FabSwingers.com forum: Is swinging cheating?

By *hehornyones25 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

grimsby

We've been swinger for 4 years or so and when we tell people they are horrified and say it's just cheating what's peoples opinion on this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Cheating for me involves some form of deceit or untruthfulness on behalf of the "doer"

Hubby is fine with me playing with others via this lifestyle as he is fully involved and informed.

He'd been less enamoured with a clandestine thing outside of this space, as that would be a breach of trust,which I think is the main point of difference between swinging and cheating

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By *unnjack68Man
37 weeks ago

Bradford

If your a consenting couple or single person howcan it be cheating xx

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By *wistedTooCouple
37 weeks ago

Frimley, Surrey

Obviously not. Cheating is deception through emotional, verbal or physical contact and it’s subjective even inside that. Some people don’t regard flirting as cheating. Some do. But it’s all deception.

Swinging is open and honest communication with any of the above within your own relationship boundaries.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
37 weeks ago

andover

I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

Cheating is different to being non-monogamous. It involves the breaking of commitments to being faithful or having prior agreement to having engagement with others, before doing it, in my opinion.

Swinging is an agreed openness of the relationship, albeit within boundaries that are usually agreed to

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By *tickler2000Man
37 weeks ago

St Agnes

Completely different.

Cheating is lying and deceit.

Swinging is open and consensual.

Among other things

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By *uckslut and MCouple
37 weeks ago

Poole

We're not cheating, as he's always present. We are both fully consenting, in everything we do in the bedroom, car, club or out doggin. Mr either sets up and arranges stuff, or he aaks me to organise stuff.

Our rule is I don't play, unless he's there. That for us is cheating. I won't do that.

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By *aomilatteCouple
37 weeks ago

Midlands

It's swinging, not cheating. There's no need to tell other people we're swingers or even about our sex life.

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No, both people know and are partaking, how can it be?.

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By *hehornyones25 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

grimsby

"Cheating for me involves some form of deceit or untruthfulness on behalf of the "doer"

Hubby is fine with me playing with others via this lifestyle as he is fully involved and informed.

He'd been less enamoured with a clandestine thing outside of this space, as that would be a breach of trust,which I think is the main point of difference between swinging and cheating "

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By *aughtydealcoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Walmer, Deal

Excatly as others said as we only meet as a couple it ain't cheating as we both know what each other is doing

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Chichester

"We've been swinger for 4 years or so and when we tell people they are horrified and say it's just cheating what's peoples opinion on this ?"

To normal civilians it is a form of cheating I guess

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
37 weeks ago

Oxford

I’m unsure how something we enjoy and openly encourage can be considered cheating? If anything it brings us closer together because of the trust and transparency between us.

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By *hehornyones25 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

grimsby

"We've been swinger for 4 years or so and when we tell people they are horrified and say it's just cheating what's peoples opinion on this ?

To normal civilians it is a form of cheating I guess "
lol well people ask what we get up to x

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By *abrina59TV/TS
37 weeks ago

moved to cuckold land

Can't be cheating if it's something you do together.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
37 weeks ago

Midlands

Of course it isn't.

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By *aughtyPumpkinWoman
37 weeks ago

between Donny/Scunny/Gainsborough

"I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together"

Exactly this x

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
37 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

For them it's cheating because you're breaking the rules that they feel constrained by, and having more fun than them...

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Cheshire

We just don't tell people. It's none of their business & they're unlikely to understand.

We've prepared an answer to that question, should it ever arrive though.

"It's like cheating, but licenced, with the other one there, also enjoying themself, so it's not cheating. That's probably a bit mind blowing for most people."

If that causes them a problem, then so be it. It's their problem, not ours.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
37 weeks ago

Stoke

No it's not. If anything this lifestyle should stop people cheating.

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By *nusualpairCouple
37 weeks ago

Preston

No, it's fun and makes us happy, can't imagine that would be the case with cheating!

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
37 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west

Not cheating in our eyes as long as communications are open and both parties are happy.

I think many people outside of the lifestyle struggle to get their head around how it works.... we don't tell people for this reason.... they don't realise that what we do adds our relationship both mentally and physically and doesn't take away from it at all.

