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"Poor grammaH" Oooh, like missing apostrophes on people's bios ?  | |||
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"Just messages like, Wanna fuck? Really!! X" Short, and to the point But I get what you mean. | |||
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"I don't reply to say no thanks, because in my experience it leads to abuse or pleading. Manners are cool and all, but only if everyone engages with manners. And I know you would never abuse or try to negotiate with someone who said no, but how am I supposed to know who will and won't? And how am I supposed to know who, saying "I will accept no for an answer" is simply lying? Manners are situational. The internet allows for cheap mass communication, and makes it easy to send relatively anonymous abuse. Under those circumstances, being defensive is understandable, and insisting on "traditional" manners is entitled." I appreciate it if I get a proper polite no thanks message. I never start begging but might send a polite reply to say thanks for it. You never know who you might bump into through your life in the future. | |||
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"I don't reply to say no thanks, because in my experience it leads to abuse or pleading. Manners are cool and all, but only if everyone engages with manners. And I know you would never abuse or try to negotiate with someone who said no, but how am I supposed to know who will and won't? And how am I supposed to know who, saying "I will accept no for an answer" is simply lying? Manners are situational. The internet allows for cheap mass communication, and makes it easy to send relatively anonymous abuse. Under those circumstances, being defensive is understandable, and insisting on "traditional" manners is entitled. I appreciate it if I get a proper polite no thanks message. I never start begging but might send a polite reply to say thanks for it. You never know who you might bump into through your life in the future. " Understood. I'm still not going to do it, because of the risks involved. And I think most decent people can grasp both sides of the equation. | |||
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"Poor grammaH Oooh, like missing apostrophes on people's bios ? "Chit, I've missed one haven't I? | |||
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"So people what puts you off from meeting someone from here or even replying to a message to say no thank you or being polite doesn’t matter in the world of online always wondering that. Do people have a certain guidelines on here in what they want?" Unappealing genitals. | |||
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"At present, my own unpredictable body puts me off meeting new people. I can't be arsed explaining that I'm going through the perimenopause and my periods are all over the place. That's why I'm sticking to my regulars, as they're not going to take "sorry, my period just arrived" the wrong way. Also, OP, I might reply "no, thank you" to a message but that's followed by an immediate block, to prevent the beginning or the abuse. I did an experiment at the beginning of the week, I replied "no, thank you" to a guy, refering him back to my profile which is very clear I'm not looking to meet currently. I did not block him straight away, which turned out to be a big mistake. I got a message back that he was "just being friendly" and that it astounds him how much power "chubby" ladies have on here... At least he only called me "chubby", not "fat and ugly". I will continue blocking people. " Totally agree with you on that. My blocked list is longer than the friends list that’s for sure. | |||
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"From reading a few threads on here, it seems that a red flag to most women is starting a thread like this one. If you have so little understanding of the position women are in on here, then you're not very attractive as a potential partner. " Well I already know I’m not attractive and maybe not everyone cup of tea should we say, but it seems like the 21st century manners don’t mean a thing anymore. Thank you for your post. | |||
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"From reading a few threads on here, it seems that a red flag to most women is starting a thread like this one. If you have so little understanding of the position women are in on here, then you're not very attractive as a potential partner. Well I already know I’m not attractive and maybe not everyone cup of tea should we say, but it seems like the 21st century manners don’t mean a thing anymore. Thank you for your post." This follows the pattern that often comes up when people (usually men) talk about manners on Fab. The effect, particularly after I or other women have explained our perspective, comes across something like this * "No one has manners anymore" * "The world has changed, and behaving in traditional ways has negative effects for us. We've adapted" * "There is no excuse for not following my rigid sense of what manners should be" * "Adapting my approach means I receive fewer threats" * "I am entirely unmoved. A trillion graphic death threats are less egregious than you not responding to messages in ways that made sense when my grandparents were young" * "So you think I'm the problem?" * "Yes. You - not people threatening people with death, abusing them, etc - are the downfall of society. Now, I don't understand why no one wants to meet someone with no empathy. Gosh" | |||
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"(of course, I write this as if manners are universal. Most guys who have sticks up their arses about manners will just say they don't give a fuck if women are abused. But I'm pretending that they can apply decorum consistently 😂)" I think manners don't have any value in themselves - they're just a set of rules to help those lacking in empathy pretend to have consideration for others. It's a general rule that those people who complain most about lack of manners from other people seem often to be the ones who show least consideration for others themselves. | |||
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"(of course, I write this as if manners are universal. Most guys who have sticks up their arses about manners will just say they don't give a fuck if women are abused. But I'm pretending that they can apply decorum consistently 😂) I think manners don't have any value in themselves - they're just a set of rules to help those lacking in empathy pretend to have consideration for others. It's a general rule that those people who complain most about lack of manners from other people seem often to be the ones who show least consideration for others themselves. " That's exactly what I'm getting at. There are ideals that exist, but these need to yield to the reality of the situation. Those who insist on the ideal, regardless of the harm it does to others, reveal themselves to be far worse than technically incorrect - they're terminally selfish. No "rules to the letter" overcomes that level of selfishness. | |||
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"Mostly everything tbh " Lol fair 😂 | |||
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"I just can't be arsed most of the time really " Sometimes the build up doesn't live up to the meet, this always off putting. Though I have had some amazing meets over the years so there's always hope for that rare connection | |||
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"Poor grammaH Oooh, like missing apostrophes on people's bios ?
Chit, I've missed one haven't I?"Just the one | |||
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"They’re not as funny irl cos they just ChatGPT all their messages. " Soooooooo picky | |||
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"They’re not as funny irl cos they just ChatGPT all their messages. " Thats a great one. Here is a response you can copy and paste to continue this conversation - Personally I've never find AI to be hilariously funny. And one dayz it will become our Overlord. It tends to use half hearted attempts at humour to appear human, and then a probing question. You know, like a doctor having a good look about. Ha ha ha. But tell me - what kind of jokes do you like? | |||
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"So people what puts you off from meeting someone from here or even replying to a message to say no thank you or being polite doesn’t matter in the world of online always wondering that. Do people have a certain guidelines on here in what they want?" Someone who hasn’t read our profile is a huge turn off, it’s also obvious when they haven’t, so it has a great strike rate of ing out people | |||
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"Does she want hard cock now" I answer those ones with yes she does but not yours lol | |||
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"Demanding couples we don't do this that or the other like the world revolves around them also a massive steer to the left and foot down 🤣" Yeah, demanding people in general. "You will come to 123 Example Street between 12 and 1 and you will perform the following items off my sexual menu" Will I? Will I now. Huh. I'm afraid I'm busy. No, no, don't bother rescheduling, I'm not here to be told what to do. | |||
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