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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So to help any possible candidates.. can I ask a few things

1. will you be meeting them first for a social?

2. What will be expected of them on a social.?

3. How soon will you be expecting them to start submitting?

4. What experience do you have... Can they talk to previous subs etc.

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and you say owned.. when are you expecting them to be owned from...?

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

Perhaps he is trying to show some verifications or a pic on his profile at the same time...

I hear submitting to faceless, invisible Doms is big this year...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

Perhaps he is trying to show some verifications or a pic on his profile at the same time...

I hear submitting to faceless, invisible Doms is big this year..."

Just choked on my coffee ffs

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By *orsetandheelsWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

Perhaps he is trying to show some verifications or a pic on his profile at the same time...

I hear submitting to faceless, invisible Doms is big this year..."

Clearly he is overwhelmed by the responses which must be filling his inbox. Who could resist such an amazing offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol..

Careful he's a Dom! We'll all get spanked..

Hehe..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

I think he is thumbing through his book to find out what the correct response to so uch disrespect is.

And as for you lot being subs, Pah! If you were you would have already laid out the punishment equipment on the bed and assumed the posistion awiting the punishment you craved......

Oops sorry wrong forum I thought this was the bad erotic fiction writers one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies... I've just properly laughed at this thread so far..

after recent events with people I know I am in no mood to suffer fool's...

However I will always give benefit of the doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle"

Don't think I could ever be a sub... I'd be saying "you want me to do WHAT"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle

Don't think I could ever be a sub... I'd be saying "you want me to do WHAT"

Me neither, doms just make me giggle...specially the flouncy ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

I'm starting my own thread later x lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

Joining you

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle

Don't think I could ever be a sub... I'd be saying "you want me to do WHAT"

Me neither, doms just make me giggle...specially the flouncy ones...

I do like a giggle tho

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Will it be only for submissives or will Dom/mes be allowed in if they ask nicely and promise to behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there still room on the couch and is there any popcorn left? this thread looks like a good laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X"

What qualification would they get from the exam? I think a city and guilds diploma at least

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough

Salty, buttery or sweeet

I am off to get a refill

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong with being called Dom.

Except in here, where it takes on a new meaning .

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

dont mean to laugh - brill post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D/s is something that happens naturally, depending on the dynamic between individuals. It is not something that can be forced to happen.

Someone that thinks they can gain someones submission straight away, is, in my eyes, not a true Dom.

I have only ever been sub to one man and it will take me a long time to trust someone enough to do that again, if ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about qualifying with a Domploma!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

roll up roll up only a fiver each, tin helmets for ,get your tin helmets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

Can you elaborate a bit more? Interested now

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Sigh...50 Shades of Grey has a LOT to answer for.

To anyone considering: Run Will Robinson: RUN!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X"

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

Girls, fun has its place, it's an open forum but if you don't want to be the guy's sub, why not stand out of the way and let the guy get on with it and any women who are up for it. I'm sure none of you would like your choices or lifestyle to be questioned or made fun of- works both ways.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

I'm not understanding your meeting. What has security got to do with it?

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

Being a Dom has never interested me because it seems to me they feel threatened by woman and this seems to be a 'safe' way to deal with them.

It's said that the power in a Dom/sub relationship is all with the sub, which to me just reinforces that point.

I'm dominant in the bedroom, inasmuch as I will often decide what we do when, but I won't do anything the other(s) feel uncomfortable with, and I will happily cede control if the other(s) feel in the mood.

I'm a man looking for a partner for fun, not a Dom looking for a sub. My ego is quite big enough already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

a true dominant is very secure in his or her Self...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

a true dominant is very secure in his or her Self... "

That's why I couldn't understand his statement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle

Don't think I could ever be a sub... I'd be saying "you want me to do WHAT"

Me neither, doms just make me giggle...specially the flouncy ones...

I do like a giggle tho

Aye...and a good flounce can be fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear Lord I cant watch *hides behind Ruby*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you say Mr Gemini... It's an open forum not a personal ad section .. So ALL comments should be welcome !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

a true dominant is very secure in his or her Self...

That's why I couldn't understand his statement. "

it is someone who has a misunderstanding I am guessing of what being a dominant is.. maybe he will be enlightened...

Just think how much worse this is going to get after that god awful book becomes a movie...

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By *uthTVDerbysTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Don't Get Done. Get Dom.

Or not

In this case. Well fancy that!.

The tension mounts...sadly the OP won't be....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Being a Dom has never interested me because it seems to me they feel threatened by woman and this seems to be a 'safe' way to deal with them.

It's said that the power in a Dom/sub relationship is all with the sub, which to me just reinforces that point.

