FabSwingers.com forum: if your partner give you the ultimatum " its me or fab" ....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

what would your answer be ...

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By *orders-cplCouple
over a year ago

middx cpl

FAB would go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FAB would go."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't be much of a partner to give that ultimatum ...

If anyone chose fab over me , it would be okay and bye !

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Tricky one.

Depend of how much your partner is important to you.

Try to make your partner interact with you on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They wouldn't be much of a partner to give that ultimatum ...

If anyone chose fab over me , it would be okay and bye !"

no that doesn't read write lol Oh stuff it I'm tired , I know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

aw .... we have lots of romantics

I agree that if someone chose fab over their partner then obviously the relationship aint all that. If someone really isnt comfortable with the swinging thing though ... and the other loves it ?? I think alot would say " you darling" but open another singles profile ... i think the whole swinging thing is very addictive and not as easy to just cut off.... only my opinion though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs N and I agreed along time ago that monogomy hadn't worked for us so we'd give swinging a go and only do it if we were both happy. As we've got older we tend to do it less and less and I guess it's me, Mr N that is the main driver to do it. However as long as Mrs N is happy to go along with it occasionally then I am happy to go along with her. If she gave me an ultimatum that it's fab or me I'm not so sure if I could hack that. Surely there is a compromise in there somewhere between you guys.

Just my pennyworth.

Best of luck

"FAB would go.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab would definitely go, but we both agree if its a ultimatum, is that a good relationship ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

agreed... but its hard to compromise when one partner doesnt want the other to to swing in any form .. how could you compromise there ? xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if i was in a relationship... and we started swinging. I then discovered that actually I didnt like seeing my partner with other people. He, however loved it. Is it a bad relationship because i said" look .. i cant do this ... its me or fab" ? ... or would it be simply something id tried but cant do ? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"agreed... but its hard to compromise when one partner doesnt want the other to to swing in any form .. how could you compromise there ? xxx"

If you can't compromise and communicate your feelings openly then shouldn't be in a relationship imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if i was in a relationship... and we started swinging. I then discovered that actually I didnt like seeing my partner with other people. He, however loved it. Is it a bad relationship because i said" look .. i cant do this ... its me or fab" ? ... or would it be simply something id tried but cant do ? xxx"

If he actually loved you, you would come first and he would have no problem stopping.

What is the point being in a relationship if it is all one sided?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not bad that's just how you feel. You just have to figure out which way to go and if there can be a compromise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

they would be communicating .. Ie i cant do this anymore. How could you compromise on this ? xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they would be communicating .. Ie i cant do this anymore. How could you compromise on this ? xxx"

If as a couple one is not happy to continue then it should stop, you can't compromise your feelings for the sake of another as it will only cause resentment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"they would be communicating .. Ie i cant do this anymore. How could you compromise on this ? xxx"

And if as I said he does love you he wouldn't want to cause you upset!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yep .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be him of course. But seeing as I'm single its immaterial really x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

if i had said to someone ... its me or fab ... and they said .. " yeah ... but how about you just try .. " ... BYEEEEE

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Like it should do ...

xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

LOL ... best way i feel ... sometimes

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If either one of said, " I don't want to do this anymore " then we would both come of here!

Our relationship comes way before fab does

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

I wouldn't want to choose so i'd fuck off to football instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't want to choose so i'd fuck off to football instead

Ha ha ha !! typical bloke !!

xxx

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

if we cant do swinging together then there is no point, so if one of us wanted to stop we both would.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm beginning to think I'm in the wrong relationship .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd wonder how she cracked my internet security

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm beginning to think I'm in the wrong relationship ....."

Awww well do what is best for you, you have to be happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd wonder how she cracked my internet security

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what would your answer be ...

Swinging is fun when both of you want to do it. If one doesn't then where's the fun and I can't see any reason for wanting to continue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm beginning to think I'm in the wrong relationship .....

Awww well do what is best for you, you have to be happy. "

Yes ... all too true ... xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a person is either on fab or expected to leave it to please their partner then there is a problem.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Fab would go...it really isn't the be all and end all of our relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If a person is either on fab or expected to leave it to please their partner then there is a problem.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fab would go...it really isn't the be all and end all of our relationship. "

True ... if the answer is FAB ... time to move on me thinks ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab would go hands down, it's something we enjoy together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it would be us.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"If a person is either on fab or expected to leave it to please their partner then there is a problem.

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Not always. Depends on the dynamics of the relationship, putting a partner before NSA sex isn't always a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I lived with out it all for years so can easy do that again ..... if I had too ..... would just be one more change and life never gets boring like that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I started a relationship I'd delete my profile immediately, no contest. I first joined Fab when I became single a few years ago just for an occasional meet now and again as I missed male company - and the sex obviously

But if I started dating I'd leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy. Him. As a couple we do it together or not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anything should be black or white when it comes to sex and sexuality. Have you considered your partner may have Bi instincts and that is what is driving him to like Fabbing. I have come to realise that is one of the things which drive me to enjoy the scene. If you try to put a stop to that you are going to fight a losing battle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Divorced years...... still swinging

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"FAB would go."

No hesitation.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Fab would go...it really isn't the be all and end all of our relationship. "

Sadly, I think for some it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"FAB would go."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we have a very good understanding if it ever came to that I would help her Pack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab would go no question about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well we have a very good understanding if it ever came to that I would help her Pack

Would you give her the leah cd lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now that is asking too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

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you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"what would your answer be ...

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

Do like I did just throw them in bin bags

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"what would your answer be ...

Him

To clairify...if the other half didn't want to play these games anymore we wouldn't get to an untimatum, he would just say that he didn't want to play again and we would stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without hesitation, I would delete my profile and walk away from the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

Do like I did just throw them in bin bags

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I'm not that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

Do like I did just throw them in bin bags

I'm not that bad"

Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

Do like I did just throw them in bin bags

I'm not that bad

Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x "
im not that kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"now that is asking too much

you will be wanting me to carry her cases to the taxi next and pay for it

Do like I did just throw them in bin bags

I'm not that bad

Ok take her cases to the taxi and pay for the taxi x im not that kind "

Am saying nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definatly it would be fab that went!

My wife means so much more!!

Im hit & miss wh it all.doesnt bother me!

Bambi gives me wot I need!

Who needs any1 else;-)

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Sorry you lot, but I need my right hand.

cya fab

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By *ach3Man
over a year ago

Watford

"what would your answer be ...

If it has to come down to one person making such a demand to the other ie it is not mutual - then I think the relationship is likely to be doomed. Setting up single profiles without your partners knowledge is unlikely to improve the relationship!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

hit the delete button without a moments pause, my love for him is bigger than the fun i have here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FAB would be deleted. I love B and this is something we are doing as a couple so if she wasn't happy we would leave. Same goes if I wasn't

But for now we are enjoying our fun

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