FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosting??

By *eetaguy OP Man
17 hours ago

Dartford

Ghosting... Is that what its called.

I can't get my head around how some people can be all over it with messages and endless enthusiasm then switch off like a tap.

If my plans change, I have second thoughts or simply not interested I feel I own it to them to tell them, we're adults after all.

This isn't a rant, far from it, more of a phycological question, I mean we are talking about sharing the most intimate of things with each other but we cant be upfront. 😊

By *xSirenaxxWoman
15 hours ago

Totally agree. It’s okay to reflect and decide not to continue. Personally, if I’ve been chatting to someone for a while or met for coffee and don’t feel it’s right, I think it’s respectful to send a simple, kind message, without over-explaining.

By *obnFluffyCouple
15 hours ago

Chester

Happened to us - made arrangements to meet, then we messaged a day or two before to ask if still on (and no worries if not - we can all change our views etc.) and said people didn’t even open the message let alone respond (and as has been said, a polite ‘have had a think etc and decided against for whatever reason would have been fine).

Such breathtaking lack of even basic respect, sadly, amongst many these days it seems…

By *abulincsCouple
15 hours ago

near a bridge

If only guys would think with their heads not cocks as most only seem to think it’s a free chat sex line have no intention in meeting at all we had similar experiences with verified guys too lol ,but then see guys moaning can’t get meets no wonder is there

By *recticWoman
15 hours ago

taunton

If I was dating someone, yeah. Fab I never expect to hear from someone ever again. Don’t really initiate the messages either and it can be a bit pot luck in getting my attention and I can make it awkward inadvertently by missing an ugly amount of messages but the inbox gets very full and I’m likely already looking out for someone else’s message.

Then seeing the little trail of BPD messages that start off alright, show a bit of anger, tell me I’m a time waster, then circle back to “ hey you look amazing”. It puts me off.

I lose track of messages on here. I can “vibe” with someone but if they don’t message me again, I don’t think on it. But I can never tell whether it’s me or them.