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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

been single for around 3yrs now after a 10yr r/ship, half of which was spent with my my head firmly stuck up in that place where the sun doesn`t shine.not nice and got no plans to revisit.(i hope lol) and was a huge relief when the sight of a pretty girl reached the parts that only pretty girls can reach. kk and a few with nice personalities.anyway like every other guy who tries out the scene expecting mass orgies everywhere i was in for a shock and also made all the usual errors of judgement, however, because i was really interested and excited by it all i tried to understand where i was going wrong. now there was a time when it was cool to be a single bloke, with the fuck buddies of today, being the old faithfulls of yesterday and plenty of girls in relationships wanting a single male for fun (usually ur closest friends mrs lol) but no stigma attatched to being a single guy having a bit of fun. must admit to getting wound up with people`s derogatory remarks about men on the scene (still can sometimes)until i took the time to understand why. swinging is a couples scene with no great need for anymore men so we`re very rarely needed, and should be really happy to be invited to have fun with a guy`s mrs when they have a mindboggling amount to choose from. also wasnt difficult to understand why couples got upset when guys are asking for a 1 on 1 with another mans partner, and all they have to do to get on it is to ask themself how they`d feel if they found out that a mate of theirs was asking to do his mrs every time he was on his own with her.ffs lads no wonder jack the lad is now a cam wanker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep you got it to a tee

Its a hard game for singles (been there myself many years ago)

what we find is that some and i say some single males think that we are all easy and gagging for it and cannot understand why they get pushed away

The fact is that some couples do only meet couples, and the couples that do meet single males use them to enhance THEIR sex life,and not the single males lol

There is a lot of choice out there and being polite and not pushy goes a long long way with most couples.

Nothing is easy in this life and swinging is no different

Craig x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been swinging for about 9 years now, as a couple and as a single fem and have always met single guys as a couple and as a single fem, i know a few single guys that do very well when it comes to getting meets, but you only get out of it what you put into it, the more you get out there the more offers you will get, my advice to any single guy is go to the social meets, ok i know most guys don't want to sit and have a drink with you they just want to get laid, and if thats your bag good luck to you, you'll need it lol but look at it like this you may not get sex that night but the come backs from scoial meets are worth a few hours chatting in a pub, if i was looking to meet a single guy id sooner go for one i had already met and had a chat with so i know i like him and he likes meet that arrange a meet off here with a stranger and risk him not turning up or not liking each other and having to go home empty handed lol i've met a few guys off here that have booked hotel room first meet only to have to go back to it alone, i don't do obligated sex and nor do most women and couples, so my advice is just get yourself know, theres loads of sites about and pretty much all of them do social meets, some sites even do meets in swingers clubs at reduced rates for single men, so theres no excuse really for men sat moaning they can;t get meets, no womans going to just turn up on your door step, like anything in life it has to be worked at x

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

hi ..i can only speak for my particular case. It can gravitate into a bit of a meat market scene if you let it and to be honest that left me stone cold .

Alot of the singles i came into contact with all seemed to be saying the same ..men and women. Its far better for people to have recreational sex with people they know trust and feel safe with.

So i acted as a focus point to allow all the disparate singles to come together and play without the pressure

of hunting all the while.We all trust each other and occasionally meet others from outside the group and yes we meet couples occassionaly if we all agree.

it allows you a lot of lattitude to experiment in different combinations too

but the main part is it stops that manic need to hunt and does not dehumanise you its not just swingers but great friends coming together too.

Maybe you can form a group of singles,

i know others exist , it is our plan to meet other groups.When we get time

Just a thought

MR X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

just wanna say thanks to the people who posted a reply but need to add that my post ended a little premature,like certain other things i wont mention lol, but it was supposed to end something like this... no wonder the success rate for guys is so low after paying attention recently to what was actually being said in chat recently and noticing how desparate some sound in there and saddens me to see so many guys who seem to have trouble in accepting a glaringly obvious knockback.last week a guy paid me a compliment in chat while i was on cam to which i replied ty but no thanks,not my thing, he then sent me a wink, which i deleted, i then blocked him in chat so wat does he do ? send me a friends invite! enough said, so just to clarify that this isnt a gripe about a lack of meets, which my pf does mention the fact im not after tons of meets, this is a post to say that i understand why there is such a low success rate for guys when they cant even understand a simple word like NO and its no wonder that a simple little word like no soon becomes a much bigger word which ends in off. ffs lads get a grip and stop mugging yourselves off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makes me kind of glad i don't chat.

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By *lirty14uMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

It's just desperation, pure and simple. While sat (usually naked) camming on a swinging website, single guys will think with what they are playing with, not with their brains. It's there in front of them like a carrot, and they want it.

I speak as someone who has been in there as a single guy, and with company with me. I thought the Whispers were going to crash our broadband! And I don't mean the ones I get when I'm alone!

But not one bothered to compile a decent message to send us afterwards...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once upon a time i used to be a moderator in a chat room on another, then popular, site.

We had a virtually unenforcable rule about not sending private messages without permission. (It was an irc channel so no way of checking).

Eventually we put fake female names in the channel and if they got messaged. Kick. If it happened again. Ban.

The unwanted messages soon stopped. And the idiots from the channel were soon all banned.

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By *lirty14uMan
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I think we use fake female names in chat too. They are the ones I always try to talk to!

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well ive known about fakes from as far back as the rumminegge tracksuit, named after the famous german footballer and have seen my fair share of fake gear over the years and now find them very easy to spot but the fake profile is a new one to me so if u have anytell tale sighns for me to look out for it would be well appreciated cos id only get slated if anyone knew i couldnt tell the difference between snide or genuine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RESPECT...have respect for couples, both of them. DONT ask and try and meet wife behind hubbies back cause u think they will want to...not the case. Dont be pushy...thats my policy. I am always the lucky one when i meet a couple and i always go all out to please if they trn me on enough....too many guys have no respect for single fems or couples....oh and why show cock pic in main picture...unless it has a ladies mouth wrapped around it or they are sat on it haha....had lots of meets, lots and i never take it for granted...very very lucky man and i cant get enuf....people say its cause i'm black, possibly but i think good pics have alot to do with it and good feedback....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

omg blackmale, thats some blumming amazing feedback, you should write a book on how to approach fellow swingers. if your ever in doncaster give me a shout and il take you clubbing, pay for your drinks etc and you can give me some tips lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldnt agree with you more NN. I am new to the scene but have found that you have to gain the respect of people on the site and in the chat rooms and also as a single male have the patience of a saint to get anywhere on the site. Im not into whispers unless they are directed at me first, and am the same on mail, i will only take an interest if someone contacts me. One thing is have noticed is that whispers come flying at you in chat, but when you expect a follow up mail they never materialise, and will single ladies having so many males to choose from, just move on to the next person.

I agree that joining a club or going to social meets is a positive step forward, but that doesnt fill me with to much confidence seeing as its mainly a couple orientated scene, though If a nice couple or single lady were to attend with me that would be different and would initiate me in to that side of things. I also agree with other people interpretations of how the scene works for them, a lot of the time its different strokes for different folks, what feels right for one bloke isnt the same from another chap, but ultimately we all want some form of fun or satisfaction for me and other peeps on here you have to command respect for others before you get to that stage

Dave

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures


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The fact is that some couples do only meet couples, and the couples that do meet single males use them to enhance THEIR sex life,and not the single males "

Bullseye!!!

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