FabSwingers.com forum: unsure what to do..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wanted to throw this out there to see what you all think.

Do most people meet up on here and maybe have 1 quick social drink... then meet for sex? or do you get to know a person/ couple first over a while?

Secondly when you meet for sex is it bit of foreplay, sex.. See ya... or like a day/ night in bed and multiple hours of pleasure?

Been interested to hear your views!

Love

Xxx

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By *ub bbwWoman
over a year ago

oldbury

i think its each to their own some people like a quick drink then off to play where as others like to spend time building up friendships. I have done both but now im part of a couple so we tend to meet people in clubs and chat in there then either go play with or without them if theres no spark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say my play on 1st meet has been about half of my meets, I think it depends on the build up chats, pic and text swoops IMO.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

ive only met socially once - resulted in a meet a few days after. Its mostly for sex though.

I prefer longer meets so foreplay is an obvious.. have to or I dont get in too.

Overnights are great, you can take things much more steadily though these are a rarity.

Its surprising how many meets you get where you fuck once and are out of the door in an 1 1/2hrs when you could go again/few times more later on.. sort of leave you disappointed but happy at the fuck, if you know what I mean

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I've not been doing this very long but I have always tried to have some social interaction first. It's safer to meet a complete stranger in a public place and also if you don't fancy them you can have a drink and walk away with fewer uncomfortable feelings.

I personally have had social meets that were like that but also a social meet that ended up with him walking me home and the hours later he left my house aged many orgasms

As for meets I am not a Wham bam thank you kind of person. I live to be kissed teased stroked and slowly undressed exploring each others bodies. So most times is a good long period of time. But that's just me. I'm sure j others prefer anonymity and impromptuness of something quick and dirty!

Don't think there's a rule! !

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

agree with the person above if there has been chats,texts etc building up to the meet then its possible that you want a quick meet and drink before ripping each others cloths off.

if there has been nothing leading up to the day/time i am guessing it wouldnt be quite so steamy

but hey what the hell do i know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've mentioned it before, but these days I'm less keen on 'social drinks and nothing more' meets, because they rarely tend to go anywhere, and much prefer the 'social drink with possible sex if we get on' type of meet, which almost always end in swinging, due to the more relaxed, positive approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely do social meets outside of clubs. So there is always a chance of playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet, always just coffee. If we get on we arrange to meet again. I always chat for a bit first before even a coffee.

Been called a timewaster and blocked because of it. It works great for me.

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By *ercedes62Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Same for me.

First meet always for a coffee and chat to see how you get on with someone.

I won't meet if the vibes are not right and i much prefer to talk or text first to build on the social.

Works for me well but i guess we all expect to meet differently and it becomes far harder when 4 people are involved to gel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a coffee/drink first and chat for about 30 minutes. If the chemistry is right then proceed to bedroom for several hours of fun. No sleeping though...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

See this is how I feel, I think id feel 'used' which is ridiculous I guess on a swingers site.

I always would want a social meet first to feel safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I rarely do social meets outside of clubs. So there is always a chance of playing.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Have a coffee/drink first and chat for about 30 minutes. If the chemistry is right then proceed to bedroom for several hours of fun. No sleeping though..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a coffee/drink first and chat for about 30 minutes."

Shall I bring a stopwatch?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

See this is how I feel, I think id feel 'used' which is ridiculous I guess on a swingers site.

I always would want a social meet first to feel safe"

yep, Ive had that used feeling too .. but people like very different things. As much as there's usually a drink and a chat before hand, in mails I now ask 'are you free for long or just a couple of hours'. You can sort of get an idea of what to expect from that.

Women are differnt from guys, though when I was first starting out with couples - I was thinking what would I do if things went sour, but in all honesty, thats part of the rush/adreniline with new meets.. love the anticipation, even now

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

Although sometimes a quickie is just what you need it's not something I do regularly.

I like a social meet first and have often played on the same day if I like the person. Other times I have arranged a play meet for another time. In a few cases I have just not been attracted to him in person and said thanks for a lovely social and left it there.

My favourite meet has to be the bank holiday I spent having a duvet day with a guy I've played with regularly. It was so much fun, and I don't mean just the sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have a coffee/drink first and chat for about 30 minutes.

Shall I bring a stopwatch?

Yes please come to Surrey...

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Apart from not going to clubs and overnight meets we don't have a set way.

We have no problem with a social only, see how it goes meet with the option to play or the occasional straight down to do it type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a specific way of meeting a newbie that always results in having fun. It is all or nothing with me. And I meet at hotels only.

When I go to clubs nowadays, I go to socialise and would only play with those I already know.

I started off meeting potential newbies for social meet first until I developed my newbie kink as my FAB call it over a year ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So...any ladies fancy a coffee?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own.... I've had some where I've met for coffee then back for sex for hrs.. And continued seein them for some time..... Had one where I met at a house and the guy let me down but his mate was there. We Been seein each other for 4mths.... And I've had the quick fuck n go visit never to be seen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet for a drink and chat and take it from there ........ and I hate a quickie as sex for me should be more then that ,But for some who have no time that will do ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am married so i only meet men at my house for an hour or two, my hubby stays downstairs.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

If MrsH is meeting alone then 90% it is social first only, unless the guy really takes her fancy.. If we are on meet today looking for a single then it is to play and to be honest prefer a quickie.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I wanted to throw this out there to see what you all think.

Do most people meet up on here and maybe have 1 quick social drink... then meet for sex? or do you get to know a person/ couple first over a while?

Secondly when you meet for sex is it bit of foreplay, sex.. See ya... or like a day/ night in bed and multiple hours of pleasure?

Been interested to hear your views!

Love

Xxx"

What works for me won't necessarily work for you. It will take time finding out what works for you, don't worry about what others do: your body!

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I think we have only had 2 social meets, but as we mainly play at clubs that is understandable.

We normally meet in the bar, have a drink and a chat and possibly take it from there if all are happy.

We have friends on here who we are happy just to go out for a drink with, but not many.

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral

"Meet for a drink and chat and take it from there ........ and I hate a quickie as sex for me should be more then that ,But for some who have no time that will do ...

If I were ever lucky enough to meet up with you two, I'd be hoping for a weekend on the boat on Norfolk Broads. Mind you how much of that would be a drink and a chat and how much is the take it from there has yet to be decided.....

Mark x

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