I'm a man looking for a partner for fun, not a Dom looking for a sub. My ego is quite big enough already

So as a Domme, who do I feel threatened by....men or woman? I will have either as a sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cali, you are spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

made me giggle

Don't think I could ever be a sub... I'd be saying "you want me to do WHAT"

Me neither, doms just make me giggle...specially the flouncy ones...

I do like a giggle tho

Aye...and a good flounce can be fun...

I've just flounced...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

oh god help us .. we are trying to help someone who judging from his advert on here hasn't a clue and I am sure you just warned off loads of women too.

every when I was a total power exchange owned and collared slave I would have not been to impressed if my master had offered me out to be abused.

But then I was a precious possession... And to much time and effort had gone into my training to let someone ruin it.

Having said that I would have done anything I was asked.. but I was not expected to tolerate other dominants thinking they could speak to me as anything other than their equal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

oh god help us .. we are trying to help someone who judging from his advert on here hasn't a clue and I am sure you just warned off loads of women too.

every when I was a total power exchange owned and collared slave I would have not been to impressed if my master had offered me out to be abused.

But then I was a precious possession... And to much time and effort had gone into my training to let someone ruin it.

Having said that I would have done anything I was asked.. but I was not expected to tolerate other dominants thinking they could speak to me as anything other than their equal. "

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

a true dominant is very secure in his or her Self...

That's why I couldn't understand his statement. "

Agree...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

oh god help us .. we are trying to help someone who judging from his advert on here hasn't a clue and I am sure you just warned off loads of women too.

every when I was a total power exchange owned and collared slave I would have not been to impressed if my master had offered me out to be abused.

But then I was a precious possession... And to much time and effort had gone into my training to let someone ruin it.

Having said that I would have done anything I was asked.. but I was not expected to tolerate other dominants thinking they could speak to me as anything other than their equal. "

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

Lol, we're all entitled to our opinions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol, we're all entitled to our opinions.

yes but when people have a view that maybe because they don't understand something then people tend to ask more and speak to them. I used to have some very personal views that I actually realised were wrong. I didn't change my views completely.. but I did realise I needed to read and learn more.

And anyone that thinks that being a dominant is because they are insecure does not understand at all.

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By *hobos46Man
over a year ago

Royston

"Lol, we're all entitled to our opinions.

And anyone that thinks that being a dominant is because they are insecure does not understand at all."

Clearly not. Having talked to subs, I cannot understand what's in it for either party, but I stand by my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

Quite a big scene in Glasgow so I understand. Do you get involved much?

Or are you the sort of dom that avoids the scene for one reason or another but ultimately because their own practice is dangerous? Because the OP's post is getting what it deserves. It deserves to be laughed at but let's be brutally honest as unintentionally funny as it is, the lack of knowledge shown is potentially very dangerous.

If you genuinely have subs that you are willing to loan out to be used and abused by a dom who you've never met who shows such little knowledge and understanding of what D/s is then I fear for their wellbeing.

crystal is the most important and precious thing in my life. The dom/dommes that we involve in our play all know and respect that.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"Lol, we're all entitled to our opinions.

And anyone that thinks that being a dominant is because they are insecure does not understand at all.

Clearly not. Having talked to subs, I cannot understand what's in it for either party, but I stand by my opinion."

What's in it for either party? Unless you are having sec in a space station, you must have felt at some point either the woman surrendering to what you are doing or you having the feeling of... Yep I could do anything right now.

That is the power exchange in a d/s relationship. Only, in that relationship, due to the trust between you, roles are easier to slip into as you basically know each other.

What is it all about? Its mostly about disrobing what you do in daily life and letting someone else take control. This can go to extremes yes, but again depends on the person and the relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

oh god help us .. we are trying to help someone who judging from his advert on here hasn't a clue and I am sure you just warned off loads of women too.

every when I was a total power exchange owned and collared slave I would have not been to impressed if my master had offered me out to be abused.

But then I was a precious possession... And to much time and effort had gone into my training to let someone ruin it.

Having said that I would have done anything I was asked.. but I was not expected to tolerate other dominants thinking they could speak to me as anything other than their equal. "

You said that I have just warned off loads of other women too. It that happens then it's cool with me. I've no time for the moral police, or women who might sit on here doing nothing except criticizing.

Neither can I stand back and watch someone get a hard time, unfairly. We all have different views and interpretations of the sub/dom situation. If you girls have a different experience or interpretation of sub/dom. That's fine. Let him do his own thing.

If any women don't want to meet me, or wish to remember me and what I've said, to then hold resentments and cast up repeatedly - all for sticking up for someone's right to express themselves-then there are not the type of women I'd wanted meet anyway.

I'm all for live and let live and allowing people to do what they want, regardless if I think they have got a clue or not.

