.s - you know i do....

pps - but if it's coffee 1st can i have a muffin as well???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once turned down a very nice gentleman the offer to play after our coffee, because I had to go home to walk the dog, doh!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it goes back to the days when you would meet someone on a night out and invite them back for a "coffee" lol

I think you might be right

Don't get me wrong if a guy buys me a coffee great but I can go to the club and buy my own coffee and get as much cock as I want"

Have you ever said no ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet people often for "just coffee" specially on first meets. As a single fem I feel safer meeting publicly first and there have been a few times I have been disappointed by the person, they talk a good talk on a computer but when face to face bore the shit outta me.

I have to get on with someone before I can shag them but if chemistry there at the coffee ....well its a case of hurry up and just do me!

who's free for coffee tomorrow?????"

Now that explains your caffeine addiction!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere...

wanna flick my 'coffee' bean?

Laine! If i'd said that it would have been treated as a crass comment by a single guy and i would have got pelters for it!!

p.s - you know i do....

pps - but if it's coffee 1st can i have a muffin as well???"

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I am likely to go dutch with the gent, so you can have whatever you like!

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"myznwty Pearl, I agree with you... I prefer a social meet to see if the chemistry is there... I can't just fuck anyone, and a coffee invite does tend to sort the 'instant' from the 'rich roast' types lol xxx

There's gotta be a "grinding" gag in there somewhere...

wanna flick my 'coffee' bean?

Laine! If i'd said that it would have been treated as a crass comment by a single guy and i would have got pelters for it!!

p.s - you know i do....

pps - but if it's coffee 1st can i have a muffin as well???

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I am likely to go dutch with the gent, so you can have whatever you like! "

You're cute - but i ain't flying to Schipol just to have coffee with you. Muffin or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not a man and don't see the the point in meeting for a coffee

Thats what I do with family and friends

I am here to fuck

well said that woman xxx"

Form an orderly Queue that man !

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy


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I have to get on with someone before I can shag them but if chemistry there at the coffee ....well its a case of hurry up and just do me!

who's free for coffee tomorrow?????

Now that explains your caffeine addiction!!!! "

and why i tend to go for those with the caffeine adiction like mine - they stay awake ssssssssssssssssssso much longer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just had this conversation but I only have tea so guess I won't be getting any lol

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By *adcowWoman
over a year ago

kirkcaldy


"I once turned down a very nice gentleman the offer to play after our coffee, because I had to go home to walk the dog, doh!!! "

lol take the dog with you and walk him after lol happy bunnies all round - works for me :P

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

I offer a cup of coffee here

coffs

as well as anything else I wanna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody is an individual and operates in whatever way suits them but a first meet can be quite daunting for some people, and in a worse case scenario even potentially dangerous, particularly for ladies.

So a lot of smart ladies do the 'meet for a coffee or drink first' thing and it works well for them, and any guy who's unhappy about it is probably not worth bothering about and could be regarded as a lucky escape!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once turned down a very nice gentleman the offer to play after our coffee, because I had to go home to walk the dog, doh!!!

lol take the dog with you and walk him after lol happy bunnies all round - works for me :P"

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Unfortunately I met this gent near where I work, and the dog was 30min drive from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your lucky, i dont even get the chance to drink me coffee

It always ends up cold

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

About 6-7 years ago I was contacted by a guy through Yahoo Messenger. He had lots of photos on his profile…. 35 years of age, 6foot tall, athletic, lovely smile. We spoke on the phone and he was funny, polite and appeared to be ticking the boxes.

Luckily, for some reason I was wary that contact had not been through a site, so I suggested we meet on the high street for a coffee and a natter… even though I was very tempted to get him round and rip his pants off.

A 45+ year old, 5foot, pot-bellied man with a monk’s haircut turned up. I couldn’t help but laugh as I asked him “Did you not think I’d notice?” and then asked “Why did you do it?”… he explained the photos were of his flatmate who oddly didn’t have any trouble meeting women, so he thought he’d use them to get a meet and then hoped the lady would get to like him once they got to know him.

I told him I knew all I needed to know… “You’re a liar - now feck off!” lol

He kept trying to pester me for sometime after that… I am so glad I found out before he found out where I lived.

Sometimes it does you good to have a close call to remind you why it’s better to be safe than sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cant feckin stand coffee so no dont expect a shag lol

Now a nice cuppa for a shag well yea !!!! thats about right, but thats usually at breakfast in the Hotel after the nite before mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex sister in law used other people's pics as her own when she chatted to people, with my ex brother in law's blessing, as they both thought it was funny to mislead other people!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everybody is an individual and operates in whatever way suits them but a first meet can be quite daunting for some people, and in a worse case scenario even potentially dangerous, particularly for ladies.

So a lot of smart ladies do the 'meet for a coffee or drink first' thing and it works well for them, and any guy who's unhappy about it is probably not worth bothering about and could be regarded as a lucky escape!!"

you are so right you got too get a feel for the person your meeting sometimes its like flogging a dead horse or pulling teeth and i dont wanna be having sex with someone like that !!!!

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

Oh I can aunderstand the need for security for ladies moreso.

And my replies have neen rather tongue in cheek.

But I live where I live because its private accomodation with amazing security installed.

I feel very safe here and invite guys here because I feel very safe that if they DID try to hurt me, they would be caught by the CCTV on the premises.

If they don't look like the photo they posted, I won't answer the door hahaha

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Simple reason why my first meet through a site like this is always social, be it coffee or a pub, is that I like to get to know someone a little before we meet for a second time for sex.

Need to establish compatability (on both sides I must add), also takes away that assumption from certain types of guys that think a first meet automatically means sex.

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