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By *ummer21 OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Midlands

Morning everyone!! After speaking to two male friends last night, they were telling me how hard it is to meet ladies on Fab. That they get ghosted a lot etc. I pointed out it's just as difficult for ladies,being gaslighted (happened recently to me), ing out the genuine from the picture collectors and wanking dead carrier bag crowd.

Be interested to know everyone's opinion.....Happy Friday!

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By *nvader2021Couple
4 weeks ago

Watford

Catfishing as well definitely, it’s happened to us

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves

Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation.

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By *ummer21 OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation."

I'm with you there, should have put catfishing on, it was mentioned on both sides. From a ladys point of view, nothing turns me off more than pushy men and cock pics. I don't mind a pic once I've been chatting for a while if picture swapping is mutual but "here darlin' get on this" does nothing for me other than a block

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation.

I'm with you there, should have put catfishing on, it was mentioned on both sides. From a ladys point of view, nothing turns me off more than pushy men and cock pics. I don't mind a pic once I've been chatting for a while if picture swapping is mutual but "here darlin' get on this" does nothing for me other than a block "

Is it an older men thing or just proper with no common sense on how to talk to someone? I never understood on flashing cock on first message, I always try to engage and see what they are like. If both party are happy to talk and we hit off, flirting and swapping picture then yeah that's different.

Concent people concent!!

As a guy I get this .. so I can only imagine how bad it is for the womens

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By *arzanandJane2016Couple
4 weeks ago

the big city

I think it’s hard all round we as a couple get ghosted happened last week and then we go message saying can we try again I’m sorry that’s a hard no.

Men the majority have their cocks out and that’s well just off putting for me as we know know they kinda look the same so we’ve filtered them out

Swinging is harder than what most think for sure

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By *otyouraverageguyMan
4 weeks ago

midlands & n wales

It's definitely hard for guys, but unfortunately that's the by product of the volume of clowns (guys) who now infest the site.

That then becomes the root cause of everything else that frustrates all the genuine (men, women, and couple) users of the site.

Sadly there seems to be no fix other than patience, perseverance, and optimism!

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By *WB85Man
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Its hard for everyone, we always say its easy to find people, hard to find the right people.

My wife on her solo account gets lots of messages, but a huge majority aren't suitable. They haven't read her profile and simply aren't compatible.

It makes her journey incredibly difficult to source out the right people.

Solo male accounts you get a much lower rate of replies to messages, but they tend to be of a better quality and often more compatible when you do get them.

Our couples account....its a mixture of the above. Feels far more complicated to find a match as 4 way attraction....nightmare.

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By *b081Man
4 weeks ago

Bristol

I think it's hard for everyone to out the fake from the genuine. Speaking to various people, they all find it hard for different reasons - men lack of response - couples fakes, volume and the right person - women everything you can imagine!

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

A load of reasons tbf. Better to go to events and meet people that way

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"A load of reasons tbf. Better to go to events and meet people that way "

Also same issue no? Where solo guys are less preferred?

It always Put me off from going events thinking it be a bad experience as solo

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By *hehighlander88Man
4 weeks ago

inverness

I get ghosted often, I find it difficult to make connections. I find it hard to meet people in my area but there are plenty around. Makes me feel as if I’m doing something wrong

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

I got ghosted once as a single guy on here. Chatted with the couple for weeks on here and on the phone. Arranged a date and time at theirs, confirmed before leaving. Drove 45 minutes only to be greeted by a darkened house with them no doubt tittering from behind the curtains.

As a couple, we've been pretty lucky. The guys we've met always same amazed that we're real and that Chels actually meets. I guess the m-f ratio on here these days makes it much harder for guys compared to when I was on as a singleton.

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By *moothdickMan
4 weeks ago

stoke

It as git to the stage of non existent now… the site as become to popular & that brings its usual crowd of fantasists, time wasters, ego chasers etc…. Ive also found the older u get, even away from fab its gets very hard to meet someone .. but that’s life

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Gatwick

My partner and I were hoping to meet another couple of a lady a few weeks ago whilst away in the Midlands.

