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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where did you buy your pants from??

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yep I'm too fussy.... I know since I'm on here I should just shag any man that mails me......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In less than a week, we get enough messages to fill up a year of future meets.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some men probably think im too fussy, but its pointless having sex with men im not sure i like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry your not having much luck..

but some of us have standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah me to I'm not going to shag just anyone.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the wife don't fancy you she ain't going to shag you simples should hope you have standards too x

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By *eizvollWoman
over a year ago

in my own little world :-)


"Yep I'm too fussy.... I know since I'm on here I should just shag any man that mails me...... "

Didn't you read the small print when you signed up???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This isn't instashag.... People are allowed to be fussy n choose who they want to have sex with! I'm certainly not gonna fuck someone I don't want to!

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It pays to be fussy

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By *arthGMan
over a year ago

sidcup


"This isn't instashag.... People are allowed to be fussy n choose who they want to have sex with! I'm certainly not gonna fuck someone I don't want to!

Her "
does instashag exist ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

THIS is a free site you chosen to become a member stop complaining no one on here in the right mind is just going to jump in to bed with you because you think they are to fussy FFS wake up and smell the coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

no such thing as to fussy, you like what you like and you don't meet what you don't

im sure you have standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we r here to fulfill fantasies not meeet any crusty old bloke who says hi and also a lot of guys not so many cpls or fems so can be choosey its not fair but thats how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't recently just started reading the forums and joining the site, I wonder why people put posts like this up bemoaning the lack of meets, is it not counterproductive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't instashag.... People are allowed to be fussy n choose who they want to have sex with! I'm certainly not gonna fuck someone I don't want to!

Her does instashag exist ? "

Ooo I dunno get googling!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't recently just started reading the forums and joining the site, I wonder why people put posts like this up bemoaning the lack of meets, is it not counterproductive?"

Yep but it fills my block list up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!"

Well stick with the other site then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!"

And the question about your pants??

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Why shouldn't we be fussy just because we're swingers? I don;t want to shag someone that I don't find attractive - I have done so before and didn't enjoy it and disliked myself afterwards so don't plan on doing it again. Definte quality over quantity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

I totally agree. I am on to fulfil fantasies with the right people and most are not the right people. Some are on to shag the whole site that's up to them but it's not for me X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my eyebrows just did an impression of the pink panthers when i read this post

why on earth would anyone drop there standards to fuck people they dont consider attractive?

we have high standards and will never loosen them to give someone a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't we be fussy just because we're swingers? I don;t want to shag someone that I don't find attractive - I have done so before and didn't enjoy it and disliked myself afterwards so don't plan on doing it again. Definte quality over quantity "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my eyebrows just did an impression of the pink panthers when i read this post

why on earth would anyone drop there standards to fuck people they dont consider attractive?

we have high standards and will never loosen them to give someone a shag"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!"

Calm down?

As far as I can see no one has been aggressive just all can understand why people are fussy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't we be fussy just because we're swingers? I don;t want to shag someone that I don't find attractive - I have done so before and didn't enjoy it and disliked myself afterwards so don't plan on doing it again. Definte quality over quantity "

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!! "

If the other site works better for you, stick with that then.

But I wouldn't call people "fussy" just because they don't do as others do on other sites.

We're not sheep, lol. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!! "

Perhaps those on Fab just aren't that desperate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By *hoosy_strumpetCouple
over a year ago

W S AREA

Im fussy! and choosy!

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By *othingbetterthansexCouple
over a year ago

Accrington

We have a list of criteria. Firstly we need a potential meet to have read all of our profile and sent a message to us with more than "how's you"? Secondly they need to look half descent and thirdly they need to have a few verifications. Not being too fussy just don't want to end up meeting a weirdo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what i want and who i want...and will stay fussy until i get what i want...and i don't mind waiting for what i want.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

If a meet means I am inviting a stranger to my home and becoming as physically intimate as it gets with them, then you're DAMNED RIGHT -I'm bloody fussy! !

I do not:

shag anyone who messages

shag men who THINK they fit my criteria

shag men who just send a polite message and imagine that's all it takes

shag any man with a pulse

I shag who I find attractive and appealing.

Or perhaps I shoukd go with the flow and shag people I find unattractive and unappealing? ?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!"

Maybe standards are lower on the other site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wouldnt say standards are lower. Im sure the couples Ive met would love to hear that.

They are genuine, down to earth and fun.

I could take that the wrong way as ot sounds like you think the standards are lower as they agreed to meet me.

Im sure you didnt mean it that way!!???

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I wouldnt say standards are lower. Im sure the couples Ive met would love to hear that.

They are genuine, down to earth and fun.

