FabSwingers.com forum: negotiations at clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above?

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

To be honest Curvy when I've been at a club, of which I've been to several around NW and Midlands, I'd say my preliminary chat has been about none of the things you have mentioned.

I've most often gone as a single male and occasionally as a couple, the experience is very different.

Generally speaking though, preliminary chat has been small talk about all sorts of things ranging from the weather, what you think of the club, the news almost anything tbh. At the same time the eyes are able to see how the other person/couple react and obviously what they look like, the ears and general senses can assess the attitude and if there's an interest.

If the conversation extends then I may ask what type of things the other people like and whether they'd be interested in taking things further. If I get to that stage, the a quick review of whats out of bounds takes place as the funs about to start.

Seems very clinical putting it like this, but I'm sure most conversations take place like that and it's totally different to assessing profuiles on FAB etc. For example, many peiople whom have age ranges set on FAB profiles are more than happy to chat and play with people outside those age brackets in real life meets at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, no one has ever walked up to me in a club and asked 'you shaven luv?'

It's just a normal social environment, with facilities for more.

Admitted if I'm walking round in next to nowt, or something see through, the first comment isn't usually 'hi', but it's still a friendly opener and not, 'so what do you desire'? That's usually past any initial conversation

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By *eareenaCouple
over a year ago

Rockford

I like this thread... I have never ever been to a club. It seems daunting for a single woman and I have absolutely no idea what to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got talking to a couple in a club talking about the club, the night in general and after the initial small talk we discussed what we were keeping in the locker upstairs.

Once we had shown what was in the locker the make proceeded to ask "What's on the Menu"

a few times in fact.

The lady he was with (her first time in a club) was not impressed as he was doing all the talking for her and looked scared about the toys we had kept hidden.

We directly asked her what she actually wanted and if she any thoughts about doing what he wanted. She replied no and it was safe to say she wasn't impressed with him as they left the club a few minutes later. It wasn't even late lol.

Silk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always found chatting to be about finding out about who we are talking to and the sexual likes are normally discussed as fun is about to take place - as for shaven and trimmed, well that can always be discussed as a confirmatory feel takes place ... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

General flanter and banter!!

I've always treated initial conversations as a chanve to talk about anything BUT sex. Sure, the conversation generally ends up veering towards the club, life on Fab (other sites too!)and eventually previous experiences and meets (naming no names of course!!). It soon becomes apparent if there's a desire to hit the tub or a private room - and that's where discussions occur about what happens next and boundaries!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above? "

none of the above...

I can chat to anyone, so it is likely to be a regular conversation to get a better feel for people before i even get to the flirty/sexual stage, just a laugh and a giggle and see where it end....

just because it is a club with regards to sex, doesn't mean the convo has to be about sex at all... in fact more liekly to turn me off, I wouldn't want to just feel like a piece of meat...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My negotiations go something like this:

Wanna shag?

Yup.

Got any condoms?

Yup!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above?

none of the above...

I can chat to anyone, so it is likely to be a regular conversation to get a better feel for people before i even get to the flirty/sexual stage, just a laugh and a giggle and see where it end....

just because it is a club with regards to sex, doesn't mean the convo has to be about sex at all... in fact more liekly to turn me off, I wouldn't want to just feel like a piece of meat...

Same here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I talk to people at a club to be honest the conversation is very rarely sex related, we all know what we're here for after all, I normally just do general chat to get a feel for someone, the sex talk comes later if we get on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I talk to people at a club to be honest the conversation is very rarely sex related, we all know what we're here for after all, I normally just do general chat to get a feel for someone, the sex talk comes later if we get on

Same for us to be honest

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above? "

Normally just general life and a little of the above. Nick then sometimes anounces that she wants to find a room and who wants to join her? She's never been turned down yet.

Dave

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I'd imagine the experience varies wildly depending on a few things. When we went to clubs being new, to the club scene our conversation was probably very predictable, so sorry for those who had to suffer it.

It was more or less, have you been here before, how long have you guys been swinging etc. The 2nd time we were a little more direct. Basically she saw a girl she fancied and simply complimented her on her sexy outfit. When the response was positive, she suggested we may see them upstairs later.

But others go on groups so it can be a little more tricky to judge as to whether to approach or not. We were more likely to chat and say hi to single couples rather than a group of 2 or 3 couples as we would feel they had all come to play together anyway.

Sometimes there was little to no chat, we would just go up to the rooms and play alongside a couple we fancied. There is was more about looks and gentle touches to see if they were interested or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above? "

When we meet people in clubs we talk about anything but the sex. We tend to get to know them and see how comfortable we are together. When it comes to fun we go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When at a club and talking to a couple or single what does your preliminary talk cover? boundaries? desires? do you discuss if your all trimmed, smooth or hairy? .... Or none of the above?

none of the above...

I can chat to anyone, so it is likely to be a regular conversation to get a better feel for people before i even get to the flirty/sexual stage, just a laugh and a giggle and see where it end....

just because it is a club with regards to sex, doesn't mean the convo has to be about sex at all... in fact more liekly to turn me off, I wouldn't want to just feel like a piece of meat...

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