FabSwingers.com forum: Winks, little rant

By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Why do people wink, straight guys are you asking for an invite to a GB I'm hosting. Bi Guys do you want to to meet me for some bi fun. TVs at least I can usually figure out and decide whether I'm interested, same with couples. So many I just think why, (usually reply that too).

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Why do people wink, straight guys are you asking for an invite to a GB I'm hosting. Bi Guys do you want to to meet me for some bi fun. TVs at least I can usually figure out and decide whether I'm interested, same with couples. So many I just think why, (usually reply that too)."

I just winked at you. For no reason at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can just ignore the ones of no interest?

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Hate winks I think they are pointless, if you cant be arsed to type a message then I would hate to see how lazy you are in the bedroom

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"You can just ignore the ones of no interest?"

My general rule is to ignore people who can't string a sentence together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like 'em, and if I like the winker, I wink back!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Just looked, it says on my profile 'Please DON'T wink, I don't know what it means, mail me if you want to contact me with a message'. Can I be clearer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hate winks I think they are pointless, if you cant be arsed to type a message then I would hate to see how lazy you are in the bedroom

That's pretty much my standpoint on wanks, ... sorry, winks.

How long does it really take to tap out a two or three line message - even if it's just to say (like I do often) 'Not looking to meet, but just wanted to compliment you on your pics/profile' and then add something specific to show I HAVE read the profile.

Not difficult, is it? Well? Is it..?

A winked-out ted.

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By *livia JulietWoman
over a year ago

Not too far away

Isnt a wink just to show interest?

I receive quite lengthy messages obviously well thought out, but I don't find the guy attractive. Therefore he has wasted his time and effort. With a wink, I simply wink back if I like them. Saves time. I don't see it as lazy, just a quick judge as to whether you like each other.

Just ignore the feature if you don't use it. I personnally love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

Hear! Hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt a wink just to show interest?"

Who knows? As far as I know, it isn't in black and white anywhere on here what a wink is for? Just find it the height of laziness.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

Hear! Hear!

But I tried winking you and couldn't!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can just ignore the ones of no interest?

My general rule is to ignore people who can't string a sentence together."

Maybe its a subtle way of getting your attention, without hassling you too much, hoping you may respond. Each to their own but its certainly not one of life's great vexations to receive one in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a service that Fab offers, some will choose to use it, others will choose not to.

I find it can be handy, if you're winked and like the look of the wink sender then wink back, then they can initiate conversation.

If you choose to not use, then simply ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just looked, it says on my profile 'Please DON'T wink, I don't know what it means, mail me if you want to contact me with a message'. Can I be clearer? "

So ignore, why let it concern you enough to rant on a forum? Ignore!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't like them ignore them its not as if you even have to look at them

I prefer them to messages sometimes,shows a little interest I can follow up on if I want to,without having an inbox of messages that people have taken the time to write and im likely not going to be able to respond to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

Hear! Hear!

But I tried winking you and couldn't!!!

That's cos we're victimising you, as you well know!!! Will come up with a cunning plan to let you have a nice little wink at us then.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noticed no one has winked me to wind me up

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hardly ever send winks. Just sent 2! First 2 in about 6 months I think!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

Hear! Hear!

But I tried winking you and couldn't!!!

That's cos we're victimising you, as you

well know!!! Will come up with a

cunning plan to let you have a nice little

wink at us then.....

I've winked over Rubys pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a nice wink, I see it as an opener. If I like look will either wink back or send a message. It's very easy just to completely ignore them if not your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hardly ever send winks. Just sent 2! First 2 in about 6 months I think!

And i wasn't even angry!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Just looked, it says on my profile 'Please DON'T wink, I don't know what it means, mail me if you want to contact me with a message'. Can I be clearer?

So ignore, why let it concern you enough to rant on a forum? Ignore!"

Although if you ever get one, it's good manners to thank the person and say how cool they are and everything.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I hardly ever send winks. Just sent 2! First 2 in about 6 months I think!

And i wasn't even angry!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are ideal for if you visit a profile and you're not sure if you're quite what they seek, say one year out of their age range.

You wink, they see it, if they like they wink back offering you the chance to step up with a message.

That way there's less messages deleted, less unwanted messages.

It's worked for me, both me winking first and being the receiver of the wink.

I managed to ignore the ones that held no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hardly ever send winks. Just sent 2! First 2 in about 6 months I think!

And i wasn't even angry!"

Oops!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont do winks either ..... and if the profiles blank - it just gets blocked

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some joker sent me one just now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why send a well thought out message only to have it deleted out of hand or kept 'on file' with no response for days when a wink works just as well. Well, it has for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we dont do winks either ..... and if the profiles blank - it just gets blocked"

This is just soooo tempting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isnt a wink just to show interest?

Just ignore the feature if you don't use it. I personnally love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wish that winking function removed totally from site - then messaging only option

Hear! Hear!

But I tried winking you and couldn't!!!

That's cos we're victimising you, as you

well know!!! Will come up with a

cunning plan to let you have a nice little

wink at us then.....

I've winked over Rubys pics

Nuffin new there then ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some joker sent me one just now!

Really? Wonder who that was? Some people have no sense of occasion, do they....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come over all wink happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've come over all wink happy

Hmmm, yeah. Had noticed....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as I'm not called a winker

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I just don't check mine - easy option if they annoy you!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I like a nice wink, I see it as an opener. If I like look will either wink back or send a message. It's very easy just to completely ignore them if not your thing.