I could take that the wrong way as ot sounds like you think the standards are lower as they agreed to meet me.

Im sure you didnt mean it that way!!???"

And maybe you weren't suggesting we lower our standards? Though that is how many have read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a list of criteria. Firstly we need a potential meet to have read all of our profile and sent a message to us with more than "how's you"? Secondly they need to look half descent and thirdly they need to have a few verifications. Not being too fussy just don't want to end up meeting a weirdo "

They could meet all your criteria and still be a weirdo. Sometimes you have to forget about people ticking certain boxes and go with your instincts. I agree it's better to follow certain basic rules but to many restricts your options and can increase your chances of meeting a sycophantic weirdo who tells you what you want to hear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know what i want and who i want...and will stay fussy until i get what i want...and i don't mind waiting for what i want. "

Good on you, but what if you find what you want, and they don't want you?? Sometimes people's expectations are unrealistic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a silly post, I feel this is just covert way of saying look at my profile. I'm not sure what the stats are but I'm guessing there are more single guys on here than anyone else, and they are in the lowest demand bracket. So unless you shine you won't get a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a silly post, I feel this is just covert way of saying look at my profile. I'm not sure what the stats are but I'm guessing there are more single guys on here than anyone else, and they are in the lowest demand bracket. So unless you shine you won't get a meet. "

I disagree, perhaps from his point of view he was making a valid point, you don't know who he has been messaging or chatting to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a silly post, I feel this is just covert way of saying look at my profile. I'm not sure what the stats are but I'm guessing there are more single guys on here than anyone else, and they are in the lowest demand bracket. So unless you shine you won't get a meet.

I disagree, perhaps from his point of view he was making a valid point, you don't know who he has been messaging or chatting to."

Yes but the simple mathmatics of it say its going to be more difficult for single guys to meet people. To say people are too fussy is daft. There is a lot of choice and people rightly so attempt to find exactly who they want. I stand by its a "look at me" statement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a silly post, I feel this is just covert way of saying look at my profile. I'm not sure what the stats are but I'm guessing there are more single guys on here than anyone else, and they are in the lowest demand bracket. So unless you shine you won't get a meet.

I disagree, perhaps from his point of view he was making a valid point, you don't know who he has been messaging or chatting to.

Yes but the simple mathmatics of it say its going to be more difficult for single guys to meet people. To say people are too fussy is daft. There is a lot of choice and people rightly so attempt to find exactly who they want. I stand by its a "look at me" statement "

Fair enough, I think he may have been over generalising, but tbh I think some people on here are to fussy, and totally unrealistic in their expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

"

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does that prove? Nothing whatsoever."

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the guy has made a mistake taking out this post.

If you/we are not having meets, or responses to mail, it's just best to accept it. Taking out a post like this, highlighting the fact, will not do you any favours. As you can see, it will get womens backs up and they will line up against what you are saying.

Indeed, theres nothing wrong with standards and for women only wanting to meet men they feel attracted to. I'd expect nothing less.

Despite myself thinking that it was a mistake making the post and not entirely agreeing with everything he says, I can still see his line of thought. I can't really stand back and watch people having a go and for me to say nothing.

There are some photogenic women that I'd expect to meet equally attractive guys.

I've been on and off here for 5 years. From day one I noticed that because the number of men outnumber women 50/1, women who have completely let themselves go physically and seem very obese and make very little effort on their appearance mostly want fit guys with six packs and with model looks. Because of the shortage of men, and with most men any hole is a goal and the support and friendships with other women, this seems the done thing, with some women.

It works both ways, I'm aware of the rare breed of fussy men too, and women being vindictive through a 'no thanks' in a mail. It's never a good idea to complain publicly.

I would advise the op to drop the matter. You have made your point and will only drag the problem on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I'm too fussy.... I know since I'm on here I should just shag any man that mails me...... "

I ain't saying you should shag anyone. Just me will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the guy has made a mistake taking out this post.

If you/we are not having meets, or responses to mail, it's just best to accept it. Taking out a post like this, highlighting the fact, will not do you any favours. As you can see, it will get womens backs up and they will line up against what you are saying.

Indeed, theres nothing wrong with standards and for women only wanting to meet men they feel attracted to. I'd expect nothing less.

Despite myself thinking that it was a mistake making the post and not entirely agreeing with everything he says, I can still see his line of thought. I can't really stand back and watch people having a go and for me to say nothing.

There are some photogenic women that I'd expect to meet equally attractive guys.

I've been on and off here for 5 years. From day one I noticed that because the number of men outnumber women 50/1, women who have completely let themselves go physically and seem very obese and make very little effort on their appearance mostly want fit guys with six packs and with model looks. Because of the shortage of men, and with most men any hole is a goal and the support and friendships with other women, this seems the done thing, with some women.

