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By *arzanandJane2016 OP   Couple
3 days ago

the big city

Guys we got let on the weekend in typical fan form ghosted!!!

We’d been chatting arranged a day exchanged details set up a group chat on telegram and then day of the race nothing.

We touched base to see if everything was still on but got no reply.

Then today we get message saying something personal came up can we look at arranging something we’d like a se locks chance etc…

How many of you would say ok yes fair enough an try to arrange something again.

My gut feeling says stay away

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
3 days ago

Leicester

We would only give a second chance if we really really liked them based on chatting etc and what the circumstances were other than that then no.x

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By *ibblepilotMan
3 days ago

Preston

I'd say trust your gut!

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By *hinstrapMan
3 days ago

sheffield

Gut feeling is usually correct.

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By *eliWoman
3 days ago

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If your gut feeling says you shouldn't, there's a reason for that.

I happily give second chances. Life happens, people change. And I'd like to be afforded one if things didn't go to plan.

That being typed, sometimes you know. For whatever reason. Gut feeling, intuition, pattern recognition. If you're at that point, don't.

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By *WB85Man
3 days ago

Staffordshire

In our eyes, its always possible before the event to send a message explaining whats going on and that you wont be present.

Life happens.

Those that cant communicate and just ghost, they don't get a second chance.

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By *ibs4Man
3 days ago

Romford,poitiers france and torrevieja spain

Nobody likes to be let down but if they can’t send a quick message saying something has happened then don’t bother with them anymore

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By *heElvingtonTwoCouple
3 days ago

elvington

Second yes but not third

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By *ndy1982sMan
3 days ago

glasgow

I’d just like to given a first

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By *he MinionMan
3 days ago

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I have given second and third chances and have been very happy that I have.

Much depends on the reason behind the let down and their circumstances.

Last minute dilemas happen.

OP, if you really want to meet with this person or people then give them the second chance. If you are not that fussed or dont think they are genuine, then give them the push.

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By *osie888TV/TS
3 days ago

Bathgate

Second defo , site such as this lot considerations so cold feet comes to mind

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By *artorialMan
3 days ago

weymouth

From my perspective life happens sometimes, but short of a serious family emergency I find it difficult to see why a quick message saying sorry we'll have to rearrange is so hard. Id find that somewhat rude as it gives the impression my time is of less value than yours.

As I said it's my perspective others may (and often do) have different opinions

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By *asha86Couple
3 days ago

walsall

Always trust that gut feeling its never usually far wrong. Sometimes things are genuine and it deserves second chances but if your gut says nope then follow it x

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By *arzanandJane2016 OP   Couple
3 days ago

the big city

A quick message via telegram nothing specific just a “guys need to reschedule something has come up”

We’d never pry as to whet just wish them luck in sorting it job done but we got nothing

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 days ago

Hets/Beds/Leeds

If someone ghosts me hell would freeze over before they got a second chance. As others have said, just a quick message to say can’t make it I would have been sufficient.

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By *omeotherguyMan
3 days ago

Sheffield/London/Derbyshire

Personally, if that happened to me, I would politely close the door.

There is plenty of opportunity on fab and I don't do drama and silliness.

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By *arand25Couple
3 days ago

Crowborough

We've been let down probably 5 or 6 times now by single guys who've arranged meets then bailed out.

It's bloody annoying & unfair on the decent ones as we generally think they're all married fantasists on here.

One guy we are giving a second chance to as he hurt himself at work, we're sure that's genuine so will meet up at some point.

We've never been ghosted, just the same crappy excuses

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
3 days ago

Round the bend

If on the day no contact and then meet didn't go ahead I would say get bent. Personal things may come up but a message takes no time at all. We have been in situations when things have been cancelled last minute and piss poor excuses are given and then the truth comes out. So sorry I'm no ones fool.

Mr 🐺

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By *arzanandJane2016 OP   Couple
3 days ago

the big city


"If on the day no contact and then meet didn't go ahead I would say get bent. Personal things may come up but a message takes no time at all. We have been in situations when things have been cancelled last minute and piss poor excuses are given and then the truth comes out. So sorry I'm no ones fool.

Mr 🐺 "

💥

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 days ago

Midlands


"Guys we got let on the weekend in typical fan form ghosted!!!

We’d been chatting arranged a day exchanged details set up a group chat on telegram and then day of the race nothing.

We touched base to see if everything was still on but got no reply.

Then today we get message saying something personal came up can we look at arranging something we’d like a se locks chance etc…

How many of you would say ok yes fair enough an try to arrange something again.

My gut feeling says stay away "

Personally we wouldn't give a second chance, each to their own though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 days ago

East Sussex


"Guys we got let on the weekend in typical fan form ghosted!!!

We’d been chatting arranged a day exchanged details set up a group chat on telegram and then day of the race nothing.

We touched base to see if everything was still on but got no reply.

Then today we get message saying something personal came up can we look at arranging something we’d like a se locks chance etc…

How many of you would say ok yes fair enough an try to arrange something again.

My gut feeling says stay away "

In this case I'd consider it.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
3 days ago

newcastle

Second chance on life, hes still breathing. Yeah she's great i know. Can't blame him. But I have him back. Second chance xx

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By *eyeYCouple
3 days ago

Nr Leicester

If they'd had the decency to message in a timely manner, yes.

We've had to cancel, but always tell them the truth.

Had a few ghost us after we'd rearranged commitments etc so it could happen and get back in touch weeks/months later as if it were the first time they contacted us..

A firm no!

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By *nvader2021Couple
3 days ago

Watford

Absolutely no chance.

Too many people who are messers and dreamers on here.

Why contact us in the beginning giving it the big one, Carey on the charade and then not see it through - just be honest and genuine from the outset but some people aren’t sadly and appear to be on an ego trip.

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By *etitehotwife4uCouple
3 days ago

Wirral

I (mr) say no, Mrs gave a second chance to same guy last month and he did exactly the same again so I think she’s back on the same page as me.

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By *ieandteaseMan
3 days ago

Wiltshire

If he'd let you know beforehand then OK. To simply ghost you? Bollocks to him.

Try a TV instead.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
3 days ago

Staffordshire

Ghosting is very rude and will lead to removal from friend list. It's not at all friendly and if peeps can't be bothered to send a quick email to apologise then we don't want to be friends any more.

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By *arzanandJane2016 OP   Couple
3 days ago

the big city


"I (mr) say no, Mrs gave a second chance to same guy last month and he did exactly the same again so I think she’s back on the same page as me. "

Yep agreed x

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By *oxy-RedWoman
3 days ago

pink panther territory

I always give one more chance then that's it

It's a true saying

Fool me once shame on you

Fool me twice then shame on me

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By *harAndBryCouple
3 days ago

Downham Market

We tend to give a second chance if they've let us know before the meet that they're not going to be able to make it.

Those that just don't show up then wait days or even weeks before messaging again get no chance.

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
3 days ago

Middlesbrough

From personal experience of trying to give a second chance and it not working out , I wouldn’t

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By *evilinyouMan
3 days ago

Bristol

I'd give a person a second chance, life can get in the way sometimes. Though they could have had the decency to let you know sooner.

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