It's very kind of you to offer to 'help' the op, but he isn't asking for help, just subs. Unless he asks for help then your suggestions are superfluous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

Quite a big scene in Glasgow so I understand. Do you get involved much?

crystal is the most important and precious thing in my life. The dom/dommes that we involve in our play all know and respect that."

Who I am, what I do, and who I do it with is no one's business, so I'm not answering your questions. Neither am I speaking of how things are arranged. If we are not meeting then it'll not affect you anyway. Nowhere did I claim to be a 'dom'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X"

Whilst there are plenty of sub-females out there that seek what you portend to off, your advert is misplaced and smacks of naivety. If you truly new something of the lifestyle you profess, you would also know this ...move on to greener pastures - there are plenty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor man has has his domhood ripped to shreds you bad bad people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol, we're all entitled to our opinions.

And anyone that thinks that being a dominant is because they are insecure does not understand at all.

Clearly not. Having talked to subs, I cannot understand what's in it for either party, but I stand by my opinion."

that's your opinion and it's okay to think that.. expect that it's got nothing to do with being insecure. The men I see as dominant.. which is very few men... Are all confident, secure in themselves and ooze confidence and security... A sub has to be able to put her trust in his or her dominant... So being insecure would not work there.

As to what they get out of it.. it's actually very fulfilling on both sides but so individual that what one couple gets..won't be the same as what another gets.. however if from talking to people your understanding is that dominants are insecure, then they have the wrong dominants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

That duty of care is with all within the lifestyle not just subs. Though of course as a dom it can potentially be misconstrued as having a seperate agenda by calling out other doms on their practices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are trying to help someone"

Could've fooled me.

This thread is a prime example of why more people don't post in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't understand why all you bitch's aren't on your knees. Hold your heads in shame, poor mr dom.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I think some "subs" have the wrong idea too. I ignore any offers to "beat, abuse and humiliate".

One of my sub playmates only has one testicle: courtesy of a Domme!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are trying to help someone

Could've fooled me.

This thread is a prime example of why more people don't post in the forums."

this has helped many judging from my inbox.. and should help many more... And it's advice..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we are trying to help someone

Could've fooled me.

This thread is a prime example of why more people don't post in the forums."

Exactly!

To turn things on it's head, if it had been a female looking for a dom and saying much the same thing, reversed, there would not have been an issue.

He hasn't mentioned anything dangerous or taboos or any of the more extreme things. Seems lighthearted fun and role play.

Some people read too much into things and rarely, if anything, have anything constructive to say.

I suppose it's easy to see which way the wind is blowing and jump on the bandwagon.

It's good to know that it's not just me that sees something going wrong and has the bravery to speak out.

Sir, I salute you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but someone claiming to be experienced in something which does has the potential to do someone emotional,mental and physical harm if done incorrectly, yet showing no experience within the way they have posted is not people jumping on the bandwagon as you put it.

My questions that started off this thread were genuine questions a sub looking to answer his request should ask..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

Perhaps he is trying to show some verifications or a pic on his profile at the same time...

I hear submitting to faceless, invisible Doms is big this year...

Just choked on my coffee ffs

Genius, made my morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know very little regarding sub/dom relstionships, however from the little I understand its a lifestyle that requires complete trust,.not just about ordering someone around.

I totally respect those who live this lifestyle.

Appatently im a bottom.

I could chat with people for hours, not because I want to be sub, but I find it fascinating and am genuinly curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

crystal is the most important and precious thing in my life. The dom/dommes that we involve in our play all know and respect that."

This is what a true Dominant feels and has actually sent a warm fuzzy feeling down my back. This thread has been amusing but 2 posts stand out for me as being very serious and very true to D/s. The first being Cali's questions, which OP are any questions a true submissive would ask and 2wheels comment about the importance of crystal in his life. That is a true Dominant's feelings and should be respected deeply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

To return to the original post, I can see how dangerous it is for a female to go out without any knickers on and how dangerous it would be to her health to have things written on her. It would be one if the worse things that could happen to her, if the eye liner make up that was used to write, didn't match her shoes during the sex.

Maybe some people just think about their own duty of care, and about what they do rather than being caught up with what others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

Maybe some people just think about their own duty of care, and about what they do rather than being caught up with what others do. "

Maybe people with limited experience of D/s should listen and learn from what people who live the lifestyle think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

Maybe some people just think about their own duty of care, and about what they do rather than being caught up with what others do. "

It's dangerous because from the OP's comments all I see is a misogynistic bully trying to get his kicks and no hint of understanding of being a dom.

And as others have said bad doms can leave people physically and emotionally abused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing with D/s is not the acts that are carried out but the psychological and emotional impact it has. There is a huge risk of psychological and emotional damage if the participants dont fully understand what it is they are getting into.

