FabSwingers.com forum: FBs at parties

By *adybirdscot OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just a quick 'survey' really. If you go to a swingers club with a FB who should pay? Should you go halves and if so, why? I've only been to one club and they charge £30 for a couple and £10 for single females and £40 for single guys. So, it seems to be me that the gentlemanly thing to do would be for him to pay as he's getting in cheaper anyway. What does everyone else think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You pay 50/50 as your going together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to nights out with a mate - not a FB but we take turns to pay for entry to things. For instance if we go movies, I pay tickets, he pays food, and vice versa. If we going to a social again one time he pays, next time I pay.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

If I have gone with someone I have offered to pay my single girl portion of cost...most say no they will pay but if not not that bothered...

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

50/50

If you are going together, who pays travel costs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a quick 'survey' really. If you go to a swingers club with a FB who should pay? Should you go halves and if so, why? I've only been to one club and they charge £30 for a couple and £10 for single females and £40 for single guys. So, it seems to be me that the gentlemanly thing to do would be for him to pay as he's getting in cheaper anyway. What does everyone else think?"

The lady thing to do is to go halves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"50/50

If you are going together, who pays travel costs?

Again, take turns, as both of us drive. If we take taxis we take turns.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If he is saving £10 by going with me, why shouldnt I safe £10 and get him to pay the £30?....

Seems fair to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would pay £20 and have the woman pay £10, she would have paid that on her own anyway.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

It would depend on the FB for me. A lot of places around here are free or a fiver for single women. I'd not really be expecting to pay more than that to go with someone, especially as my finances are dire. If my FB was equally skint I'd suggest we save up and go halves lol

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

always willing to pay half, but my last fb always paid. I paid once while he was arriving late and he wasn't happy!

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

50/50 for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been to clubs with FB & we split the cost, we also take it in turns to do the driving, so we both pay ou share of travel costs.

When we have been for a night out to eat we have taken it in turns to pay the bill.

Totally agree that things should be 50/50. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

............. and this is why i love you!!!

plain speaking and full of sense.. saves me having to say it!!

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

"50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

This 100%

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By *lipperyWhenWet!Couple
over a year ago

Rochester

"It would depend on the FB for me. A lot of places around here are free or a fiver for single women. I'd not really be expecting to pay more than that to go with someone, especially as my finances are dire. If my FB was equally skint I'd suggest we save up and go halves lol "

I would basically agree with this, I believe in playing fair when sharing costs and the reality is the man would be paying a lot as a single guy.

Its a common sense thing really, beside are you going to shag someone who's just pissed you of over something

LOL

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

I agree...

She should go on her own

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I generally prefer to go as a single anyway so it's not a problem I come across too much.

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By *adybirdscot OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

There are some interesting points of view there. I was talking purely about the admission charge, not taxis or meals or anything else.

I thought about the safety aspect, from a woman's point of view, it being advantageous to go halves with a FB but now that I've been to a club, I see that you're perfectly safe anyway.

I still don't think I would go on my own but who knows? This time last year I wouldn't have considered going at all!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"There are some interesting points of view there. I was talking purely about the admission charge, not taxis or meals or anything else.

I thought about the safety aspect, from a woman's point of view, it being advantageous to go halves with a FB but now that I've been to a club, I see that you're perfectly safe anyway.

I still don't think I would go on my own but who knows? This time last year I wouldn't have considered going at all!"

well if someone not prepared to go it on their own, then I don't think they are in a position to quibble about paying extra to go in as a couple...

lets call it a "chicken" tax... if you will.....

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

lets call it a "chicken" tax... if you will.....

lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If you are going as a couple you each pay half of the couples entrance fee = £15.00

Or...... you pay the single female fee £10 and he pays the single blokes fee £40.

You get the taxi there and the taxi back and pay for the drinks..

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I mostly go as a single but when I do go with a friend I offer to pay half or even just get my purse out. Most of my fbs won't let me pay so I make sure I get drinks in.

