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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all " We get on average 5 messages a day from single guys despite our profile saying no single guys. Should we reply to them even though they haven’t bothered to read our profile ? | |||
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"Unfortunately when some women reply they then get questioned "why not?". Worse still some go from being "hot" to "fat sl@g" "dirty wh@re" or similar. As per Fabs FAQs no reply is a polite no thanks. We all need a thick skin to be on here, don't take it personally. " Exactly this. | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all We get on average 5 messages a day from single guys despite our profile saying no single guys. Should we reply to them even though they haven’t bothered to read our profile ?" I don't think anyone is entitled to a reply. As a single guy myself, I understand the odds are stacked against me. Also understand that some people get too many messages so can't read or respond to every one. | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all " I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying  | |||
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"Thanks and it not that i messaging anyone that say not looking for single guys i read every profile before i send a message along with a face im starting to think im ugly and most profiles say there reply back to a face so what do i do about that im not rude one bit " Lots of similar messages on the forum. Read the replies, lots of great advice | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying "thats the price for been sexy as f**k  | |||
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"Unfortunately when some women reply they then get questioned "why not?". Worse still some go from being "hot" to "fat sl@g" "dirty wh@re" or similar. As per Fabs FAQs no reply is a polite no thanks. We all need a thick skin to be on here, don't take it personally. " This is why women don’t reply | |||
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"Our profile clearly states that we don’t want to receive male from single guys, we don’t block single guys as we want the choice to message new guys , yet still we get messages. On an average day we must get about 40/50 if we post a pic or video it can be in the hundreds Most messages are one word “ Hi” Lots are just crude . So unfortunately if we don’t initiate the conversation they get deleted " We have decided to block single males again for a while. Unfortunately they never seem to read the profile and the constant dick pics, messages saying "hiya" or "hey" nothing else can be monotonous. It's stated in our profile we are not looking for singles so why do they even bother? Do they think Mrs BA is going to get instantly wet and drop her knickers for a one word message and a dick pic ? In reality all it does is earn a tap of the block button which is a shame because we genuinely like people to enjoy our pictures . | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying "tbf 1,356 were mine... (Jk. I maxed out at 1,200) | |||
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"Our profile clearly states that we don’t want to receive male from single guys, we don’t block single guys as we want the choice to message new guys , yet still we get messages. On an average day we must get about 40/50 if we post a pic or video it can be in the hundreds Most messages are one word “ Hi” Lots are just crude . So unfortunately if we don’t initiate the conversation they get deleted " If you have the no single guys filter on you can still message them, it just prevents them messaging you. You wouldn't get any messages then, but still have the choice to message them (if they're looking for couples). | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all " Make sure you reply to every message posted in this thread, no matter how irrelevant it is to your post. | |||
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"No reply is a reply....just not the reply that you expected. My partners on here, we both have solo accounts. She doesn't reply when not interested as 9 times out of 10 the rejection goes down badly and she gets a horrible response. " That! Followed by a carbon copy message week's/month's later, possibly a copy n paste who'd know... 🤷😘 | |||
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"I get the no reply, woman and cpls must get inundated… and let’s face it, theres a fair few fake profiles on here and a fair few weirdos.. my only gripe is, when they ask for a face pic, u send one and no reply or blocked …. It’s like an instant “ugly fucker” lol 😂 which of yr thin skinned can be rather kick in the nuts " A 'fair few' on both statements.. Exponentially increase that belief. Christ it's far worse than work emails honestly (without belittling your comment) Bluntly you have 2 people judging what they find attractive and you're unfortunately on the wrong side of the 'supply and demand' rule.. By no means criticism, just truthful x | |||
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"Lots of us will look at the profile and pics of the sender first op. If it's not appealing, they delete. Is your profile selling you in the best way?. " This ^^^ | |||
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently "They do but probably unread them | |||
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"Unfortunately when some women reply they then get questioned "why not?". Worse still some go from being "hot" to "fat sl@g" "dirty wh@re" or similar. As per Fabs FAQs no reply is a polite no thanks. We all need a thick skin to be on here, don't take it personally. " 110% on this and previous when on fab x | |||
