FabSwingers.com forum: Awkward phone call

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I was just in the baking aisle of the local supermarket looking for hundreds and thousands when my phone rang...

Me: hello

Them: is this Louise?

my alarm bells as Louise is my "fab name" and it was a female calling.

Me: yes

Them: do you know someone calked jim/Adam

Me: yes I met them last week for a drink, I'm guessing they aren't as single as they told me and you're their girlfriend?

Them: fiancé

Now at this point I had to stop myself saying, "for how much longer"

Anyway I won't go through the whole conversation, but I was honest with "the fiancé" and told her exactly what our meet was like (thankfully just a social) .

It was just a very awkward conversation and had really annoyed me no end, if someone decides to cheat they should be more careful with people's details!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why is she phoning you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same.. He lives on the east coast I'm here on the west so chances of meeting were slim. Been chatting for a long long time when I get a txt... How do you know s? I said I didn't know an. S... She then phoned,,, explained he was. A Muslim and had 2 young children, she kept asking me if I was Muslim..... I assured her we never met but doesn't mean to say he hasn't anyone else.......why do they do it??? This is one reason I will not o with a married man.....I wouldn't have liked it done to me that's for sure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why is she phoning you?

To find out what he's been up to and if we "did anything". I was totally honest with her, it was just a social meet and other then a quick peck at the end, nothing happened (which is very unusual on one of my meets).

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I got a text once from a meet saying 'are you fucking my husband?' I didn't reply because a) she should be asking him, not me, and b) the little scrote insisted he was single.

I mean, if you're going to cheat, make sure you don't put the womens names on your phone. Some men truly are clueless.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I mean, if you're going to cheat, make sure you don't put the womens names on your phone. Some men truly are clueless.

I think a lot of them want to be found out. Either because they think it will make their wives want to start swinging, they want to make them jealous or they want to bring things to a head. Anyone who truly wanted to cover their tracks would cover things up much better than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might be a little help, we find it best to only use a cheap pay as you go phone to use when arranging any meets so we dont give out our personal numbers, then if you do receieve any awkward phone calls like that it is cheap enough to throw the sim card away and get a new one purely for your swinging ventures, not ideal but it does the job, you never know if some one is married or how careful they will be with their phone at home so its best to cover yourself from all angles so you enjoy the pleasure and none of the problems, hope that helps

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By *mma peelWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had a woman call me on my land line and ask me why I couldn't get a man of my own....I sh*t myself....! Think it had the desired effect....lessons learnt....don't use the landline....

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By *DandPokeCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"This might be a little help, we find it best to only use a cheap pay as you go phone to use when arranging any meets so we dont give out our personal numbers, then if you do receieve any awkward phone calls like that it is cheap enough to throw the sim card away and get a new one purely for your swinging ventures, not ideal but it does the job, you never know if some one is married or how careful they will be with their phone at home so its best to cover yourself from all angles so you enjoy the pleasure and none of the problems, hope that helps"
that's what we do, thought everyone done it? The swinging hotline lol. Also got a swinging email addy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my assessment methods to determine if a gent is truly unattached is his ability to make and take calls late at night.

If they can't and cannot provide me with a valid reason, then I don't want to know.

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By *iss__KittyWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in Cornwall

This is easier for me to deal with. Because of my nature, I tell them I am going to mark them - whips, scratches, etc. If they are married/cheating this is usually enough to put them off as they know they will be found out.

Its also difficult for my man to cheat because I have his cock locked up in a chastity cage. LOL

I do apprecate the awkwardness of your situation though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is one reason I will not o with a married man.....I wouldn't have liked it done to me that's for sure"

I'm married, however my wife knows where I'm going when I'm meeting. Plus I always inform people early on when messaging that I'm married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is easier for me to deal with. Because of my nature, I tell them I am going to mark them - whips, scratches, etc. If they are married/cheating this is usually enough to put them off. "

It's not putting me off, you can whip me anyday, or night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This might be a little help, we find it best to only use a cheap pay as you go phone to use when arranging any meets so we dont give out our personal numbers, then if you do receieve any awkward phone calls like that it is cheap enough to throw the sim card away and get a new one purely for your swinging ventures, not ideal but it does the job, you never know if some one is married or how careful they will be with their phone at home so its best to cover yourself from all angles so you enjoy the pleasure and none of the problems, hope that helps that's what we do, thought everyone done it? The swinging hotline lol. Also got a swinging email addy

