FabSwingers.com forum: Do you have find someone attractive to play?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Simple question. But do you have fancy / find someone attractive or doesn't it matter for you to play with a couple?

Or to want off a better phrase , do on occasion one half off couple take on for team, as it can't always be case that both half do find attractive d

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to be really attracted....

Funny though, I can't wait to see the replies..

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By *layersdelightCouple
over a year ago

Stevenage

Always have to be attracted to them. Will never take one for the team!

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I think more often than not, most couples have to agree on choice of a playmate before anything can progress.

If one half is "taking one for the team" then they aren't doing it for mutual pleasure/ enjoyment/ benefit. Either as a one off, or as a dynamic in the relationship. Of course, as long as this is something they have communicated and agreed on beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you have to find someone attractive to have sex with them!

I wouldn't be able to perform otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant see anyone admitting taking one for the team, tho i will, i played with a few couples i didn't like when i wad married because my ex liked the woman

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By *eordie JoJoTV/TS
over a year ago

Newcastle

I only play with guys I'm attracted to.....otherwise what's the point?? Got to be something in it for me! While i appreciate this isn't match.com got to have some standards...... Would NEVA meet anyone without a pic full stop.....how can you committ to someone you haven't seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is quite interesting, because I suspect it would depend on what level of arousal people are at, at any given point. So, in the cold light of day, most people would have clear boundaries, whereas if they'd not had sex for three months, those boundaries might be slightly blurred. I've been in club situations where it's a little like a shark feeding frenzy, once pussy is spotted, they can't wait to stick their dick in it.

Also, it might also depend on the roles the couple are playing and often the "taboo" nature might be the turn on.

As with all things Swinging, when we use absolute terms (never, always, etc), we aren't often telling the real truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant see anyone admitting taking one for the team, tho i will, i played with a few couples i didn't like when i wad married because my ex liked the woman"

Lol, it is sometimes noticeable that the woman is often the more "attractive" of the pair in swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't see the point in playing with people who we don't find attractive and have a desire to play with. It does make me think who would though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd take one for the team lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be attraction and also the chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a GB scenario I'm less bothered about attraction to be honest.

But as far as women are concerned I am pretty fussy.

Jane

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By *tryxxCouple
over a year ago

central

we have to be attracted as well, cant see the point of playing if the attraction is not there, but it does make meets tricky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be some attraction, otherwise it just wouldnt happen. We are here to have a bit of fun, why shall we take one for the team? Im not desperate!

..be it physical or personality, there has to be something that attracts

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I cant see anyone admitting taking one for the team, tho i will, i played with a few couples i didn't like when i wad married because my ex liked the woman"

When we first started out I'll admit that we both did a couple of times.We felt uncomfortable saying thanks but no thanks in person.

But soon learnt that honesty is the best policy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most definitely, but it's not just a physical attraction, it's a mind thing also... Banter, wit, humour, aka wave length...

Although if all fails, one could include some paper bags in ones shag bag! No offence meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep would deffo need to be attraction before we could play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course the flipside to this question is, perhaps the other couple are playing with you and one of them is taking it for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There has to be some attraction, otherwise it just wouldnt happen. We are here to have a bit of fun, why shall we take one for the team? Im not desperate!

..be it physical or personality, there has to be something that attracts

Yes we have meet guys I don't find physically that attractive but personality wise they're great and we have a good time. In fact we have had the opposite where physically they are drop dead gorgeous but no real personality. I find the latter meets are not so good ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course the flipside to this question is, perhaps the other couple are playing with you and one of them is taking it for the team

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question. But do you have fancy / find someone attractive or doesn't it matter for you to play with a couple?

Or to want off a better phrase , do on occasion one half off couple take on for team, as it can't always be case that both half do find attractive d"

Never take "one" for the team and yes has to be a level of attraction not only physically but mentally or no play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't see the point in playing with people who we don't find attractive and have a desire to play with. It does make me think who would though. "

The any hole is goal brigade

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By *oungatheart86Couple
over a year ago

Diss

I took "one for the team" meeting a couple once on holiday but hubby could see that and we agreed never to do it again. I didnt want to upset anyone after a lovely social evening lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me, it depends on what type of play you mean.

If we join with another couple, then yes I need to find them both attractive. I can't enjoy sex without being attracted to someone as it wouldn't have the same build up for me.

