FabSwingers.com forum: Face pic's?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The subject comes up time and time again but after taking a look at this link do folk still think face pics are harmless?

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/5/20090331/tuk-sexiest-teacher-trouble-over-thong-w-45dbed5.html

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have face pics, that is our choice, we totally respect those who don't and understand some of the many reasons why they don't.

However we would not meet people without seeing face pics first, these can be sent to us privately in a mail through this site when those in question have fully satisfied themselves that we are genuine.

We do require at least a full body picture to get our interest aroused in the first place but this can be fully clothed, rear view shot, face blurred etc.

As for those who only have body part pictures on thier profile, no interest in meeting for us, we know what pussies, boobs and cocks look like and don't need to see more, indeed I (Jed)hate to click on a profile or a name in the chatroom to see a cock staring me in the face or an open pussy for that matter, we immediately block these people so it won't happen to us again.

That's us - we are sure others think differently .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends fully on what you do.. but even that shows there is nothing that can be done legally to stop anyone doing this... If tasteful, as they obviously were, its one mans opinion thats made the 'news' not the pictures eh!!

Personally we don't in the main gallery but only because some sado used them on their profile a year or so back.. If they were better protected then we'd happily show as were far from ashamed at what we do...

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

Yeah....we think that we face pics doesn't really show anything...it could've been someone else photos....we show body photos as we want people to see how our bodies looks...we only show face in cam2cam only...:D...so we know no one is acting...:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have face pics because,to be honest,we don't give a monkeys.We're honest about what we do and not ashamed or embarrassed in any way.If friends or anyone else has a problem with what we do,then they're friends we can do without.

Yeah,yeah,we know ppl say "it's nothing to do with shame or embarrassment,it's our jobs etc".In some cases this is true but in many cases its because they just haven't got the bottle to be up front about their lifestyle and stand up to any ridicule they may get because of it.

When ppl start to stand up for themselves and the lifestyle they choose without living in constant fear of being "outed",then that fear will cease to exist.

We've been on the scene for about ten years now,Trace has held her current job for around twenty.Yes it does involve working with the public and school age kids daily.Most ppl where she works know what we do and she's never had any bother about it.(Lots of interest mind).

We put this down to the fact that they know she'd be more than willing and capable of fighting her corner.It seems to be the "secret swingers",once discovered, are more likely to be "bullied" because the'd rather keep everything quiet and capitulate.

If ppl were open about their sexuality and showed they didn't care what others thought,then the others,be it bosses or whoever,would have no power over their lifestyles.Its only when "bullies" spot a weakness that they'll try to capitalise on it.

Please note,our viewpoint doesn't mean we don't respect others privacy and descretion.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldnt agree with you more,i also am not ashamed of what we do, and have always been open about what i do,even though i have been sacked in a round about way for my lifestyle,they should have known better really,as im not one to go quietly, i am fighting my corner, my friends and family know what i do so i have nothing to hide and nothing to lose

but i also understand why some people dont want face pics on thier profile, and i respect that choice but i for one will stand up for myself and be counted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind showing our faces, before we placed any pics on our profile we discussed whether to do so in depth, and are fully aware people not interested in swinging may well see our pics, but as Mine or Coll's boss wouldn't really give a damn then we are lower risk than some say working more in the public eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't mind showing our faces, before we placed any pics on our profile we discussed whether to do so in depth, and are fully aware people not interested in swinging may well see our pics, but as Mine or Coll's boss wouldn't really give a damn then we are lower risk than some say working more in the public eye.

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i for one would love to ba able to show face pic on profile pic but due to having a very responsible job in the health sector i darent.......usually i forward face pic quickly after making contact tho

xxxxxx

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Thanks to the op for raising this again ..there are loads of reasons why people will not show face pics .

There are so many employment contracts now where bringing the organisation into disrepute is a sackable offence.

People are facing that action on a weekly basis in the current climate as its a nice way to retrench someone without paying them compensation .

Although none of us are ashamed of what we do ...it is outside the current society norm and can be classed as disrepute.

Another reason is, as one guy said on the forums last week ,he had only just got access to his kids and if his ex wife found out she would have grounds to stop him .