.... thought this the norm...especially with teenage kids "can i just borrow your phone"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can't be bothered with carrying a 3rd phone, I already carry a work and personal phone. "The fiancé" was very pleasant and polite and I was honest....feel sorry for her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't be bothered with carrying a 3rd phone, I already carry a work and personal phone. "The fiancé" was very pleasant and polite and I was honest....feel sorry for her x"

Snap. One telephone is enough for me too. If men lie then it's their problem not mine. I had some abusive texts a few years ago then when I agreed to speak to the fiance and explained it was just a social meet, she was apologetic and thanked me for being honest. He did get in touch again a few weeks later on msn and apologised for putting me in that situation. She'd ended the relationship as other meets he'd had were more than just social but it served him right!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She's now called me four times to check things.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he contacted U since.... Tell her his account name on here..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has he contacted U since.... Tell her his account name on here..

If his fiance has found out I sincerely hope he's had the decency to delete his account

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He hasn't contacted me since and surprise surprise his account has gone on here too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So lets hope she doesn't bother you again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He hasn't contacted me since and surprise surprise his account has gone on here too!

Do you know she hasnt done a random search for a swinger with your username through google etc ? unless of course you have the filters set to not show you on random searchs ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"She's now called me four times to check things..... "

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He hasn't contacted me since and surprise surprise his account has gone on here too!

Do you know she hasnt done a random search for a swinger with your username through google etc ? unless of course you have the filters set to not show you on random searchs ?"

I've got my filters set to not show in searches

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?"

No, I think four calls is enough now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?

No, I think four calls is enough now..."

call blocker app, is awesome for stopping those unwanted calls and texts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?

No, I think four calls is enough now...

call blocker app, is awesome for stopping those unwanted calls and texts

What's app blocker and how do I get it? I have a text stalker and blocking him is not an option with O2 unless I report to the police or change number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is proof of how attached people are far from NSA

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?

No, I think four calls is enough now...

call blocker app, is awesome for stopping those unwanted calls and texts

I've been looking for an app like that but can't find one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

oh dear. Will you continue to take her calls?

No, I think four calls is enough now...

call blocker app, is awesome for stopping those unwanted calls and texts

I've been looking for an app like that but can't find one "

I use 'call blocker' for Android, it's free in the play store, and works a treat. Notsure about iphones though. Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I use 'call blocker' for Android, it's free in the play store, and works a treat. Notsure about iphones though. Hope that helps

Thanks. I have a Windows phone so I'll have a look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I use 'call blocker' for Android, it's free in the play store, and works a treat. Notsure about iphones though. Hope that helps

Thanks. I have a Windows phone so I'll have a look

no problem, it's really handy to have, if you only use one phone, especially if it's your play phone too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call bliss might help on iPhones. Not used it myself thought so cant be 100% sure.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see.... they think they are bulletproof and people never find out......

can you point the next married person playing away without consent who complains about not getting meets to this thread!!!

if you don't know they aren't single.... you have my upmost sympathy...

if you do know... you're playing with fire.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"see.... they think they are bulletproof and people never find out......

can you point the next married person playing away without consent who complains about not getting meets to this thread!!!

if you don't know they aren't single.... you have my upmost sympathy...

if you do know... you're playing with fire.....

I genuinely didn't know and didn't suspect either. He'd text and call at different times of day and night. He would chat on msn and even sent me a pic while he was on holiday with the 'lads'. Later found out he was on holiday with his fiance and her son

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Mr number works on android phones, drops the call instantaneously and you can block withheld too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would just say, i know nothing! they usualy believe me when i say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things..... "

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I never give out my phone number, so I would never be in this situation. But if I had, I would just disconnect the call without making any comment and I would block the number. I certainly wouldn't be getting into the middle of a domestic situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"see.... they think they are bulletproof and people never find out......

can you point the next married person playing away without consent who complains about not getting meets to this thread!!!

if you don't know they aren't single.... you have my upmost sympathy...

if you do know... you're playing with fire.....

On this occasion the guy to me he was single. I have in the past played with attached guys, this was not one of them, he told me to my face he was single

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved"

Have to agree, as soon as he lied to me and let his fiancé find my number I became involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved"

but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

What difference does that make??!!

I really didn't care if she was the coldest most selfish woman on this planet. He lied by telling me he was single, met me under false pretences and didn't have the guts to warn me once she found out

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

What difference does that make??!!

