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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Stay away from or play I'm married myself and NSF is defo the thing for me how about anyone else

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we personally stay away from but then we don't moralize

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We personally choose to stay away from married people who are playing without their partners knowledge....

We really don't want to be caught up in any mess should there be one....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from - I really don't fancy being named in divorce proceedings or want an angry wife turning up on my doorstep...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from married guys where the partner don't know don't want to be part of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away from...that's just my choice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do u not think married guys would keep it strictly fun where a single guy may may not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always stay away from married guys.. Women punch harder and fight dirtier than us men!!

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

stay away from here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. Thanks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do u not think married guys would keep it strictly fun where a single guy may may not"

not necessarily...

weave nothing against meeting married people as such...we're not in any position to moralise to be honest but often find meets more difficult to organise because of time restrictions and end up getting cancelled more often.,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've...fecking auto correct...weave? seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a married woman who doesnt want to meet married men, because I feel its too complicated fitting in meets between 2 marriages. Ive been told its doublestandards in previous subjects similar to this. I have met a married man before - my mistake I didnt read his profile properly and will admit to wanting to meet a guy on here who is married and he me but it wont happen because its too complicated. Awaiting lynch mob now lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if your married and cheating how can it possibly be nsa or nsf as theres always strings there, it is not swinging by any definition so most definatly stay away, avoid at all costs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do u not think married guys would keep it strictly fun where a single guy may may not"

Nope - I think the thought of someone's wife sitting at home whilst they're fucking me is as big a turn off as Ann Widdecombe.

I also don't consider it fun to think of my neighbours' being party to a slanging match on my doorstep should the wife find out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I thought this site was for guys and girls to find fun sexually be it single or married

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By *olfgangvwMan
over a year ago

Mansfield

I'm married and bi and, no, my wife doesn't know. It seems to me that single women and couples tend to stay away from married guys but other bi guys and gay guys tend to be more attracted to married guys! That's my experience! Any thoughts?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness."

....until your domestic situation lands on my door......as it has done to various people over my time on swinging sites....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I thought this site was for guys and girls to find fun sexually be it single or married"

No darling, this is a site for swingers. And as I've said previously, my idea of fun isn't being named in divorce papers/ having an angry wife on my doorstep.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness."

please look up definition of swinging before having a go, swinging is about openess, honesty, no strings, exploring fantasies together with other like minded people, a cheating person is neither open or honest and there are always strings there.

there are sites out there for extra marital affairs but this isnt one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Touchy touchy..... I take your a fully paid up member of the holier than thou swingers brigade

I wasn't having a go at anyone....just giving my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness."

I can understand your point but I have read threads from people on here saying that after meeting someone who turned out to be married they ended up getting abusive calls/texts from the cheated partner.

Sounds risky to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Touchy touchy..... I take your a fully paid up member of the holier than thou swingers brigade

I wasn't having a go at anyone....just giving my opinion.

Oh ffs is there any need to be so rude when someone has differing opinions. This is a controversial topic and is bound to bring with it emotive responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your the one abbreviating foul lain gage love

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Touchy touchy..... I take your a fully paid up member of the holier than thou swingers brigade

I wasn't having a go at anyone....just giving my opinion.

by "hollier than thou" you mean those playing with consent... or those using their own moral code (which apparently we are suppose to leave behind just because we swing)

anyway this thread has gone "victim mode" rather quickly......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not like the married guy is gonna say hes married a lot of the time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your the one abbreviating foul lain gage love"

I was abbreviating foul language yes, I was also making a point about how you seem to find it difficult to have a discussion with someone who has differing views. I stand by my previous point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's because, in among the people who just want some extra curricular sex are a good number of..... I,m trying to be polite here, but struggling and this is purely my opinion...... Fruitcakes.... I take the time to out anyone who appears to be in this category and I've had no problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was accused of having a go..... I was having a go at no one, the poster who accused me obviously has a raw nerve about it. I repeat I have only given my opinion, but I won't sit back and let some one think they can take the moral high ground with me about my opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the moral high ground. I've also been on the receiving end of an affair and they really hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having had my ex play away for several years.. I tend to stay away, but should i meet someone in a club that is playing away then that would be me doing it unknowingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not the moral high ground. I've also been on the receiving end of an affair and they really hurt. "

I have also been there, it is the worst kind of low !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's because, in among the people who just want some extra curricular sex are a good number of..... I,m trying to be polite here, but struggling and this is purely my opinion...... Fruitcakes.... I take the time to out anyone who appears to be in this category and I've had no problems."

