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A good way to start a message to someone?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey guys,

As you can tell I'm young and inexperienced on this site.. I've only started using it recently and would like to know what I should say when messaging someone? I understand that sometimes people aren't interested because of my age but surely there's something else?

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

There's no perfect first message, everyone is different and what works on one person won't work on another. Best thing you can do is read their profile and if they've got any veri's look at who left them, that'll tell you what kind of people they like to meet. Try and keep your message vaguely appropriate to what they're looking for and hope for a reply.

Failing that just send "fancy a fuck" to everyone in a twenty mile radius and sit back and wait for the offers to pour in.

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London

Hi Bazza,

Firstly, to be perfectly honest your age may very well put off a lot of peeps - personally you are too young for me. But don't let that get you down - there will be people out there for you if you just put in the effort.

The main thing about a message is the effort you put into it. Read a profile properly, even read it more than once to make sure you haven't missed anything. Most peeps are very specific in what they want/don't want so if you don't fit that profile just move on. If you do come across a profile that you think matches yours, point that out in your message.

As a single guy on here you MUST MUST MUST develop a thick skin. Single girls can get over 100+ messages a day sometimes so the vast majority of your messages are just going to be deleted without being responded to. Sorry hun, but this is just reality. We don't have the time to repond to all of them and just pick out one or 2 that stand out and pique our interest.

So in your message tell the person/couple a little bit more about yourself and ask a little more about them. Use a bit of humour, be yourself and just pretend this is someone you are meeting for the first time. One liners don't work, trust me on this. Neither can the standard cut and paste jobs - experienced swingers can spot them a mile away so make it personal.

Blimey, I have rambled on a bit eh? Didn't mean to but I do like helping out the newbies occasionally

Welcome and good luck!

Oli xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Advise as u r a single male n so many peeps boast they just delete them unread is to open wiv the phrase

'please read before you delete'

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By *livia_KWoman
over a year ago

South London


" just send "fancy a fuck" to everyone in a twenty mile radius and sit back and wait for the offers to pour in. "

For years I have been curious to know if this has actually worked for anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How about start it with 'Hello', sorry could not resist it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

send a face pic and a message showing you have read there profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" just send "fancy a fuck" to everyone in a twenty mile radius and sit back and wait for the offers to pour in.

For years I have been curious to know if this has actually worked for anyone? "

By law of averages, I guess it probably has a few times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Bazza,

Firstly, to be perfectly honest your age may very well put off a lot of peeps - personally you are too young for me. But don't let that get you down - there will be people out there for you if you just put in the effort.

The main thing about a message is the effort you put into it. Read a profile properly, even read it more than once to make sure you haven't missed anything. Most peeps are very specific in what they want/don't want so if you don't fit that profile just move on. If you do come across a profile that you think matches yours, point that out in your message.

As a single guy on here you MUST MUST MUST develop a thick skin. Single girls can get over 100+ messages a day sometimes so the vast majority of your messages are just going to be deleted without being responded to. Sorry hun, but this is just reality. We don't have the time to repond to all of them and just pick out one or 2 that stand out and pique our interest.

So in your message tell the person/couple a little bit more about yourself and ask a little more about them. Use a bit of humour, be yourself and just pretend this is someone you are meeting for the first time. One liners don't work, trust me on this. Neither can the standard cut and paste jobs - experienced swingers can spot them a mile away so make it personal.

Blimey, I have rambled on a bit eh? Didn't mean to but I do like helping out the newbies occasionally

Welcome and good luck!

Oli xx"

Nice post!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice to you would to remember you're here to have fun too. So have a clear idea of what you want as it'll also help you narrow down who you approach. In turn, it'll make your messages more genuine.

Good luck

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Hi Bazza,

Firstly, to be perfectly honest your age may very well put off a lot of peeps - personally you are too young for me. But don't let that get you down - there will be people out there for you if you just put in the effort.

The main thing about a message is the effort you put into it. Read a profile properly, even read it more than once to make sure you haven't missed anything. Most peeps are very specific in what they want/don't want so if you don't fit that profile just move on. If you do come across a profile that you think matches yours, point that out in your message.

As a single guy on here you MUST MUST MUST develop a thick skin. Single girls can get over 100+ messages a day sometimes so the vast majority of your messages are just going to be deleted without being responded to. Sorry hun, but this is just reality. We don't have the time to repond to all of them and just pick out one or 2 that stand out and pique our interest.

So in your message tell the person/couple a little bit more about yourself and ask a little more about them. Use a bit of humour, be yourself and just pretend this is someone you are meeting for the first time. One liners don't work, trust me on this. Neither can the standard cut and paste jobs - experienced swingers can spot them a mile away so make it personal.

Blimey, I have rambled on a bit eh? Didn't mean to but I do like helping out the newbies occasionally

Welcome and good luck!

Oli xx"

Refreshingly honest, open and very truthful reply. Great forum post. See you're new after a break and welcome back and look forward to more insights

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had "meet now?" But being a single guy if they look good or profile seems ok, then works on me :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always be polite and add a face pic to your message don't send a pic of your cock unless they ask for one and if you can try to find something in common with the person you are messaging and 1 last thing if you are messaging a couple make sure you right your message to both of them if you need any more help bud just ask

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