I am one of those who trusted a fake dom, and its going to take a lot of time before I can trust someone enough to give them my submission due to the emotional hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

Maybe some people just think about their own duty of care, and about what they do rather than being caught up with what others do.

Maybe people with limited experience of D/s should listen and learn from what people who live the lifestyle think."

Perhaps, but it might be fun learning from one's own experience. Making one's own mind up and what works for one. Maybe s/d might be something that people enjoy from time to time and like other things beside that too.

Anyway, I'm not wanting to spend all day on here arguing a point were people's minds are already made up or when some people are openly laughing about another profile. If there's no/little respect around I'm not wanting to hang around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and I can not sit by and watch a potentially dangerous situation occur... It was a very green post to me.. however there are many women looking to experience this.

There Is a duty of care amongst most lifestyle subs to look out for one another... So that is what this thread is..

Maybe some people just think about their own duty of care, and about what they do rather than being caught up with what others do.

Maybe people with limited experience of D/s should listen and learn from what people who live the lifestyle think.

Education and learning from each other is what stops situations where submissives could be hurt. There has been very little disrespect from what I've seen other than a comment about using other people's women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God I'm secure enough not to want to be a Dom.

a true dominant is very secure in his or her Self...

That's why I couldn't understand his statement. "

A good dominant has to be secure. I think this shows a lack of understanding of a d/s relationship which I don't blame people for and everyone has their own rules and ideas. But being insecure makes a dom cruel without affection and controlling without purpose.

Apart from the grammar and spelling 50 shades has to take part of the blame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X

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over a year ago

"Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X"

That's what is known as a switch. Again its something that is a role. There's no switch in me, but others have switch in them where they can be Dom or sub.

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By *oversforfun2000Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

I have a keen interest in learning about this lifestyle, I just don't think this is the right site to explore this particular choice!! I might be totally wrong or speak to the wrong ppl but a lot of guys just don't have a clue and just say and do what they think they're supposed too!!

Again just my 2 pence worth not wanting to offend or criticise anyone!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X"

There are those that switch I personally can't. Relinquishing control and the trust needed to do that is something I'm unable to do with playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my..your more clueless than your first post showed. It's not about the acts.. it's about the impact on the sub when a dominant hasn't got a clue.

Everyone has to start somewhere though.

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over a year ago

"I have a keen interest in learning about this lifestyle, I just don't think this is the right site to explore this particular choice!! I might be totally wrong or speak to the wrong ppl but a lot of guys just don't have a clue and just say and do what they think they're supposed too!!

Again just my 2 pence worth not wanting to offend or criticise anyone!!

You're spot on - that's what my profile says - not looking for a Dominant on here because frankly I don't think there are many on here who are a true Dominant

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

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"Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X"

it depends if you are sub or dom in just sex of as a lifestyle, if just for sex then yes you can switch, but if that makes you a proper sub/dom is debatable, if your a lifestyle sub/dom then no i dont think you can switch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks all that replied, it was meant in the language of the bedroom. I have a strong desire to be dommed and domme Mr Edel. But as it's new territory obviously have lots of questions

Thanks again

Mrs. Edel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Pmpl

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Right the popcorn is on, large soft drink on arm of chair, yep I think I am going to settle back and enjoy this

You and me both...This is going to be awesome!

Shhhh the OP is thinking! We subs must show him respect, his name has the word Dom in!

Perhaps he is trying to show some verifications or a pic on his profile at the same time...

I hear submitting to faceless, invisible Doms is big this year...

Just choked on my coffee ffs

Oi Queen, get back in your cage

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X"

I am looking for a man willing to be my bitch!! You'll do fine I think...no experience required cos I have none...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this has helped many judging from my inbox.. and should help many more... And it's advice.."

I've noticed through casual observation over a long time lurking that the proof that your self-congratulatory advice, especially in topics relating to fetish, has touched the hearts of many is often neatly tucked away in your inbox; but that's beside the point.

This thread started with several of what I've come to lovingly know as the forum clique sarcastically describing how they were getting ready to watch what they knew was coming next, which is proof in itself of the sad state that the forums are in.

Granted, it may not have been the most constructive first post, but I haven't seen anything since from anyone else that particularly merits applause either, and judgmental crap like this:

"Oh my..your more clueless than your first post showed."

just makes me cringe.

How do you know he's clueless? How do you know the OP is clueless for that matter? You seem to think you operate as some sort of authority on these subjects, but I've seen nothing from you that would suggest to me that you're any more qualified to offer 'advice' on them than he is.

I stand by my original comment that this is a prime example of why more people don't post on the forum, but meh, whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I know he is clueless is from his posts. As I advise many subs and dominants for that matter, I can only go on what people write.