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"Thanks and it not that i messaging anyone that say not looking for single guys i read every profile before i send a message along with a face im starting to think im ugly and most profiles say there reply back to a face so what do i do about that im not rude one bit " I can say that coming in to the forums, complaining about not getting a response and saying you feel ugly is not going to help your chances of getting a reply. You’re not entitled to a response, in-fact it clearly states in the FAQ’s that no response is a response. If you continue to read profiles, send individual messages and send a face picture, you will hopefully eventually get a response but you’re not entitled to one, so don’t moan when you don’t get one. | |||
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"I will tend to only message a couple if men is explicitly listed in the looking for section of their profile. If it's not listed then I don't see the point in messaging them. I think the best feature on fab is the "Not looking for single males" feature. I don't understand why more couples don't use it and if they fancy having a male chat to them or join them, they can just message him and that should, I believe, allow the male to reply. "That's exactly how it works. | |||
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"I get the no reply, woman and cpls must get inundated… and let’s face it, theres a fair few fake profiles on here and a fair few weirdos.. my only gripe is, when they ask for a face pic, u send one and no reply or blocked …. It’s like an instant “ugly fucker” lol 😂 which of yr thin skinned can be rather kick in the nuts " It’s not ugly fucker, just more like we are not attracted to you, that doesn’t mean you’re ugly it just mean you don’t match their preference | |||
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"I get the no reply, woman and cpls must get inundated… and let’s face it, theres a fair few fake profiles on here and a fair few weirdos.. my only gripe is, when they ask for a face pic, u send one and no reply or blocked …. It’s like an instant “ugly fucker” lol 😂 which of yr thin skinned can be rather kick in the nuts " If you send a face picture to someone and they instantly bock you, you have your answer. It's pretty clear, what else would you need? There is no ambiguity at all. | |||
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"I will tend to only message a couple if men is explicitly listed in the looking for section of their profile. If it's not listed then I don't see the point in messaging them. I think the best feature on fab is the "Not looking for single males" feature. I don't understand why more couples don't use it and if they fancy having a male chat to them or join them, they can just message him and that should, I believe, allow the male to reply.
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently "At any one time we could have 25-50 unread messages in our inbox. We come on her to check pics, our reach out or talk to people we want to, that the priority, not to read 50 messages and respond to them all, only to generate an additional 50 messages, when people respond to our response | |||
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently
At any one time we could have 25-50 unread messages in our inbox. We come on her to check pics, our reach out or talk to people we want to, that the priority, not to read 50 messages and respond to them all, only to generate an additional 50 messages, when people respond to our response "Plus, a single male would only message you if they happen to be attending the same club as you guys to make an introduction and say maybe see you there! | |||
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently
At any one time we could have 25-50 unread messages in our inbox. We come on her to check pics, our reach out or talk to people we want to, that the priority, not to read 50 messages and respond to them all, only to generate an additional 50 messages, when people respond to our response Plus, a single male would only message you if they happen to be attending the same club as you guys to make an introduction and say maybe see you there! "No most men don’t read our profile, so they don’t say that, they mainly say hi, heya or do you want to come to mine. I appreciate that if you’re a single male and you do everything right and still don’t get a response, that it can be frustrating but if that’s the case you have other options. You can go to clubs or socials and actually meet people in real life situations | |||
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"My reply to this post was not an excuse to send an abusive message to my inbox (not OP to be clear) ... my block button was happy to sort out that person. " The reply privately button has a lot to answer for. I hope you reported the message. | |||
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently
At any one time we could have 25-50 unread messages in our inbox. We come on her to check pics, our reach out or talk to people we want to, that the priority, not to read 50 messages and respond to them all, only to generate an additional 50 messages, when people respond to our response Plus, a single male would only message you if they happen to be attending the same club as you guys to make an introduction and say maybe see you there!
No most men don’t read our profile, so they don’t say that, they mainly say hi, heya or do you want to come to mine.
