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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here " Could it just be the grammar and spelling?  | |||
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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here " Do not take it personally. There are tonnes of single men and far less women or even couples. This gives the women a very uneven view of their power in here that does not really match the real social world and they don't need to acknowledge or reply to your messages. There are a lot of rude people on here too. It's not you but them. Try going to sober socials or clubs if you want to. It's different that way. | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers " • Oh dear. 🤦🏻♂️ | |||
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"Nobody owes anyone a reply on here at all. Just because you message someone does not mean you are entitled to a reply by any manner or means. If someone reads your message and does not reply, take that as they are not interested and move on. The "common decency/politeness" arguement doesn't slide here either as most profiles will likely be drowning in similar messages. The time it would take to reply to all those is ridiculous so most chose not to. Posts like this dont help your case either. Additionally, your profile is very limited in terms of content with very basic descriptions of what you are offering/looking for in your bio. Not only that, but your main title suggests you are attached and after "discrete" fun. This reads like you are in a relationship and trying to keep this as a secret from a partner. Thats a major red flag immediately for a LOT of people. " So true love it | |||
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"Also noticed your recent status: "Poxy fuck site this is fucking reply bk not hard" Thats also a huge red flag for so many reasons. If this site is making you feel negatively about yourself, it would probably be best to not engage with it to protect your mental health." What a horrible status to put up , I’m not surprised people don’t reply | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers " Are single guys hurting you? If they bother you, filters exist. Turn off messages from guys if you don't want to see guys. Plenty of guys do well here, and they're welcome in plenty of dynamics - including with couples, including in a more traditional context. I'd rather rid the site of couples who want guys to go away, personally - they're much worse for Fab. | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers · Are single guys hurting you? If they bother you, filters exist. Turn off messages from guys if you don't want to see guys. Plenty of guys do well here, and they're welcome in plenty of dynamics - including with couples, including in a more traditional context. I'd rather rid the site of couples who want guys to go away, personally - they're much worse for Fab." • Summed up perfectly. 🩶 | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers " No problem seeking single women though have you... | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers No problem seeking single women though have you..." We actually don’t seek them as the term unicorn suggests they are pretty rare , we look for couples | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers No problem seeking single women though have you..."  | |||
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"Because most women including the ones that can't get fuck outside fab. Are up there own arse" You seem nice. | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers Are single guys hurting you? If they bother you, filters exist. Turn off messages from guys if you don't want to see guys. Plenty of guys do well here, and they're welcome in plenty of dynamics - including with couples, including in a more traditional context. I'd rather rid the site of couples who want guys to go away, personally - they're much worse for Fab." Absolutely spot on there's different dynamics that people enjoy | |||
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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here " You sound attatched to me | |||
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"I have been a single guy in here and also have a couples page now so have seen it from both angles. Best advice I can give is be yourself and be patient. You need to put a bit more detail on your profile and have a lot of respect for other people. I have been very lucky I think it took me a little while but I just sent messages with a bit of context to what they are looking for if you match. It is a swinging site not a “sex site” so don’t focus on the sex side. Be a person. Talk about normal stuff too. I also think the best advice I can give is go to a club. I had a couple of meets outwith that but everything changed when I went to a club. " What a great answer and so many green flags coming from this 🙏🫶 | |||
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"I have been a single guy in here and also have a couples page now so have seen it from both angles. Best advice I can give is be yourself and be patient. You need to put a bit more detail on your profile and have a lot of respect for other people. I have been very lucky I think it took me a little while but I just sent messages with a bit of context to what they are looking for if you match. It is a swinging site not a “sex site” so don’t focus on the sex side. Be a person. Talk about normal stuff too. I also think the best advice I can give is go to a club. I had a couple of meets outwith that but everything changed when I went to a club. What a great answer and so many green flags coming from this 🙏🫶 " It is true. I’ve seen it from a couples page and the messages you get is mad. I won’t sugar coat it, it is hard for a single man in here but you really do need to be patient and be yourself. | |||