If you had experience then you would have alarm bells ringing two... He may just struggle to express himself in posts... But In which case he will see himself the bad image he is putting across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not going to comment on the sub Dom because I don't know much about it, but regarding the original post it wasn't a very good post maybe even naive of him to put something like that up,

But I also have to agree that a lot of the original replies were not trying to help except calis the rest were mocking him rather than offering help, it wasn't until Gemini said something that it turned it to a proper discussion regarding the life style,

I have to say it has been very interesting reading once the proper posts started

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think that any Dominant worth their salt would be a) not advertising on here and b) wouldn't need the word Dom in their name.

The best Master I've ever had the privilege of meeting is on here with his slave - neither of them need to advertise that on here. This lifestyle and the BDSM lifestyle are different but can and do run concurrently. Those of us into both lifestyles use two community social networking sites, one for swinging and one for BDSM.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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Lets just calm down...

I believe that Cali's questions back to the OP were spot on. Ther e was nothing controversial about them.

Why is the OP not participating in his own thread? and why he has not seen fit to respond to Cli's questions?Could it be that he is just happy to 'sit back and enjoy with popo corn'??

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By *orsetandheelsWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I think that one of the reasons so many people jumped on this is that us single women on the BDSM scene see this sort of request all too often. Some dom who is only interested in our submissive side and has no interest in us as people.

It is the biggest yawn...

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By *ames133Man
over a year ago

hartlepool

this thread was a great read. and agree with a loat I read.

when a sub offers ones self as a sub to a dom/me it should not be offered to someone else unless discussed before hand. and as for people who demand someone to submit with in thw firat message or 2 then dont deserve a sub to submit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not going to comment on the sub Dom because I don't know much about it, but regarding the original post it wasn't a very good post maybe even naive of him to put something like that up,

I have to say it has been very interesting reading once the proper posts started"

Thanks.

It goes without saying that everyone on here has different experiences and might be looking for different things.

But I think people should be able to say and express themselves and look for anything else they want, with some degree of respect. Even if we disagree with anyone's desires or how they put it across. Especially, with new profiles, like the op, to welcome them into fab.

What is not very productive is just one liners with nothing to say. If you agree or disagree with someone, why not say why.

And if you cannot either get through to someone your point of view, or beat them in an argument, then it's not a good idea to then start with personal derogatory remarks.

I'm all for live and live let and allowing other people to do what they want, when they want and with whom they want. If I'm not into what the person is doing online, I'd never say 'this is right/wrong' or 'do it my way'. It is really imposing what you want on others.

I'm sure if I followed others blindly and been another person in the line to throw the first stone, then it might go down better and I might have made some new friends. But that's not what I'm about. I'm all for some degree of respect, even if I disagree with someone.

What the op is offering, or how he looks and his age, might be exactly what some females want, regardless if he is clued up or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP had been on site over a year, he shouldn't be classed as a newbie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol..

Careful he's a Dom! We'll all get spanked..

Hehe.. "

Someone mention spanking? I do love to dish a good spanking out myself...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive a lovely young sub wanting tieing up and teasing by me and another woman this evening but the other woman is proving difficult to find

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

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By *ombshellWoman
over a year ago

islington

"Lol..

Careful he's a Dom! We'll all get spanked..

Hehe.. "

Hopefully eh! hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Little miss cali knows wot she is talking about the things that she has commented on are spot on trust is a very big issue in any form if a relationship but more with d/s lifestyle I trust max in anything we do and I know that he will nt let anything or one hurt me I have the utmost respect for him and trust him with my life xxxx well said cali xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP had been on site over a year, he shouldn't be classed as a newbie!"

I've read the thread with interest, I have my own opinions on it, but I'm going to keep those to myself, the thing I will comment on is as has already been stated, the OP has been on the site over a year, therefore not a newbie. Also This is the 10th thread that he has started, so not a newbie to the forums either.

He will surely know that such comments and discussions will happen, so I hope he does come back to his own thread and at least reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP had been on site over a year, he shouldn't be classed as a newbie!

He will surely know that such comments and discussions will happen, so I hope he does come back to his own thread and at least reply. "

He hasn't updated his profile to say that he is not new. I did have some doubts of the veracity of the profile when i first seen it with no public pics or verifications on display. (I've hidden mine for personal reasons). But I do still stand by my main way of thinking: individual respect, live and let live etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP had been on site over a year, he shouldn't be classed as a newbie!

He will surely know that such comments and discussions will happen, so I hope he does come back to his own thread and at least reply.

Why would anyone update thier profile to say that thier not new, when it clearly states they've been on the site over a year? Everyone has the right on here to not show pics or veri's, hence the live and let live bit once again.

Once you post on an open forum, people can then express thier opinoins on that post, obviously the popcorn comments etc are just a waste, but questions put to the OP are valid from what I read of them.