It works both ways, I'm aware of the rare breed of fussy men too, and women being vindictive through a 'no thanks' in a mail. It's never a good idea to complain publicly.

I would advise the op to drop the matter. You have made your point and will only drag the problem on. "

Well said,

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows "

That's my point - who knows? But to say that women are too fussy on here - what does that mean? We should just shag men who think we SHOULD shag them or we are being 'fussy'?

The wording of the op is manipulative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does

that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows

That's my point - who knows? But to say that women are too fussy on here - what does that mean? We should just shag men who think we SHOULD shag them or we are being 'fussy'?

The wording of the op is manipulative. "

I disagree, if you re read the OP he says that in his experience some women, not all are fussy, and in my experience he is right. As a previous post has suggested some women and some men have higher expectations than are realistically achievable. This could be due to less than fussy men who will fuck anyone which leads to some people expecting a 'higher calibre' of men that in normal circumstances they would not get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

Fussy ????? Too damn right i am fussy and mega so, i know what i like and i know exactly what i dont like and i wont be swayed.....OK

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does

that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows

That's my point - who knows? But to say that women are too fussy on here - what does that mean? We should just shag men who think we SHOULD shag them or we are being 'fussy'?

The wording of the op is manipulative.

I disagree, if you re read the OP he says that in his experience some women, not all are fussy, and in my experience he is right. As a previous post has suggested some women and some men have higher expectations than are realistically achievable. This could be due to less than fussy men who will fuck anyone which leads to some people expecting a 'higher calibre' of men that in normal circumstances they would not get"

I appreciate what you say but the final line is clearly addressed to all. Yes, some people may be deemed to have 'unrealistic' expectations. But who decides that? The op? Why?

I know exactly what I want and do not appreciate being told to 'relax' and 'go with the flow', or, in other words, 'If I message you, say yes, or you are just being fussy'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My name says it all!!!

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


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It works both ways, I'm aware of the rare breed of fussy men too, and women being vindictive through a 'no thanks' in a mail. It's never a good idea to complain publicly.

I would advise the op to drop the matter. You have made your point and will only drag the problem on. "

Sorry but I can't see what's vindictive about a no thanks mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does

that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows

That's my point - who knows? But to say that women are too fussy on here - what does that mean? We should just shag men who think we SHOULD shag them or we are being 'fussy'?

The wording of the op is manipulative.

I disagree, if you re read the OP he says that in his experience some women, not all are fussy, and in my experience he is right. As a previous post has suggested some women and some men have higher expectations than are realistically achievable. This could be due to less than fussy men who will fuck anyone which leads to some people expecting a 'higher calibre' of men that in normal circumstances they would not get

I appreciate what you say but the final line is clearly addressed to all. Yes, some people may be deemed to have 'unrealistic' expectations. But who decides that? The op? Why?

I know exactly what I want and do not appreciate being told to 'relax' and 'go with the flow', or, in other words, 'If I message you, say yes, or you are just being fussy'."

It's an open forum, he isn't talking directly to you, or anyone, its a general statement. if you have taken offence to what he has said then its down to your own interpretation only he knows what his intentions were. My interpretation is different, I agree with what he has to say, maybe I would have worded it differently though, but as a single guy on here some women are to fussy,

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

I had exactly the same profile on TWO other sites and met two from one and just one from the other. I've met many, many more from here. What does

that prove? Nothing whatsoever.

It could prove that the men are less fussy on here!! Or perhaps your less fussy on here, who knows

That's my point - who knows? But to say that women are too fussy on here - what does that mean? We should just shag men who think we SHOULD shag them or we are being 'fussy'?

The wording of the op is manipulative.

I disagree, if you re read the OP he says that in his experience some women, not all are fussy, and in my experience he is right. As a previous post has suggested some women and some men have higher expectations than are realistically achievable. This could be due to less than fussy men who will fuck anyone which leads to some people expecting a 'higher calibre' of men that in normal circumstances they would not get

I appreciate what you say but the final line is clearly addressed to all. Yes, some people may be deemed to have 'unrealistic' expectations. But who decides that? The op? Why?

I know exactly what I want and do not appreciate being told to 'relax' and 'go with the flow', or, in other words, 'If I message you, say yes, or you are just being fussy'.

It's an open forum, he isn't talking directly to you, or anyone, its a general statement. if you have taken offence to what he has said then its down to your own interpretation only he knows what his intentions were. My interpretation is different, I agree with what he has to say, maybe I would have worded it differently though, but as a single guy on here some women are to fussy, "

He was talking to 'people' and, as you say, he was posting on an open forum. He was addressing US - all of us - which includes me, surely. I have not in the least taken offence - but I do believe that he is trying to manipulate. Absolutely without doubt in my mind.

