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By *ancs29 OP   Man
12 hours ago

oldham

Some people put a lot of time, effort, and thought into crafting the perfect message—non-pushy, genuine, and respectful—only to have them sit unread or ignored for long periods. I understand that women and couples probably get thousands of messages each day, but despite sending around 40 messages daily, I haven’t received a single reply, not even a “thank you” or a simple request for a picture. In 12 months, I’ve likely sent about 1,000 messages and only once did someone ask for a photo before saying I wasn’t for them. It feels like this site is overrun with greedy guys who only care about chasing as many conquests as possible rather than genuinely connecting with just one person. No matter where you go, it seems people like that push others to the sidelines. It’s incredibly frustrating to open my inbox hoping for a positive response after all the effort, only to be disappointed again and again. Maybe I expect too much, but after a year, I would have thought I could meet at least one woman or couple, even for a one-time meet, yet I can’t say I have.

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By *igBeardyDanMan
12 hours ago

Bilston

Prepare yourself

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By *meandyouCouple
12 hours ago

up north

If someone puts the effort in has clearly read our profile or has replied in line with a forum post then we always reply.

Any 1 word or 1 line or something asking for a meet on the first message just gets deleted

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By *etwife8230Couple
12 hours ago

Newport

Perhaps delete the message after sent so that your not frustrated or disappointed

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 hours ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

40 messages a day?

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By *ieandteaseMan
12 hours ago

Wiltshire

No, nobody ever replies on here

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By *hinstrapMan
11 hours ago

sheffield

It's a myth. They just like to keep there inboxes full. It gives them immense power and domination.

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By *ilentrunningMan
11 hours ago

Cardiff/Reading/Liverpool &more

Yes it can be frustrating, but it comes with the territory. Women and couples get lots of messages and that must be difficult to manage. It’s also difficult to stand out when there are so many single guys. I don’t send many messages maybe a couple a week and currently about half of those are left unread.

40

Messages a day does sound a bit like you’re carpet bombing rather than being selective about messaging those who might actually be a match for you?

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By *imply_SensualMan
11 hours ago

Cheshire


""In 12 months, I’ve likely sent about 1,000 messages and only once did someone ask for a photo before saying I wasn’t for them."

"It feels like this site is overrun with greedy guys who only care about chasing as many conquests as possible rather than genuinely connecting with just one person." "

Can you see the contradiction in your own comment? You are one of the guys who is greedy and chasing conquests if you are sending 1,000 messages in a year!

Also, consider sending a photo with the first message before being asked for one, and only message profiles you truly want to connect with and explain in the message why you feel you do connect and whats in it for them. (and I dont mean the graphic detail)

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By *WB85Man
11 hours ago

Staffordshire

Those that are interested do reply.

People do things differently. I know that my wife reads messages via email notifications. Those that interest her, she goes online to find. Then views their profile in ninja mode to see if compatible.

My logic is this, no reply is a reply....just not the reply you wanted.

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By *orth_London_Guy100Man
11 hours ago

London

I always reply - even if I am not interested

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By *eekendVixenCouple
11 hours ago

Leicester

We reply to most messages we get. Particularly if they are polite and complimentary.

We easily get 50 messages a day.

The easiest option would be to ignore but I do think it is a bit rude.

Fab could do more to help. Thanks but no thanks button. Option to completely block unsolicited messages.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
11 hours ago

Coleraine

We nearly always read and reply to messages that have had some effort put into them. They deserve this even if we see not interested or matched

Sadly we get very few messages like this though which is why it’s easy to reply to them.

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
11 hours ago

Round the bend

Why are you entitled to a reply?

If others are winning using tactics change your tactics?

So you ate sending 280 messages out every week? Basically spamming everyone's inbox, this is the reason people don't read messages.

Sure it's frustrating but in a games of numbers you need to stand out, evolve or die almost.

Good luck though

Mr 🐺

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By *en_Dover79Man
11 hours ago

Oswaldtwistle

Just dont message, let them come to you.

If you message crap like most men tend to here then you will be very lucky to get a reply.

I have fem friends who show me messages they receive and most are horrifying.

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By *aandLoCouple
10 hours ago

Southampton

We will reply to all messages which are well worded, and demonstrate they've read our profile. A decent face pic with that first message is definitely an enticement if they align to our desires as a person.

If they clearly haven't read our profile, or choose to ignore it, they are not entitled to a reply.

But everyone has a different approach to Fabmin so you need to just accept that I'm afraid.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
10 hours ago

North West

Sends 40 messages daily but wants to just connect with one special person? You do see the irony? Please tell me you see the irony?

Once you reply to someone they can get through your filters. That’s why most people will delete rather than reply. Also most women and couples will check a profile when deciding whether or not to reply. And they do this in “ninja mode” so they won’t show on “who’s looked at me” - is your profile appealing?

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
10 hours ago

Tamworth

We will always reply to a message, even if it’s a polite. No thank you.

But we don’t get many messages so it not to much hard work. Be unfortunately don’t allow single men messages as we are not looking to connect with single men. Maybe that’s why we don’t get many messages lol

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By *unandcuriousCouple
10 hours ago

Antrim

Its only polite to at least reply

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By *.hrisMan
9 hours ago

Bath

No way, and if someone did reply, they'd get a straight block!

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By *attooedbbwandhubbyCouple
8 hours ago

Dorset

We do if they read our profile and actually write a message rather than copy paste a generic paragraph over.

Even if it’s a No we generally reply to as many as we can.

Multiple spam messages however will not get any further response as it becomes annoying

Plus our replies might not be instant, sometimes we are not online together or just browsing so will reply at a later point when we have time to sit down to do so

Flip that and when we do reply, plenty of times people just don’t or can’t follow up with any decent conversation, so we can see why there are so many frustrated couples out there who give up responding as it is time wasted more often than not

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By *ambamxxxMan
8 hours ago

Daventry

I think us genuine males, don’t realise that females and couple receive 100’s a day! So I get it, while frustrating, I do get it.

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By *harAndBryCouple
8 hours ago

Downham Market


"I think us genuine males, don’t realise that females and couple receive 100’s a day! So I get it, while frustrating, I do get it.

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If only we did! In reality we might get thirty if we put a new pic up, maybe three or four of not.

We put as much effort into replies as the sender put in their message....

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By *CExeCouple
8 hours ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

You say up to 40 messages a day, let's say 30 messages, and all with 'time care and effort'. So maybe 10 minutes to read their profile and then craft and send a message. That's 5 hours a day of sending messages. That alone smacks of desperation.

We don't reply to all messages, then again, I don't reply to all the spam email I receive either; we're under no obligation to reply to either.

If you're not getting any luck with messages then try going to socials, chatting in the forums and on the cams.

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By *et and WillingCouple
8 hours ago

Nuneaton

Nah

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