I see nothing wrong in hiding a pic ...after all we all read the profiles dont we, and if interested you can then ask for a face pic or whatever.

Its good to see from the replies in this thread people are beginning to accept no pic profiles more .

mr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i for one would love to ba able to show face pic on profile pic but due to having a very responsible job in the health sector i darent.......usually i forward face pic quickly after making contact tho

xxxxxx"

I know of people in similar situations, and filly understand why they/you choose to not show face pics openly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxxxxx

I know of people in similar situations, and filly understand why they/you choose to not show face pics openly.

well im not risking mu ukcc pin just for the sake ov a face pic when my verifications spk for themselves and usually forward a pic withing two messages xxxxx

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By *ecpl47str8Couple
over a year ago

houghton

we have face pics,we are totally open as to what we do.i run a local business and my wife is a lawyer,everyone knows about our private lifestyle and respect it.(we are more concerned about showing body parts....just incase!).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks to the op for raising this again ..there are loads of reasons why people will not show face pics .

There are so many employment contracts now where bringing the organisation into disrepute is a sackable offence.

People are facing that action on a weekly basis in the current climate as its a nice way to retrench someone without paying them compensation .

Although none of us are ashamed of what we do ...it is outside the current society norm and can be classed as disrepute.

Another reason is, as one guy said on the forums last week ,he had only just got access to his kids and if his ex wife found out she would have grounds to stop him .

I see nothing wrong in hiding a pic ...after all we all read the profiles dont we, and if interested you can then ask for a face pic or whatever.

Its good to see from the replies in this thread people are beginning to accept no pic profiles more .

mr x "

very true pleasure

the reason we have no face pics in public gal is not because we are ashamed of what we do its the fact that we dont want are children getting affected i.e getting bullied cause mummy an daddy do what we do

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

My main 2 reasons for not having face pics on main profile are to protect my children and my job which is also in the health sector

I would love to be able to have them on display and would love for everyone to know what we do but as it stands right now it ain't gonna happen lol xx

But will happily send face pics when I feel comfortable enough with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well there’s showing your face, then there’s showing your face in inappropriate posses, two different things in our opinion, if that said teacher was fully clothed it wouldn’t have made a story, it’s not showing your face that’s a problem, it’s what else you show alongside it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The subject comes up time and time again but after taking a look at this link do folk still think face pics are harmless?

http://uk.news.yahoo.com/5/20090331/tuk-sexiest-teacher-trouble-over-thong-w-45dbed5.html

just had a look at the link... i got my face pics in pvt gallery..just 4 friends 2 see xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well there’s showing your face, then there’s showing your face in inappropriate posses, two different things in our opinion, if that said teacher was fully clothed it wouldn’t have made a story, it’s not showing your face that’s a problem, it’s what else you show alongside it."

So are you saying that a facial but clothed pic would be ok?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So are you saying that a facial but clothed pic would be ok?"

On here?

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

mmm yeah... What Trace and Ric said

Plus there is nothing disreputable about being a swinger - same as there is nothing disreputable about being gay or lesbian for example.

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j&r

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"mmm yeah... What Trace and Ric said

Plus there is nothing disreputable about being a swinger - same as there is nothing disreputable about being gay or lesbian for example.

xxxx

j&r"

Dependant of course on your employers interpretation of disreputable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's simple ... we have been threatened in the past with someone saying they knew us locally and would send our pics to our neighbours and kids school ... so we decided no face pics ... totally understand that genuine people would want to see them though, so that's why we are happy to turn our cam on, on msn or the chatroom, or when we feel comfortable enough, then send face pics via a private e mail .... we've been established so people know we are genuine, but obviously we are all different in how we swing. We are not ashamed of what we do but equally we don't want our family or non swinging friends to know, just our choice .. as I said we're all different ... have fun peeps xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wouldn't worry about those people

if that is true they new you

what are they doing on here 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"wouldn't worry about those people

if that is true they new you

what are they doing on here 2"

Easily explained, 'my friends who are swingers said they thought they recognised someone we knew so shown us the profile, and would you believe it was'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you saying that a facial but clothed pic would be ok?"

On the contrary, what we were saying is it’s the raunchy pictures with face included that caused the stir, if those pictures involved were fully clothed nothing would have been said and no story for the rag.