I find the original post to be odd at least.

What does 'go with the flow' mean? He has yet to elucidate. Therefore, it has been up to US, the 'people' he is addressing, to determine what we believe he is doing or saying.

That is what I have determined. People may agree or disagree with my interpretation - but it is still my interpretation until there is clarification of his true intentions.

Yours,

Fussy Cow Here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all."

You begin by saying you have had no luck and end with 'relax people'. You chuck in the phrase 'some people' to somehow qualify or excuse what you are saying. I don't buy it and nor, from the many responses on here, do a lot of other people.

Generic terms tend to be interpreted in varied ways - and that is what you got. Politics has little of anything to do with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all."

I agree, you can't please everyone, all I will say is that if it has offended people , they have to ask themselves why?? Some women can be fussy on here because some men allow them to, in the 'real' world they wouldn't have such high expectations. My theory anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

Some guys think because we are single women here we should shag anything. I'm afraid very fussy here.. You got to look like the kinda of guy I want to lick ice cream off. Mind you what's my hot tottie might be someone elses 'No thanks pass'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

You begin by saying you have had no luck and end with 'relax people'. You chuck in the phrase 'some people' to somehow qualify or excuse what you are saying. I don't buy it and nor, from the many responses on here, do a lot of other people.

Generic terms tend to be interpreted in varied ways - and that is what you got. Politics has little of anything to do with it."

Why does it upset you so much?? There must be a reason??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read it as he found it easier on another site, and us ladies on this site are too fussy.

Maybe the other site has less options so do have lower standards

I for one, am fussy and I disagree that my standards/fussi'ness is unrealistic.

I turn down more than I could ever meet in my lifetime and meet those I want.

Fabs has a wealth of excellent single men and I have never had a problem arranging meets Now time to meet everyone or too sleep is another matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read it as he found it easier on another site, and us ladies on this site are too fussy.

Maybe the other site has less options so do have lower standards

I for one, am fussy and I disagree that my standards/fussi'ness is unrealistic.

I turn down more than I could ever meet in my lifetime and meet those I want.

Fabs has a wealth of excellent single men and I have never had a problem arranging meets Now time to meet everyone or too sleep is another matter "

Are you as successful with the opposite sex in the 'real' world??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

I agree, you can't please everyone, all I will say is that if it has offended people , they have to ask themselves why?? Some women can be fussy on here because some men allow them to, in the 'real' world they wouldn't have such high expectations. My theory anyway "

Lol who's offended?

In the real world?? well personally I meet people from here in the real world and if you mean outside of swinging. Well outside of swinging I am so much more fussy. Because 6 hours of sex is one thing but something longer term, well that needs to be absolute gold dust

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Sorry, but I'm confused. Is there a pre-requisite for joining a swingers site that you have to shag anything and everything?

Sorry I thought it was impossible to be attracted to everyone.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield


"Im fussy! and choosy! "

And ur a strumpet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is fun. Lots of different opinions. Some agree, some dont.

I dont get how its manipulative though!!

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By *ach3Man
over a year ago

Watford


"In less than a week, we get enough messages to fill up a year of future meets."

I think some people forget this, that they aren 't likely to be the only ones messaging or dare I say it winking - especially single males.

Whilst personality is just as important, how a person scrubs up is likely to be the deal breaker.

I to am very fussy and as per previous comments am proud to be - I also have a life outside of fabs and so 'quality over quantity' is my moto too.

As also mentioned, not forgetting this is a free site - the number of single men in here is likely to be very high and whilst there will be a proportion of time wasters it also means a lot of competition - so yes standards will be high and so they should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never stop being fussy sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a silly post, I feel this is just covert way of saying look at my profile. I'm not sure what the stats are but I'm guessing there are more single guys on here than anyone else, and they are in the lowest demand bracket. So unless you shine you won't get a meet.

I disagree, perhaps from his point of view he was making a valid point, you don't know who he has been messaging or chatting to.

Yes but the simple mathmatics of it say its going to be more difficult for single guys to meet people. To say people are too fussy is daft. There is a lot of choice and people rightly so attempt to find exactly who they want. I stand by its a "look at me" statement "

I agree with this,but why didn't he put his sunday undercrackers on in his profile pic tut tut school boy error

as for being picky imo ladies and gents have every right to be picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

If a meet means I am inviting a stranger to my home and becoming as physically intimate as it gets with them, then you're DAMNED RIGHT -I'm bloody fussy! !

I do not:

shag anyone who messages

shag men who THINK they fit my criteria

shag men who just send a polite message and imagine that's all it takes

shag any man with a pulse

I shag who I find attractive and appealing.

