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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now then folks....

We are thinking of hosting a house party in a cpl of months.

Any helpful hints or tips from any of you guys who may have held similar events?

Shud we invite a cpl of single guys?

R&J XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would only invite single guys if the other guests were comfortable with that. Select your guests to suit your preferences...it's your party

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh yes, that was a given, wouldent dream of inviting singles if people were not happy with it! Same applies to ladies xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we think its best you start off with just cples so no one gets offended .then after people get to know one n other yous will get a better feel for things ask people to bring there own drink it wont offend infact its what cples like to do hope it goes well all the best J n L

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

a good tip is make sure you see a guy put a fresh condom on right in front of your eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

decide how many people you want to attend

if its 20 couples invite 80, 40 will be unable to attend on the given night, 40 will confirm, 20 will turn up

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Oh yes, that was a given, wouldent dream of inviting singles if people were not happy with it! Same applies to ladies xxxx "

... and what's wrong with single guys? We're not all the diseased leprous infected vermin we're made out to be ("Oh no, there be single men! They will steal the men's shoes and shag the couple's wives!!!" .. like that's the worst that can happen)

I know of some couples (and single females) that are far worse. Same rule applies, invite PEOPLE you think others would get along with.

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

Watch out for the couples who are not couples!

If a party is plainly for couples only, its a given fact that both sides of the couple are expected to join in.

We have been to 2 recently where the lady stayed clothed drinking and eating in one room, while her hubby/partner played with every woman present in the other rooms.

That is plainly so wrong in our book. Its like having single guys there, if it had been our party, they would have been asked to leave.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Oh yes, that was a given, wouldent dream of inviting singles if people were not happy with it! Same applies to ladies xxxx

... and what's wrong with single guys? We're not all the diseased leprous infected vermin we're made out to be ("Oh no, there be single men! They will steal the men's shoes and shag the couple's wives!!!" .. like that's the worst that can happen)

I know of some couples (and single females) that are far worse. Same rule applies, invite PEOPLE you think others would get along with."

I read it as it might not be wise to invite single men unless people actually wanted them there?

People have choices, if they don't want to play with single men, they don't have to.

Sadly some single men take it as an insult instead of what it really is, a preference.

If we decided to have a party and invited just single men I can't see many couples getting offended by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"decide how many people you want to attend

if its 20 couples invite 80, 40 will be unable to attend on the given night, 40 will confirm, 20 will turn up "

Good advice there we have done this before over booked then the number u want turns up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some good tips there guys!

We are going to rent a cottage a few miles from our home. There are several with great facilities. Hot Tub etc and is secluded!

We wont have the party at our house, for the same reasons we wont accom(bad experience)

The over booking tip is sound advice, we would like about 15 to 20 cpls, we thought a cpl of nice single guys would help the ladies get the most from the night! If people know there will be single guys they can choose to come or not

As for cpls who dont play as a cpl, we couldent agree more! They would have to leave.

Would you do food? Nibbles etc...?

Oh and Ahabs...we Like single guys....dont take things so personal!

R&J XX

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

Just nibbles. You're there to enjoy yourselves, not spend hours cooking food. If people want to bring some stuff that doesn't need cooking or any attention - fine.

Provide soft drinks and let people bring whatever alcohol they want for themselves. That way you won't try to serve Stolly to people who 'only drink Smirnoff'or Chardonnay (heaven forfend) to people who 'only drink Chablis'.

Single guys. Why not suggest to a few of the couples that they invite a single guy of their choice and make it clear they're responsible for his attendance and behaviour. Tell ALL the couples there will be a few single guys in attendance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Watch out for the couples who are not couples!

If a party is plainly for couples only, its a given fact that both sides of the couple are expected to join in.

We have been to 2 recently where the lady stayed clothed drinking and eating in one room, while her hubby/partner played with every woman present in the other rooms.

That is plainly so wrong in our book. Its like having single guys there, if it had been our party, they would have been asked to leave."

It might be wrong of him, it might not, clearly if he was playing those he was playing with had no objection to him playing alone ?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Some good tips there guys!

We are going to rent a cottage a few miles from our home. There are several with great facilities. Hot Tub etc and is secluded!

We wont have the party at our house, for the same reasons we wont accom(bad experience)

The over booking tip is sound advice, we would like about 15 to 20 cpls, we thought a cpl of nice single guys would help the ladies get the most from the night! If people know there will be single guys they can choose to come or not

As for cpls who dont play as a cpl, we couldent agree more! They would have to leave.

Would you do food? Nibbles etc...?

Oh and Ahabs...we Like single guys....dont take things so personal!

R&J XX"

Trust me, I don't take it personally.. each to their own - I just get sick and tired, year in year out or hearing "single guys this, single guys that", like "Watch out - here come the martians, they will steal your brains".

Int hat mystery community called "single men" some actually have brains, decency, know how "the game" works and carry themselves in a manner that would put many couples to shame - yet that goes by the wayside amongst the yells of "single men - burn them at the stake!"

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Watch out for the couples who are not couples!

If a party is plainly for couples only, its a given fact that both sides of the couple are expected to join in.

We have been to 2 recently where the lady stayed clothed drinking and eating in one room, while her hubby/partner played with every woman present in the other rooms.