I am used to paying my own way but I am also aware that for some men there is a complex 'gentlemans honour' thing going on so it's sometimes better to make the offer but not insist.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

When I used to go to clubs I had a few different male friends who would ask me to go with them so they could get in cheaper. They always paid, but then I used to pick them up from the train station then afterwards they had a place to sleep at mine, and I cooked breakfast. So that seemed like a fair deal to me.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

"If he is saving £10 by going with me, why shouldnt I safe £10 and get him to pay the £30?....

Seems fair to me

So you go to many parties on your own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I go to a club with guys, which isn't often, I pay what it would cost me to get in as a single female, if its a club that don't charge for single women I wouldn't pay anything, if the guy didn't like that we could always go in as singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually just to add to my post it would depend on who I am going with my last post only applies if I was going with a guy I had me off here the night of going as so many guys only want to go to clubs with women as a cheap ticket in

If it was someone I considered a friend and I had met a few times before things would be different, I have been with a guy and paid the whole fee because they last time we met was in a hotel and he wouldn't take any money off me towards the room so when we went to a club I paid us in and was happy to do so

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I'm with NN - I'd (usually) only pay what it would cost me as a single fem, tbh. I have paid the full fee but the person I was with had paid for the meal and hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would offer to pay. But I'd hope they would say no it's fine lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

if its an FB then i would pay half. if it was an aquaintance then i would just pay my admission and they make up the rest, lets face it its usualy cheaper going as a couple than as a single man

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Here's a random thought: if single fem entry is £10, single guy entry is £40 and couple entry is £30 then how about..

single fem pays 35 portion, guy pays 325 portion - that way both parties pay less than their normal entry? Just a random thought (only for those that can't agree).

Rational adults on the other hand can sort it between themselves: personally I'd have no problem paying the whole £30 as am getting a £10 discount anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's a random thought: if single fem entry is £10, single guy entry is £40 and couple entry is £30 then how about..

single fem pays 35 portion, guy pays 325 portion - that way both parties pay less than their normal entry? Just a random thought (only for those that can't agree).

Rational adults on the other hand can sort it between themselves: personally I'd have no problem paying the whole £30 as am getting a £10 discount anyway

and you'll get more offers of sex going as a couple rather than being another single guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"If he is saving £10 by going with me, why shouldnt I safe £10 and get him to pay the £30?....

Seems fair to me

So you go to many parties on your own. "

No...

I got with my OH (NOT a FB) and if he working, I go with a female friend...

I dont do FB's.....IF I did, I wouldnt be going to clubs with them.....

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I can understand in the old days why a gentleman payed for most things cause they earn't more money than a lady did if not at all, but these days ladies earn just as much if not more money.

Yet men still have to pay for more when they go out.

So it's only fair to suggest 50/50

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I can understand in the old days why a gentleman payed for most things cause they earn't more money than a lady did if not at all, but these days ladies earn just as much if not more money.

Yet men still have to pay for more when they go out.

So it's only fair to suggest 50/50

That is a truly confusing conundrum: I understand the really old days when men were either lords, soldiers or made their money from farmlands and women either were at home with family till they grew up and got married, or once married now lived with their husbands (either way, had no assets of their own_, so I understand in the cases of divorce back then the woman was entitled to something to safeguard her upkeep.

But this day and age of "hollywood", it makes no sense to me why someone of Zeta-Jones status would require a payoff from Mr Douglas (to the tune of 3 million for every year they are married).. its not as if she's not successful in her own right, or she's lacking in assets/career/money of her own.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Here's a random thought: if single fem entry is £10, single guy entry is £40 and couple entry is £30 then how about..

single fem pays 35 portion, guy pays 325 portion - that way both parties pay less than their normal entry? Just a random thought (only for those that can't agree).

Rational adults on the other hand can sort it between themselves: personally I'd have no problem paying the whole £30 as am getting a £10 discount anyway

and you'll get more offers of sex going as a couple rather than being another single guy

I'm still holding out on that on.. I try not to believe the myth of going in as a couple improves or diminishes the offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand in the old days why a gentleman payed for most things cause they earn't more money than a lady did if not at all, but these days ladies earn just as much if not more money.

Yet men still have to pay for more when they go out.