In other words, and this is just our opinion, a picture involving someone having group sex, naked, or playing with toys etc with face shown, will cause far more harm than your standard fully clothed picture, regardless of where they’re posted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But in the context of this thread do you think a fully clothed and normal face pic on this or any swing site is not going to cause any problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if it came to losing your job, we'd imagine there might be a difference?

Firstly they would have to prove it was your profile, a standard picture proves nothing, it could have been stolen from facebook etc, although being in a photo having group sex for instance is giving them all the proof they need?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to see them sack someone and get past a tribunal on unfair dismissal. How can having a pic on this site bring a company into disrepute unless someone tags the person with the company ? And even then ..... hmmmm mountain and mole hill springs to mind here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd like to see them sack someone and get past a tribunal on unfair dismissal. How can having a pic on this site bring a company into disrepute unless someone tags the person with the company ? And even then ..... hmmmm mountain and mole hill springs to mind here.

If I was a teacher I would not like to put that theory to the test.

In my line of work where a very high level security clearance is required I can assure you my employer does have a very robust policy with regards to disrepute, and as I have a mortgage etc etc we will not be taking any risks with face pics on here for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I agree with you Bonk...whats the point of even putting it to the test?

I would'nt want to see how it would affect my life,my childrens life or my career

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well

we dont put face pics or send any out ever because what we do is private and not part of our familiy life

WELL WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO YOUR TEENS

IF EVER THEY SAW YOUR PIC

and we have never ever had a problem meeting anyone

sue/steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd imagine being outed as a swinger has happened to people who don't display face pictures? gossip and petty mindedness.

what we don't understand though is people who don't display any pictures at all and say its because of their job, but are happy visiting swing clubs etc, a teacher for example would be hung drawn and quartered to be seen to be visiting a swing club, and having a profile on here with no pictures wouldnt make them any safer or help his/her case. Surely if people think their employer will take a dim view of their lifestyle they should then keep a low profile, full stop?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Lots of folk do keep themselves below the radar and still manage to have a fully active swinging life which includes visiting clubs etc.

It's cant be that difficult as we have managed it for a good few years now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your correct, it’s not difficult, well that is until you get found out to be swingers, and that’s when the difficulties may begin, surely the fact you have done so for many years would become irrelevant if you were found out tomorrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly!Bring it on we say.We could do with the compensation,lol.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your correct, it’s not difficult, well that is until you get found out to be swingers, and that’s when the difficulties may begin, surely the fact you have done so for many years would become irrelevant if you were found out tomorrow."

Which is one of the reasons we decided to be open and stress free,instead of waiting for the hammer to fall.We decided when and who knew what we did.No nasty surprises waiting in the wings.

Can you imagine being at a family gathering or in the works canteen and someone comes up and says "Whats this I hear about you two being swingers then?",or words to that effect.

There are far too many people who relish such opportunities.

We couldn't imagine that horrible, gutted feeling and tell tale beetroot faces.Much better to be able to turn round with a beaming smile and say "Absolutely true,why,do you fancy making a night of it?"

XXXX

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

As we mentioned before......... what Trace and Ric said

Also why are people more scared of being 'outed' as swingers in a society where it is perfectly acceptable to be openly gay? Surely legislation these days protects folks from these sort of prejudices in the workplace and elsewhere?

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

For example the singer Sting is openly a swinger according to magazines like 'OK' and his name isn't being dragged around the gutter press. Not that we know which sites he uses but maybe PD knows as he's well into all that tantric stuff

hmmm Thinking about it PD has no profile pics....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As we mentioned before......... what Trace and Ric said

Could you enlighten us with regards to what you both do for a living which would enable us to pursue this argument properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As we mentioned before......... what Trace and Ric said

One would hope so, but prejudice is everywhere, some people don't mind taking a risk (whatever the risk may be) and some people would rather not.