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"Because most women including the ones that can't get fuck outside fab. Are up there own arse" Yeah thatsbthe reason why the OP is getting no replies....blame the women!  | |||
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"If using fab is affecting you negatively step away for a bit, it really isn't worth your self esteem being affected " Very wise words | |||
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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here " That's one long ass sentence. Here have the punctuation you forgot. ....,,,.... On a shorter note. They can be choosey as there is 5 of them and 95million men on here. You got to be patient friendly yourself. And catch someone's eye.  | |||
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"I only get the occasional message but I always take the trouble to reply. Even if the person whe sent it is not the type of person I am looking for." Yes it’s practical for the occasional message but multiply that by 400 and see if you’d have the same approach. Women in particular receive hundreds of messages, some of which barely extend to a full sentence. There is no obligation for people to respond to messages. They obviously have their reasons to respond or not. If you don’t get a response just move on. | |||
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"Because why are single guys on a swingers site 🙅♀️ sorry not sorry , there is plenty sex sites for single guys leave the swingers sites to swingers " Single people are swingers too you know? Of course, noone has to meet anyone or do anything but they are still there. Weird attitude. | |||
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"I only get the occasional message but I always take the trouble to reply. Even if the person whe sent it is not the type of person I am looking for." To be completely fair,single men do not receive anything like the volume of messages that women and couples do. Unless you've experienced both sides then it's impossible to imagine. Some of the messages are very gnarly and not likely to encourage any woman to want to meet. I think it's would be good for men to learn from that and actually talk and give information in their profiles and messages that could open done channels if communication. I'm not so sure that it will happen though. I'm pretty easy and relaxed and happy to just chat with no further expectations,as sone people here could testify. I like a chat. | |||
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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here Could it just be the grammar and spelling? "OH don’t say that, I was accused of being AI for being too grammatically correct 🤣 | |||
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"Hey just woundring why no one reply back to me does anyone else has this making me depress as i think im not good to anyone or ugly i send face pic with every message i send i get that i cant be everyone cup of tea or type but not everyone cant like me most dont read there messages or they read and dont reply im simple guy i can take no for answer just very confuse to where i stand here Could it just be the grammar and spelling?
OH don’t say that, I was accused of being AI for being too grammatically correct 🤣"Incorrect. The accusation came from the sense of uncanny valley, words being used slightly wrong, alongside overinflated posturing that comes along with prolonged AI use. The final straw of my suspicion - the only thing I mentioned by name - was cadence. Cadence does not mean grammar. I was specifically thinking of the "it's not x, it's y" formulation. As a stickler for grammar myself, I would not criticise someone for good grammar. To the extent that good grammar contributes to a suspicion of LLM use, it's a combination of good grammar with other factors. | |||
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"I reply to all but anything threw the door Get throwed out just polite to say no thanks like someone said i only message profile that fit what im Looking for" but do you fit what they are looking for? If you did, you would have got a reply, surely. And please read site's FAQs, it clearly states there that no reply is a reply and no, it's not rude not to reply. Also, an example: I got a message from someone who did not read my profile, and pointed them back to my bio. I normally block after that, to prevent any begging or abuse, but I didn't this time. Sadly, got a very immature reply to say they were only "trying to be friendly", they called me "chubby" (at least it wasn't "fat and ugly") and stated they were astonished how much power "chubby" people have on this site. That only reinforced my previous conviction to block anyone who messages me without reading my profile. Would it really make you feel better, OP, if you get "no, thanks" replies followed by a block? | |||
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"I reply to all but anything threw the door Get throwed out just polite to say no thanks like someone said i only message profile that fit what im Looking for" Unfortunately, the way the site works means that women can't do that. We get too many messages, it attracts too much abuse. Manners aren't just following a strict set of rules. Manners also entails understanding the position of others. You'll learn, or you won't. Just like everyone else who makes this complaint. | |||
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