Well I guess it is a difficult one to call because no matter what precautions taken there will always be the opportunists who find a way. I say no married men but really,how can I be 100% sure of that?

After all, I am not looking for a relationship so that makes things more difficult in a sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well myself i am married and i wouldnt change her for the world but due to medical reasons doesnt have sex, so needs are a must so there are some good reasons depends on circumstances i think so i never judge and why should it be messy as its the person not the other couple

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"well myself i am married and i wouldnt change her for the world but due to medical reasons doesnt have sex, so needs are a must so there are some good reasons depends on circumstances i think so i never judge and why should it be messy as its the person not the other couple"

okay... so lets play the "real life" game...

if she were to discover you were here.... what would likely happen?

honest question.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We stay away from anyone that is married and on here cheating on there partner. We don't think it's right and don't want to be part of it. The problem is when we point out we don't meet people that are married they generally reply back with a sob story. To us cheating isn't swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly i wouldnt know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What people do with their lives is entirely up to them.

I don't want to be part of their lies or encourage them to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away, as well as the moral issues, married guys are more likely to let you down or just want quick shag and go meets as they have to get home, not the kind of meets I enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are married and I have a reluctant other half which is a little frustrating but I wouldn't do anything without my wife knowing or hopefully being there

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"Im a married woman who doesnt want to meet married men, because I feel its too complicated fitting in meets between 2 marriages. Ive been told its doublestandards in previous subjects similar to this. I have met a married man before - my mistake I didnt read his profile properly and will admit to wanting to meet a guy on here who is married and he me but it wont happen because its too complicated. Awaiting lynch mob now lol. "

I didn't know you felt so strongly towards me! lol

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Not for me either! Not only due to the moral side, but they cannot meet the way I prefer, so I'd rather just carry on looking for a single or a married with permission much easier

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"honestly i wouldnt know"

I'm guessing, if you thought the reaction was going to be a positive one... you would have told her by now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do u not think married guys would keep it strictly fun where a single guy may may not"

Actually i think the opposite is true. A fwb provides a way out of an unhappy relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But in theory, you only trust what a person says on here or webcam etc, they can say they are married and the other half knows but it all comes down to trust and instinct, it is down to the individual/s who choose who they meet, if someone says they are single yet can't meet everyday of the week except 1 hour on a Tuesday then that's pretty obvious. I don't want to enter this argument but we are all adults and choose who we meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are married and I have a reluctant other half which is a little frustrating but I wouldn't do anything without my wife knowing or hopefully being there

So you tell your wife every time you are going to a meet?

Does she not give you a bad time about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are married and I have a reluctant other half which is a little frustrating but I wouldn't do anything without my wife knowing or hopefully being there

So you tell your wife every time you are going to a meet?

Does she not give you a bad time about it?"
Not been to one and trying to persuade her. Realy don't want to go without her.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Doesn't bother us or me (Mrs) in the slightest. They're here for their own reasons and who are we to judge.

Although i always make a point of making it clear if the person is married/partnered, we do not want any uneasy situations knocking on our door.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away from...that's just my choice."

Me too

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Stay away from or play I'm married myself and NSF is defo the thing for me how about anyone else"

Stay away. Too many let downs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't know you felt so strongly towards me! lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"married guys are more likely to let you down or just want quick shag and go meets as they have to get home "

I'm sorry, but that is a complete generalisation, and in many cases untrue! You have your opinion, so I can have mine.

However, I can understand totally why a lady wouldn't like the guy who's 'fitting her in' for a quick half hour. But as I've said, not all marrieds, male and female, are necessarily in that category, fact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On balance we would prefer to avoid but being pragmatic there is absolutely no point in asking a person to confirm they are unattached.

Therefore we dont even bother asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its 6 of one and 1/2 dozen of the other....

There's single guys who aren't really single and married guys who haven't got permission. It seems the "single" guy is going to get more meets because the worry that the married guy is only going to have a limited time. I think we all know though what response this question would have been if it had been centred around married women.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away is my option.

Not fair on anyones wife, not giving them the choice to be cheated on...

Can't do that to another woman sorry...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its 6 of one and 1/2 dozen of the other....

i've seen a thread not long ago that was a single woman and they had pretty much the same response as this one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as far as we are aware we stay away from them, but then again how do we know if someone has told us the truth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its 6 of one and 1/2 dozen of the other....

i've seen a thread not long ago that was a single woman and they had pretty much the same response as this one."

My wife has a profile on fab and on it she states that she's married. Sometimes we both look through her messages together and the majority of men that message her never bother to ask whether or not I know what she is upto.