Or perhaps I shoukd go with the flow and shag people I find unattractive and unappealing? ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

It works both ways, I'm aware of the rare breed of fussy men too, and women being vindictive through a 'no thanks' in a mail. It's never a good idea to complain publicly.

I would advise the op to drop the matter. You have made your point and will only drag the problem on.

Sorry but I can't see what's vindictive about a no thanks mail "

Theres nothing wrong or vindirective about a no thanks mail. When I wrote that comment I was thinking of some women that I have been told about, and witnessed myself and with women I know, who have went berserk after they have received a polite no thanks mail, from fussy men. And these women have gone become very vindictive. In order for me to say more I'd need to start disclosing names and giving the details. about about the threats and abuse these women gave.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Another fussy biatch here and wont be changing anytime soon!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

no such thing as "too fussy....."

why would lower what standard you have in other place just because you are here!!!

just because people here like sex, it doesn't mean they like sex with just "any person".......

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"

It works both ways, I'm aware of the rare breed of fussy men too, and women being vindictive through a 'no thanks' in a mail. It's never a good idea to complain publicly.

I would advise the op to drop the matter. You have made your point and will only drag the problem on.

Sorry but I can't see what's vindictive about a no thanks mail

Theres nothing wrong or vindirective about a no thanks mail. When I wrote that comment I was thinking of some women that I have been told about, and witnessed myself and with women I know, who have went berserk after they have received a polite no thanks mail, from fussy men. And these women have gone become very vindictive. In order for me to say more I'd need to start disclosing names and giving the details. about about the threats and abuse these women gave. "

I know what you mean about threats and abuse from people you say a polite 'no thanks' to. Happens to me regularly. But not from women.

It happens - because there are vile people out there. Gender is irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It not about being fussy, its about making a choice.

We choose who we play with, not close our eyes and do anyone. We are still friendly, but like clubs we reserve the right to say NO! lol xx

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

You begin by saying you have had no luck and end with 'relax people'. You chuck in the phrase 'some people' to somehow qualify or excuse what you are saying. I don't buy it and nor, from the many responses on here, do a lot of other people.

Generic terms tend to be interpreted in varied ways - and that is what you got. Politics has little of anything to do with it.

Why does it upset you so much?? There must be a reason??"

I have checked back and am certain that I have not said that it did upset me. So, therefore, cannot answer that question.

What I am doing is arguing a point - strenuously, as that is the kind of person I am.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It not about being fussy, its about making a choice.

We choose who we play with, not close our eyes and do anyone. We are still friendly, but like clubs we reserve the right to say NO! lol xx"

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There is no such thing as 'too fussy' when it comes to having sex. I am going to be very discerning when choosing who sees me naked, and very fussy indeed when it comes to choosing who sees my 'O' face!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the wife don't fancy you she ain't going to shag you simples should hope you have standards too x "

Got to agree we dnt just shag any one

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

If a meet means I am inviting a stranger to my home and becoming as physically intimate as it gets with them, then you're DAMNED RIGHT -I'm bloody fussy! !

I do not:

shag anyone who messages

shag men who THINK they fit my criteria

shag men who just send a polite message and imagine that's all it takes

shag any man with a pulse

I shag who I find attractive and appealing.

Or perhaps I shoukd go with the flow and shag people I find unattractive and unappealing? ?"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I know what you mean about threats and abuse from people you say a polite 'no thanks' to. Happens to me regularly. But not from women.

It happens - because there are vile people out there. Gender is irrelevant."

Exactly, I've said the same thing myself many times on here (in the Scotland forum), but when I have done it's met with disbelief. Almost everyone denying any vileness.

Anyway, these type of posts are done all the time.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!! "

Only a matter of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!! "

the real world.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with you there gemma

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Scorpiogirl25.....

Best reply so far. You sound like a really nice person and make sense. Not offended at all.

Pity you are so far away.

Thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't we be fussy just because we're swingers? I don;t want to shag someone that I don't find attractive - I have done so before and didn't enjoy it and disliked myself afterwards so don't plan on doing it again. Definte quality over quantity "

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!! "

One or two, phrased differently!

In the real world I get abuse shouted at me in the street by brave souls driving past.

I'm happy to stick to cyberspace thanks.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!!

One or two, phrased differently!

In the real world I get abuse shouted at me in the street by brave souls driving past.

I'm happy to stick to cyberspace thanks."

I get young men in Scout uniforms offering to help me across the street.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!!

One or two, phrased differently!

In the real world I get abuse shouted at me in the street by brave souls driving past.

I'm happy to stick to cyberspace thanks.