I really didn't care if she was the coldest most selfish woman on this planet. He lied by telling me he was single, met me under false pretences and didn't have the guts to warn me once she found out

Not the end of the world though is it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here. "

cant blame them though, so would i if i was that desperate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here.

cant blame them though, so would i if i was that desperate."

blame who? These men whose wives have mythical personality disorders?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So OP, what cake were you baking and did you find the hundreds and thousands??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't care about their relationship, I do care he lied to me and put me in a position to have to explain to his fiancé what he had been up to with me. I could have lied for him, but why should I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about their relationship, I do care he lied to me and put me in a position to have to explain to his fiancé what he had been up to with me. I could have lied for him, but why should I?

I'm with you on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here.

cant blame them though, so would i if i was that desperate.

blame who? These men whose wives have mythical personality disorders? "

Cant blame men who are missing out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I can blame then, there is never an excuse to lie, regardless how shitty your home life is.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

blame who? These men whose wives have mythical personality disorders?

Cant blame men who are missing out."

so there people (men or women) get a free pass because they are "missing out".... wow!!!!

if i was a decision between the person I didn't know.... and the person who I know to have lied to my face to get said leg over.... I know which I would be more inclined to go with....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here.

cant blame them though, so would i if i was that desperate.

blame who? These men whose wives have mythical personality disorders?

Cant blame men who are missing out."

No of course not the poor blameless things, it must be dreadful for them

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

I clearly state on my profile I'm married.

I also state I'm discreet

I have my reasons for being in a place like this, as do others, and I fully appreciate the word 'careful'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"but just maybe, some of the wives of cheating men arent so perfect as you like to think they are.

for all we know they could be right cold selfish people with personality disorders, i mean you just dont know as there is always two sides to a story.

no one is saying these women are perfect, the only fact we know about them is that they are married to men who will lie to get sex, to their partners and to the women they meet on here.

cant blame them though, so would i if i was that desperate.

blame who? These men whose wives have mythical personality disorders?

Cant blame men who are missing out."

Yes, yes you can! Its their problem, their choice life and its down to them to sort it out without involving anyone else!

They made their bed, they have to lie in it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I clearly state on my profile I'm married.

I also state I'm discreet

I have my reasons for being in a place like this, as do others, and I fully appreciate the word 'careful'."

Haha that's what they all say.. And yet so many are caught..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I clearly state on my profile I'm married.

I also state I'm discreet

I have my reasons for being in a place like this, as do others, and I fully appreciate the word 'careful'."

And I fully appreciate the words "famous last".

Almost every profile on here contains the word discreet it's become such common currency as to be almost meaningless but I'm glad you're careful and that you are honest enough to us at least, it prevents anyone getting a surprise phone call such as the op did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I never give out my phone number, so I

would never be in this situation. But if I had, I would just disconnect the call without making any comment and I would block the number. I certainly wouldn't be getting into the middle of a domestic situation

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing

the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved

Have to agree, as soon as he lied to me and let his fiancé find my number I became involved "

You chose to become further involved. By taking calls and answering questions you are making yourself part of this when initially you did nothing wrong as you were unaware.

Women are vindictive when cheated on. How easy would it be for her to trace you nabe could set up a male account on here, cos no doubt you've told her all about fab. She could find you, message you, arrange a date, stranger thongs have happened.

Maybe he's told her you did all the chasing, maybe he'll tell her that you showed him explicit pics, begged him to meet, wanted sex but he said no, who would she believe, you or him.

He could shw her your profile

Maybe all of this won't happen but it could certainly avoid the chance of it if you'd just hit the end key.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I clearly state on my profile I'm married.

I also state I'm discreet

I have my reasons for being in a place like this, as do others, and I fully appreciate the word 'careful'.

And I fully appreciate the words "famous last".

You're quite correct; the word 'discreet' is on almost every profile in here. So is the word 'genuine'. It's just a shame the majority of people don't understand either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avast mobile security also blocks xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I never give out my phone number, so I

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing

the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved

Have to agree, as soon as he lied to me and let his fiancé find my number I became involved

You chose to become further involved. By taking calls and answering questions you are making yourself part of this when initially you did nothing wrong as you were unaware.

Maybe he's told her you did all the chasing, maybe he'll tell her that you showed him explicit pics, begged him to meet, wanted sex but he said no, who would she believe, you or him.

He could shw her your profile

Maybe all of this won't happen but it could certainly avoid the chance of it if you'd just hit the end key. "

What would stop any of that happening even if the op had said nothing?

