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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Morning everyone..

I often get confused when talking to couples as I never know if im talking to the M or F ( im sure some would say it shouldnt matter but to me it does as I like to know who im talking to)

Soooo if you could all put M or F before you type a message that would be grand

Thank you in advance

CK

Xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

you have a point, its always me (f) who posts in the forum but how is anyone supposed to know that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmm...I've chatted to some who said they were the female, but it felt like I was chatting to a man! It would be handy if when couples logged in, they were asked to specify which one was logging in, admin could then highlight "M" or "F", or "M1" and "M2", next to the "online" on profile

useful wee tool for admin

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

It's always me in here but I nearly always put an A after anyway

A

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By *rystal denisonWoman
over a year ago

trowbridge

agree with above but now I just ask

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

when we send messages they come from both of us so we just put both our initials, if we exchange several messages men do sometimes ask who they're talking to and suddenly go quiet when we say its both of us....hmmm wonder why

I will try and put mt initial in the forum though if it helps

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I always initial all messages and forums posts, saves any confusion

N

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I ever get a message from a couple I always assume its the male half, and mostly it is, I know in fantasy there are loads of women after another women to join them and their fella but in reality its mostly the males fantasy and he's the one who mails women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's always me in here but I nearly always put an A after anyway

A"

Well thats seems a good idea but unless u check out your profile, how do we know if you are a the man or the woman ......sorry to be so picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you'd have to assume they weren't fibbing when putting 'M' or 'F' or their initials!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course you'd have to assume they weren't fibbing when putting 'M' or 'F' or their initials!! "

Ooohhh do i suspect a synic amongst us lol ?

Men dont pretend to be women surely not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder how many couples profiles are actually a couples and not single men?? As there seems to be alot of couples profiles where just the man is free very strange!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmmmm...I've chatted to some who said they were the female, but it felt like I was chatting to a man! It would be handy if when couples logged in, they were asked to specify which one was logging in, admin could then highlight "M" or "F", or "M1" and "M2", next to the "online" on profile

useful wee tool for admin "

Not sure this would work as both me and the wife are logged in at the same time.

But I don't message anyone on here. She always does the chatting (read in one of these it's best that way!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course you'd have to assume they weren't fibbing when putting 'M' or 'F' or their initials!!

Ooohhh do i suspect a synic amongst us lol ?

Men dont pretend to be women surely not? "

welcome to the internet

where men are men ands so are most of the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make my messages generic so as to include them both. You never know whose speaking until they say.

Many may lie, but its only going to come back and bite them on their hairy ass!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For messages we only ever send together as such so always sign with both initials, forums is normally me (M) and chat can be either

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

well thi sis me (f)....or is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well ive just started using our couples profile in the forum, only now and again, but try to remember to sign Sid at the end so people know its me, i cant ever see Godfrey wrutin un here tbh, he is hardly ever in here, mind i will confess to pretending to be him when we get a message asking for a shag or saying nice arse, its fun

Sid x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We deliberately post ambiguously. It is surprising how often the tone of a conversation changes when someone discovers that they are talking to crystal.

Ultimately we are a couple and who is writing an individual message is largely irrelevant and i fail to see why people feel it is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And pn the forums the grumpy posts are mine, the cheerier ones are crystal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if its forum posts it's me Chris as I'm a chatter box, if it messages during the day it's me Chris again as I have a dull ass job and provided there just chit chat, if there more intimate messages then we will usually answer them together or I text Jayne and let her reply

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

I "dan" usually reply's to messages puts messages in forums etc as Leslie usually doesn't know what to say. But when it comes to meets its definitely joint decisions if not Leslie had last say ad though yes it is. Me that loves seeing Leslie with bi fems she loves being with and having fun with bi fems lol

Dan x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Morning everyone..

