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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff

i find it really disturbing how casual a lot of people are on here about bareback sex. i honestly can’t believe that complete strangers expect that i’d let them fuck me raw straight away lol.

we all know it feels better without a condom but do people not worry that they’re spreading diseases? how do you sleep at night having unprotected sex with multiple people and not getting tested? stealthing is way too common of a practice too, which is classified as r*pe under UK law. and yet people still are so casual about it. blows my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

I know it's a serious topic and I fully agree,

But when I saw the thread title I was kind of like wow.. That's a niche genre of sex

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By *asha86Couple
25 weeks ago

walsall


"i find it really disturbing how casual a lot of people are on here about bareback sex. i honestly can’t believe that complete strangers expect that i’d let them fuck me raw straight away lol.

we all know it feels better without a condom but do people not worry that they’re spreading diseases? how do you sleep at night having unprotected sex with multiple people and not getting tested? stealthing is way too common of a practice too, which is classified as r*pe under UK law. and yet people still are so casual about it. blows my mind. "

I mr agree with what your saying and we only play safe with others and will only play bare with each other. Stealthing is something we are aware of and have only once had someone try it and i mr stopped all play with that person right there and then. Now when we play I try not to have too much to drink so I can keep an eye on what's going on even if we are in a group play situation to safeguard my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

What's your opinion on oral safe sex?

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff


"i find it really disturbing how casual a lot of people are on here about bareback sex. i honestly can’t believe that complete strangers expect that i’d let them fuck me raw straight away lol.

we all know it feels better without a condom but do people not worry that they’re spreading diseases? how do you sleep at night having unprotected sex with multiple people and not getting tested? stealthing is way too common of a practice too, which is classified as r*pe under UK law. and yet people still are so casual about it. blows my mind.

I mr agree with what your saying and we only play safe with others and will only play bare with each other. Stealthing is something we are aware of and have only once had someone try it and i mr stopped all play with that person right there and then. Now when we play I try not to have too much to drink so I can keep an eye on what's going on even if we are in a group play situation to safeguard my wife."

yeah of course playing bare within a couple is different. it is shocking how often stealthing happens. it’s just about respecting consent which is the most fundamental part of sex that too many men don’t understand/care about.

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff


"What's your opinion on oral safe sex?"

i don’t typically use a condom for oral.

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By *CExeCouple
25 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

We've had one person try the stealthing approach and won't be meeting them again. Another time we arrived in a village for a meet, messaged to say we're 2 minutes away which is when the guy decided to let us know he can't use condoms for medical reasons....he'd confirmed safe sex in the initial few messages..we turned around and left.

We're bare with each other, and that's it. Gonorrhea, Syphilis chlamydia etc don't sound like a fun day out. 😷

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff


"We've had one person try the stealthing approach and won't be meeting them again. Another time we arrived in a village for a meet, messaged to say we're 2 minutes away which is when the guy decided to let us know he can't use condoms for medical reasons....he'd confirmed safe sex in the initial few messages..we turned around and left.

We're bare with each other, and that's it. Gonorrhea, Syphilis chlamydia etc don't sound like a fun day out. 😷 "

I have had similar experiences where i’ve been clear about my expectation of safe sex only for them to come up with some excuse at the last minute. i’d do the exact same thing as you and it’d be an immediate block haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago


"We've had one person try the stealthing approach and won't be meeting them again. Another time we arrived in a village for a meet, messaged to say we're 2 minutes away which is when the guy decided to let us know he can't use condoms for medical reasons....he'd confirmed safe sex in the initial few messages..we turned around and left.

We're bare with each other, and that's it. Gonorrhea, Syphilis chlamydia etc don't sound like a fun day out. 😷 "

That's the thing, people don't seem to care about the consequenes, I would much rather have a clear mind that I haven't caught anything.

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By *issmorganWoman
25 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's not something I'd do op, only with my other half.

When I am active, I just make sure it's safe only with me.

I've had meets in the past try for bareback, but I figure if they'd do it with me, they would with others too.

People know the risks they're taking and at least some who want bare sex are upfront about it..

I see so may profiles that say safe sex and they're hanging out of others with no protection on.

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By *sic6TV/TS
25 weeks ago

Belfast

I get a lot of messages from guys who mention safe sex on their profile but then have a load of pics of them going bareback with TVs or other guys. It turns me.

Instant block!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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25 weeks ago

East Sussex

Far more concerning to me are the number of people who believe that practicing safe sex negates the need for testing and the number who don't understand the risks of various 'safe sex' practices

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff

i always practice safe sex and get tested every month.

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff

it is a huge turn off for me too!

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By *one_wolf.Man
25 weeks ago

Nottingham

I didnt really know about stealthing until reading this, wow what a dive that was. Glad its an offence,

I take my own condoms as only really use one brand I can use. Only go bare if its someone who is not a ONS etc...

Regardless even though play safe I get, as should everyone, still get tested as its super simple now by going on sh.uk

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff


"It's not something I'd do op, only with my other half.

When I am active, I just make sure it's safe only with me.

I've had meets in the past try for bareback, but I figure if they'd do it with me, they would with others too.

People know the risks they're taking and at least some who want bare sex are upfront about it..

I see so may profiles that say safe sex and they're hanging out of others with no protection on. "

this is so true! the ones who are upfront are definitely less sinister than the ones who claim to practice safe sex but clearly do not.

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff


"I didnt really know about stealthing until reading this, wow what a dive that was. Glad its an offence,

I take my own condoms as only really use one brand I can use. Only go bare if its someone who is not a ONS etc...

Regardless even though play safe I get, as should everyone, still get tested as its super simple now by going on sh.uk

"

yeah there are some very dark corners of the internet where men share tips for stealthing etc. even scarier are the men who have a fetish for spreading their STDs.

and agree regular testing is essential even when always playing safe. it’s free and super easy so i really don’t understand why anyone wouldnt!

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By *one_wolf.Man
25 weeks ago

Nottingham


"I didnt really know about stealthing until reading this, wow what a dive that was. Glad its an offence,

I take my own condoms as only really use one brand I can use. Only go bare if its someone who is not a ONS etc...

Regardless even though play safe I get, as should everyone, still get tested as its super simple now by going on sh.uk

yeah there are some very dark corners of the internet where men share tips for stealthing etc. even scarier are the men who have a fetish for spreading their STDs.

and agree regular testing is essential even when always playing safe. it’s free and super easy so i really don’t understand why anyone wouldnt! "

Thats some dark dark stuff, im in some adult discords and reddit subs but never came across that, whether that is a good thing haha.

Oh 100%, did it 2 weeks ago, finger prick... swabs for mouth and rear and urine sample. Results came within 2 days and all in the post haha. Testing years ago was painful but better than the alternative

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By *unandfrolics696969Couple
25 weeks ago

east devon


"i find it really disturbing how casual a lot of people are on here about bareback sex. i honestly can’t believe that complete strangers expect that i’d let them fuck me raw straight away lol.

we all know it feels better without a condom but do people not worry that they’re spreading diseases? how do you sleep at night having unprotected sex with multiple people and not getting tested? stealthing is way too common of a practice too, which is classified as r*pe under UK law. and yet people still are so casual about it. blows my mind. "

This!!!

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By *eemine OP   Woman
25 weeks ago

Cardiff

glad you agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

i always say use something or its a no

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By *atchbewatchedMan
25 weeks ago

Wakefield

Totally agree. I don't do anything, including oral without a condom.

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