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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi lookin for bit help. I'm newish her. Single girl enjoying chatting to guys/couples. Thinking about arranging meet but very nervous as I'm not confident in person. Wouldn't want disappoint people I do meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

what are you nervous about? Meet socially first in a very public place would be my first tip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just meet in your local area a cafa or a pub you no

all you need 2 be is be yourself am sure things work out for you

good luck and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel you would disappoint? ... Im sure your lovely and after all if you go for social first which is always safer.. you can see if you like them and they like you. After all its only coffee

Message me anytime xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Think just I'm generally nervous meeting new people even if was just social meet first. Though think be more nervous if went further as I'm not confident naked x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Think just I'm generally nervous meeting new people even if was just social meet first. Though think be more nervous if went further as I'm not confident naked x"

Its natural to be nervous and if you don't feel confident naked wear some pretty lingerie or a basque or corset so that you aren't completely naked until you feel comfortable.

Take things at your own pace, never feel you owe anyone anything or that because you have met them you have to have sex with them because you don't. Most people will unsderstand your nerves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about arrange a public place social meet (as per others' suggestions), but make it clear up front that you'll feed back your thoughts afterwards?

That way if you find it hard to say no, you don't have to do it to their face.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"How about arrange a public place social meet (as per others' suggestions), but make it clear up front that you'll feed back your thoughts afterwards?

That way if you find it hard to say no, you don't have to do it to their face."

Good tip.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"what are you nervous about? Meet socially first in a very public place would be my first tip."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

You could meet a couple at first in a neutral place and then after you are confident with them, maybe meet another couple together? That way you aren't on your own and I'm sure most couples would leap at the chance of meeting a couple plus another girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How about arrange a public place social meet (as per others' suggestions), but make it clear up front that you'll feed back your thoughts afterwards?

That way if you find it hard to say no, you don't have to do it to their face.

Good tip. "

Thats what I usually did when I met on, my own. Just saves that negotiation in the pub car park after I've said no! OP-it's natural to feel nervous. Maybe try chatting on the phone a few times and just have a social meet first with no play., For my first solo meet I chose an experienced swinger a bit older than my usual age limit and he was brilliant. Really put me at ease and not pushy at all. Good luck. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to be nervous but after meeting lots of people you soon get used to it.

you may disappoint some, same as they may disappoint you.

sometimes the sex is ok then sometimes its a lot more than ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all advice much appreciated. Good plan social meet,if doesnt go well only an awkward txt than face to face. Just need arrange few socials n then can take it from there xx

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