I might well be at fault of making a generalization but I believe that most men on here wouldn't be bothered whether the woman they were meeting was married or not but that just comes from what I've seen for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay away as much a possible. Its hard to know whos single and whos not though as not everybody is so honest. But here to have fun not get caught in the crossfire if things go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself personally, I stay away, but I'm not here to judgemental. So each to their own really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would stay away. My husband cheated on me. Wouldn't wish that on any one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont mind meeting married men.

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By *annanaman69Man
over a year ago

chester

This is the fastest growing forum topic! Its a mix bag! Took me half an hour and a few arguement threads to get to the bottom. But let's face facts. People feel strongly each side. Some hate the cheating as they've been cheated on even caught STDs off a cheating partner! Other love married with kids even as its a kicks thing. Personal preference. Nice to see most posts are judging either way, were all on a swinger site to do something sexual. We are all adults. I've got permission so its good but still many don't want to meet and I respect that. I have been told to not say at all as its too honest. But rather be up front. x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do u not think married guys would keep it strictly fun where a single guy may may not"

Not for me!

I use paddles, crops, candles, I shave playmates pubic hair, I even have temporary tattoos "property off..." I use.

I've even had one man arrive with bespoke soap and shower gel his wife used so not to leave a scent trail! He didn't stay!

Married men are NO fun to play with for me at all. Viva single men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a man who is married and does swinging without his wife, and visa versa is cheating . but a wife/husband that tells their other half what they doing with their consent is not cheating.

I swing with and without my partner - not cheating. and he does the same

when im in my role as switch (bdsm) my partner knows ..... not cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a man who is married and does swinging without his wife, and visa versa is cheating . but a wife/husband that tells their other half what they doing with their consent is not cheating

RUBISH I love bumming a married guy and he dose to .... just my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh sorry do I need his wife's consent

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"This is the fastest growing forum topic! Its a mix bag! Took me half an hour and a few arguement threads to get to the bottom. But let's face facts. People feel strongly each side. Some hate the cheating as they've been cheated on even caught STDs off a cheating partner! Other love married with kids even as its a kicks thing. Personal preference. Nice to see most posts are judging either way, were all on a swinger site to do something sexual. We are all adults. I've got permission so its good but still many don't want to meet and I respect that. I have been told to not say at all as its too honest. But rather be up front. x"

I am upfront about it and the vast majority of people I approach say "No thanks", or don't bother to reply. I accept that I am not for everyone so the occasional ones that do say "Yes" are a bonus for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do young guys and we like married lads are lads with girl friends ,,we feel its safer ,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They bring a lot of potential grief through angry wife's along with being less reliable so we tend to avoid in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if your married and cheating how can it possibly be nsa or nsf as theres always strings there, it is not swinging by any definition so most definatly stay away, avoid at all costs."

My feelings completely...... its not swinging, its cheating, pure and simple. So STAY AWAY!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would stay away also

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

Would love to know if the same proportion of couples looking for bi women would voice similar concerns or if the relative availability alters peoples perceptions and scruples.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Would love to know if the same proportion of couples looking for bi women would voice similar concerns or if the relative availability alters peoples perceptions and scruples. "

I'm not bi but if I were same rules would apply. Also no one comes into my home who can't invite me into theirs: no exceptions!

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

I only ask as when I was swinging with my ex we got loads of messages from couples asking if she would play solo especally in chat, sometimes even assuming she was online alone asking her to go behind my back. Mind you given that it turns out she was sneaking away to some single and possibly married men in secret maybe there was a reason.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

If someone is married then there ARE strings so we'll stay away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love to know if the same proportion of couples looking for bi women would voice similar concerns or if the relative availability alters peoples perceptions and scruples. "

what has bi women got to do with cheating then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know two people in the same situation as you .. But they aren't on here but they do have a f.b

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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago

Gosport

The question partly came out of personal experince but was aimed at drawing out if peoples expectations regarding cheating change due to the mainstream desirability and relative scarcity of some groups on the site. Sorry if you felt I should have worded it differently or not selected a specific group but it is easier to discuss situations from within my own experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I played with married guys and all I'll say is, if your Mrs finds out I'm not making excuses for you - would even give her your Fab username and encourage her to try some of the toyboys on here

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By *iganflirtMan
over a year ago

wigan

My profile profile clearly states that I am married so its the other persons choice if they choose to contact me or not. What I would say is a large percentage of so called "single" guys on here are in a relationship of some kind. I just find its much easier to be upfront from the beginning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stay clear of any cheater

I'm not out to cause myself or anyone any grief

I certainly don't feel its any safer emotionally as to me a cheater obv needs to be attached where as a single can live without the need to be with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol...this is a hard one for me...