It was exhausting. We both made a good effort in trying to get in touch etc- I lost interest within a couple of days 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we thought of going to a club but pesky work got in the way, haha!

And yes, as a single woman it is getting more difficult too. Many men wank at the idea of meeting but don’t follow through.

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"I got ghosted once as a single guy on here. Chatted with the couple for weeks on here and on the phone. Arranged a date and time at theirs, confirmed before leaving. Drove 45 minutes only to be greeted by a darkened house with them no doubt tittering from behind the curtains.

As a couple, we've been pretty lucky. The guys we've met always same amazed that we're real and that Chels actually meets. I guess the m-f ratio on here these days makes it much harder for guys compared to when I was on as a singleton."

What a bastard, the rest of the solo guys here not even getting a reply back 😂 this fucker ghosted after having you ready to meet ! Sorry that happened to you

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"My partner and I were hoping to meet another couple of a lady a few weeks ago whilst away in the Midlands.

It was exhausting. We both made a good effort in trying to get in touch etc- I lost interest within a couple of days 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we thought of going to a club but pesky work got in the way, haha!

And yes, as a single woman it is getting more difficult too. Many men wank at the idea of meeting but don’t follow through. "

What made you lose interest ?

Lack of messages, too many messages from others to keep up or you just lost interest ?

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Gatwick


"My partner and I were hoping to meet another couple of a lady a few weeks ago whilst away in the Midlands.

It was exhausting. We both made a good effort in trying to get in touch etc- I lost interest within a couple of days 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we thought of going to a club but pesky work got in the way, haha!

And yes, as a single woman it is getting more difficult too. Many men wank at the idea of meeting but don’t follow through.

What made you lose interest ?

Lack of messages, too many messages from others to keep up or you just lost interest ?"

It *is* hard work contacting women and/or couples to chat with a view to meeting. I was contacting them from our couple account. I did get responses most of the time to be fair- but just keeping the chat going or was met with all these hoops to jump that I suppose I as a single woman have also placed sometimes!

It would have been hot, exciting and fun to have spent some time with other people but time constraints and work exhaustion just made us chill and enjoy (and sleep!) in each others’ arms by 9pm each night haha 🤣🤣🤣

We do enjoy going to clubs and have had great fun times there!

Let’s just say that I have a renewed empathy for single men and now I try to reply to well written messages from a good profile even if it is a no thank you. 🎀

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By *ummer21 OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation.

I'm with you there, should have put catfishing on, it was mentioned on both sides. From a ladys point of view, nothing turns me off more than pushy men and cock pics. I don't mind a pic once I've been chatting for a while if picture swapping is mutual but "here darlin' get on this" does nothing for me other than a block

Is it an older men thing or just proper with no common sense on how to talk to someone? I never understood on flashing cock on first message, I always try to engage and see what they are like. If both party are happy to talk and we hit off, flirting and swapping picture then yeah that's different.

Concent people concent!!

As a guy I get this .. so I can only imagine how bad it is for the womens "

It seems to be an older men thing from my point of view, 50s 60s and upwards. ..not all but a hell of a lot

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"My partner and I were hoping to meet another couple of a lady a few weeks ago whilst away in the Midlands.

It was exhausting. We both made a good effort in trying to get in touch etc- I lost interest within a couple of days 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we thought of going to a club but pesky work got in the way, haha!

And yes, as a single woman it is getting more difficult too. Many men wank at the idea of meeting but don’t follow through.

What made you lose interest ?

Lack of messages, too many messages from others to keep up or you just lost interest ?

It *is* hard work contacting women and/or couples to chat with a view to meeting. I was contacting them from our couple account. I did get responses most of the time to be fair- but just keeping the chat going or was met with all these hoops to jump that I suppose I as a single woman have also placed sometimes!

It would have been hot, exciting and fun to have spent some time with other people but time constraints and work exhaustion just made us chill and enjoy (and sleep!) in each others’ arms by 9pm each night haha 🤣🤣🤣

We do enjoy going to clubs and have had great fun times there!