So it's only fair to suggest 50/50

what the....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He pays, £25 and she pays £5. Both save a fiver each. Next!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"He pays, £25 and she pays £5. Both save a fiver each. Next!"
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Still not balanced - he pays £24 (saving 40%). She pays £6 (saving 40% aswell) - now that's wonderfully fair!!! Bear in mind the party would have ended by the time all the pennies have been properly calculated

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By *ptimusDMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

If I'm attending with a friend, who could have gone in on her own anyway for a tenner or less, I offer to pay the whole fee.

She pays nothing, I save a fiver or sometimes more & the club gets paid a slightly more reasonable entrance fee than the extortionate amount they were planning to charge me in return for treating me like a nuisance, if I'd gone in as a single bloke

Everyone is a winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont know if its just me but im old school personally id pay all the time but modern thing now is to go dutch and pay half

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

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By *ixmaMan
over a year ago

Chester

Interesting replies. For me I think the lady should at least pay the fee she would of been charged as a single woman. If it's free for single ladies well I guess she shouldn't pay anything but if the woman has some common decency she would at least pay a fiver towards entry but alas to many women want a freebie and expect a guy to pay the lot

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I always offer to pay half and pay towards the drinks to, although on the occasions when I have been treated it does make me feel really nice.

I would never expect it and always intend to pay my way, even when I am having a difficult week.

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"50/50, otherwise don't go in as a couple.

If a lady feels short-changed by this, then she really should not go to a club with an alleged FB as a couple IMHO.

Agree. Too often I am reading on here guys being taken for a walking ATM.

If I go with my buddy we take it in turns to pay. I just hand the cash over before he gets his wallet out. He never asks for a penny but I can't relax feeling like I have been paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely go as a couple but when I have the gentleman has always paid.

I also found I nearly always get my drinks paid for too.

I wouldn't expect to not pay.. it just is what happens. But I normally go as a single girl. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found most guys I have been with have been happy to pay the whole lot, as a single guy they have high entry fee's, high membership fee's and once inside they are just another single guy to most couples, if they go with me, or any women for that matter, they have no membership fee's, lower entry fee's and are more attractive to other couples as a couple. and men arnt stupid, they know this, that's why most want to go with another woman so most are happy to pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is so true lol me personally, ive never been to a club but if i did id rather go as a couple rather then a single man just for the comfort of having someone you know there, plus as naughty said its cheaper that way to lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought it was just Scots MEN who were meant to be 'careful' with their money!

If he insists on paying the full £30 there's nothing you can do.

However, it would be a nice gesture, as a "buddy" to offer to go halves if you really want to go as a couple.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've forced the issue and paid once with my new guy on here, he was appalled by the idea but I needed to pay for something, as he had paid the membership and the entry up until then and the drinks, he totally spoils me it has to be said, oh but yesterday I did give him baby bio to feed his house plant and a £1.50 pair of socks cus they made me giggle

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

do you thin he should stump up the whole thirty and bung you a tenner as well

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The whole money thing makes me cringe. I would no more expect anyone else to pay my way but me than I would walk there naked.

I think the whole costing process at clubs is all wrong too. I don't like taxing people for the 'privilege' of going to a club. There would be frickin outrage if women were charged more than men.

I don't think a single bloke should be grateful or have to pay or think himself privileged to go to a club. I think that's backward. Personal opinion of course, there's nothing right about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the regular group I go clubbing with whoever drives doesn't pay anything and we split the rest.

If I agree to meet a guy at a club for a club meet then I'd hope he'd pay or I'd offer my £10 but if he'd picked me up and driven I'd happily pay.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"I have found most guys I have been with have been happy to pay the whole lot, as a single guy they have high entry fee's, high membership fee's and once inside they are just another single guy to most couples, if they go with me, or any women for that matter, they have no membership fee's, lower entry fee's and are more attractive to other couples as a couple. and men arnt stupid, they know this, that's why most want to go with another woman so most are happy to pay"

That's an interesting point there - is it right that a guy is seen more attractive/appealing/approachable/acceptable if he arrives as part of a couple than on his own?

