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How to be a dom

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By *untimefella4u OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Wokingham

I see loads of profiles asking for doms and I'm deffo more dom than sub but what is expected in the role?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

That depends on the individual really.

Each person in the dynamic needs to have a clear idea of wants, expectations and boundaries,they might not be able to articulate it straight away but you should all discuss it. If they can't tell you stay clear.

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By *aithRestorerMan
3 weeks ago

Bolton


"That depends on the individual really.

Each person in the dynamic needs to have a clear idea of wants, expectations and boundaries,they might not be able to articulate it straight away but you should all discuss it. If they can't tell you stay clear. "

The end of this is so absolutely correct

"If they can't tell you stay clear". Best advice you can get in relation to this

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By *ve_GardenWoman
3 weeks ago

York

Firstly, to be a “true” Dom, you need to look at little things. For instance, the capitalisation of the “D” in the world “Dom”.

If you’re wanting to explore this in real life, as in every day Dom/sub dynamic, I’d advise reading in depth about it. submissives hold as much power as the Dom, it’s that they’ve given you that control.

It purely depends on what you’re wanting out of the D/s dynamic/relationship as to what advice I can give.

There are some great books surrounding this, that make you look a lot deeper into it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Also find out how serious they are. Do they mean a little tie and tease with light spanking or a while lifestyle thing?

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By *untimefella4u OP   Man
3 weeks ago

Wokingham

Thanks for the advice.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
3 weeks ago

Norwich ish

Have a look at our profile pics and vids. D/s play can take many forms. Power exchange is the key, but it is given by the sub rather than taken by the Dom.

Lots of messages received from guys who clearly have no idea what true D/s play involves.

Lots of writings on the other site catering specifically to fetish that indicate how many overstep to abuse.

So as others have said communication and trust are key.

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
3 weeks ago

accrington

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By *tlanshiaWoman
3 weeks ago

Chatham

Trust.

Negotiate with the person you want to play with and go from there.

The red and black website is a good resource for newbies

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By *hank you sirMan
3 weeks ago

colchester

Ill be honest I just naturally fell into the role of being a dom.

People's preferences of what a dom is and does are different I know.

But because previous partners expected me to be a dom I just adopted the role at it grew from there.

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By *hitelotusMan
3 weeks ago

london

I am fortunate to be able to adjust accordingly from domestic to accommodating ! But not sub!

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