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Where Is The Line?

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By *rNSAFunFunFun OP   Man
over a year ago

and around

How do you seperate cheating from some of these swinging stories.?

I know this will open a can of worms but if as some stories go you hear, see, watch on video your partner fucking and they don't tell you is this not cheating even if you find it horny?

Or if after having a threesome they eventually tell you they had fucked before is this not deceitful?

I understand cheating is wrong but where is the line. It seams very thick with some peoples interpretations.

If I saw my gf sucking/fucking another guy yes I would get turned on. If I left it and she never told me in bed what was her purpose apart from cheating?

This clearly happens a lot I just don't know if I could trust my partner swingers or not if I found out she had kept something from me that I knew or had fucked without telling me I mean isn't telling/showing your partner the whole horny point??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of what you read is fantasy. Mr Notts says he would like to catch me sometimes but I know that in reality he wouldn't. I treat it as pillow talk and that's where it will stay for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not 100% clear on what you're saying but my definition of cheating is doing something that you know would hurt someone who loves you.

We play as a couple only, any message I send (f) or forum post I make he sees and vice versa, if I am with another man A will be inches away and vice versa.

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By *rNSAFunFunFun OP   Man
over a year ago

and around

Then clearly what you described is not cheating its open honest and even if apart you will both tell each other all! some stories on here clearly don't have these morales

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Then clearly what you described is not cheating its open honest and even if apart you will both tell each other all! some stories on here clearly don't have these morales"

I see what you're saying now.

I think as said above a lot of it is fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be cos i'm tired but i'm totally confused by this post!

Gonna crack open some red bull and re-read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It might be cos i'm tired but i'm totally confused by this post!

Gonna crack open some red bull and re-read!"
great idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference is in our case easy, we never play without the other being there, we get turned on by each other. I get turned on watching him and he feel the same abiout me.

I have no interest in any man emotionally apart from Mr Ldn, sex isnt emotional in every case but he knows I have no interest in any other man outside of swinging.

Why would I cheat when I can have two men at the same time and one of them is the man I love, nothing is better than that.

Its trust for us. we both trust each other not too and after 11 years of doing this neither of us have cheated.

Thats my pennies worth anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have some redbull advice. Never ever drink this and then have a double espresso. It does strange things to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's entirely possible for grey areas to be created by either real play or fantasy play and the fine line can be crossed. The trick is to accept that the grey areas were jointly created and deal with the 'cheating' as misunderstandings rather than being malicious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok - had my red bull and re-read!

If the OP is referring to 'stories' in the sense of fantasies and the kind of stuff you read in the relevant forum section - then you'll interpret them in whatever way you like, regardless of the intent of the poster.

If the OP classes 'stories' as general forum posts, profile content and descriptions of actual activities that have taken place - then i'd interpret it as anything that happens behind a partners back without their knowledge could be perceived as cheating - whether that was the intent or whether it was mere misunderstanding and lack of communication.

However - I don't recall any instances of the latter being prevalent on here, or in any interactions I've ever had myself. There seems to be plenty of the former going on though - be it deliberate posts in the 'stories and fantasies' section - or just possible fantasies and BS posts elsewhere in forums!

Back to my red bull!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's entirely possible for grey areas to be created by either real play or fantasy play and the fine line can be crossed. The trick is to accept that the grey areas were jointly created and deal with the 'cheating' as misunderstandings rather than being malicious.

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I feel that could be dodgy ground indeed. Could be fun admitted but could also backfire.

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By *anictechCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow - ish ;-)

If I saw my gf sucking/fucking another guy yes I would get turned on. If I left it and she never told me in bed what was her purpose apart from cheating?________________________

What about what you both disscussed? The bit about her sucking/fucking another man? Did you forget to disscuss that bit? This is Swinging...

This clearly happens a lot I just don't know if I could trust my partner swingers or not if I found out she had kept something from me that I knew or had fucked without telling me I mean isn't telling/showing your partner the whole horny point??

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Hell no, where is the dabbling if you tell your man/woman everything? Isnt the whole point of it to be a little different?

You either trust your love or not. There is no middle ground. If you cant trust? Swing is not for you, period!

Swing is an alternative to cheating.. With consent. XxX MT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you're on here as a single man, looking for couples/ladies. But you think that if your GIRLFRIEND had sex with someone else (without telling you) that would be cheating??

Look in a mirror.

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By *rNSAFunFunFun OP   Man
over a year ago

and around

I am not in a relationship so please don't judge I have not judged others I was asking what other people thought its a FORUM that is what its for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cheating and swinging have nothing to do with eachother, if you have discussed about your partner playing alone, with the possibilitie of you catching them at it, or that whenever it happens your partner tells you everything this is swinging and has nothing to do with cheating.

if you havent discussed it or your partner goes ahead and does it without your knowledge with no intention of ever telling you, this is cheating and has nothing to do with swinging.

swinging and cheating are 2 very different things and should never be linked together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowledge, participation and permission = swinging , anything else is cheating in our book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am not in a relationship so please don't judge I have not judged others I was asking what other people thought its a FORUM that is what its for. "

Your original post said "If I saw my gf sucking/fucking another guy...". I read this to mean that you have a girlfriend.

However, if she's an imaginary girlfriend, then I apologise.

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