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By *ecpl47str8Couple
over a year ago

houghton

my husband posted earlier, i must commit we all do what we want. you have no problems......personal privacy,human rights etc...i do not go on site offten as i leave social stuff to the wanker!(if you have probs or concern get back to me, use site add.lol marie./freshfields/).dont worry we do it because we (and you are safe)have gone through it all.lol going to bed civilianls to convert thurs. bye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont do face pix cos it scares folks off ,, but then so does my calvins ,, so i guess its a double edged sword

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all my work mates know what i do ,, most are very very interesed and a reckon a few quite jelous

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"For example the singer Sting is openly a swinger according to magazines like 'OK' and his name isn't being dragged around the gutter press. Not that we know which sites he uses but maybe PD knows as he's well into all that tantric stuff

hmmm Thinking about it PD has no profile pics...."

No i am not him trust me

...but apart form the job side ...the gutter press often love outing people just to fill colunm inches and give the masses a salacious story to read on a sunday afternoon.Look how they outed max moseley and all that stuff about nazi insignia was rubbish .But to his credit he took em on ...and won, even tho it cost him 30k to do it.

The PCC are a joke ...you get no warning the artical is going to appear, so you can not get an injunction under the human rights act quaranteeing privacy.

And they can write what they like and you have no right to redress .That and the employers discretionary clauses is why i have no facebook and no pics ....and thats the way its staying ...

to be honest i dont really find any difference i still meet great people.

MR X

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

"As we mentioned before......... what Trace and Ric said

Could you enlighten us with regards to what you both do for a living which would enable us to pursue this argument properly. "

Sure

We run our own business. Our employees and a few of our business associates and some friends know we are swingers.

Most of our family do not know, though maybe more know than we think, it depends how much folks talk to each other.

So we sit on the fence most probably you would say. Some people know but we are quite selective

Only one person (one of the suppliers to our business) found out by accident we accidentally txt 'Dave' one night instead of 'Dave & Karen' and asked him and his missus to come round and give us a good seeing to lol. Suprisingly the answer came back.... 'Rich, I'm in Spain' lol

We have no problem personally with those who have no face pics on profile. Those with no pics at all we do tend to not bother with though even that isn't cast iron.

We choose to have them because a

we don't think we are doing anything wrong and to be honest b

we don't overly worry what other people think of our chosen lifestyle

J&R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us women, along with black communities fought for equality and got it

Gay men used to hide away, until they decided to come out and be heard, now its more socially acceptable to be gay, being gay would also have cost you your job back then, yes there’s still a few small-minded people out there but that happens with anything in life.

So the question is… are we holding swinging back from being more socially acceptable by hiding the fact we enjoy the lifestyle… and in effect admitting that swinging is sordid and has no place in society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perosnaly i dont think there is anything shameful or wrong about swinging , its a personal lifestyle choice , if people are happy to show thier face then thats realy up to them i can see why they may not feel comfortable in doing so , i would agree with your comment that by hiding the lifestyle a lot of pre-concieved judgements are passed on swingers by so called friends or family when and if they find out , and that hiding it ponly promotes an atmosphere or an idea of some dirty sordid secret which i dont think is the case .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As we mentioned before......... what Trace and Ric said

Could you enlighten us with regards to what you both do for a living which would enable us to pursue this argument properly.

Sure

We run our own business. Our employees and a few of our business associates and some friends know we are swingers.

Most of our family do not know, though maybe more know than we think, it depends how much folks talk to each other.

So we sit on the fence most probably you would say. Some people know but we are quite selective

We have no problem personally with those who have no face pics on profile. Those with no pics at all we do tend to not bother with though even that isn't cast iron.

We choose to have them because a

we don't think we are doing anything wrong and to be honest b

we don't overly worry what other people think of our chosen lifestyle

J&R"

Great position to be in I agree however we do not have that luxury unfortunately.

Mrs Two2 works for the govt in a child related post. I wear a uniform and my employer has an extremely strict code with regards to conduct unbecoming.

We doubt either of us would lose our jobs if our swinging lifestyle was made public but we are both under no illusion as to the damage it could have on our career prospects, hence no face pics for us

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"Us women, along with black communities fought for equality and got it

Martin Luther King once said "eventually silence is a betrayal " but if your lively hood is at stake you just cant do anything else. 2bonks situation is a classic example and i just do not blame them or anyone else ...maybe people who discount that and critisise or put "will not consider anyone without a pic" will rethink there position as they are missing out on some great people .

