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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford

I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think

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By *ay5043Man
5 days ago

Chelmsford

Define younger? 10 years younger? Or more?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 days ago

East Sussex

I don't know how old you are op but I would be interested to see genuine answers. Not the age is just a number thing but answers that demonstrate that a person really understands older women and that we aren't young women with a lot of experience

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 days ago

East Sussex


"Define younger? 10 years younger? Or more?"

That's the other thing a lot of people mean 35 to 45

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By *rankieiamMan
5 days ago

reading

Sorry to hear that. I think some people are just not respectful! I like to think of My self fairly young still LOL-34 not sure if that still counts as young? I adore an older women, find them so sexy. Definitely don’t have unrealistic expectations. Everyone is different & sexy in their own right! I wonder if it’s more just you met a bad egg?

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford


"Define younger? 10 years younger? Or more?"

I originally decided 10 years younger but this guy was younger than that

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By *ayhay23Man
5 days ago

Northampton

If you can have a conversation! Laugh!! Its just a number!

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford


"I don't know how old you are op but I would be interested to see genuine answers. Not the age is just a number thing but answers that demonstrate that a person really understands older women and that we aren't young women with a lot of experience "

Yes, I don’t have the body of a 25 year old because I’m not 25!! But I do have more experience, not necessarily in the scene currently but working on it

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford


"Sorry to hear that. I think some people are just not respectful! I like to think of My self fairly young still LOL-34 not sure if that still counts as young? I adore an older women, find them so sexy. Definitely don’t have unrealistic expectations. Everyone is different & sexy in their own right! I wonder if it’s more just you met a bad egg? "

Young to me!

I have been trying to chalk the experience up to meeting a bad egg but it did knock my confidence

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By *ayhay23Man
5 days ago

Northampton

Which scene are you working on? How old or young do you mean??

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By *WB85Man
5 days ago

Staffordshire

I can't really answer your question, but I once chatted with a younger lady.

It almost felt like I was being used as a science experiment. To try older men.

I declined and changed my age preferences.

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By *actile TensionMan
5 days ago

Sussex


"I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think "

I think media and porn have corrupted many minds young and old, Subsequently expectations have taken a hit.

Sadly when in search for something in particular you're always going to encounter bad actors, it's just part of the journey and you mustn't let it deter you.

GL

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
5 days ago

near Putney Heath


"I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think "

I'm nearly 45. 3 years ago. I joined this lifestyle via naturism. Starting with going naked in Rio's spa, in Kentish Town London and Ignite/Kestrels at London Heathrow Terminal 5. Then I went to Brighton Beach. Then I went to Cap D'agde and saw naturists and swingers of all kinds, shapes and sizes with Caesarean Scars, tummy tuck scars, arm scars, boobs scars, back scars, sagging bums and tums. in Wheelchairs. Just living their best lives, sunning and shaking their asses at the pool party and the beach while sipping on cocktails and then deciding to have a bit of a shag and sexual play.

I'm plus-sized UK18-20. Technically, I'm 35.7 BMI, obese class 2. I weigh 221 lbs and my height is 5 ft 6. I Linear leg press 324lbs. Is my doctor running me down with Ozempic? No. Are young men shrieking in horror? no. Bloody got to tell them to go shag someone their own age at Rio's!

You met an immature idiot who probably only watching adult entertainment videos and doesn't actually meet or have sex with many women in real life.

If you want to have sex with young men, I don't think that is unrealistic. Finding the decent ones is difficult mainly because most swingers in my experience are middle-aged. ( 40s, 50s and 60s). Most young men ( on this site) are horny, desperate and haven't been trained properly. Lol!

For me, my sexiness is about internal confidence with my sexuality. Drama is something that some people can look like porn starts and still create!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
5 days ago

East Sussex


"I don't know how old you are op but I would be interested to see genuine answers. Not the age is just a number thing but answers that demonstrate that a person really understands older women and that we aren't young women with a lot of experience

Yes, I don’t have the body of a 25 year old because I’m not 25!! But I do have more experience, not necessarily in the scene currently but working on it "

Lol

We upped our age range fur to the kind of messages we were getting from younger men. That's not to say they were bad but they did show that they didn't really understand older women (well women of my age anyway) and why would they, I don't blame them for that.

I wouldn let one bad experience put me off but the bad experiences we've had have made me very wary

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By *rankieiamMan
5 days ago

reading

That’s sad to hear! I’m sure there are plenty of good eggs out there who would appreciate you for who you are! Just need to filter out the bad ones! Easier said than done I know!