That is plainly so wrong in our book. Its like having single guys there, if it had been our party, they would have been asked to leave.

It might be wrong of him, it might not, clearly if he was playing those he was playing with had no objection to him playing alone ?"

Maybe she was "on" or just didn't fancy any of the male halves of the couples there and had no problem with her male half playing? What's the crime there? The real crime would be expecting her to play with men she didn't fancy, surely?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I say the above because I have seen similar ("Each to their own" I thought - would be a different deal if one was stopping the other from playing).

Only on Wednesday, ZoeRose and myself were at a venue that, no slur on the ladies there, there was only one lady I had my eye on - a friend of mine I learned was gonna be there Zoe on the other hand "filled her boots" putting a number of the guys through their paces (and managed to squeeze a girl in as well!).

Would we have thus been accused of being "two singles" and had ZoeRose thrown out? (I'd love to see that!!!) lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sympathise with Ahab, people keep saying "don't take it personal" but we are human and we do.

Being labelled with the rest of the herd can be as hurtfull as any insult aimed at you.

There are a lot of really nice, respectfull, genuine single guys on here and there are a lot of tossers (yes and couples too but we are talking about single guys)

Of course it hurts him when he is labelled along with the wankers, wouldn't it hurt you (you as in anyone)

It's ok to say "if the cap fits" and all that but when the chatrooms and the forums are full of anti-single, anti-couple who do that, anti-likes this the place and the scene become totally negative.

There are alternatives and I am one of the worst for not thinking before I type but having had time to think how about this advice for parties.

"Some people like parties for just couples, others like to have mixed parties, your type of party is up to you but you do need to consider that:

Some people will prefer a few decent single guys to be there and some won't come if they are.

You have three choices, Option one decide for yourself if you want a mixed party or option two canvas the people you invite to see what they want, remember though that if you go for the second option you may get a mixed response back and then you have to resort to option one of deciding which way your going to go with it or option three decide it is only going to be a couples party.

Let people know what kind of party its going to be and they can decide for themselves if they want to come."

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess


" ..........

You have three choices, Option one decide for yourself if you want a mixed party or option two canvas the people you invite to see what they want, remember though that if you go for the second option you may get a mixed response back and then you have to resort to option one of deciding which way your going to go with it or option three decide it is only going to be a couples party.

Let people know what kind of party its going to be and they can decide for themselves if they want to come.""

I'm in favour of the host deciding what, when and where the party is going to be and people can decide for themselves whether they wish to attend.

Once you start consulting about stuff you find all sorts of preferences people wish to have taken into consideration and it becomes impossible to please everyone.

That's before you get into the "we're not coming if he/ she/ they're coming stuff"

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond


"Watch out for the couples who are not couples!

If a party is plainly for couples only, its a given fact that both sides of the couple are expected to join in.

We have been to 2 recently where the lady stayed clothed drinking and eating in one room, while her hubby/partner played with every woman present in the other rooms.

That is plainly so wrong in our book. Its like having single guys there, if it had been our party, they would have been asked to leave.

It might be wrong of him, it might not, clearly if he was playing those he was playing with had no objection to him playing alone ?

Maybe she was "on" or just didn't fancy any of the male halves of the couples there and had no problem with her male half playing? What's the crime there? The real crime would be expecting her to play with men she didn't fancy, surely?"

She wasn't' on' her hubby made that clear to the rest of us there, remember this is the same couple at 2 different party's. She just didn't 'fancy it' that night. After they left the remainder of us chatted about things as you do, nobody was particularly happy about how they behaved. They won't be invited back to anymore by the host.

What you should be asking is, is it morally right to attend a party when one partner 'doesn't fancy it' knowing that the party is couples only??

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Watch out for the couples who are not couples!

If a party is plainly for couples only, its a given fact that both sides of the couple are expected to join in.

We have been to 2 recently where the lady stayed clothed drinking and eating in one room, while her hubby/partner played with every woman present in the other rooms.

That is plainly so wrong in our book. Its like having single guys there, if it had been our party, they would have been asked to leave.

It might be wrong of him, it might not, clearly if he was playing those he was playing with had no objection to him playing alone ?

Maybe she was "on" or just didn't fancy any of the male halves of the couples there and had no problem with her male half playing? What's the crime there? The real crime would be expecting her to play with men she didn't fancy, surely?

She wasn't' on' her hubby made that clear to the rest of us there, remember this is the same couple at 2 different party's. She just didn't 'fancy it' that night. After they left the remainder of us chatted about things as you do, nobody was particularly happy about how they behaved. They won't be invited back to anymore by the host.

What you should be asking is, is it morally right to attend a party when one partner 'doesn't fancy it' knowing that the party is couples only??"

I'd agree with you there - double or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

OK

We think we should just state what the score is

Mostly cpls 15-20 with 2-3 single guys.

Nice private venue,Nibbles and soft drinks.....works for us.

People can then chose to come or not.

Been thinking about what Ahabs said about the cpl where only the guy was playing...

Suppose everyone was making choices that night....ladies didnt have to play with him....and maybe she just didnt see anything she liked....mmmmmmm

No easy answer, But ! We wouldnt do that!

Both play or No Play! Just our way!

Thanks for all the chat

R&J XXXX

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