FabSwingers.com forum: Married men

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why are married men made out to always be cheating on there wife while married women are fair game and it doesn't matter if there cheating or not? I am a married man and am on here with my wife's permission, she is also on here not sure if i am allowed to put her name on here or not, anyhow it seems when your a married man you get less reply's then a single guy. Why is this the case?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think cos unlike you, the vast ,ajority of married mens wifes dont know they do this!!? xx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"Why are married men made out to always be cheating on there wife while married women are fair game and it doesn't matter if there cheating or not? I am a married man and am on here with my wife's permission, she is also on here not sure if i am allowed to put her name on here or not, anyhow it seems when your a married man you get less reply's then a single guy. Why is this the case?"

Because generally a fair amount of married men come on the forums bleating about why can't they get meets and so people point out its probably because they are married and people don't like cheaters. I've never seen a post like that from a married women they tend to just keep stum and go under the radar. I disagree equally with cheating from either sex.

If your wife is on here do you only meet seperate? You could put her profile name on your profile then the doubters could check with her? Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had someone wife try and convince me to do her husband. That was weird. Maybe that would work for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put her username on your profile and allow people to speak to her if they want to clarify the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married and the wife knows and will confirm its ok, she also loves watching women with me hehe, but true loads of cheaters out there !

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i don't differeniate between gender when it comes to those who "cheat".... a cheat is a cheat in my eyes...

maybe the only reason is that a lot of guys don't worry that the woman is married and playing away... just a leg over right....

not to me... but for some....

and back to your question... you as a married guy are playing in a much larger single guy pool.... you arent entitled because you are married, you have to work bloody hard like the rest of us!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I could care less if a man is married or not. I don't meet in hotels or invite into my home anyone that won't/can't invite me into theirs.

That excludes married men!

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By *iger and TeddyCouple
over a year ago

Telford

hear hear, i posted the same qeustion tuesday,married men are seen to be cheating and liars,where most married women are cheating ,but will only meet single guys because they can accomadate so they can visit discreetly without the hassle of hotels ect

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never said i was more entitled to meet women because i was married just saying its harder as a married guy as women always think you are cheating. I like the idea of putting my wife's details on my profile so women can check i am not cheating before any thing happens.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Cheating is cheating but like someone said the majority of cheating women keep themselves under the radar whilst married men whinge about not getting meets

as to why married men have to work harder, there was a post recently from a woman who had the fiancé of the guy she had met on the phone. He claimed he was single....She had to deal with the flack of that...

Married men often (not always ) try to hide the fact they are married as they think single women who say they won't meet married men are gullible.

There are married people cheating and married men who are playing with partners knowledge and consent, the two are different. However, don't blame a single woman to want to verify with your partner is she chooses to...

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

"Why are married men made out to always be cheating on there wife while married women are fair game and it doesn't matter if there cheating or not? I am a married man and am on here with my wife's permission, she is also on here not sure if i am allowed to put her name on here or not, anyhow it seems when your a married man you iget less reply's then a single guy. Why is this the case?"

I would say because there are far less men (not all) who care about women who cheat than the other way round..........

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I think it's very simple. If you have a partner and are here to cheat many people will not be interested and may well judge you. Men are criticised more as there are more men on here and, therefore, more likely to be more of them cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm married and she doesn't know, and I fully accept people will stay clear, but there are plenty who prefer married as it suits them better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My view is that this is a swinging site (clue is in the site name) ... so its for people who want to swing, regardless of marital status. I'll repeat that ... "people who want to swing". You're a man who wants to swing, so you're on here looking for girls/couples to swing with. Me too ... I'm a man who wants to swing, and I'm on here looking for girls/couples to swing with. Our reason for being here is the same. Its completely irrelevant that I'm single and you're married. Ditto for the girls on here. We are all looking for partners to have sex with, otherwise why would we be here. So don't let irrelevancies bother you...just keep enjoying swinging. As for the number of replies that you're getting ... that's down to how attractive your profile is to your targetted partner profiles, and how they perceive that you meet their needs. Best of luck

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

If you say you're married, some people will stay clear. Nothing to moan about. That's just the way it is. Don't take it anymore personally than you would if they told you they're not meeting you because you're tall, short, fat, slim, black, white or haven't got a cock the size of a scaffolding pole.

It is a very big sea, so go find the fish that want to be caught by you.