I get young men in Scout uniforms offering to help me across the street. "

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

no such thing as to fussy, you like what you like and you don't meet what you don't

im sure you have standards?"

i"m sure your wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This isn't instashag.... People are allowed to be fussy n choose who they want to have sex with! I'm certainly not gonna fuck someone I don't want to!

Her "
is instashag a. Com or. Co.uk i cant seem to find it online

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!!

One or two, phrased differently!

In the real world I get abuse shouted at me in the street by brave souls driving past.

I'm happy to stick to cyberspace thanks.

I get young men in Scout uniforms offering to help me across the street. "

How young are we talking here.... *wonders if you get 20 year old scouts *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lesson learned for other guys thinking of making a similar post or complaining:

It's a novel idea but it's new to me- a woman has the right to chose who she has sex with.

Could it be a side effect of porn and how women are portrayed, that all women should be sexually available at all times to all men.

I'm sure there are women on some sites who are not fussy- prostitutes.

I don't know what some of these women are expecting. Next you'll be wanting vote

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Has anyone bitter and dejected said the ubiquitous "they wouldn't get a look in in the real world" yet?!!

One or two, phrased differently!

In the real world I get abuse shouted at me in the street by brave souls driving past.

I'm happy to stick to cyberspace thanks.

I get young men in Scout uniforms offering to help me across the street.

How young are we talking here.... *wonders if you get 20 year old scouts *"

They tend to wear knee socks, are generally quite short and have high-pitched voices.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I don't know what some of these women are expecting. Next you'll be wanting vote "

Look at how much grief we're still getting for that!!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"Scorpiogirl25.....

Best reply so far. You sound like a really nice person and make sense. Not offended at all.

Pity you are so far away.

Thanks xx"

Even if she's just around the corner doesn't mean......ah nevermind!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area


"This isn't instashag.... People are allowed to be fussy n choose who they want to have sex with! I'm certainly not gonna fuck someone I don't want to!

Her is instashag a. Com or. Co.uk i cant seem to find it online "

It's been replaced by anyholesagoal.com

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"

They tend to wear knee socks, are generally quite short and have high-pitched voices. "

Ah! Bit like some of the blokes on here then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know what some of these women are expecting. Next you'll be wanting vote

Look at how much grief we're still getting for that!! "

I wasn't aware of much grief, quite the opposite. It's a common saying that if more women were in charge we might have had less wars with gun-ho men. Look at Bush. America's never had a female with the top job. Yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quality over quantity, and very fussy here! Hence I have only met twice this year!

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

Maybe us females can set up a pity fuck rota so those guys who haven't been able to find a successful strategy, to meet ladies, at least have a chance to get their leg over even if there is no mutual attraction! Also means us ladies could put voluntary work on our CV's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

It works both ways too. I have had a few meet invites but if I don't like the look of the lady or the husband looks like he will be aggressive then I will not meet up. Just because they have orifices I can't just turn on my body to that, I have to have chemistry. I agree its a sex site but if you don't fancy them it won't happen. Gangbangs are a tad more impersonal and it seems that the primal fever takes over at those types of gigs

Be relaxed and patient there is a match for everyone I'm sure , if not take a break and come back often that works

N

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By * Busty HotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Bradford


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

Exactly-amen!

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why wouldnt i be fussy i didnt shag everything with a pulse before i joined here so why change cos im a swinger. i have standards and respect myself too much to just shag anyone who says hello.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

You begin by saying you have had no luck and end with 'relax people'. You chuck in the phrase 'some people' to somehow qualify or excuse what you are saying. I don't buy it and nor, from the many responses on here, do a lot of other people.

Generic terms tend to be interpreted in varied ways - and that is what you got. Politics has little of anything to do with it.

Why does it upset you so much?? There must be a reason??

I have checked back and am certain that I have not said that it did upset me. So, therefore, cannot answer that question.

What I am doing is arguing a point - strenuously, as that is the kind of person I am."

And what is your point ? I don't think the OP was suggesting all women are too fussy, in fact he states that in his experience some women are, which is true. Fab has created a false enviroment for ' some' women, as mentioned before there are something like 50 men for every women, which is not a true reflection of 'real' life. This means women in here can be more choosey, and perhaps , dare I say it, are punching above their weight. As for those who are looking for the perfect person, and what compromise, good luck to them, but it's naive to think you can find 'exactly' what you want in here. Also why do people feel the need to put that they are choose yams fussy on their profiles, is it really necessary??

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Maybe us females can set up a pity fuck rota so those guys who haven't been able to find a successful strategy, to meet ladies, at least have a chance to get their leg over even if there is no mutual attraction! Also means us ladies could put voluntary work on our CV's "

I think thats a brilliant idea and i would be willing to volunteer myself as a guinea pig to make sure the system is working flawlessly before it its rolled out across the board.