2wheels doesn't need to be attracted to the male half of the couple but he still has his own standards on who he does and doesn't like me playing with as he wouldn't enjoy watching me with someone he was repulsed by!

If you mean D/s play, then I don't need to find them physically attractive but I have to be drawn to them mentally to allow the power exchange that occurs.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never expect the other half to take one on my behalf and vice versa.

We have to have the attraction there as to be honest I enjoy the fact that she is having fun which makes the whole experience for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You deff not only one, just first admit, people with 50 plus verifications, they seriously Cant say they both always did fancy

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"You deff not only one, just first admit, people with 50 plus verifications, they seriously Cant say they both always did fancy"

Dunno, that's a bit of an assumption. Would also depend how long they took to obtain those 50+ veris.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We have to have an attraction, even though it is MrsH that does the playing I have to also think they look ok, not in a Bi way. Fortunatly we both have the same tastes so works well.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

No it just needs to be a moist hole. For instance I once did a golf course. (only 9 holes)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

silly question really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes, i have to like the look of who i meet, i want that moment that takes your breath away and you think wow.

It always going to make for more enjoyable fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There has to be attraction and also the chemistry."

to enjoy and put affort in yes

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"silly question really

I don't think so and the other responses seem to agree. I did once play with a guy - it was a couple and she was ok but he was horrendous! It was early in our swinging life and i'd never do it again! I felt disgusted in myself for ages - so now it's got to be good for both of us! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need to fancy someone to fuck them.. but unless it's a faceless group session I prefer too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definitely have to have some spark and neither of us would expect the other to take one for the team but sometimes find that attraction can be situational...if I'm in the zone...the situation rather than the person can turn me on but never to an extent where i would compromise my own self respect for a fumble...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to like something about them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs Riders says she is taking one for team every night with me, I can't work out if this is a good thing or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although there is always a level of attraction with our meets, i will admit sometimes in clubs I find myself turned on more by the situation/scenario and play with people I may not of found attractive if we were arranging a meet from here. Hope that makes sense!!

MissD

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By *ane_andrew69Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

Your quite right, if your in a club sometimes you can just get carried away with a situation and afterwards you think OMG did I really do it with them. Jane was in the dark room once and said don't let him touch me when I looked around later because I got distracted he was fucking her doggy style. When I asked her she said she got carried away as well and cos she couldn't see him it was ok and enjoyed

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By *ane_andrew69Couple
over a year ago

cardiff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be a mutual attraction.

Trace has to find both halves of the couple attractive but I only need to find the woman attractive and vice versa of course.

Mind you, attraction doesn't necessarily mean the conventional Page 3 type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4me I'm here 4 the experience and to push my boundaries..... So yes. I have played with ppl who I liked the look of but I wasn't like "oh wow", why? Because I wanted to hav that moment in the club/party wherever. 4 me I guess I have a list dare I say it! So I'm trying new things. New things are not always your favorate things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be attracted to the person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the slagging of people who are meeting ,irrespective if others think "OmG! no" does my head in

Ive enjoyed peoples company in many environments, at clubs/parties/socials

not going to say Ive met people I havent fancied to play with -I think thats pretty unfair, but I have always enjoyed their company if we've chatted n laughed

I dont have a typeset of people I meet, apart from some pretty universal requirememnts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes big time!!

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By *wfirsttimersCouple
over a year ago

kendal

" ... i will admit sometimes in clubs I find myself turned on more by the situation/scenario and play with people I may not of found attractive if we were arranging a meet from here. Hope that makes sense!!

MissD

This is the same for us xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there has to be a connection which is a combination of personality and looks. The situation, particularly with a couple or more, is also a factor that means I'm not in looking for a life long partner but really up for experiencing exciting sex with different people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Simple question. But do you have fancy / find someone attractive or doesn't it matter for you to play with a couple?

Or to want off a better phrase , do on occasion one half off couple take on for team, as it can't always be case that both half do find attractive d"

I do, but loads of people on here don't, GBs for example, dogging, also a lot of people seem to put more emphasis on clock size the looks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me physical attraction is very important after all this is about making fantasy a reality so im after as close to brad or george as i can get lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Biggest problem is finding someone attracted to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to fancy them. I can't imagine kissing or being intimate with someone I didn't find sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you have to fancy someone to play, well for us anyway. This taking one for the team thing is a myth, if everyones not happy we dont play.

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