I don't have an issue playing with married men...just liars!

If a guy will lie to the love of his life...imagine the horse shit he'll hit me with!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married and play alone as my wife, also on the site as Jaybug doesn't like the idea of a 3 some or more some at the moment so we both play alone. I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

I would meet someone that is married and would also meet single people. As mentioned we are all adults and make our own choices in life and will have to deal with any consiquences that arise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Havnt read all the replies, but I have to admit I just find the whole idea of cheating quite sad for both parties involved. Not something me or J would ever do or worry about the other doing, having said that we wouldn't be put off straight away by a married man or woman if everything else fit the bill. Just like with everyone else we would want to get to know them better if we liked what we saw. BUT would defo prefer anyone we played with to be single( unless in a swinging couple of course! ) Hope that doesn't put people off us! Lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away from or play I'm married myself and NSF is defo the thing for me how about anyone else"

Stay away....... we all have our own opinions but cheating husbands are not for us, sorry.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?"

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else. "

Yea I know its rather sad isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we personally stay away from but then we don't moralize

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else.

Yea I know its rather sad isn't it

sad yes but maybe they have good reasons to cheat and their partner isnt so perfect, and saintly as they like to think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away from - I really don't fancy being named in divorce proceedings or want an angry wife turning up on my doorstep...

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same here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else.

Yea I know its rather sad isn't it

sad yes but maybe they have good reasons to cheat and their partner isnt so perfect, and saintly as they like to think they are."

We can't possibly know that though can we. That's why we stay away from attached people, too complicated and only ever hear one side of the story. Well part of the reason why anyway.

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over a year ago

as far away as possible its cheating !!!

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over a year ago

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else.

Yea I know its rather sad isn't it

sad yes but maybe they have good reasons to cheat and their partner isnt so perfect, and saintly as they like to think they are."

There is no good reason to cheat

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over a year ago

Quite often these kind of threads are 50:50 in opinions but don't think I've seen one so anti-marrieds for a very long time.

I used to meet married men because they were less complicated,they knew what relationships were and they weren't needy in the way that unmarrieds my age can be. Now, I don't meet, just lurk but I think the whole thing is a minefield I'd rather not cross.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Stay away from or play I'm married myself and NSF is defo the thing for me how about anyone else"
I meet with a married man on a regular basis, yes I'll grant you that sometimes we have to plan ahead but more often than not it is spur of the moment which is good fun.

Everyone has their reasons for being on a swinging site & if he wants some extra NSA fun then that is his choice. But I don't see a problem with it. On the reverse side, I have blocked & reported a guy who claimed that single fems on here are akin to upaid hookers, and he was a single guy. xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How does a single guy thinking that single women on here are unpaid hookers have any bearing on married men meeting without their partners knowledge?

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over a year ago

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness."

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness.

Yep! But the same applies to all users of the site equally, even those who don't want to meet attached people. It's no one elses business what choices you make up to and until you involve them. If it is a married or attached persons prerogative to be here it is my prerogative to choose not to play with them and just as they often insist I don't judge them for their choice neither should they judge me for mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not for us at all we dont want to be involved in anyones misery and make it clear on profile but still get the emails from married guys but maybe they dont read the profile(shock!)

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over a year ago

"I won't judge people that are cheating on there partners, I don't agree with cheating but if they wish to do so then that's there choice.

and the choice of their partner counts for nothing?

There partners choice counts however if the person is intent on cheating then they will do regardless if its with me or someone else.

Yea I know its rather sad isn't it

sad yes but maybe they have good reasons to cheat and their partner isnt so perfect, and saintly as they like to think they are.

There is no good reason to cheat"

Whatever reason people give to cheat the fact is it is always a very selfish reason. Also those who ok cheating also have very selfish attitudes towards it.

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness.

there are sites out there for extra marital affairs but this isnt one of them."

It is indeed but you didn't mention Choice/preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont meet with married men playing away from their wifes , but thats our choice ..Being married and swinging without your partner knowledge is cheating .. but each to their own ..

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness."

Well said, I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes if they state there married they give you the chance to say no, if they dont then there been low enough to potentialy drag innocent people into there web of lies, and very quickly situations like that can get out of hand, this is why cheating has no place whatsoever on a swinging site or in the swinging lifestyle, cheating is not swinging.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"It's a swinging site and I was never aware that swinging was the personal domain for unattached or happily together people only.

Swinging, to me, is being able to seek out what you want sexually when you want it with whom you want it.... You domestic situation is only your buisness.

*Applauds*...this!!!

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