FabSwingers.com forum: Chubby or slim ...........?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As was said in previous topic on this subject, its personality that counts and its up to the person looking to discover that for theirselves. Only one way to do that in my opinion, is to read profiles, message, chat and/or meet - whatever floats your boat really. Sorry if its sounding a bit pompous, not meant to be, just my feelings being aired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm don't think personality is the most impotant thing. It's a combination of looks and personality. Would you really have sex with some one that you thought was hideous because they had a good personality.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

This has always been somewhat of a contentious subject...I disagree with the personality thing, for me personally, looks will always be of paramount importance, I suppose its down to how you "swing".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

looks is without doubt important.its a swinging site,im not looking to find a wife on here.

id prefer a meet with a 5-10 cat walk model who had no personality than a fat ugly woman who had the best personality ever

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

oh god here we go again.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When considering meeting I go for looks first and chemistry second. As a self confessed chatterbox, talking and having a laugh is a major part of things for me but even if the man was 6'3, incredibly fit, drop dead gorgeous (a girl can dream) but dull as ditchwater then I wouldn't meet!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Its a mixture of both looks and personality.

I wouldn't fuck someone I thought was a minger. I also wouldn't fuck a twat (personality twat, not a slippy slidey one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Slim for me, there again some women can carry a bit of extra weight and still look good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"oh god here we go again.....

Exactly!

I'm sure the OP didn't intend it so but these threads always end up upsetting everyone, big or small.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"oh god here we go again.....

Exactly!

I'm sure the OP didn't intend it so but these threads always end up upsetting everyone, big or small."

do you know what I am happy that people have preferences and choices on who they want to meet whether big small etc. Now I could not gives a fuck what people think of me I could be the biggest lard arse to one person and the perfect person to another. I have a pretty high confidence level....However sometimes after reading thread after thread about how it is wrong to be big etc... Its any wonder that people have a complex about themselves....It really bloody annoys me that people can just not be a little more accepting..

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"oh god here we go again.....

Exactly!

I'm sure the OP didn't intend it so but these threads always end up upsetting everyone, big or small.

This!

Copy n paste this and save it, cos this is spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

apparently I'm not as chubby as I thought, give me a big bum any day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on personality, chemistry first for me.. If you're good looking, fantastic bonus, but if you're not, what the hell, go for it..

For me my brain needs stimulation as well as my clitoris

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well, F....k me I missed out the important thing, being good looking first. No I wouldnt go with anyone hideous, but havent encountered anyone like that yet, my meets have been nicelooking, in my opinion anyway. Im no oil-painting either

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I'm don't think personality is the most impotant thing. It's a combination of looks and personality. Would you really have sex with some one that you thought was hideous because they had a good personality.

Precisely. If I'm not physically attracted then all the personality in the world won't do it for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But here's the rub (so to speak). If you look at the person (in the round), then their personality IS their beauty and so they cannot be hideous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But here's the rub (so to speak). If you look at the person (in the round), then their personality IS their beauty and so they cannot be hideous. "

But I would have to think they were attractive to want to get to know what there personality was like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always look at pics first, if I don't fancy them I don't read their profile, personality is the deal beaker but unless I like the look of them I don't bother getting to know them

I couldn't shag someone I didn't fancy no matter now much a nice person they are

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By *amBiUKMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Slim !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always look at pics first, if I don't fancy them I don't read their profile, personality is the deal beaker but unless I like the look of them I don't bother getting to know them

I couldn't shag someone I didn't fancy no matter now much a nice person they are"

Exactly, this isn't a matrimonial agency its a sex site.

We doubt anyone on here is intentionally looking for a life partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always look at pics first, if I don't fancy them I don't read their profile, personality is the deal beaker but unless I like the look of them I don't bother getting to know them

I couldn't shag someone I didn't fancy no matter now much a nice person they are

Exactly, this isn't a matrimonial agency its a sex site.

We doubt anyone on here is intentionally looking for a life partner.

XXXX"

Totally, personality is important if u r gonna be staying with them. But as we are all here to shag then being attractive to one another is paramount for us really....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Slim for me, there again some women can carry a bit of extra weight and still look good."

I agree, there are some INCREDIBLY sexy and attractive "curvy" girls on here from what I have seen.

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By *inocchioMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

It's about what you find attractive. The times I've read profiles that say "I'm not racist, but just whites/blacks/asians please - it's just what I like."

Some people like athletic. Some like chubby. Not being sizeist, but that's how it is.

Don't confuse a person's personal preference for the dominant culture's guilt trip and body nazism. It's not the same thing.

Personally, I like a nice thick black woman...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

im not going to post on this thread .... bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No preference,, i want the person,, they must have a personality!! Everyone is beautiful x

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

I'm fat, I wobble and in clubs I dont hide this fact. When I get chatting to people, my overall confidence and personality seem to attract people to me. Therefore, despite my size, I'm getting plenty of meets and many of these people come back to me time and time again.

