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By *dh391984 OP   Man
4 hours ago

bedale

After 16 years of marriage ive been struggling for intimate times with the mrs, if im lucky i will get it once a week. She says its not me and its due to a low labido from being on anti depressants. I feel im in a no win situation as i dont want her to force / push her off anti depressants just to satisfy my needs! Any advice or other people that have been in the same situation?

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By *avyBlueManMan
4 hours ago

St Trinian's Academy

Patience, love, addressing the reasons why she is depressed.

Treat her like the woman you love, listen to her. Things can change.

Meanwhile, wank a lot.

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By *rumjoe3Man
4 hours ago

Birmingham

A similar story it's why so many people on here

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
4 hours ago

The Ramtops


"A similar story it's why so many people on here"

That explains a lot

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By *heonixrising500Man
4 hours ago

Barnsley

Thats why i on here

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By *dh391984 OP   Man
4 hours ago

bedale

She has been on anti depressants for years due to having children and the pressures that come with it. Even with offering support she wont come off them as she is scared!

Lol wanking gets boring after a while, nothing more fun that having the pleasure of a human

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By *otMediterraneanWoman
4 hours ago

MK

I hear this a lot in my messages

I do feel sorry for the men

This one has a serious mental health problem so be a little more careful

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By *ittleJohn5Man
3 hours ago

Wickham Market

I understand what the OP is going through

Im in a sexless marriage 7 years now.

Due to lols of issues holding hand and foot rubs is the only contact I have.

On here for escapism forums etc

I doubt ever get a meet but miss the act of sex

But enjoy chatting with people and still hoping to restart my sex life with the wife

But equally don’t want to never have sex again

So feel very trap between duty and lust.

Oh well such is life.

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By *arksjamesMan
3 hours ago

Warwick


"I understand what the OP is going through

Im in a sexless marriage 7 years now.

Due to lols of issues holding hand and foot rubs is the only contact I have.

On here for escapism forums etc

I doubt ever get a meet but miss the act of sex

But enjoy chatting with people and still hoping to restart my sex life with the wife

But equally don’t want to never have sex again

So feel very trap between duty and lust.

Oh well such is life.

"

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By *neforutoMan
3 hours ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Once a week, that's awesome

No seriously though, there are other meds that have a lower impact on libido. Maybe do some research on what's available, far too many people in my humble opinion are happy to just accept that what is offered is all that there is available.

Good luck young man

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By *ssexPaul50Man
3 hours ago

colchester

Been married 20 years, been in a completely sexless and non physical marriage for the past two years, even separate bedrooms.

We have a deep love for each other and a deep care for each other but no longer ‘in love’ and no longer romantic with each other.

We have children, bills (including the back end of a large mortgage) so we have decided to live as best friends with the love we have for one another.

But when it comes to the lack of physical contact and intimacy with someone - it’s hard, it’s lonely, it’s mentally painful- something I never thought I would experience.

So this is my personal reason and selfish reason being on here - I am looking for a NSA discreet online friendship with a possibility of meeting up with a woman once or twice a month. But it’s a lot harder to find a woman who wants that kind of friendship on FAB.

Message if you are interested (females only) x

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By *aykelly50Man
2 hours ago

Kinross

After 16 years of marriage ive been struggling for intimate times with the mrs, if im lucky i will get it once a week. She says its not me and

My wife and I have been married over 20 years, I met her when she was 20, I was 35 and our sex life equalled rabbits day and night.

She is now 41, still highly seed and im 56 and suffering erectile dysfunction since hitting 50.

So the issue is on the other foot with us, I accept she still has sexual urges and I turn a blind eye or encourage her if she needs a few days away.

We still love each other and she says it's only sex with other men but me that she loves.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
2 hours ago

norwich ish

Not sure anyone in this position will find answers they need on Fab, unless it is after a good honest chat with partner discussing and working it out between you.

Sometimes you have to accept that the love you have is for the other things the relationship gives you rather than the actual person in the relationship.

I (Mr) found myself in a similar position, but it was me saying no, falling asleep on sofa rather than going to bed, avoiding contact etc. we had just grown apart, but I didn’t want to admit that due to the children, home, shared finances etc etc. I didn’t actually enjoy our physical time it was more a duty to be carried out. And actually as time went on the more it became an issue for her the more I backed away from it.

She eventually called time on the relationship and it was for the best for all involved even the children.

One of the main reasons was the lack of sex and I actually told her if it was so important she could go and get that and it wouldn’t bother me. As in my brain love and sex are two different things. Sex is an urge, love doesn’t have to be sexual.

But truth is I was unhappy in the relationship for a long time, but too busy working and being a Dad to notice or for it to be noticeable to her, also too prideful to admit we needed to separate.

Pandemic finally ended us being together 24/7 and no escape for me from physical side of relationship (can’t blame being tired from travelling, mentally exhausted etc when working from home).

So I guess for the op and anyone else in a similar situation it’s time for some soul searching and open honest discussions maybe with help of others. To either discover what you both really feel/want and to find a way out of the darkness. Just be prepared that it may be apart rather than together.

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By *dible_KinkCouple
2 hours ago

Aberdeen


"After 16 years of marriage ive been struggling for intimate times with the mrs, if im lucky i will get it once a week. She says its not me and its due to a low labido from being on anti depressants. I feel im in a no win situation as i dont want her to force / push her off anti depressants just to satisfy my needs! Any advice or other people that have been in the same situation?"

Does she know you're on here?????

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By *ash0000Man
2 hours ago

Southwest


"After 16 years of marriage ive been struggling for intimate times with the mrs, if im lucky i will get it once a week. She says its not me and its due to a low labido from being on anti depressants. I feel im in a no win situation as i dont want her to force / push her off anti depressants just to satisfy my needs! Any advice or other people that have been in the same situation?"

Once a week! I think your doing just fine lol

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