I see them as a mutual compliment with the unspoken understanding that if the opportunity arose the participants would shag each other senseless.

Not the ones ive sent to the guys though so shagalooney sleep well mate ha ha!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Some joker sent me one just now!

Really? Wonder who that was? Some people have no sense of occasion, do they....

I think my screen needs cleaning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow Steve so do I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

assume that I'm lazy OR lazy in bed because I wink...??? ridiculous..its not the only method I use for communication, but its got me the initial spark of interest, from a wink to a msg then to a meet

nobody has said im a shite meet so far after I winked

lighten up anti-wink crew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually wink because i know that individual is going to be inundated with messages. And my profile is not exactly short..so, i just hope they take a quick look at my profile and pics.

..i do have to say, this approach hasnt worked lol. Im still awaiting a meet..

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I hardly ever send winks. Just sent 2! First 2 in about 6 months I think!

And just did one of them to to wind me up

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Should have kept my gob shut, now getting lots of winks. Also got a mail from some I don't know saying 'fuck off knob head, seems a bit of an extreme reaction to my comment on winks?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should have kept my gob shut, now getting lots of winks. Also got a mail from some I don't know saying 'fuck off knob head, seems a bit of an extreme reaction to my comment on winks? "

You're perfectly entitled to an opinion and shouldn't get abuse. This is a debating forum after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest we don't take any notice of winks from single guys, sorry just too many! Winks from couples n single gals will get checked though. Sorry but with so many of you out there messaging single guys need to send a good message with a face pic to get a response. Sounds harsh but have found you have to be a little hard on here lol x

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

Dont wink at us......show us your smile!

Gets u more chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont wink at us......show us your smile!

Gets u more chance!

You put it better! Lol x

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"Some joker sent me one just now!

Wasn't me although you were the first of many to send me them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message winkers if I like the profile I wink back and leave it up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a winker - and proud of it!!

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By *eddonistik OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Bored of winks now, mail if interested, maybe I've done myself some good.

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over a year ago

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By *andWCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

I quite like the winks, like many others have said you can basically sound out if somebody might be interested and without the need for the 'thanks but no thanks' message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can just ignore the ones of no interest?

My general rule is to ignore people who can't string a sentence together."

Half this site then...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never message winkers if I like the profile I wink back and leave it up to them.

Unless its someone I have met before trying to be funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never message winkers if I like the profile I wink back and leave it up to them.

Exactly my strategy. Also a couple of times I've sent a detailed well thought out message to people who've winked ...only for it to be deleted lol

However, I do think winks have their place on here ...just don't expect a marriage proposal to accompany them

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I think people who do this to me are complete winkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never message winkers if I like the profile I wink back and leave it up to them.

Exactly my strategy. Also a couple of times I've sent a detailed well thought out message to people who've winked ...only for it to be deleted lol

However, I do think winks have their place on here ...just don't expect a marriage proposal to accompany them "

The same thing happened to me if someone can't be bothered to send me a message I won't bother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like winks, it gives you the chance to read their profile, look at their pics and decide if you want to chat with them, or block them......It's certainly better than the "I want to fuck your pussy" that I have just received!!! This approach doesn't do it for me...

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

""I want to fuck your pussy"

Pretty please with a cherry on top?

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I only wink at people on my friends list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I want to fuck your pussy

Pretty please with a cherry on top?

Fresh cherries? Don't like the glacier ones!!!

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

""I want to fuck your pussy

Pretty please with a cherry on top?

Fresh cherries? Don't like the glacier ones!!!

Meh, seems you're becoming too expensive... I'll give it a miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""I want to fuck your pussy

Pretty please with a cherry on top?

Fresh cherries? Don't like the glacier ones!!!

Meh, seems you're becoming too expensive... I'll give it a miss

Lol, ask for more pocket money!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a service that Fab offers, some will choose to use it, others will choose not to.

I find it can be handy, if you're winked and like the look of the wink sender then wink back, then they can initiate conversation.

If you choose to not use, then simply ignore."

and for some of us with a nervous disposition, I have actually for the first time since being here, been sending guys messages after doing so, if there was no winks option, I probably wouldn't initiate first contact so no laziness by no means

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"assume that I'm lazy OR lazy in bed because I wink...??? ridiculous..its not the only method I use for communication, but its got me the initial spark of interest, from a wink to a msg then to a meet

nobody has said im a shite meet so far after I winked

lighten up anti-wink crew"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should have kept my gob shut, now getting lots of winks. Also got a mail from some I don't know saying 'fuck off knob head, seems a bit of an extreme reaction to my comment on winks? "

How rude, I hope you have reported all the winkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought winks were irritating until we started to get one line messages saying fancy a fuck, or can I fuck Bev so maybe winks are not so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We thought winks were irritating until we started to get one line messages saying fancy a fuck, or can I fuck Bev so maybe winks are not so bad."

Hmmmm.... yeah. Got a point.... Think I might be giving up my status as the uber-Nazi of Grammar and Winking on Fabs...

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We thought winks were irritating until we started to get one line messages saying fancy a fuck, or can I fuck Bev so maybe winks are not so bad."

could have at least said "hi bev" wat a cheek!

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