FabSwingers.com forum: pm's

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now this is not a rant, more a question of sorts.

I get my fair share of pm's. Mostly from forumites which I enjoy, the banter ;-D

This last weekend was well

It started with a male that contacted me.

I checked the profile, saw something I didn't like so declined on that basis.

He then removed it, and as if I never saw it came back to me. Bare faced liar, so yes we get those.

Then I got another one, different member. Again I looked at profile, decided I wasn't interested, politely declined and they came back with 'I'm looking for friends, I'm so lonely, my brothers just died!!' Not exact words, but the message did contain those words.

It did get me thinking though. What if that is true? I personally wouldn't be looking on these sorts of sites but I do chat with a variety of people and am usually happy too. These 2 messages though have really made me stop and think. I didn't respond any further to either of the above but I'm thinking I should (to the second)as if they are really just trying to reach out and make new friends, I'd be the biggest biatch ever to ignore it

you can shoot now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would u be looking on a site for friends?

Sounds like he just wanted to get u chatting in the hope you couldn't resist his 12" cock.. I've had simular

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It's amazing how when you decline someone for a specific reason - be that something you've read/seen on their profile - how often it suddenly vanishes, pending a shiny new message in the inbox days/weeks later!

I often think people assume everyone's memory is so bad that they wouldn't recall the original message.

Hence why in these circumstances we now block straight away! Doesn't stop the occasional 'new profile' with familiar pics and message style - but if someone's using the same photos it's usually surprisingly easy to spot!

Memory of an elephant, me!

(A)

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By *slands ExoticMan
over a year ago

stowe

Personally i think its BS...id it were true why would u be on here?? I must rant and say bc of saddo single men like the sort it makes it extremely difdicult for us genuine guys looking for meets!!

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

OP are you on here cos you have a burning ambition to be an agony aunt? The only person you owe anything to is yourself. If these people really do have personal problems, to be brutal, that is for them to deal with. If you wanted that sort of baggage I'm sure you wouldn't have joined this particular site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP are you on here cos you have a burning ambition to be an agony aunt? The only person you owe anything to is yourself. If these people really do have personal problems, to be brutal, that is for them to deal with. If you wanted that sort of baggage I'm sure you wouldn't have joined this particular site. "

You need to start getting straight to the point Ellie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm no agony aunt, however, I am a sociable person & chat with people (even on here) that are/become friends, without sex on the horizon.

The member, that apparently has suffered a family loss, isn't a newbie, and I dont know.

The cynic in me thinks BS, but a part of me thinks what would it hurt for me to chat with him?

I almost reported the message, but for what? There isn't a 'pulling at the heart strings filter'

I know it's likely a line, but what a line

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

In the last week I have had several guys, who I have exchanged messages with although they aren't what I'm looking for, asking me to advise them where they are going wrong as they haven't had much luck. One even asked if I would mind having sex with him to see if he was okay at it!

My last post might have sounded harsh but as a single female you could end up spending so much time trying to be nice and being supportive you loose sight and time for what you want.

I am also a very sociable person and am happy to exchange messages with people but not have baggage as part of that. Harsh. Probably or maybe I'm just big and ugly enough to admit that I'm on here for me.

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