There is of course the statement you made that some people have already made thier minds up before they post and will not change them at any costs, your posts do seem to read that way to me as well. I'm not having a go, just stating how they read to me, as you are entitled to your opinions as much as anyone else on an open forum.

You also made a statemnet about not wasting your day on this thread or words to that effect, but still keep comming back and posting what is basically the same response over and over again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP had been on site over a year, he shouldn't be classed as a newbie!

He will surely know that such comments and discussions will happen, so I hope he does come back to his own thread and at least reply.

You also made a statemnet about not wasting your day on this thread or words to that effect, but still keep comming back and posting what is basically the same response over and over again

To justify myself to you. My plans for today have changed, so I find myself with more free and unexpected time. I was using my mobile earlier and my fingers were getting sore with typing. I'm now using a desktop and after a break my fingers are not sore using such a small screen.

'There is of course the statement you made that some people have already made thier minds up before they post and will not change them at any costs, your posts do seem to read that way to me as well'

I've rarely expressed any firm ideas at all. Lots of what I have said have 'perhaps' or 'might'. I'm just expressing an open alternative view point that I don't believe is fixed. I never claimed to have an interest in s/d stuff, or that I was a dom or sub or whatever.

You are right that I didn't plan to come back on - and I have came back on just once - but if I see what I have written either being taken out of context or misleading, then it's hard not to say something.

And seeing how the posts were going, with some people were getting personal, I called into question that concept. So perhaps something positive, and different to add, hence my additional comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

The OP hasn't logged back into the site since posting the thread, so there is still hope that he will once he has

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the whole thread - so here's my view!

I'm a forum regular. I've seen posts hijacked, derailed, go off on tangents, get personal and have the piss taken out of them - sometimes in a harmless way - sometimes in a negative manner. It's life on any forum.

Those threads with a serious question or intent that achieve their goal - helpful answers, feedback or responses the OP is looking for - tend to be well constructed, thought out, based on specifics that can be backed up by profile content, feedback and previous contributions to other forum threads.

They also tend to be nurtured by the OP and any questions raised by contributors are responded to. This is particularly important if the thread is to remain in track and not become a 'joke' thread or get personal and become argumentative.

There are many regular posters who are what I would class as 'subject matter experts' in certain fields - knowledge I and others have gained via reading their profiles, previous posts and sometimes by having net them in person. There are also many 'armchair experts' in all manner of subjects. Sometimes it's hard to tell who is who - other times its pretty damn obvious.

When reading a contribution To a thread such as this i tend to look at the poster and if I don't already know which category they fall into I'll try and make my mind up based on the info available. Sometimes this is easy - sometimes not.

But when it's staring me in the face that someone really knows what they're talking about - I'll pay far more reverence to their views and opinions than those it's apparent have a less detailed knowledge.

If people did this a little more often when 'specialist subjects' are in debate - I'm sure the threads would follow a very different course!!

Just my 2ps worth!

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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Just my 2ps worth! "

Worth every penny, as always

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the genuine people on here and the nice subs who have sent me an inbox message.

I have been involved in the scene for ten years and met many lovely people. I'm to thick skinned to be offended by sheep jumping on the bandwagon. Bye and look forward to more fun.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

He could be at work?

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over a year ago

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

He could be at work? "

Well he has replied, for what it was worth lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and fair play to the guy,least he had balls to say what he was actually looking for

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over a year ago

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

I hope he doesn't answer Cali's questions. Why should he justify what he plans in an open forum with ladies he might never meet or too far way. All that can be done privately.

I do believe that she might be the only female, that I've noticed, with a borderline offer to help. But why would anyone, a future meet, would want to meet or to contact previous meets. There is a discretion issue too. I don't take verifications as stated, some are dont just out of politeness etc.

There's nothing wrong with social meets first, if that's what two people want. But it can be a very convoluted way for fun. They are the best way way, for friends, but if it's just sex, in whatever form it comes in, some girls just want to get on with it, rather than meeting socially.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

He could be at work?

Well he has replied, for what it was worth lol. "

So he has!

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over a year ago

"This thread has gone a little off track - I'm disappointed that the OP didn't feel he could answer Cali's questions as they were valid as per his advertisement.

I hope he doesn't answer Cali's questions. Why should he justify what he plans in an open forum with ladies he might never meet or too far way. All that can be done privately.

Because they would or should be the questions that any potential submissive asks. Cali is experienced in D/s and M/s as well as other aspects of BDSM. The OP should be experienced enough to discuss these in an open forum, or certainly confident enough in his abilities to discuss them in an open forum. They aren't difficult questions for an experienced Dominant to answer as the OP professes to be.