Let’s just say that I have a renewed empathy for single men and now I try to reply to well written messages from a good profile even if it is a no thank you. 🎀 "

Ah I see I hear you

With clubs I'm just worried about going as a solo male haha

And tank you for being there rare 1% who actually reply back even if it's a no thank you haha I put effort in writing messages to people just to be not redad ( die to saturation), red and no reply or just straight delete 😂

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By *rispy KremeMan
4 weeks ago

wolves


"Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation.

I'm with you there, should have put catfishing on, it was mentioned on both sides. From a ladys point of view, nothing turns me off more than pushy men and cock pics. I don't mind a pic once I've been chatting for a while if picture swapping is mutual but "here darlin' get on this" does nothing for me other than a block

Is it an older men thing or just proper with no common sense on how to talk to someone? I never understood on flashing cock on first message, I always try to engage and see what they are like. If both party are happy to talk and we hit off, flirting and swapping picture then yeah that's different.

Concent people concent!!

As a guy I get this .. so I can only imagine how bad it is for the womens

It seems to be an older men thing from my point of view, 50s 60s and upwards. ..not all but a hell of a lot"

The amount of shit I get from old falks, and be being someone of colour. The amout of racism!!

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By *ummer21 OP   Woman
4 weeks ago

Midlands


"Fake accounts, carfishing, ghosting the lot. I might make a thread on how to avoid these things. Unfortunately as any site that's around dating or meeting people, solo males will have the worst like due to how saturated it is. And guys who are too pushy and sent cock pics on first message doesn't help the women to actually engage in conversation.

I'm with you there, should have put catfishing on, it was mentioned on both sides. From a ladys point of view, nothing turns me off more than pushy men and cock pics. I don't mind a pic once I've been chatting for a while if picture swapping is mutual but "here darlin' get on this" does nothing for me other than a block

Is it an older men thing or just proper with no common sense on how to talk to someone? I never understood on flashing cock on first message, I always try to engage and see what they are like. If both party are happy to talk and we hit off, flirting and swapping picture then yeah that's different.

Concent people concent!!

As a guy I get this .. so I can only imagine how bad it is for the womens

It seems to be an older men thing from my point of view, 50s 60s and upwards. ..not all but a hell of a lot

The amount of shit I get from old falks, and be being someone of colour. The amout of racism!!"

No place for racism in the swinging world. As individuals we are all attracted to different people of all cultures, persons of colour, gender identity....etc

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By *radually_RetiringMan
4 weeks ago

Bury

Impossible really, especially at my age and with my, err, disadvantages.

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By *jgittes_ukMan
4 weeks ago

leighton buzzard

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By *r SensualMan
4 weeks ago

London

It’s not difficult to meet VIA fab as a man (in my opinion) at all. Meeting directly FROM it is a different conversation.

The analogy I can use to describe for trying to stand out online is being at a party, everyone shouting back and forth whilst you attempt to scream the loudest to be heard above everyone else. The odds are stacked against you.

Why play the game when you know the game is rigged not in your favour, that doesn’t make sense.

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By *jgittes_ukMan
4 weeks ago

leighton buzzard


"My partner and I were hoping to meet another couple of a lady a few weeks ago whilst away in the Midlands.

It was exhausting. We both made a good effort in trying to get in touch etc- I lost interest within a couple of days 🤣🤣🤣🤣 we thought of going to a club but pesky work got in the way, haha!

And yes, as a single woman it is getting more difficult too. Many men wank at the idea of meeting but don’t follow through. "

Those men can’t multi-task!

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By *hefirewithinMan
4 weeks ago

Could be next door

It’s naturally going to be more difficult for guys just down to the sheer volume of us on here, personally I just focus on being myself and engage with those that have similar interests and mindset. The forum seems to be the place to interact with without pressure or motive, a great way to make friends naturally. Especially for a newbie

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By *orticistMan
4 weeks ago

Northampton

I engage oin the chase on he because I love the flirting and finding out if there is any connection, if it results in a meet thats a bonus but I'm not getting bent out of shape when it amounts to nothing.

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By *jgittes_ukMan
4 weeks ago

leighton buzzard


"Catfishing as well definitely, it’s happened to us "

Think I would take a catfish…just to have a reply.