Tough job but hey thats the kind of guy i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks folks.

Yes, I do have standards.

Just sayin that on the other site I got more replies and messages and its exactly the same profile, words and pics.

Calm down people!!!!!!!!

And to the first reply...............

Cant say, you wouldnt like it!!!

Well stick with the other site then "

Damn beat me to it lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No complaints here and pays to be very selective......as proved completely right and the best experience ever.....gets better everytime as trust builds.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

SPOT ON

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great place to come for help or advice lol. Stick at it little buddy it will all come good in the end lmao

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!!

SPOT ON "

how the hell can a girl be to fussy if she doesn't fancy you should she just lie back and think of England just to please you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such thing as too fussy! Everyone likes what they like. I'm not going to meet /have sex with someone just because they tell me they want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a difference between fussy and having standards. If going by looking a being fussy means you only like men who are built like rugby players. Standards mean you just find them good looking. There are lots of fussy women on here, but they are attractive enough and have the personality to be as fussy as they want. Some are genuine though and have standards and as long as you are decent, non pushy and aren't a munter. You should get somewhere with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fussy and proud of it here!

I know it is a sex site, but that doesnt mean I have to shag everyone on it - I still have standards!"

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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago

Chester

I am absolutely shocked and disgusted to find out that most if not all women on here are fussy and won't just shag anything. I think Admin should been informed about this immediately, pmsl

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

you can never be tooooo fussy

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

im very fussy and picky..

But I think many join this site thinking its a guarantee that they're going to have sex with anyone they message...

how wrong can they be - soooo disillusioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Def not a look at me statement.

Ive met people.

I was just thinking that I got quite a few replies from the other site and not many on here with exactly the same profile.

"

But we're not the same people are we? Everyone is individual. It doesn't matter if the same profile has worked on other sites, if you think you meet others' criteria or even if the profile was written by George Clooney, if you message and people are not interested, they won't meet you.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"

no such thing as to fussy, you like what you like and you don't meet what you don't

im sure you have standards?"

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By *hrisBlkGuyMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"im very fussy and picky..

But I think many join this site thinking its a guarantee that they're going to have sex with anyone they message...

how wrong can they be - soooo disillusioned"

Too right... unfortunately lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"There is a difference between fussy and having standards. If going by looking a being fussy means you only like men who are built like rugby players. Standards mean you just find them good looking. There are lots of fussy women on here, but they are attractive enough and have the personality to be as fussy as they want. Some are genuine though and have standards and as long as you are decent, non pushy and aren't a munter. You should get somewhere with them."

One of the most ridiculous posts I've read.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"you can never be tooooo fussy "

You can if you're a munter allegedly. It must be heartbreaking for the Adonis' to be turned down ny these said munters.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"im very fussy and picky..

But I think many join this site thinking its a guarantee that they're going to have sex with anyone they message...

how wrong can they be - soooo disillusioned"

Especially when they think they're the dog's bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I'm fussy and what??? I don't drop my knicks for just anyone... I ain't here to shag my way through all the guys that message me!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you can never be tooooo fussy

You can if you're a munter allegedly. It must be heartbreaking for the Adonis' to be turned down ny these said munters. "

Then you get the inevitable and ever so well thought out "didn't want to shag you anyway fatty" message. Thats my favourite one for a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I'm fussy and what??? I don't drop my knicks for just anyone... I ain't here to shag my way through all the guys that message me!! "

I hope you'll drop them for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

You begin by saying you have had no luck and end with 'relax people'. You chuck in the phrase 'some people' to somehow qualify or excuse what you are saying. I don't buy it and nor, from the many responses on here, do a lot of other people.

Generic terms tend to be interpreted in varied ways - and that is what you got. Politics has little of anything to do with it.

Why does it upset you so much?? There must be a reason??

I have checked back and am certain that I have not said that it did upset me. So, therefore, cannot answer that question.

What I am doing is arguing a point - strenuously, as that is the kind of person I am.

And what is your point ? I don't think the OP was suggesting all women are too fussy, in fact he states that in his experience some women are, which is true. Fab has created a false enviroment for ' some' women, as mentioned before there are something like 50 men for every women, which is not a true reflection of 'real' life. This means women in here can be more choosey, and perhaps , dare I say it, are punching above their weight. As for those who are looking for the perfect person, and what compromise, good luck to them, but it's naive to think you can find 'exactly' what you want in here. Also why do people feel the need to put that they are choose yams fussy on their profiles, is it really necessary?? "

I find your thinking quite flawed.