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over a year ago

My questions are very obvious ones any one should ask.. and as to contacting previous subs.. it's actually quite common practise..

the op has to be fair just to me at least confirmed that he hasn't a clue... Hope no one gets caught up in this.. I've fixed up to many subs on the other side of a dim Dom.

And I actually was trying to help op... And any potential subs.

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over a year ago

I just think D/s is something people shouldnt just jump into. Even if its just for play, there should be a lot of discussion first, about limits, what each expect from it and safety considerations.

Its not the same as just meeting up for regular sex.

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over a year ago

" They are the best way way, for friends, but if it's just sex, in whatever form it comes in, some girls just want to get on with it, rather than meeting socially. "

but op isn't asking for just sex.. he is saying he wants them to be owned... THAT is a huge thing.. not something to be taken lightly and being owned takes time..

from the op post, it gave me the impression that he expects submission from first contact... It's one of the things I am sure most dominants and subs a like will agree should not happen.. submission takes time..

If this post was about play subs.. it's a little different but still social meets first are required. Yes it's just my advice... But it comes from experience both as a owned and collared slave, and someone who has been on both sides of the utter devastation that can be caused by poor dominants.

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over a year ago

"I just think D/s is something people shouldnt just jump into. Even if its just for play, there should be a lot of discussion first, about limits, what each expect from it and safety considerations.

Its not the same as just meeting up for regular sex. "

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over a year ago

" They are the best way way, for friends, but if it's just sex, in whatever form it comes in, some girls just want to get on with it, rather than meeting socially.

but op isn't asking for just sex.. he is saying he wants them to be owned... THAT is a huge thing.. not something to be taken lightly and being owned takes time..

Phone wont let me do thumbs up....

Also talking from experience re: a fake/bad dominant. Thats why it will take a hell of a lot for me to give my submission to someone again. Once bitten twice shy and all that. X

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over a year ago

"My questions are very obvious ones any one should ask.. and as to contacting previous subs.. it's actually quite common practise..

the op has to be fair just to me at least confirmed that he hasn't a clue... Hope no one gets caught up in this.. I've fixed up to many subs on the other side of a dim Dom.

And I actually was trying to help op... And any potential subs. "

I can accept what you are saying.

Cool with me. None of this affects me anyway. And it proves to me, again, that we are all looking for different things, and go about it in different ways.

I don't think the op, has to be fair to anyone, answer any questions they are asked or take any advice, especially when it's not asked. Whether these questions are difficult, common practice or not. If it's his fun he can control it in whatever way he wants. If any girls go for it, that's their choice too.

What might be better would be something like this: 'This is what works for me. I would recommend this'. Instead of, the op has to be...this is what should or should not be done...'

If I or you, or we, don't like what an op is offering. Simple. Just don't apply.

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over a year ago

"ive a lovely young sub wanting tieing up and teasing by me and another woman this evening but the other woman is proving difficult to find

Checks inbox ! Nope nothing there

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

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" They are the best way way, for friends, but if it's just sex, in whatever form it comes in, some girls just want to get on with it, rather than meeting socially.

but op isn't asking for just sex.. he is saying he wants them to be owned... THAT is a huge thing.. not something to be taken lightly and being owned takes time..

I agree with this. I have on my profile I'll think the person a nut if they expect to meet now! I always meet socially first, some of my subs I meet several times socially first.

Some just want to role play tie and tease and think that's being sub: I'm more extreme. Without discussion problems could arise.

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over a year ago

" Without discussion problems could arise. "

I always discuss everything beforehand. And I always find it's me that carries the conversation and asks the questions. Some people might want to meet without discussing anything (if that's what suits them). But I don't see how you can find out someone's likes and dislikes without some communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmmmm not a good place to advertise for subs, can i advertise for any male subs , ho hum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmmm not a good place to advertise for subs, can i advertise for any male subs , ho hum "

Interested but apparently I don't have a clue about these things.

To save me writing to everyone who has made a posting, do I have everyone's approval for this? I'd hate to do anything that someone didn't like or disprove of. Your guidance and approval means a lot more to me than my own pleasure.

I think the first thing I need to do is to know your entire sexual history. I want to meet every person you have met. It's important to me to know what they had for breakfast.

I hope I get a 100% approval else it's not going to happen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for a new subslut for training. Will begin online. Experience handy, but not essential ; )

You should be willing to be owned and do as you are told.

You will be set tasks which I expect to be completed. A couple of examples include wearing no knickers in public and writing secret filth on your body.

If you pass my exams you will be rewarded ; )

Apply within. X

Good luck mate. If you are ever in Glasgow I'll let you use and abuse some of my women.

Some women like to be sub. Some don't.

Quite a big scene in Glasgow so I understand. Do you get involved much?

crystal is the most important and precious thing in my life. The dom/dommes that we involve in our play all know and respect that."