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12

Just accept it guys, there are more men than women on this website so the ladies, bless them, can afford to be choosy.

That’s the way it is, no point in being nasty or acting like you have a right, that just proves the lady to be totally correct in declining or ignoring you.

A pleasant attitude and a little kindness and respect can go a long way

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By *ousteau72Man
4 weeks ago

Wombourne

It is certainly more difficult for men to meet women than it is for women to find men, but that's simply due to the numbers. There's just a lot more men on fab than women.

It can be frustrating, to even get a reply but that also is just a result of the ratio of men to women.

The flip side is, guys don't have to wade through hundreds of messages a day, which I'm sure is a chore.

The fact is, that as a guy you have to put the miles in. It's not personal if someone doesn't reply, it's simply a numbers game.

You have to go in to these things with your eyes open.

Good luck everyone.

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By *ousteau72Man
4 weeks ago

Wombourne

Exactly this! Quite right mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Ive had 3 meets arranged this week and all 3 have cancelled for whatever reason. 2 of the meets were the same person.

What's everyones opinion on that?

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12


"Ive had 3 meets arranged this week and all 3 have cancelled for whatever reason. 2 of the meets were the same person.

What's everyones opinion on that?"

Given the nature of meets, genuine cancellations are always a risk, you have to apply your own judgement on the stated circumstances and weigh the odds as to whether to try again or call it quits and move on.

As with real life, no one size fits all solution.

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By *partharmonyCouple
4 weeks ago

Tonbridge

I think men and women have different difficulties on here.

I think men have a hard time getting noticed and not being drowned out by hundreds of crap messages sent out by loads of men. They also have difficulty presenting themselves in an appealing way.

I think the main difficulty is finding the men who they would consider worth getting together with given all the dross that's out there.

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By *ornyguy666Man
4 weeks ago

Nottingham


"Morning everyone!! After speaking to two male friends last night, they were telling me how hard it is to meet ladies on Fab. That they get ghosted a lot etc. I pointed out it's just as difficult for ladies,being gaslighted (happened recently to me), ing out the genuine from the picture collectors and wanking dead carrier bag crowd.

Be interested to know everyone's opinion.....Happy Friday! "
yes same issues not easy

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

When I joined for the first time a decade ago it was a lot easier, the conversations flowed, screening call or social take place and then we would meet. Now, maybe ladies are cautious or I don’t appeal to them. I’ve noticed you can be happily chatting along and then you are blocked. I’m not pushy, I don’t send cock pics, and I’m not rude.

Maybe socials are the best way for me to stand out and meet people face to face.

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By *az2019Man
4 weeks ago

Yorkshire & Manchester

Due to the amount of pushy fellas and 1 pop cock flashers ... if you don't whip it out at a bar when you say hello why do it on here, and due to that The genuine fellas get missed and messages get unread.

Ghosting and catfishing are crazy.

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By *PMGMan
4 weeks ago

Surrey

I really appreciate Summer21 you have mentioned this. I hadn't thought from a ladies perspective and know the issues from a Gents standpoint. The catfish I get especially if no meets and not photo verified and I get not everyone is going to be honest and open about everything and discretion is important I think to the majority.

I was considering leaving but reading what you have all put I will continue in my 'haystack' and find a couple of needles. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend x ps should probably put a single needle, but there is always hope and desire.....

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12


"I really appreciate Summer21 you have mentioned this. I hadn't thought from a ladies perspective and know the issues from a Gents standpoint. The catfish I get especially if no meets and not photo verified and I get not everyone is going to be honest and open about everything and discretion is important I think to the majority.

I was considering leaving but reading what you have all put I will continue in my 'haystack' and find a couple of needles. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend x ps should probably put a single needle, but there is always hope and desire....."

Not many needles ,plenty of pricks and arseholes - much like real life innit!

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By *evilinyouMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol

Defo harder for guys, one reason being the ratio of men to women

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

.

Both groups have their challenges. I don't think it's harder for one, just different.