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By *rankieiamMan
5 days ago

reading

Just realised it says I’m outside of your age range when I try sliding into your DMs ….. damn lol

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By *earditallWoman
5 days ago

Lancaster

I can't say any younger guy had had a problem with mine.

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By *um n raisinWoman
5 days ago

taunton

i avoid all who use terms such as looking for mature or older milf cougar and any other age related kink and yet i meet loads of guys whom are younger but i meet them because im attracted to them and they meet me for the same

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
5 days ago

Newcastle

I have always avoided younger guys for fear of them just wanting to tick the box of being with an older woman. However I have had a couple of experiences with younger men (10-15 years younger) that I have met through events and other friends, who I have ended up playing with, once I was sure they wanted me for the right reasons. I can absolutely say they had no issues with my lumpy and saggy bits or my wrinkles. Just the same as most other men really. They don’t tend to notice these things like we do ourselves.

It’s just about finding the ones with the right men.

Kx

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford


"Just realised it says I’m outside of your age range when I try sliding into your DMs ….. damn lol "

Sorry!

I’m sure you are one of the good ones

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
5 days ago

Chelmsford


"I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think

I'm nearly 45. 3 years ago. I joined this lifestyle via naturism. Starting with going naked in Rio's spa, in Kentish Town London and Ignite/Kestrels at London Heathrow Terminal 5. Then I went to Brighton Beach. Then I went to Cap D'agde and saw naturists and swingers of all kinds, shapes and sizes with Caesarean Scars, tummy tuck scars, arm scars, boobs scars, back scars, sagging bums and tums. in Wheelchairs. Just living their best lives, sunning and shaking their asses at the pool party and the beach while sipping on cocktails and then deciding to have a bit of a shag and sexual play.

I'm plus-sized UK18-20. Technically, I'm 35.7 BMI, obese class 2. I weigh 221 lbs and my height is 5 ft 6. I Linear leg press 324lbs. Is my doctor running me down with Ozempic? No. Are young men shrieking in horror? no. Bloody got to tell them to go shag someone their own age at Rio's!

You met an immature idiot who probably only watching adult entertainment videos and doesn't actually meet or have sex with many women in real life.

If you want to have sex with young men, I don't think that is unrealistic. Finding the decent ones is difficult mainly because most swingers in my experience are middle-aged. ( 40s, 50s and 60s). Most young men ( on this site) are horny, desperate and haven't been trained properly. Lol!

For me, my sexiness is about internal confidence with my sexuality. Drama is something that some people can look like porn starts and still create!!"

I love this

Tbf I’m not really interested in anyone more than 10 years younger than me but I know my Mr wouldn’t mind meeting younger women lol

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By *b03Man
4 days ago

Exeter

I started fabbing at 34 - now nearly 37 as so not if "younger" is the word,l! Not as much as I wished I'd joined the ls earlier, not sure I'd have had the right mindset then. It's all a learning process non matters your age or background.

I've played with people younger, my own own age, older, and older still, and my best experiences have generally been with older.

Every meet and person is different though - there's 50 year olds who can put 20 year olds to shame! Its a rich spectrum and that's one of the great things about fab

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By *assy LassieWoman
4 days ago

Near Glasgow

This⏫️

If someone messages me mentioning being with an older woman i feel im a tick box on a bucket list. Nope im certainly not that

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By *b03Man
4 days ago

Exeter

So many typos in my last message! We're all looking for something. Some people more specific, some less. This might be a swingers site, but believe it or not, most people still don't want to be objectified!

I think some have a hard time working that out

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
4 days ago

near Putney Heath


"I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think

I'm nearly 45. 3 years ago. I joined this lifestyle via naturism. Starting with going naked in Rio's spa, in Kentish Town London and Ignite/Kestrels at London Heathrow Terminal 5. Then I went to Brighton Beach. Then I went to Cap D'agde and saw naturists and swingers of all kinds, shapes and sizes with Caesarean Scars, tummy tuck scars, arm scars, boobs scars, back scars, sagging bums and tums. in Wheelchairs. Just living their best lives, sunning and shaking their asses at the pool party and the beach while sipping on cocktails and then deciding to have a bit of a shag and sexual play.

I'm plus-sized UK18-20. Technically, I'm 35.7 BMI, obese class 2. I weigh 221 lbs and my height is 5 ft 6. I Linear leg press 324lbs. Is my doctor running me down with Ozempic? No. Are young men shrieking in horror? no. Bloody got to tell them to go shag someone their own age at Rio's!