MR X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were not criticising anyone who doesn’t display face pictures on their profile, after all, we don’t, and respect peoples privacy, and in all fairness there is pictures on 2bonks profile (and very nice ones we may add) we do understand that face pics can cause harm, but what we cannot understand is people who have no pictures whatsoever and blame their job, is this just a copout? because a fully clothed body shot with no face or distinguishing marks shown should not be recognisable to any employer, and just to confirm, this is not us slating members for not having any pictures whatsoever, its merely slating people for using work as an excuse for having none rather than just saying you like your privacy, as nobody should be made display pictures if they don’t want to.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"We were not criticising anyone who doesn’t display face pictures on their profile, after all, we don’t, and respect peoples privacy, and in all fairness there is pictures on 2bonks profile (and very nice ones we may add) we do understand that face pics can cause harm, but what we cannot understand is people who have no pictures whatsoever and blame their job, is this just a copout? because a fully clothed body shot with no face or distinguishing marks shown should not be recognisable to any employer, and just to confirm, this is not us slating members for not having any pictures whatsoever, its merely slating people for using work as an excuse for having none rather than just saying you like your privacy, as nobody should be made display pictures if they don’t want to."

cant fault you there ,your right .But at same time i cant fault the guy or woman who says its to protect there kids In some way .

As you rightly and i totally agree with you it is down to the individual .

In my case i want to acertain for my own reasons who i am speaking to first, before i release the pics in my private gallery. If that makes people think its too much trouble ...well hey it wasnt meant to be was it .

MR X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Us women, along with black communities fought for equality and got it

This is what we mean.....Only when people come out of the shaddows and stand up for their beliefs will they become socialy acceptable.This has been proved countless times throughout history,both ancient and modern.The only difference being,in ancient times you either got burned,hanged or put to the sword.These days you might have a row with your boss,SCAAAAAAARY!

The old union motto,"The Workers United Will Never Be Defeated" could be likened to the swinging community,unfortunately so could "Divide And Conquer".

We're just in the process of reading The Naked Civil Servant by Quinten Crisp,now there was a guy with intestinal fortitude,full respect to him........I was honestly going to say he was the kind of guy you wanted standing behind you,well maybe not lol but definitely by your side.

XXXX

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Hey Twobonks It's not you hiding your faces we have any issue with it's the small minded individuals in the vanilla world that think we are doing something wrong that really get our goat.

Unfortunately we do recognise that swinging is still locked somewhere around the spot where homosexuality was about 30 yrs ago. Can't blame anyone but the swingers really for that situation but there it is. Whether that will change, who knows?

xxx

J&R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i work in IT and everyone at my work place is a computer wiz so that itself is a risk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Judy and Rich,

As we said we really do not have issues with folks who choose to go public, it's just not our things on more than one level

Over the course of our 30 year marriage we have made a whole raft of sexual discoveries that now enhance our sexual being include photography and video, porn, mild spanking, anal and the list goes on. I cannot ever envisage a time where I would find myself openly telling my parents, kids or friends "hey Mrs Two2 let me cum in her mouth for the first time last night and said it was nice". Swinging is a part of our sexual being and we afford it the same degree of privacy so it has nothing to do with being solely afraid of public opinion or a fear of reprisal, but more out of respect for others feelings.

Playing devils advocate what we are doing is wrong. In the eyes of society and the structures within, what we do does not fit within any normal moral or religious framework. Those that condemn us do so using the very guidelines that are designed to retain the sanctity of marriage and relationship, bearing that in mind it's hard to fault their logic.

The fact that you and I don't subscribe to that does not make others narrow minded, it simply makes us renegades who choose not to conform which I for one am OK with as it is bloody good fun

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By *lackboaWoman
over a year ago

greenock

what a lot of health/medical folk there are on here.....and I'm one of them....i choose not to display a face pic as to maintain my registration i have to be 'morally above reproach'.....their words not mine.....and as its not yet generally accepted as a 'normal' lifestylte choice...at least not here on the wild west of scotland coast.....i leave the face pics till i know someone....or chat to them on MSN........E xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work in retail, hence my eyes are blacked out, the last thing I want when dealing with a customer complaint is for them to say..."oh I think I may have seen your penis on Fabswingers"...I would have to give them a £20 voucher at least!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I work in retail, hence my eyes are blacked out, the last thing I want when dealing with a customer complaint is for them to say..."oh I think I may have seen your penis on Fabswingers"...I would have to give them a £20 voucher at least!"