I have absolutely no idea on the Dom/Sub scene although a little curious, but I like the sentiment if this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So to help any possible candidates.. can I ask a few things

1. will you be meeting them first for a social?

2. What will be expected of them on a social.?

3. How soon will you be expecting them to start submitting?

4. What experience do you have... Can they talk to previous subs etc.

Good luck xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about qualifying with a Domploma!"
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I want one!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think the op, has to be fair to anyone, answer any questions they are asked or take any advice, especially when it's not asked. Whether these questions are difficult, common practice or not. If it's his fun he can control it in whatever way he wants. If any girls go for it, that's their choice too. "

The OP is posting an ad for a sub to meet for ownership...it's only natural to me that questions should be asked to clarify exactly what is required/expected so a potential sub would know whether they want to respond. Looking solely at the thread and the OP's profile I would have plenty of questions should I be considering this ad seriously, one being where would he be planning to meet as he cannot accommodate...would he be expecting me to allow him into my home and to basically find me in a slave position ready for submission? The post does not give me enough information to know if I would be interested as my idea of submission could be very different to his, to yours, to Cali's, to Ruby's, etc.

I do agree that some people do jump on some posts in the forums with negative responses before they have had a chance to develop sometimes, but these kind of ads from 'Dom' men who expect every submissive woman to fall at their feet get a bit tedious (not necessarily on here but in general around the scene). I've had several messages from guys who assume because I am sub and they call themselves Dom that I should instantly send them my address and get the cuffs and paddles out ready for them to call round!

Some of the comments posted in the thread have had nothing to do with the original post, but seeing as the OP only came back to it to essentially say 'I've been in the scene for a while and don't care about anyone's opinions posted' tells me more that answering any question could do though!

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over a year ago

Cool. I don't disagree with anything you have said. Undoubtedly there will be questions for this and any other meets. But there's the choice to do so in private messages. What I didn't want to hear from other people was demands: you must do this/that. There is more polite way to ask for things rather than demands or what works for other people.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Gutted we missed this one!

Still it made amusing reading. Surely this thread had to have been started to induce the biggest response possible!

Surely as the request was made on a public forum any potential victims... Sorry... Sexy submissive women, are entitled to ask their questions in the same thread. After all they may believe they have found their very own Master!

Especially amusing were the posts defending the big bad Dom lol.

People... 'If' he's a Dom or she a Domme maybe they are quite capable of defending themselves.

If you don't want to get mocked then don't post on a public forum?!?

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By *ts artMan
over a year ago

Londonderry

Dear God the ignorance and lack of or thinking they know how it works of some posting in here really fecks Me off. I don't think it's to much to ask Of people to have at least the common sense to do a little Google research before commentimy.

Although it obvious that there are some you suffer from Jeremy Clarksonism

You know when they mistake an unthought through opinion as FFACT.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't have gotten so long if it had not been for me. It would have carried on with just one liners, jokes and more people joining in seeing there was an easy target.

If I see someone getting an unfair hard time I'll try and say something regardless if that person is able to handle themselves or not. I'm all for respecting views, not getting personal, having manners, etiquette, reading posts, not misinterpreting things, live and let live, debating things without just dismissing things with a one liner.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

I (F) am sub. J is switch. But as much as I love sub play I've found I can ONLY relax and be sub properly with people I trust 100%.

One is J. The other is my mistress. I can't truly relax with anyone else. That's not to say I don't enjoy BDSM play with other playmates but now I truly understand the difference

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over a year ago

"I (F) am sub. J is switch. But as much as I love sub play I've found I can ONLY relax and be sub properly with people I trust 100%.

One is J. The other is my mistress. I can't truly relax with anyone else. That's not to say I don't enjoy BDSM play with other playmates but now I truly understand the difference "

Any sub, male or female, needs to be in a position where they trust the Dom(me) they are with. The OP comes across as either very naive and/or inexperienced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger ran out of popcorn

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I found this thread intensely facinating. As someone who admits complete ignorance of the whole scene but has recently felt the desires its been a good read. So thanks to the op.. he may not have gotten the thread he wanted but its been my favourite so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X

There are those that switch I personally can't. Relinquishing control and the trust needed to do that is something I'm unable to do with playmates.

You are so correct we are both Switches but the thing that makes all and fails all is trust... without trust no nothing... Some many don't understand that it's not just whips, cuffs, chains and other naughty things but the main part of all is trust

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok I have a question for you experience Doms and subs;

In your opinion can the Dom and sub switch roles? The sub becoming the dom and vice versa and anyone had experience doing this? X

There are those that switch I personally can't. Relinquishing control and the trust needed to do that is something I'm unable to do with playmates.

You are a couple already in a trusting relationship. Exploring, pushing boundaries, switching roles etc has a different dynamic.

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