Atleast by the op being honest about not knowing the woman can see the op is being honest and its already proven her husband is a liar anyway, so which scenario is the fiancee more likely to believe?

If the op said nothing and the guy then tried to pass the buck by saying the op begged and showed the fiancee the website etc then the fact the op hadn't been honest and said nothing then the finacee is more likely to believe the guy.

Honesty is the best policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I was just in the baking aisle of the local supermarket looking for hundreds and thousands when my phone rang...

Me: hello

Them: is this Louise?

my alarm bells as Louise is my "fab name" and it was a female calling.

Me: yes

Them: do you know someone calked jim/Adam

Me: yes I met them last week for a drink, I'm guessing they aren't as single as they told me and you're their girlfriend?

Them: fiancé

Now at this point I had to stop myself saying, "for how much longer"

Anyway I won't go through the whole conversation, but I was honest with "the fiancé" and told her exactly what our meet was like (thankfully just a social) .

It was just a very awkward conversation and had really annoyed me no end, if someone decides to cheat they should be more careful with people's details!

Jeez this kinda thing is my worst nightmare , I never want fab to spill over into my real life, or for them to know who I am, my real name etc, just a lot of hassle I don't want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is she phoning you?

Ditto, she has no right unless her Fiance was under age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The solution is to get a Fab only phone. Only answer it when you are free and if any other unsolicited calls come in tell them to get lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine that the woman was relying on the OP to tell her the truth about what happened. I mean when you've been cheated on you can hardly rely on the words of someone who has lied to you already.

I know that doesn't make it right or nice for the OP though.

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By *harliesteveCouple
over a year ago

selly oak

It makes life so much harder for men who do have blessing. Charlie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm actually very blunt if someone rings me.. only happened a few times. Although had a woman ring me to tell me she was fucking my ex. I told her I knew that.

had a woman ask me if I was fucking her husband. I said I didn't know as I didn't bother with names and to ask him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The solution is to get a Fab only phone. Only answer it when you are free and if any other unsolicited calls come in tell them to get lost.

What difference does that make? You still get the call and you can choose not to answer calls on any mobile. If the person isn't in your phone book all that comes up is an unrecognisable number or witheld! The OP wad lied to like I wad but we decided to be honest with their other halves.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If they used my fab name I would have said wrong number.....

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Moral of this story for anyone who is cheating or lies,

It will eventually come back and bite you in the arse.

If you can't swing without being honest, then be prepared to get caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I never give out my phone number, so I

would never be in this situation. But if I

had, I would just disconnect the call without making any comment and I would block the number. I certainly wouldn't be getting into the middle of a domestic situation

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing

the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved

Have to agree, as soon as he lied to

me and let his fiancé find my number I became involved

You chose to become further involved. By taking calls and answering questions you are making yourself part of this

when initially you did nothing wrong as you were unaware.

Women are vindictive when cheated on. How easy would it be for her to trace you nabe could set up a male

account on here, cos no doubt you've told her all about fab. She could find you, message you, arrange a date, stranger thongs have happened.

Maybe he's told her you did all the chasing, maybe he'll tell her that you showed him explicit pics, begged him

to meet, wanted sex but he said no, who would she believe, you or him.

He could shw her your profile

Maybe all of this won't happen but it could certainly avoid the chance of it if you'd just hit the end key.

What would stop any of that happening even if the op had said nothing?

Atleast by the op being honest about not knowing the woman can see the op

is being honest and its already proven her husband is a liar anyway, so which scenario is the fiancee more likely to believe?

If the op said nothing and the guy then tried to pass the buck by saying the op begged and showed the fiancee the

website etc then the fact the op hadn't been honest and said nothing then the finacee is more likely to believe the guy.

Honesty is the best policy

Do you seriously think this woman is going to think 'ah isn't that lady nice, I rang her and she told me how she'd also been duped, I'm so grateful to her' , no the chances are she's saying, you going on sex sites to meet slags.

This is NSA sex, people wo don't swing don't understand, we are all whores to them. Yes people could search and find the OP anyway but the chances are that we give more info out the more we talk. I could understand answering the first call, but having 4 other calls is foolish. Why put yourself through it for a stranger. We are not here on a mission to save all women against cheating men.

I really do think it's foolish to continue with conversations of this nature

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By *anemartinCouple
over a year ago

lochgelly

"I'm actually very blunt if someone rings me.. only happened a few times. Although had a woman ring me to tell me she was fucking my ex. I told her I knew that.

had a woman ask me if I was fucking her husband. I said I didn't know as I didn't bother with names and to ask him. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She's now called me four times to check things.....