Personally, I think people can do what they want, meet who they want or not. That's their cup of tea.

I met a couple the other day and found out they were merely fuck buddies and they were both married and playing on the quiet. It was one of the best meets I'd had and that was all there was to it.

I didn't interrogate, ask endless questions, judge or worry my poor head.

Live and let live. Thats the way i see it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well i have now updated my profile again advising i am married and my wife, Jaybug can verify i am who i say i am and she is happy for me being here

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

think more women have higher morals where to alot of blokes a shag is a shag whether the girl is married or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who gives a fuck who is cheating anyway, in my opinion it's got nothing to do with anyone anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang em I say!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"If you say you're married, some people will stay clear. Nothing to moan about. That's just the way it is. Don't take it anymore personally than you would if they told you they're not meeting you because you're tall, short, fat, slim, black, white or haven't got a cock the size of a scaffolding pole.

It is a very big sea, so go find the fish that want to be caught by you.

Personally, I think people can do what they want, meet who they want or not. That's their cup of tea.

I met a couple the other day and found out they were merely fuck buddies and they were both married and playing on the quiet. It was one of the best meets I'd had and that was all there was to it.

I didn't interrogate, ask endless questions, judge or worry my poor head.

Live and let live. Thats the way i see it xx"

.........very easy to be that "cocksure" "ballsy" "brassy" and "bulletproof" when the other person is some anonymous figure... not so easy though when it is a live and angry person in front of you.....

for example, I could say i'd go up to mike tyson and call him every name under the sun from the saftey of 5000 miles away, but i damned as well wouldn't if he were eye to eye...

and thats why people think they can say stuff from the safety of being behind a computer.... if "real life" was staring you in the face... i am betting the "ignorance" card would be played early and often even if it was a lie....

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Who gives a fuck who is cheating anyway, in my opinion it's got nothing to do with anyone anyway

erm it actually has something to do with the other person you are meeting, IF they want it to.....

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I am not here to be someones moral arbiter. I don't meet attached people because, in my experience, they are more likely to cancel due to 'family' issues.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Which is fair enough, if someone may have to return home at an instant that's clearly not conducive to a good meet

Personally as long as I have the person with me for however long the meet is planned for and they're not aiming to run off I don't worry about the status of their relationship or if they have one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well why don't you join as a couple and state on your profile that you both meet alone?

Not my thing but I am sure others are fine with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one really knows for sure unless they follow their meets home and see if they get into bed with a spouse or partner if they have met a married and cheating person anyway

I at least admire the honesty that some guys have the guts to come on here and say they're married considering they generally get ripped to shreds,they could say nothing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are married and you are both on here, then you should have a couples profile ... then link to it from your single profile, so people know you arn't playing away

I dont meet with couples, married playing solo or fwb/fb couples. My choice.

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By *olfcartweaselCouple
over a year ago

Melrose

From our pov we rarely play with single guys but will steer clear of any single who says they have a partner that we can't verify with because we don't want the drama.

In addition I personally would feel guilty on their account which would take the fun out for me - F

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well got a good load of oppinions on the subject. Maybe me and the wife will set up a couplr profile as well and link to our single profiles. As for commitment issues causing meets to become shortened if i am on a meet mt wife will know and will not contact me while i am there as i dont with her meets. Unless there is a real emergency the meet will not be affected.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"well got a good load of oppinions on the subject. Maybe me and the wife will set up a couplr profile as well and link to our single profiles. As for commitment issues causing meets to become shortened if i am on a meet mt wife will know and will not contact me while i am there as i dont with her meets. Unless there is a real emergency the meet will not be affected. "

...as if you'd come on here and say anything different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people don't meet cheaters cos they are here for NSA, which means no hassles..

There are plenty of us who have experienced a backlash from cheated on partners and we don't need that crap in our lives!

Others have compassion for the cheated on person and don't want to be involved as it isn't their business and they're not here to cause hurt to anyone.

Whatever the reason, why question a preference?

If your wife knows then as people have said, include her on ur profile, verify each other even.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...as if you'd come on here and say anything different!

My wife will verify anything anyone would want to know before hand even that she will not call me away mid meet like i dont do when she is on a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am said wife of Andysponge we play alone and we are not cheaters we're swingers. ALSO we do not contact each other on meets unless an absolute emergency but we make sure we're aware of where the other is for their safety!

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