Does the fact he has a lady with him mean his personality is more palatable whereas if he were on his own he is more likely to be a twat (for simplicity)?

What makes people think "Here on your own? fuck off!" then "Oh, she's a female friend you say? do step this way.. we happen to have a private room waiting that could do with another couple

" ?

Is the issue really the guy's, or the people that think "if he isn't bringing a female with him, then he brings nothing to the table" ?

I know its a segway... but it does make me wonder sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's an interesting point there - is it right that a guy is seen more attractive/appealing/approachable/acceptable if he arrives as part of a couple than on his own?

Does the fact he has a lady with him mean his personality is more palatable whereas if he were on his own he is more likely to be a twat (for simplicity)?

What makes people think "Here on your own? fuck off!" then "Oh, she's a female friend you say? do step this way.. we happen to have a private room waiting that could do with another couple

" ?

Is the issue really the guy's, or the people that think "if he isn't bringing a female with him, then he brings nothing to the table" ?

I know its a segway... but it does make me wonder sometimes

from womans pov i think we tend to look at the couple with more intrigue, like whos that? are they together or friends, married etc...whereas guy on his own (esp not smiling) could feel more intimdating to women

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

That's an interesting point there - is it right that a guy is seen more attractive/appealing/approachable/acceptable if he arrives as part of a couple than on his own?

Does the fact he has a lady with him mean his personality is more palatable whereas if he were on his own he is more likely to be a twat (for simplicity)?

What makes people think "Here on your own? fuck off!" then "Oh, she's a female friend you say? do step this way.. we happen to have a private room waiting that could do with another couple

" ?

Is the issue really the guy's, or the people that think "if he isn't bringing a female with him, then he brings nothing to the table" ?

I know its a segway... but it does make me wonder sometimes

Hmmm... attractiveness of guys alone or as part of a couple.... I'd rather play with a guy there by himself usually. I'm not into hassles and sometimes there can be if an attached guy (even fbs) play separately. Of course, there are exceptions to this where I know it's fine - but unless I truly know that then I'd generally steer clear of part of a couple (of whatever sort) in a club if I just wanted to play with the guy in a 1-2-1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was single went with a fb a few times he paid to get in i paid for any drinks we had as neither drink alcohol was tea/coffee. this was agreed in advance between us and i know others who do same.

i guess if you take own drink going 50/50 would be fairest way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've taken several friends to clubs and always paid myself for us both.

No sense of expectancy or 'gratitude' that by going in as as couple it's usually cheaper than as a single guy - partly in recognition of that though. The way club prices are (and I'm not arguing pricing structure) if its less expensive as a couple, I've invited them to join me and I'm happy to pay - I don't see the issue!

The same goes for giving lifts. If I'm going to a club and passing by a friend that needs a ride - since I'm already going on that route I would expect any contribution for fuel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*wouldn't expect!!! Doh!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"*wouldn't expect!!! Doh! "

Speaking of which have you got the hotel room booked yet??

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

I don't see why it's evan a question you go halves because your going together as a couple the single prices shouldn't matter or the fact that your going with a FB either

50/50! or go as a single lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You pay 50/50 as your going together "

ditto.

Otherwise you are sponging off him. Kinda takes the B out of FB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You pay 50/50 as your going together

ditto.

Otherwise you are sponging off him. Kinda takes the B out of FB.

explain how its sponging off him if I can get in for free alone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*wouldn't expect!!! Doh!

Speaking of which have you got the hotel room booked yet??

Sorting this week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

god theres some tight bastards on here we get in £10-£20 cheaper as a single guy and you still want a donation from the sexy lady your taking !!

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"*wouldn't expect!!! Doh!

Speaking of which have you got the hotel room booked yet??

Sorting this week!

Hurrah xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would go halves, maybe it just depends on how much you value the company of the person you go with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hypothetically speaking (as I haven't got a FB at the moment), ... I'd pay, but only if my FB was ok with that. Its really down to what she'd both feel ok with. Some FBs prefer to share costs, others don't.

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FBs at parties - who pays?