now i could say something there but am far too much ov a lady to do so pmsl...... the zorro mask suits u sir xx

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over a year ago

now i could say something there but am far too much ov a lady to do so pmsl...... the zorro mask suits u sir xx"

Oh I understand that you are probably suggesting that my penis is not very big so how would they actually see it??? lol (laughing out loudly)

Well, it is not big I agree, but you would not want it on your nose as a wart as my Grandad would have said, well, in fact he did say it, but not now, he is dead.

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over a year ago

now i could say something there but am far too much ov a lady to do so pmsl...... the zorro mask suits u sir xx

Oh I understand that you are probably suggesting that my penis is not very big so how would they actually see it??? lol (laughing out loudly)

Well, it is not big I agree, but you would not want it on your nose as a wart as my Grandad would have said, well, in fact he did say it, but not now, he is dead."

oh stop being soooooo sensitive i wud never make a comment like that xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Need to sort your spell checker out old chap, it's put your when I am sure you meant to put you are a...............lol

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

Actions lead to consequences...those who does not want to tell people they are swinging are not dishonest or ashamed of the lifestyle...it's just the fact that we live in a judgmental society where gossips fuel the daily conversation...

After watching a tv series where a little girl was accused of dating an older man just from a face blurred picture of them accidentally walking side by side in the early morning makes us decide to not have any pics in the public gallery...as other can just sign in the website just to see public gallery...

We are not ashamed of swinging...but some things are better kept secret from judgmental eyes, ears and mouth...a face pic in a sexual based website may cause us to lose a lot more and caused more difficulties...:D...

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Realy not worried about anyone knowing what we get upto, so we have face pics on here..

I figgre if anyone is looking and they see them, they have no right to stir up a fuss, since why were they looking anyway.

Didn't realy think it a great idea to put my face on though, but wiggles insisted, even after i warned her people would be put off :P

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

We don't do pics.

I have my own business and rely on local reputation and good will for 90% of our turnover. I am not ashamed of our lifestyle but small-minded individuals would not approve, particularly in a relatively rural and non-progressive area. The "scandal" would be enough to finish the company, together with the jobs of my employees.

Which one of my employee's children could be browsing this site tonight, just looking, and what might they find? How many members with unconvincing verifications or none at all, that could easily be those children, will ask me for a photo in the next week?

Remember sometimes no really has to mean no.

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By *eavensg84uCouple
over a year ago

Harrow

Interesting debate. We both work in the public sector in senior jobs and I KNOW we would both lose our jobs at worst or life would be very uncomfortable at best if we were known as swingers. Its wrong but I dont want to be a martyr to the cause!

I'd say that swingers are roughly where gays and lesbians were maybe 30-40 years ago. It took some brave people to come out and say they were gay before attitudes changed - but there were casualties along the way and we dont want to be amongst the first to go over the top. Hypocritical? Yes.

But also practical. We exchange face pix once we know someone is genuine but J doesnt want to be wank material for sad single blokes or have her pic used as 'bait' for those guys to add more pix to their collection. On one occasion, we've had J's own pic sent to us by a 'couple' claiming it was the female half! Funny but worrying.

Pics are only part of the attraction anyway - we look at the profile to see if we want the same things, THEN check the pix - its no good someone looking gorgeous if they are 300 miles away and are into watersports. We wont meet without seeing pix but we see that exchange as part of the process of checking each other out.

If someone has a face pic on open display - good luck to them if they can take that risk (however small and hopefully diminishing); we cant.

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By *cottishTweetieCouple
over a year ago

Blackwood, South Lanarkshire

"We have face pics because,to be honest,we don't give a monkeys.We're honest about what we do and not ashamed or embarrassed in any way.If friends or anyone else has a problem with what we do,then they're friends we can do without.

When ppl start to stand up for themselves and the lifestyle they choose without living in constant fear of being "outed",then that fear will cease to exist.

Please note,our viewpoint doesn't mean we don't respect others privacy and descretion.

XXXX "
We totally agree with your comments, nice to see we are not alone.

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