So many people can't understand how you can be excited by your partner being with someone else

.. but it works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Alot of non swingers will not have the same opinion as swingers, because they have not experienced such things. I believe alot of people who think swinging is 'cheating' just use that as a excuse to judge others when actually they probably think about it themselves.

And its not cheating when all involved are consenting and happy

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By *uriouscouple105Couple
37 weeks ago

Fife

Yep we agree that we can have sex with who we want as long as both of us are there. Watching or taking part

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By *hehornyones25 OP Couple
37 weeks ago

grimsby

"I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together

Exactly this x"
I think this is the real answer

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By *insBadMan
37 weeks ago

& around

Swinging is definitely not cheating

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By *inks_apeyCouple
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Nope...

Cheating is cheating. If vanilla people don't get it, that's a them issue impo

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By *d4funtimesMan
37 weeks ago

Cambridge

"We've been swinger for 4 years or so and when we tell people they are horrified and say it's just cheating what's peoples opinion on this ?"

It is a shame when a few judgmental comments put people off. At the end of the day, it is about the two of you and what you both enjoy together. You should always do what feels right for you and continue exploring what you like as a couple, that is what truly matters.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
37 weeks ago

Home

If you are on here and your partner doesn't know then I would call it cheating

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By *helamontsCouple
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Naw ...

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By *andC1000Couple
30 weeks ago

ashford

"If you are on here and your partner doesn't know then I would call it cheating "

Exactly this, whether your on here or any other sites

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By *igspoonshaftMan
30 weeks ago

morley

Depends on the consent level's of the couples involved

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By *KMaxMan
30 weeks ago

Bristol

Who cares what they think, it's your lives.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
30 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

I think more to the point people are getting confused thinking cheating is swinging.

Big difference.

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By *athan92Man
30 weeks ago

Bexhill

"If you are on here and your partner doesn't know then I would call it cheating

Exactly this, whether your on here or any other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

It’s not cheat if all mutual and all partners aware what’s the difference if you where to meet someone new

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By *ogether202569Couple
30 weeks ago

Midlands

Yep agree, cheating and swinging are totally different. I can understand people might think that but I think we probably all know the perception of swinging is very different to what it actually is.

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By *helseaJimmy1975Couple
30 weeks ago

As long as she tells me she’s fucking then I’m happy for to carry on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
30 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do you think it's cheating op?

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
30 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Sexual activity only becomes cheating when there is any deceit and/or lack of consent from either person in the couple.

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By *bcplCouple
30 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

"Cheating for me involves some form of deceit or untruthfulness on behalf of the "doer"

Hubby is fine with me playing with others via this lifestyle as he is fully involved and informed.

He'd been less enamoured with a clandestine thing outside of this space, as that would be a breach of trust,which I think is the main point of difference between swinging and cheating "

Couldn’t have put it better myself.

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By *usurrusCouple
30 weeks ago

north, north west

Only if someone is pushing you. Same goes for the slide.

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By *manteeCouple
30 weeks ago

Manchester

I previously had a wife that cheated on me by having two affairs behind my back, conversely, myself and Em have embraced the swinging lifestyle, totally different as we are open and honest about it

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By *iredhand2Man
30 weeks ago

Sale

Swinging in itself isn’t cheating. However, if someone who is married and meeting couples for fun without their partners’ permission, it is both swinging and cheatIng. If they’re just meeting another individual. Then it isn’t swinging, it’s just cheating.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
30 weeks ago

norwich ish

Tell them you are ENM instead, at least they may go look it up and read what it means, rather than assume it’s a car keys in the bowl situation as portrayed in TV/Film for too many years.

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By *earditallWoman
30 weeks ago

Lancaster

Cheating involves lying and hurting people.

Swinging should be easy and enjoyable to like minded people.

Not cheating in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

As long as it's Legal and Consensual, how can it be cheating or lying?

Doing it behind your partners back,is another thing entirely!

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By *ustforfun1759Couple
30 weeks ago

IRVINE

Definitely not cheating.in our eyes swinging brings you closer together me and hubby have been swinging for 25 years and not once cheated on each other no need too.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
30 weeks ago

lightwater

"I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together"
absolutely. It did with us

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By *ot_spicedCouple
30 weeks ago

Queenstown

I can't see how it can be cheating if both parties are fully aware, and participate.

We've always played with others, long before we were married.