I often get confused when talking to couples as I never know if im talking to the M or F ( im sure some would say it shouldnt matter but to me it does as I like to know who im talking to)

Soooo if you could all put M or F before you type a message that would be grand

Thank you in advance

CK

Xxx "

We always do with pm's we assumed most others did as well.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

In private messages I usually sign off dan and Leslie as the message is from both even if Leslie is not there at the time but if Leslie does happen to reply to any message. Which is few and far between she signs off Leslie and dan or just Leslie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont always sign our messages off with whos sent it but its something to consider doing. In the forums its always F that posts as Mr doesnt use the forums

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"And pn the forums the grumpy posts are mine, the cheerier ones are crystal."

I'd worked that one out long ago

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

First message or reply to we point out who. Now each message will end either Fun or Juice unil of course we swap names.

It can be obvious though by how dialogue goes ie she's/I'm at work but rest assured will catch up and comment or reply herself/himself

Fun

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa


"It's always me in here but I nearly always put an A after anyway

A

Well thats seems a good idea but unless u check out your profile, how do we know if you are a the man or the woman ......sorry to be so picky "

Well as A comes before Z ............and its only polite to let the lady cum first !!!!!

A ( female half )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It tends to be Chris who answers messages, unless it's forum related or it's from a lady wanting to talk about clothes and lingerie, and he knows that they want to speak to me. He couldn't pretend to be me in those circumstances because he doesn't know the difference between a basque, corset or babydoll.

It is always me, Feebs, on the forum, well in the lounge or swingers chat section anyway. Chris has, twice, posted his appreciation in the stories and fantasies section because he likes reading the stories, whereas I never look in there. It would be obvious it was him anyway as he's much nicer and had a gentler nature than I.

I wouldn't put my initials in the forum or on messages, no other reason for this other than I can't be arsed to. I believe that singles messaging us should address the two of us anyway, Chris will be naughty on occasion and reply to the 'you are stunning with a gorgeous body' type message with a 'thank you very much, Feebs isn't too bad either '

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"We deliberately post ambiguously. It is surprising how often the tone of a conversation changes when someone discovers that they are talking to crystal.

Ultimately we are a couple and who is writing an individual message is largely irrelevant and i fail to see why people feel it is important."

Haha Crystal doesn't need to state her name. We can tell who is posting.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Must admit I prefer to know who I am talking to.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's always me

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Once got involved in a very confusing convo with an MM couple who were apparently both logged in in different places, sending me messages at the same time without realising what they were doing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We deliberately post ambiguously. It is surprising how often the tone of a conversation changes when someone discovers that they are talking to crystal.

Ultimately we are a couple and who is writing an individual message is largely irrelevant and i fail to see why people feel it is important.

Haha Crystal doesn't need to state her name. We can tell who is posting. "

We always put our initials at the end of mail so people know who they are talking to. (on our couples profile)

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By *lueeyes20thMan
over a year ago

Sale

I also think the profile page does not make it clear which is M and F. It just gives name and statistics but not which is which. Or am I just being stupid!

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By *DandPokeCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"I also think the profile page does not make it clear which is M and F. It just gives name and statistics but not which is which. Or am I just being stupid!"

I know what you mean, if I'm not sure I'll look at their height! If ones 6ft4 and the other is 5ft 3 it's pretty safe to assume the sex isn't it? Lol could go interestingly wrong tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we send messages to anyone, I sign them Lynne & Andy and always add a kiss, Andy signs our names with his first and no kisses. A lot of single guys who we stay in touch with still get confused.

It's always Lynne in the forums, Andy doesn't bother with them unless I point something funny out to him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mmmmm...I've chatted to some who said they were the female, but it felt like I was chatting to a man! It would be handy if when couples logged in, they were asked to specify which one was logging in, admin could then highlight "M" or "F", or "M1" and "M2", next to the "online" on profile

useful wee tool for admin

Not sure this would work as both me and the wife are logged in at the same time.

But I don't message anyone on here. She always does the chatting (read in one of these it's best that way!)"

If you BOTH logged on, it would look like it does now! (MF)

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