I think this is wrong. No matter what his situation is, you shouldn't really be getting involved. It isn't your mission to get involved in others relationships.

I never give out my phone number, so I

would never be in this situation. But if I

had, I would just disconnect the call without making any comment and I would block the number. I certainly wouldn't be getting into the middle of a domestic situation

I wouldn't lie if someone asked. By lying or refusing to talk you are involing yourself in my eyes as you are allowing

the cheater to have their cheating ways and to continue to lie.

So once with a cheat knowingly or not, you have been involved

Have to agree, as soon as he lied to

me and let his fiancé find my number I became involved

You chose to become further involved. By taking calls and answering questions you are making yourself part of this

when initially you did nothing wrong as you were unaware.

Women are vindictive when cheated on. How easy would it be for her to trace you nabe could set up a male

account on here, cos no doubt you've told her all about fab. She could find you, message you, arrange a date, stranger thongs have happened.

Maybe he's told her you did all the chasing, maybe he'll tell her that you showed him explicit pics, begged him

to meet, wanted sex but he said no, who would she believe, you or him.

He could shw her your profile

Maybe all of this won't happen but it could certainly avoid the chance of it if you'd just hit the end key.

What would stop any of that happening even if the op had said nothing?

Atleast by the op being honest about not knowing the woman can see the op

is being honest and its already proven her husband is a liar anyway, so which scenario is the fiancee more likely to believe?

If the op said nothing and the guy then tried to pass the buck by saying the op begged and showed the fiancee the

website etc then the fact the op hadn't been honest and said nothing then the finacee is more likely to believe the guy.

Honesty is the best policy

I really do think it's foolish to continue with conversations of this nature "

Yes taking four calls may have been foolish but I don't say anything else on the four call then I said on the 1st. I gave her my user id ad I've nothing to hide, explained what sort of site fab was and told her that yes I do meet guys for sex. I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle and to be honest she was just looking for answers, most of which of couldn't give her.

I have her number on my do not answer list now and I won't take any more calls, however at the time it felt like the right thing to do. No-one other then me was in that predicament or spoke to this girl? I did and stand by what I said and the calls I took.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree with you, no one else was in your situation, you did what you thought was right at the time and you had nothing to be ashamed of.

Why is it always the women in these situations who get blamed or are accused of mishandling the situation? Only one culprit here....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, married guys or guys with partners posing as single guys only spoil it for us who are GENUINELY single. I get soooo angry when I read about guys like this. It just makes us single guys appear to be liars and cheats to other girls/couples.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Unfortunately, married guys or guys with partners posing as single guys only spoil it for us who are GENUINELY single. I get soooo angry when I read about guys like this. It just makes us single guys appear to be liars and cheats to other girls/couples.

actually... i think that is complete rubbish

it doesn't affect those who as truely single at all, I have nothing to hide, what i do doesn't affect the way people are with others, and vice versa... that is one of those "knights move" when you say "i'm lovely and different".....

it may make those who are married and considering playing away possibly think twice... but if they already have no respect for the person who the profess to love more than any other, then why should they give any more to the person because they are getting leg over

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

had a woman ask me if I was fucking her husband. I said I didn't know as I didn't bother with names and to ask him. "

wonderful!!! so who's backside are you covering with that reply?..... yours or his?????

see... if you didn't knowingly know... you have nothing to hide from telling the truth......

if you did know... you are as complicit as they are!!! you play with fire..you get burnt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a woman ask me if I was fucking her husband. I said I didn't know as I didn't bother with names and to ask him.

wonderful!!! so who's backside are you covering with that reply?..... yours or his?????

see... if you didn't knowingly know... you have nothing to hide from telling the truth......

if you did know... you are as complicit as they are!!! you play with fire..you get burnt!

wasn't covering anyone's arse.. as frankly it was none of my business.. if some woman rings me asking me something I honestly didn't know... Then She should expect a smart reply.

Fact is it actually turned out it was a car friends number... But she shouldn't have rang me..

I know half the guys if not more I play with are married.. not my problem really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had a woman ask me if I was fucking her husband. I said I didn't know as I didn't bother with names and to ask him.

wonderful!!! so who's backside are you covering with that reply?..... yours or his?????

see... if you didn't knowingly know... you have nothing to hide from telling the truth......

if you did know... you are as complicit as they are!!! you play with fire..you get burnt!

wasn't covering anyone's arse.. as frankly it was none of my business.. if some woman rings me asking me something I honestly didn't know... Then She should expect a smart reply.