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By *dj6978Man
4 weeks ago

Wirral

I'm finding it really frustrating to not get replies even though I've fully read profiles and am very polite in my messages. I get women get hundreds of messages but still frustrating.

What's the thoughts on if a message I've sent hasn't been read, at what point do you send another??

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By *ellhungvweMan
4 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I think it is different difficulties but I do think that both sides make it harder for themselves than they have to.

Women have this issue with not sending the first message. In my experience those who do hunt for what they want tend to be able to hide a little better and not have to deal with the onslaught.

Blokes just need to be pickier about who they send that first message to. Those who spam the world with the same text is going to struggle. Work out who you really want to meet and understand why they would be interested is a step that seems to elude many.

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By *omeotherguyMan
4 weeks ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire


"I think it is different difficulties but I do think that both sides make it harder for themselves than they have to.

Women have this issue with not sending the first message. In my experience those who do hunt for what they want tend to be able to hide a little better and not have to deal with the onslaught.

Blokes just need to be pickier about who they send that first message to. Those who spam the world with the same text is going to struggle. Work out who you really want to meet and understand why they would be interested is a step that seems to elude many."

There's also a LOT of men compared to women. It's pretty competitive.

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By *ellhungvweMan
4 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"I think it is different difficulties but I do think that both sides make it harder for themselves than they have to.

Women have this issue with not sending the first message. In my experience those who do hunt for what they want tend to be able to hide a little better and not have to deal with the onslaught.

Blokes just need to be pickier about who they send that first message to. Those who spam the world with the same text is going to struggle. Work out who you really want to meet and understand why they would be interested is a step that seems to elude many.

There's also a LOT of men compared to women. It's pretty competitive."

In absolute numbers I agree but there is a group of guys who do well on here so that is clearly not the impediment many think it is.

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12


"Defo harder for guys, one reason being the ratio of men to women "

From a male perspective, maybe?

Women have the unenviable task of trying to sort the good from the bad from the ugly so who can blame them for being cautious, I don’t!

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By *omeotherguyMan
4 weeks ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire


"I think it is different difficulties but I do think that both sides make it harder for themselves than they have to.

Women have this issue with not sending the first message. In my experience those who do hunt for what they want tend to be able to hide a little better and not have to deal with the onslaught.

Blokes just need to be pickier about who they send that first message to. Those who spam the world with the same text is going to struggle. Work out who you really want to meet and understand why they would be interested is a step that seems to elude many.

There's also a LOT of men compared to women. It's pretty competitive.

In absolute numbers I agree but there is a group of guys who do well on here so that is clearly not the impediment many think it is."

Oh for sure. I've done well in my short time. But you have to work hard for it, profile needs to be well worked, strong pictures. Up until I started having meets I used the forums a lot to be seen and so ny chsracter would show through.

For the short term I get to choose my opportunities, no doubt as things change I'll need to get back into.the circus 🤣

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By *aySmilerMan
4 weeks ago

Berkshire

Yes i agree it is i feel harder for men but its probably because of the ratio of men to women. I have had alot of fun on here and have also been ghosted. The radar has to be up to sift through the time wasters. Genuine meets are rare but be polite and friendly and not pervy ( ie normal) and i have made friends and partners in crime for life x

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Motherwell

After taking a break and being exclusively with men I recently posted that I will be returning to bisexuality eventually and will probably be meeting m and f couples again the way I used to. Interestingly since that post I have received messages from 4 couples , all of which I think are just single guys posing as couples, so I can see that this situation is true and happening for some swingers. Mx 👿

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By *um n raisinWoman
4 weeks ago

taunton

well number one problem for men on this scene as a whole and massively online is simple maths men are 100 to one and alot more than that when youe in a very populated area .. its always been the same for as long as i remember thats 35 years plus but back then men were like 10 to 1 and men got alot more fun as dogging was massive as there were very few clubs ..

number 2 ..online.. so this open the scene up for loads more and since covid the numbers have got silly so now not oonly do men have to find women from a very small group of women in that group there will be women who just dont play - content makers- women seeking money - and the biggets lot men pretending to be women /couples .. so its gone from very hard to find women to impossoble for most men...