As long as the couple both have the same outlook, and both enjoy, swinging makes any relationship stronger

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By *orkshirecouple69 returnCouple
30 weeks ago

doncaster

"I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together"

I certainly agree with that statement

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
30 weeks ago

Essex

"I think a lot of non swingers don’t understand how swinging can bring you closer together

I certainly agree with that statement "

Ditto..

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By *ure Seduction69Couple
30 weeks ago

Barnsley

We have saying its not cheating in you watching ...

But agree with so many comments .

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Consent is sexy.

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By *ENW coupleCouple
30 weeks ago

west lancs

She ain’t cheating if I’m watching and encouraging

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
30 weeks ago

Coventry

The idea that it's cheating just comes from a place of ignorance and insecurity.

However I'm sure there is and I'm sure we've seen over the years some couples where this is partially true. Some couples one or both of them have lead them to the scene for unhealthy reasons, like being bored of their partner. In these cases they never last long as a couple because the lifestyle is very good at exposing the problems in a relationship.

I would also say for many who say swinging is just cheating it probably says more about their nature and/or relationship than it does about us.

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By *uttercupWoman
30 weeks ago

Borders

Stop telling people then

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By *ayne_fungirlWoman
30 weeks ago

MANCHESTER

only if your partner does not know

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By *ertcoupleCouple
30 weeks ago

Welwyn Garden City

Not cheating... it's just fun. How can it be cheating when we are both there and know what's happening

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

Not if both Individuals are accepting aware and open to the idea, if its done behind someones back and packaged as swinging then yes

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
30 weeks ago

Shenfield ESSEX

Very true

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By *llGoodFun76Couple
30 weeks ago

Angus

Definitely not should be all consenting xx

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By (user no longer on site)
30 weeks ago

No it insn't cheating.

Cheating involves deception, we are both completely aware of what each other does.

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By *llGoodFun76Couple
30 weeks ago

Angus

"No it insn't cheating.

Cheating involves deception, we are both completely aware of what each other does."

This xx

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By *andC1000Couple
25 weeks ago

ashford

"As long as it's Legal and Consensual, how can it be cheating or lying?

Doing it behind your partners back,is another thing entirely!"

Exactly this, sadly it’s the easy option for many regardless of the consequences

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By *estiswestMan
25 weeks ago

glasgow

In no way is it cheating

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By *ndy 2010Man
25 weeks ago

grimsby

Not cheating if you are doing it together openly and willingly

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By *ee And MikeCouple
25 weeks ago

Cannock

We don’t see it as cheating, it’s why we became a cuckold couple so that Dee could play with others and not behind my back.

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By *-and-GCouple
25 weeks ago

norfolk

Not at all, if anything it’s the opposite, cheating to me is hiding, deceit, sneaking around and looking for an emotional / sexual connection outside of your relationship without your partners knowledge. Swinging is all about open and honest communication so that both (or more) parties can explore fantasies and sexual desires within the emotional boundaries of their relationship.

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By *asha86Couple
25 weeks ago

walsall

People who don't understand what swinging is i like to call muggles!

They don't understand it and judge it on what they think they know.

We don't try and steal your wife/husband

We won't sleep with just anyone.

For us since being on the scene we are way more open with each other and have no secrets.

Cheating is when you hold back things or hide things from each other and in the scene if your doing this your relationship will not last.

Swinging is not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
25 weeks ago

Asking swingers if it’s cheating is bound to get a biased answer.

If you asked non-swingers they’d likely say yes it is. So it all depends on who you ask.

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By *arky335traceyCouple
25 weeks ago

benfleet

One of me fantasies is that Tracey cheats and fucks someone without me knowing.

It’s on our list / challenges we set each other

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By *andC1000Couple
25 weeks ago

ashford

"Not at all, if anything it’s the opposite, cheating to me is hiding, deceit, sneaking around and looking for an emotional / sexual connection outside of your relationship without your partners knowledge. Swinging is all about open and honest communication so that both (or more) parties can explore fantasies and sexual desires within the emotional boundaries of their relationship."

Exactly this, communication and openness is the big difference bewteen the two. This can include each party exploring their own paths but with communication and consent of the other is far less hurtful and deceitful than one party cheating and denying it and not taking responsibility for any consequences.

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