You met an immature idiot who probably only watching adult entertainment videos and doesn't actually meet or have sex with many women in real life.

If you want to have sex with young men, I don't think that is unrealistic. Finding the decent ones is difficult mainly because most swingers in my experience are middle-aged. ( 40s, 50s and 60s). Most young men ( on this site) are horny, desperate and haven't been trained properly. Lol!

For me, my sexiness is about internal confidence with my sexuality. Drama is something that some people can look like porn starts and still create!!

I love this

Tbf I’m not really interested in anyone more than 10 years younger than me but I know my Mr wouldn’t mind meeting younger women lol"

I meet a lot of young people in the swinger clubs, at the beach and in the kink scene. They really aren't all that bad as the awful one you met. I used to work with young people too and they were fine a little chaotic finding their feet but they were respectful enough for me.

Online now...that's a whole other story.

Men seem to have bigger egos than women when it comes to partnership. Lol! When I was in my twenties I couldn't go with an older man. When I was about 35, I dated a man who was 50 and that was ok.

Anyone who reminds me of my still-alive dad or unborn son is off limits. unfortunately. lol! No matter how attractive they are, as soon as my autistic brain flips that switch, it's over and I won't get aroused and probably start to become dysregulated.

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By *oupleEssex1974 OP   Couple
4 days ago

Chelmsford


"I am an older woman, I have lived a life - 2 kids, gained and lost weight over the years and have surgical scars, my man thinks I’m hot which is all that really matters but do younger men who want older women have unrealistic expectations of how an older woman’s body will actually look like and feel?

I have filters of age on our profile now because of a bad meet with a younger man, but prior to that we were still getting a lot of messages from young men.

I do get the idea of experience being sexy and maybe less drama? But truly would like to hear what others think

I'm nearly 45. 3 years ago. I joined this lifestyle via naturism. Starting with going naked in Rio's spa, in Kentish Town London and Ignite/Kestrels at London Heathrow Terminal 5. Then I went to Brighton Beach. Then I went to Cap D'agde and saw naturists and swingers of all kinds, shapes and sizes with Caesarean Scars, tummy tuck scars, arm scars, boobs scars, back scars, sagging bums and tums. in Wheelchairs. Just living their best lives, sunning and shaking their asses at the pool party and the beach while sipping on cocktails and then deciding to have a bit of a shag and sexual play.

I'm plus-sized UK18-20. Technically, I'm 35.7 BMI, obese class 2. I weigh 221 lbs and my height is 5 ft 6. I Linear leg press 324lbs. Is my doctor running me down with Ozempic? No. Are young men shrieking in horror? no. Bloody got to tell them to go shag someone their own age at Rio's!

You met an immature idiot who probably only watching adult entertainment videos and doesn't actually meet or have sex with many women in real life.

If you want to have sex with young men, I don't think that is unrealistic. Finding the decent ones is difficult mainly because most swingers in my experience are middle-aged. ( 40s, 50s and 60s). Most young men ( on this site) are horny, desperate and haven't been trained properly. Lol!

For me, my sexiness is about internal confidence with my sexuality. Drama is something that some people can look like porn starts and still create!!

I love this

Tbf I’m not really interested in anyone more than 10 years younger than me but I know my Mr wouldn’t mind meeting younger women lol

I meet a lot of young people in the swinger clubs, at the beach and in the kink scene. They really aren't all that bad as the awful one you met. I used to work with young people too and they were fine a little chaotic finding their feet but they were respectful enough for me.

Online now...that's a whole other story.

Men seem to have bigger egos than women when it comes to partnership. Lol! When I was in my twenties I couldn't go with an older man. When I was about 35, I dated a man who was 50 and that was ok.

Anyone who reminds me of my still-alive dad or unborn son is off limits. unfortunately. lol! No matter how attractive they are, as soon as my autistic brain flips that switch, it's over and I won't get aroused and probably start to become dysregulated."

Right?? I have adult children and refuse point blank to go with anyone young enough to be my child, just feels gross and I’m the same, there’s no attraction or arousal.

I’m undiagnosed ADHD not autistic, but have autism in the family and I understand somewhat how the autistic brain works.

The other half though, being male and not having a sister or any daughters, just doesn’t seem to care. I get that it’s more visual for men than women and he wouldn’t want a relationship, it’s just sex so it doesn’t worry me but just not for me thanks!

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