my advice to guys is dont put all your eggs in one basket .. visit a few clubs get to know people face to face but dont become one of the wanking dead .. ib all my time on this scene most of the men ive met ive met via the club scene.

also guys you must understand that this swcene is very much a attraction based scene not all physical but sexual and personality too far to many think its a case of open legs to all

people say theres someone for everyone but for men on this scene this really is not the case so it goes back to number one and simple maths there a far too many men for very few women..

i do feel sorry for guys as its very hard for them i guess the truth is less than 1% of men do well then maybe 5% do bit here bit there that leaves alot getting nowhere ...

why are there not more women / couples well since covid the number started to fall there seems tobe more content makers/seeking money now we dont see to many newbies women or couples at club level there deffo less on the scene now and alot of women just dont want to do these things most just want a happy vanilla life .

another problem is the scene comes across massive when online but in reality its still fairly small and underground

well thats my view anyways coffee n cake time the back to work

ps fab is by far the best online for women/couples seeking men

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
4 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire


"another problem is the scene comes across massive when online but in reality its still fairly small and underground "

A good point, which it's easy to forget.

If you read the France forum on here, you'll often see threads like "I'm on such and such ferry. Is anyone else?" and there's always no response.

In real life, swingers are few and far between.

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By *ntelligent MemberMan
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

It seems the reality is that it’s hard for everyone. As described, everyone has their guard up, and rightly so. Sifting the genuine from the non-genuine is tough, and that means that the genuine ones are likely to get more difficult to spot. That said, kind of respectful goes a long way, and it one easy way of standing out 🙂

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By *abulincsCouple
4 weeks ago

near a bridge

We have posted many meet recently to no avail all well verified guys but want everything there own way lol we only available when we post anybody would think I’m desperate for a good shag lol but get that from hubby just nice to have additional guys at times we not had play meet since November lol

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By *tarBuckandCinnamonCouple
4 weeks ago

EXETER

Whilst I would echo the sentiments of others, specifically about using clubs. If you go to a club, at the very least you won’t be left on read!

Another issue arises that clubs (in general) limit the number of single guys they allow, or on specific nights none are allowed at all. So to compound the problem of a very large pool of men, you then have a limited number of club “slots” available.

Starbuck

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By *um n raisinWoman
4 weeks ago

taunton

for me im only here for guys but it dont matter if i get 10 messages or a zillion messages i will only pick whom im physically and sexually attracted too and even then most wont get past the messaging side

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By *ormalguy71Man
4 weeks ago

Tunbridge Wells

I will throw my 10 pence worth in for what its worth.

I have used this site on and off for maybe 15+ years. Certainly the last few years it is harder due to the sheer numbers. Very much like a dating site, women on here know they will get 100s of messages so can be extra picky and that is fine.

It just means the men have to put in a bit of extra work, so many join thinking they will be shagging someone the same day. I find it better to make the opening message sound different to the rest,mention a photo you like, but dont be overly sexual etc.

As for the ghosting, that will always happen, here and dating sites but I do think the longer you are here the better you get at sussing them out.

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By *enny100Man
4 weeks ago

City


"Morning everyone!! After speaking to two male friends last night, they were telling me how hard it is to meet ladies on Fab. That they get ghosted a lot etc. I pointed out it's just as difficult for ladies,being gaslighted (happened recently to me), ing out the genuine from the picture collectors and wanking dead carrier bag crowd.

Be interested to know everyone's opinion.....Happy Friday! "

Interesting that it’s not just a male phenomenan

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By *addy bareMan
4 weeks ago

southend

Near enough impossible to get a meet with a female on here,if your gay you have so much to choose from,cause that's all I get is men all the time and im not interested in men.

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By *un times aheadMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol

I have been on and off here for 10 years , first time around you could expect a response in 9 out of ten messages (mostly “no thanks” 😂😂 but it was an answer) last time I was on here , last year, you might get one in 50 reply .

A lot of profiles say they like their mind turned on first , but they must miss out on a lot of good guys.