I wont change my size for anyone. I'll do it for myself and when I'm ready to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always look at pics first, if I don't fancy them I don't read their profile, personality is the deal beaker but unless I like the look of them I don't bother getting to know them

I couldn't shag someone I didn't fancy no matter now much a nice person they are"

Well online this is the true i usually dont bother trying to get to know those i dont initially find physically attractive. i have already found my life partner so of course im not looking for relationship but there have been plenty of times where i found myself physically attracted to people i normally would not have been because of their personality. I have also been repulsed by people i initially find attractive yet their personality has turned me off to the point that i think they are ugly to look at no matter how good looking they actually are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this thread for the amount of guys going 'slim!!' And the amount of ladies spealing out how happy they are with the meets they get cause they are curvy godess'! For me to meet I have to enjoy chatting for a start as a wise old man said to me "clinical sex is what married boring couples have" guys well lets admit it ladies we can be fussy cause its a 10:1 ratio of men to women, and ladies nothing sexier than a confident curvaceous lucious lady!! Come on who wants to start fires in beds with a stick woman!! I certainly know I love something to hold onto! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a reminder......slim women do actually have feelings, surprising I know, but some of us get offended by being labelled "STICKS" !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the looks are just as important as the personality. I couldn't meet a guy I didn't fancy so yes, call me shallow. I check out the pics first. if I like what I see and read then ill definitely send a message and see where it leads....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a reminder......slim women do actually have feelings, surprising I know, but some of us get offended by being labelled "STICKS" !!!

Never! I thought I was a robot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ill take looks given where i am and why im here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fat, I wobble and in clubs I dont hide this fact. When I get chatting to people, my overall confidence and personality seem to attract people to me. Therefore, despite my size, I'm getting plenty of meets and many of these people come back to me time and time again.

I wont change my size for anyone. I'll do it for myself and when I'm ready to do so.

Good on you Girl,plus i bet after a jolly good meet your not going to be shy in the kitchen knockinhg up a bit of grub,these skinny girls don't know why god invented a baumatic oven

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

I don't differentiate - if I fancy the person (or people!) I go for it

What determines that ? - with each person it's different - and that's what's attractive about swinging. To set "rules" as sooooo many do on here removes a whole swathe of possible very nice, sexy, interesting people from your horizon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not fat nor skinny and I do fabulous on here

I must be shallow though, as attraction comes before chatting, so personality doesn't really 'shine' in clubs and I get very lucky in those too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer women with curves wow they do it for me

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Just a reminder......slim women do actually have feelings, surprising I know, but some of us get offended by being labelled "STICKS" !!!

Again this! Slim women are sticks, larger women can means mahoosive whale and so on. Women can have feelings no matter what their size is so try and be a bit respectful to all.

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By *imtomyMan
over a year ago

manchester

Precisely. If I'm not physically attracted then all the personality in the world won't do it for me."
wouldn't mind the chance to see if I was attracted to you and visa versa but your profiles hidden.lol. The next stp would be personality of course.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"As was said in previous topic on this subject, its personality that counts and its up to the person looking to discover that for theirselves. Only one way to do that in my opinion, is to read profiles, message, chat and/or meet - whatever floats your boat really. Sorry if its sounding a bit pompous, not meant to be, just my feelings being aired.

dont think this is the case on here in normal life where you meet someone you would get a chance to find out there personality and then that might make the other person see through the looks they dont normaly go for

on here however if a girl doesnt like your looks you wont get the chance to win her over through your personality and soh etc

trust me i know ! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on here however if a girl doesnt like your looks you wont get the chance to win her over through your personality and soh etc

trust me i know ! lol

aah but sam, you do shine

here on the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im choosy a bit just in case anyone thinks im not, but being overly choosy recently has resulted in nothing. Anyway I posted a crap topic - knew I should have left well alon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im choosy a bit just in case anyone thinks im not, but being overly choosy recently has resulted in nothing. Anyway I posted a crap topic - knew I should have left well alon "

No I don't think you posted a crap topic at all - it got me thinking about sexual objectification and even encouraged me to start a thread about it!

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/182069

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Im choosy a bit just in case anyone thinks im not, but being overly choosy recently has resulted in nothing. Anyway I posted a crap topic - knew I should have left well alon "

You haven't posted a crap topic, it's just a touchy subject as slim v fat topics tend to have a habit of who's better than the other and so on.

If repeat threads didn't get posted forums would be very quiet

Try not take things too personally and chill out and have fun. That's not me trying to be mean btw .

Post whatever you like (so long they're within the rules of course) some may get involved others might not. It's all very marmite on here. Some will like others won't

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By *orkduoCouple
over a year ago

york

we met a Cpl at the last mo spontaneous ,were fantastic ,such a great night ,sometimes don't judge a book by cover.

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