For starters how many forum posts have you seen with woman moaning they can't find the guy they want? I've never seen one. So guess that would indicate altho some woman are too fussy they still manage to find what they are after!

As for the real life statements.. It has no relevence to this site as woman can find what they want on here.. And if this site gives them what they want then who gives a monkeys about what happens in pubs etc..

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

There is at time a serious lack of self awareness amongst certain quarters on this site.

Its a similar attitude you seen in some (poor) clubs, guys with the "ive paid my money where are my shags" attitude.

often you're being invited to share someone who is already in a happy relationship and is doing this as an added bonus, so in that case why would you be shagging all and sundry ? Surely the idea is quality not quantity.

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By *icked kittyCouple
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Kitty said , trade discription and all that, if you were a real leeds rhino she would not be too fussy lol. (only joking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ffs is this still going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I'm fussy and what??? I don't drop my knicks for just anyone... I ain't here to shag my way through all the guys that message me!!

I hope you'll drop them for me "

None can do... I go commando!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I'm fussy and what??? I don't drop my knicks for just anyone... I ain't here to shag my way through all the guys that message me!!

I hope you'll drop them for me

None can do... I go commando! "

Does that mean you're a very tough and skilful person when you're out and when you're out. You wear a black bodywarmer, a little bit of black face paint and you hold a machine gun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is at time a serious lack of self awareness amongst certain quarters on this site.

Its a similar attitude you seen in some (poor) clubs, guys with the "ive paid my money where are my shags" attitude.

often you're being invited to share someone who is already in a happy relationship and is doing this as an added bonus, so in that case why would you be shagging all and sundry ? Surely the idea is quality not quantity.

"

Sounds spot on for us, it is a case of everyone being attracted for us anyway. Any cock just won't do, I like to say who for a reason. Not just lay back and take one, quality over quantity every time x x

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By *he MuncherMan
over a year ago

Dundee

Are some females "Fussy" yes Is it wrong NO, The big problem is that everyone and i include myself has their own wants and wishes on a site like this.

If and i do mean IF their is any problem it would seem to be a simple lack of communication (and a bit of bad profiling on this site) I just don't think it's a lack of self awareness, more a lack of saying just what your after in your profile and trying to meet those who just don't want to meet you.

As for the attitude that some seem to have experienced, i can say in over a year on here i have only blocked 5 or 6 people.

Certainly i have never been treated to a lot of bad attitudes and most in my area will tell you that if i get a no thanks i take it well (Unlike some i am told) I do think we all need to take a chill pill relax and be more accurate and Yes even realistic, but that said EVERYONE has the right to say No Thanks.

Anyway you slice it this site and the others like it out there are all about having fun....Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choosing who you want to have sex with isn't being fussy, it's not even about standards it's just about who you want or don't want to have sex with!

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By *erendipity99Woman
over a year ago

Runcorn


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

So I should go with the flow and shag anybody who asks me? We are ALL fussy in who we meet. We ALL have preferences including yourself OP. Too many people think this site is called instantshag or shagsrus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since joining the site I havent had any luck.

Views? Yes

Messages? Yes.

Still waiting for a meet.

The only meets I have had are from another site where I have exactly the same profile.

Met one couple socially and another for fun.

I think some people, not everyone, are a little too fussy.

relax people and go with the flow!!!! "

Why should I be less fussy?

What are your justifications for this request?

Or is it a case of I'm female and on a swinging site, therefore I should have no standards and put my personal preferences on hold and shag everyone and anyone that messages me?

Thanks for your advice, but I'm going to stick with my right to be as fussy as I like.

Enjoy the site & happy swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just like a politician, some people only take in the bit they want to.

I did say some, not all.

I agree, you can't please everyone, all I will say is that if it has offended people , they have to ask themselves why?? Some women can be fussy on here because some men allow them to, in the 'real' world they wouldn't have such high expectations. My theory anyway "

My expectations in the real world and on here are ideticical, why would I have different preferences?

I would not agree to meet someone on here that I wouldn't agree to meet in the real world & vice versa.

Does that make me fussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's any such thing as being 'too fussy'... why settle for anything less than what you want/like/desire? No point in sex for the sake of it - I would consider that to be selling myself cheap, so to speak

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I don't think there's any such thing as being 'too fussy'... why settle for anything less than what you want/like/desire? No point in sex for the sake of it - I would consider that to be selling myself cheap, so to speak "

your not selling yourself cheap if I remember correctly you've turned down my offer of £3.50 a old Spanish 10 peseta and my favourite beano comic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Choosing who you want to have sex with isn't being fussy, it's not even about standards it's just about who you want or don't want to have sex with! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being fat and fifty, i cant be too fussy, but i am fussy enough not to want to have sex with everyone who messages me, even if i had the time.

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