Some /lots are idiots , but as the line goes don’t tar everyone with the same brush - a few messages

Back and forth will soon them out

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12

Two sayings to add to the mix!

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus!

Self praise is no recommendation!

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By *tlanshiaWoman
4 weeks ago

Chatham

It’s hard all round for everyone for different reasons.

I’ve found men are they’re own worst enemies on here, if they simply read the profiles of the women they approached they’d have better success.

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By *orseCoolMan
4 weeks ago

Doncaster

It is definitely hard. Sometimes it feels like people look down on solo male accounts, and the entitlement from some couples is very real. They have endless rules—which I get might come from bad past experiences—but they make things nearly impossible.

?For example, I’ve had couples ask me for face pics and private photos right away. And let’s be honest: while some ladies say those are a 'turn off,' plenty of others ask for them constantly. I gave them exactly what they wanted, but when I asked for a photo of them in return? They refused. When I asked for a video call just to verify they were real? They refused that, too.

?They basically expected me to show up at a random address to meet people I’ve never even seen. No couple or woman out there would ever take that kind of risk for their own safety, yet they expect a solo man to do it without question. It’s a total double standard."

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By *eorge1949Man
4 weeks ago

Broadwaywr12


"It’s hard all round for everyone for different reasons.

I’ve found men are they’re own worst enemies on here, if they simply read the profiles of the women they approached they’d have better success. "

Absolutely!!!!

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By *uckingfell59Man
4 weeks ago

Doncaster

It’s certainly not easy and a lot of messages go unread , but perseverance does pay off , reading each profile carefully pays off, and write an honest message, genuine people can spot a lie or fakes a mile off, so be honest and polite

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By *oelMan
4 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels


"Morning everyone!! After speaking to two male friends last night, they were telling me how hard it is to meet ladies on Fab. That they get ghosted a lot etc. I pointed out it's just as difficult for ladies,being gaslighted (happened recently to me), ing out the genuine from the picture collectors and wanking dead carrier bag crowd.

Be interested to know everyone's opinion.....Happy Friday! "

Having setup an account for a female fwb it is night and day.

For men it is occasional you get a response

As a woman it's an onslaught of messages.

Having helped a women it is far simpler, yes you get flakes but it's just a matter or being direct about you want and moving on. My female friend arranges meets more easily. Fab is a fun site but it is easier for women and couples even with the challenges

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Mayfair

OP, it's hard to give an opinion when you haven't really given much by way of details...

I'm not sure what you mean by "gaslighted". What's the context?

The term "ghosted" is often frivolously thrown about on Fab. If people are exchanging messages on here and then experiencing a sudden form of radio silence (or being blocked) then that's not ghosting, unless you've formed a connection and actually met them in real life.

Women - and men too - are allowed to change their minds or be picky. Conversations often fizzle out.

Men should know better but their crass attitudes take centre stage on discussions like this, and quite rightly so, but they exist in greater numbers on here and therefore their poor behaviours are difficult to ignore.

However, the worst perpetrators are women and, to a greater degree, couples: I've had my fair share of unsolicited pussy photos and unimaginative messages.

I've been here nearly five years and I can't remember the last time I used the following terms in my vocabulary to describe my ·personal· experiences on here: "fake", "catfishing", "ghosting", "timewasters", "no shows" etc.

Perhaps my due diligence keeps me safe and sane.

Men are known for their unimaginative and monotone messages on here. Most of the time it's down to poor attitude, apathy and irreverence. Personally, I sometimes wish there were more women on here who could handle a conversation better than they can handle a cock.

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By *enchCoachDriverMan
4 weeks ago

west mosley

I travel a lot for work and end up getting one or 2 messages then nothing for ages again

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Chichester


"Morning everyone!! After speaking to two male friends last night, they were telling me how hard it is to meet ladies on Fab. That they get ghosted a lot etc. I pointed out it's just as difficult for ladies,being gaslighted (happened recently to me), ing out the genuine from the picture collectors and wanking dead carrier bag crowd.

Be interested to know everyone's opinion.....Happy Friday! "

It’s infinitely harder for men as the mathematical numbers make it so

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