I appreciate that if you’re a single male and you do everything right and still don’t get a response, that it can be frustrating but if that’s the case you have other options. You can go to clubs or socials and actually meet people in real life situations "If you read a profile that has listed men in the looking for and you feel you could be suited and don't get a reply back then you have gotten your reply! They are either too busy with loads of mesaages or you are not for them. Either way, take it on the chin and move on. | |||
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"My reply to this post was not an excuse to send an abusive message to my inbox (not OP to be clear) ... my block button was happy to sort out that person. The reply privately button has a lot to answer for. I hope you reported the message. " I did. But it is a good demonstration as to why I don't reply to messages from people I don't want to chat to. | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all We get on average 5 messages a day from single guys despite our profile saying no single guys. Should we reply to them even though they haven’t bothered to read our profile ?" This is why our message filters are set to not allow single men | |||
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"You're right OP. Women should absolutely devote their lives to placating men who have decided that they deserve their attention. We're just being uppity little cunts otherwise 💜" That's brilliant 😂😂😂😂 | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying "Well if you’d replied to the first 1399 I sent 😂😂😂😂 | |||
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"See what your saying but look at it from a single male view I can send out a few hundred inital "ice breaers" that all they are to get one reply to write a individual message to each one would be a full time job It's a ice breaker you chat more 1 on 1 when if they answer I knew a woman who could've hundreds of message she would just block delete" ... Maybe don't message hundreds of people who'll do. Just message the people that appear genuinely compatible and interesting beyond having a viable hole 💜 | |||
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"See what your saying but look at it from a single male view I can send out a few hundred inital "ice breaers" that all they are to get one reply to write a individual message to each one would be a full time job It's a ice breaker you chat more 1 on 1 when if they answer I knew a woman who could've hundreds of message she would just block delete" I’d say of you’re sending out a couple of hundred messages then you have zero interest in the people you’re messaging you’re just looking for a hole to fuck | |||
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"Again with males complaining, get on with it" Hot pics and vids!! | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying thats the price for been sexy as f**k ". Oh yes...mine is one of the thousands... | |||
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"You're right OP. Women should absolutely devote their lives to placating men who have decided that they deserve their attention. We're just being uppity little cunts otherwise 💜" Fucking new it. Not get your replys in my inbox.....haha if only | |||
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"I get hundreds of messages a week. i also have children, a social life and a full time job. unless someone wants to be my PA...I cant be replying to everyone lol" How do I apply for said pa job....online form or oral test? | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all I had 0ver 1400 messages on the weekend. Do the math at replying thats the price for been sexy as f**k . Oh yes...mine is one of the thousands..."954 of those will be mine......sorry | |||
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"I think the OP rage quit lol! " Maybe peeps on here filled hgs inbox. To see how he likes it. | |||
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"I will tend to only message a couple if men is explicitly listed in the looking for section of their profile. If it's not listed then I don't see the point in messaging them. I think the best feature on fab is the "Not looking for single males" feature. I don't understand why more couples don't use it and if they fancy having a male chat to them or join them, they can just message him and that should, I believe, allow the male to reply.
That's exactly how it works. "Filters stop people messaging you. But if you message someone who would be blocked by the filter, they can reply and message in future (unless blocked) So everyone who demands a reply of “no thanks” would be on the guest list to message, if you did so, even if you change your filters. Combined with the fragile ego wankers who whine and insult anyone who dares to say “no thanks” , it’s not surprising that many people just block people who they are not interested in | |||
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"I find it frustrating that people dont read messages even when they have been on line recently "That’s easy to resolve away. The inbox fills up fast if you are on hot pics popular so your inbox is in a constant churn and you can only see a limited number before pushed off 1st page messages. Equally what makes you think they are even reading inbox. I most of the time just read forums or winks or hot pics In priv only bother checking my inbox a couple of days a week tbh So people have to wait or tough shit | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all " • My dear luckless fellow, these women aren't ignoring you. On Fab they are simply operating on Mystery Standard Time (MST) — a timezone that exists purely to make you refresh your phone repeatedly on the off-chance they have replied. It's not dignified for the fragile hearts of us men. Ignore them, they're missing out on some quality masculinity. | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all We get on average 5 messages a day from single guys despite our profile saying no single guys. Should we reply to them even though they haven’t bothered to read our profile ?" no you shouldn’t reply when you’ve stated on your profile no single men they are not reading your profile in the first place why should they expect a reply they should learn to read first before complaining | |||
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"Shocking bit of site this is no one replys the no excuse for it even if it a polite no or not my type i mist be one ugly c**t i dont bite i reply to all " If you got over 50 messages daily would you reply to them all? Would a polite no or not my type make you feel any better than getting no reply? No reply = no thanks. | |||
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"Thanks and it not that i messaging anyone that say not looking for single guys i read every profile before i send a message along with a face im starting to think im ugly and most profiles say there reply back to a face so what do i do about that im not rude one bit " Sadly, some people lie on their profile. Over the years I have contacted profiles where they state they always reply even it it so say no thank you. Then guess what? Yes, no reply lol. | |||
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"Is that too save them for later or just to confuse us?" I quite often mark a message unread so I can show it to Debs later. | |||
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