Fact is it actually turned out it was a car friends number... But she shouldn't have rang me..

I know half the guys if not more I play with are married.. not my problem really"

If they have found ur tel number then chances are they could find where you live too if there oh has been to yours..

A lot of woman won't take kindly to ur attitude and then it really will be ur problem if they turn up on ur doorstep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have found ur tel number then chances are they could find where you live too if there oh has been to yours..

A lot of woman won't take kindly to ur attitude and then it really will be ur problem if they turn up on ur doorstep"

I don't give my number out so I knew it couldnt be someone I had fucked.. hence my attitude..

turn up at my door and ask if I was with their husband they would get more attitude back..

I also meet only at clubs.. so not much chance of them knowing where I live either..

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Sorry, I think that's rubbish.

There will be very very few single women or couples in here who cannot spot a married/attached man pretending to be single, before meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was left a very nasty voice mail once. Was scary!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry, I think that's rubbish.

There will be very very few single women or couples in here who cannot spot a married/attached man pretending to be single, before meeting them."

Disagree, been doing this for 10 years and my vetting process is pretty thorough but this one got me to meet him and i was totally clueless he was attached!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always annoys me when people get annoyed at the 'innocent' party, I once had a guy bombard me with abusive phone calls because I'd met his Mrs (she'd insisted she was single). Telling him calmly that his problem is with his wife, not me didn't placate him much, so I tried telling him how much she'd enjoyed herself and he should be happy for her! That didn't placate him either.

Two days later he turns up at my house (having searched their SATNAV for addresses he didn't recognise).

Hence, I don't like people playing away, well unless they are upfront about it, then I can make that moral judgement. Not have it made for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with you, no one else was in your situation, you did what you thought was right at the time and you had nothing to be ashamed of.

Why is it always the women in these situations who get blamed or are accused of mishandling the situation? Only one culprit here...."

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Thing is; why, if you are single and only looking to meet singles, should anyone have to do that as if they were the one doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of them want to be found out. Either because they think it will make their wives want to start swinging, they want to make them jealous or they want to bring things to a head. Anyone who truly wanted to cover their tracks would cover things up much better than that. "

There's a lot in that. It's the subconscious 'doing the work for you' by 'making' you leave your mobile on the table for anyone to pick up and scroll through. It's in the same bracket as a murderer who wants to get caught (makes what appear to be deliberate mistakes which lead the Police to them - Jeffery Dahmer being one who did just that). As this comment says - anyone who is really serious about what they're doing will cover their tracks much better..

ted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have android app called easy filter blocks calls and messages son in law has iphone he has it too. Its free

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ted."

Its human nature to make mistakes and just takes one mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to see a married woman and her husband rang me threatening to break my legs if I didn't stay away, so I stayed away lol!!

Morale is there are women doing the same on ere but it's seen as a male problem?? Let's face it of you don't wanna meet attached people stick it on your profile,then of they are stupid enough to lie that's their problem. I'm upfront and costs me the chance of meeting 95% of people off here but I'll be upfront and there are at least 5% who are either married themselves or will take the risk, end of

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I agree it is seen as predominantly a male problem, people will accept a woman playing away much more readily it seems. It could also be women don't tend to post many threads asking why people are judging them or why no one will meet them. Then again it's supply and demand, loads more men on here so people can afford to be picky.

For us it's not a case of gender we have the same opinion man or woman but we don't meet single women.

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By *ophiasChoiceWoman
over a year ago

ystrad mynach

"I can't be bothered with carrying a 3rd phone, I already carry a work and personal phone. "The fiancé" was very pleasant and polite and I was honest....feel sorry for her x"

As you aren't the one cheating, you have nothing to hide. Therefore, I don't believe you should go through the hassle of another phone. I admire your honesty in what must've been a horrid situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Silly man, he shd have been honest lets face it the relationship had to be lacking something for him to go looking for others. Always two sides maybe she had gone off him or he felt that way but loved her and didn't want the problem aired for fear of hurting her feelings. Stupid logic cos he ended up hurting her anyway. Lesson learnt make sure your partner knows your kinks before it gets serious so much easier to say its not for you

xx hugs fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to see a married woman and her husband rang me threatening to break my legs if I didn't stay away, so I stayed away lol!!

i wouldnt put it on my profile as i think it would make it more likely to make someone keep it from me..

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