FabSwingers.com forum: Thanking your partner for sex

By *aszloandnadja OP Couple
21 weeks ago

York

Nadja and I often thank each other after sex which is nice but also a little strange considering we both enjoy sex equally. It kind of makes sense if one of us has done something a bit special for example if I've spent a long time going down on Nadja to make sure that she cums or she's given me a nice blow job and hasn't cum herself.

However last night Nadja got into bed naked, asked me in a very seductive way whether we could have sex (to which I enthusiastically agreed) then gave me a lovely blow job to get me going and then asked me what position I'd like to finish in. I chose doggy (which I just love) and she duly got on all fours and stuck her arse in the air so that I could fuck her from behind... all absolute heaven as far as I was concerned. Then she proceeded to say "thank you" to me!!! Which really did seem a bit odd, I mean she'd just put the biggest smile on my face and yet she was the one saying thanks.

Does anyone else do this? And do people tend to thank their swinging partners or is that considered a bit weird (like they've provided a service)?

L x

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By *tms1xCouple
21 weeks ago

Chelmsford

Perfectly normal we think. We often thank each other.

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By *aszloandnadja OP Couple
21 weeks ago

York

"Perfectly normal we think. We often thank each other. "

Thanks for reassuring us that we're not alone. 😁

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By *ustyb555Couple
21 weeks ago

leeds

Yes we do it all the time

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By *ilbert777Woman
21 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Im quite likely to say thank you, probably because I'm concerned I haven't shown enough appreciation otherwise

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By *agicandMinxCouple
21 weeks ago

Newquay

I always say thank you and so does he. He does often remind me it’s mutual but it’s very natural for me to show how much I appreciate what we have and saying thank you is just one of those elements.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
21 weeks ago

your bed

Thank you or I love you seem perfectly normal. Been together since 18 and it never crossed my mind that it might be unusual.

I even say I love you after bunny has been a little rough.

I think it's all part of showing affection for each other rather than being similar to the way you might say thank you when someone brings you a meal at a restaurant.

I think loving affection is my explanation for it.

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By *WANDTGCouple
21 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We also thank each , especially if we've done something we haven't done for a while.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
21 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't think it's strange but we don't thank each other and we didn't thank our swinging partners.

There's no right or wrong about these things

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By *unfriends6699Couple
21 weeks ago

tenby

Always say thank you, then a kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

my ex wife used to say ,same time ,place next year on my birthday !!!! ha ha

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By *ib.Man
21 weeks ago

Hampshire

I love it when a partner thanks me for cumming in them. 🥵

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By *eautyandthebeast86Couple
21 weeks ago

Somewhere in Norfolk ask :)

We sometimes thank each other but mostly we show appreciation by cuddling and kissing afterwards and saying how good it felt. We don’t tend to thank others but more lean towards saying what a good time we have had.

No one but my man has ever brought me to climax so I’m thankful to him for being able to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I think it's not a thanks for the sex, but rather a genuine thankyou for the intimacy, the trust and the connection that you've re-established each time. Keep it going

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By *rightonsteveMan
21 weeks ago

Hove, mainly…

A ‘thank you’ is better than a ‘no thank you’

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By *r Mind CandyMan
21 weeks ago

Cheshire

This is a beautiful thread. Thank you OP

I often thank my partner after sex/play. However, this is mostly due to the D/s dynamic, ie “you were amazing, looked incredible, smell incredible, tasted incredible, thank you for being my good girl”. But the delivery is critical, has to be heart felt and sincere as you never want it to feel condescending to her. X

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By *aszloandnadja OP Couple
21 weeks ago

York

Thanks everyone who's posted such nice affirming messages.

Clearly there are numerous ways to show appreciation to your partner(s) when you have enjoyed some intimacy and saying a verbal thank you is just one of them.

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By *rFun88Man
21 weeks ago

Portsmouth/London

Generally often said and received a thank you. There was one time I said it to a woman and she replied 'don't say that, it makes me feel like a pr*stitute!'

Had to star a letter as apparently you're not allowed to use that word on here!

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By *ustforyou40Man
21 weeks ago

kettering

Maybe if my ex said thank you then we might be still together then again maybe if she actually fucked me we might still be together obviously when we first got together it was all a honeymoon period sex every day 3,4,5 times a day, then she fell pregnant then about three months into pregnancy that was it legs closed and they open probably once a year after?

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By *otuseater11Man
21 weeks ago

kilwinning

Do it all the time with a friends wife

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By *am450Man
21 weeks ago

Sidcup/Bexley

Mrs rejects,(pointless trying) me so off I go to the back bedroom to fireup the iPad and watch Xhamster then treat me "old fella " to a work out.

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By *aszloandnadja OP Couple
21 weeks ago

York

Being stuck in a sexless relationship is awful (we've both been there) which may explain why we both feel so grateful and often say thank you to each other when we have sex (which is most days). It just feels slightly ironic to be thanked for doing something that is so enjoyable, however as has been said "thank you" is waaay better than "no thank you" and if showing appreciation fans the flames of passion then long may we continue!!! 🔥❤️😁

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By *tlanshiaWoman
21 weeks ago

Chatham

I always thank my partner for sex, but for me it comes from the submissive headspace. It's thanking him for something that he gifts to me.

Not a mindset everyone has, sure. But that's why I do it.

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By *ergus1622Man
21 weeks ago

Dundee

It's always nice to compliment each other bust isn't the best way to thank each other is another round?

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By *ustforyou40Man
21 weeks ago

kettering

"Being stuck in a sexless relationship is awful (we've both been there) which may explain why we both feel so grateful and often say thank you to each other when we have sex (which is most days). It just feels slightly ironic to be thanked for doing something that is so enjoyable, however as has been said "thank you" is waaay better than "no thank you" and if showing appreciation fans the flames of passion then long may we continue!!! 🔥❤️😁"

Sexless relationships suck and not in a good way as she didn’t even suck when we was having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

We certainly appreciate each other, and say so.

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By *eeNKayCouple
21 weeks ago

Stockport

Absolutely normal. We say it all thr time.

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By *ancingDuo666Couple
21 weeks ago

milton keynes

Absolutely normal as we do the same 🥰

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