FabSwingers.com forum: Denial play

By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

As a couple we have started to play around with sexual denial play.

The idea was my husbands as he felt it would make him a better husband as he would be focused on me and to be honest he has been even better to be around.

So now he is only allowed sex on the first of the month and I get to sleep with as many as I like, this has been a lot of fun as I still get my pleasure and when I get home I sit on his face whilst telling him everything I’ve been upto.

This is where I want opinions, in Feb and Mar I still gave him blowjobs to completion but this month, mainly because we were on Holiday and with nosy kids he wasn’t even able to get a blowjob so I have decided he won’t be allowed to cum at all until the first, that’s if he behaves and does what I ask!

So for other couples doing this, do you give your husband a release mid month? How long do you refuse him an orgasm and finally and most importantly how have you found your husbands behaviour any negatives or has it been all positives.

Please keep replies to the forum.

Lucy

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By *actile TensionMan
4 weeks ago

Sussex

Sadly I don't have any suggestions for you regarding your situation though I would like to say, and apologies if this sounds crude, but reading your post made my cock twitch.

I'm unsure as to why, perhaps it's the structure and formality of the dynamic. Erotic none the less.

I'm hopeful others will chime-in and offer up advice and I'm sure I'll enjoy reading their responses too.

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bolton

I suggest you introduce chastity x

Edging/talking dirty for 1 hour should be the biggest treat he gets in a single month x don't forget to tease him with pics or even kids from the guys who get to be with you x

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

Thank you for the view points so far, would love to hear from couples also

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By *tlanshiaWoman
4 weeks ago

Chatham

Not a couple but the female submissive to a male, he used positive reinforcement with me. I’d be allowed to come if I did something he liked. Completed a task. It works well.

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

How often do you please him for him to let you orgasm?

What’s the longest he has left you to squirm awaiting that final release?

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By *istressmystiqueeWoman
4 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Yessss denial is hot and definitely introduce chastity

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By *hefirewithinMan
4 weeks ago

Could be next door

Denial can be extremely engaging with the right mental connection, even a pause within the moment can be powerful, that energy and anticipation is undeniable !!

Tasks and rewards …. Good girls are really bad girls in disguise !!

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By *tag and curvey HotwifeCouple
4 weeks ago

herts

Very interesting. Hubby has made it clear I can do what ever I want. He won’t play with anyone. He likes to edge and tease himself when he doesn’t get any. Does he edge at all or just leave it alone ?

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

He definitely plays with himself but doesn’t have enough control to edge himself, bless, he looks ready to blow at any time at the minute and says he has an ache in his balls … oh well.

As with yourself though I have carts Blanche to enjoy as much as I want but he is not allowed to play with any other females.

Such a fantastic dynamic

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

Also, how long have you made him wait before allowing him his release?

"Very interesting. Hubby has made it clear I can do what ever I want. He won’t play with anyone. He likes to edge and tease himself when he doesn’t get any. Does he edge at all or just leave it alone ? "

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

Anyone else play this way, we would love to here more so we can enhance our journey with it.

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By *mandamark99Couple
4 weeks ago

Bridgnorth

My husband has been caged for about 10 years. He is released for cleaning or the occasional reward. He is never allowed to fuck me.

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By *pringbok95Couple
4 weeks ago

Limavady

Oh this is so up my street. Looking new ways to control and deny my cuck.

Caged ...yes

Denied....yes

If I let him fk me it's with a Johnny.

Need more suggestions please

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By *artytymemeMan
4 weeks ago

Mansfield

I'd love to be caged

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By *urhamDomMan
4 weeks ago

Durham

I’m a huge fan of power exchange. I appreciate yours is the other way around to mine. I’d suggest not letting him cum as a regular occurrence unless it is ‘earned’. You will have a lot of fun making him work harder and harder thinking it will result in an orgasm, although often it won’t and the teasing can continue.

I like my submissives to stay on the edge using any means necessary, although wands seem to be my go to. The constant denial just before the peak is hugely entertaining for me

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By *oltonman69Man
4 weeks ago

Wigan

Love the sound of this, so hot being teased and not allowed to cum

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

As we have a set day for him he doesn’t so much earn his reward. How do you make him earn his reward and what do you let him have?

"My husband has been caged for about 10 years. He is released for cleaning or the occasional reward. He is never allowed to fuck me. "

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

Ooh that’s an idea, so he never gets to feel your warm insides flesh on flesh?

I don’t like the look of the cages, he has mentioned them so that he can’t relieve himself but I don’t want to use them, he should just learn to control himself

"Oh this is so up my street. Looking new ways to control and deny my cuck.

Caged ...yes

Denied....yes

If I let him fk me it's with a Johnny.

Need more suggestions please

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

I left him a huge list of tasks to do on Thursday (his day off) that were to be 100% completed, I wanted a relaxation day off today so wanted no housework to do.

I told him if he didn’t do everything to my satisfaction he will have to wait another whole week before I let him inside me. He failed … his loss, I will just have to meet someone else on the 1st to really emphasise what he’s missed out on by not doing everything

"I’m a huge fan of power exchange. I appreciate yours is the other way around to mine. I’d suggest not letting him cum as a regular occurrence unless it is ‘earned’. You will have a lot of fun making him work harder and harder thinking it will result in an orgasm, although often it won’t and the teasing can continue.

I like my submissives to stay on the edge using any means necessary, although wands seem to be my go to. The constant denial just before the peak is hugely entertaining for me"

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By *urhamDomMan
4 weeks ago

Durham

That’s only right that you’d have a consequence of him not doing as you asked. Have you considered making him watch you with others? On the first, when it should have been him? Maybe even some edging and then leave him frustrated because the orgasm never arrives

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By *igwilly2kMan
4 weeks ago

The Land of Kink!

He should be eating his cum when he does get released from plain toast or dry crackers

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

I have made home wait a few more days of I am meeting someone as he isn’t allowed anywhere near me if I’m meeting. He doesn’t get to watch though, I leave him jobs to do in the house whilst I’m out

"That’s only right that you’d have a consequence of him not doing as you asked. Have you considered making him watch you with others? On the first, when it should have been him? Maybe even some edging and then leave him frustrated because the orgasm never arrives"

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
4 weeks ago

Northumberland

I’ve occasionally climbed up him and sat in his face to clean up his own load, if he made a mess he gets to clean it up!

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By *helipsMan
4 weeks ago

swansea

Sounds like the perfect couple to me

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By *hiteStagMan
4 weeks ago

Essex

"I’ve occasionally climbed up him and sat in his face to clean up his own load, if he made a mess he gets to clean it up!"

Not messing her up is what took us down the denial path. But this led to something unexpected - I learnt to orgasm without spunking. She is happy to let me do this as she orgasms so it feels more intense for her. So she still wins

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Northumberland

Bump

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By *irtycpl7980 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Northumberland

I was hoping to learn a bit more from other couples, are we the only ones doing this?

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