FabSwingers.com forum: Initial Message

By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

What’s the best sort of first message to send to a woman/ couple ? I just put “Hey, how are you?” but even I don’t think that’s great lol. Any recommendations?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"What’s the best sort of first message to send to a woman/ couple ? I just put “Hey, how are you?” but even I don’t think that’s great lol. Any recommendations?"

More about what you’re looking for, details is key. Face pic always help and the main advice is if they don’t reply - don’t bombard!

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By *ubcup2Couple
37 weeks ago

London

If anyone just puts one sentence I delete straight away.

It shows that you couldn't be bothered to read the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"If anyone just puts one sentence I delete straight away.

It shows that you couldn't be bothered to read the profile."

This. All day long. i appreciate as a man, you may well have to send out dozens and dozens of messages, and get very little back for your effort.

However tempting it obviously is to send a short little intro “like how are you” I’d suggest your target audience gets so many similar they have no compelling reason to open yours.

Yes, it may take you a few extra minutes to write something bespoke, and even that may not translate into a reply, but I’d guess its stands more of a chance.

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By *icked-GameCouple
37 weeks ago

Antarctica

Everyone is different but unless you look like a God or Goddess, a how are you message is unlikely to spark a conversation

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By *eroLondonMan
37 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I just put “Hey, how are you?” but even I don’t think that’s great..."

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Recently, whilst sitting next to a ladyfriend in a bar, she showed me her inbox: there were 400~ messages where the significant majority were "Hey, how are you?", or "Hi", or "Hey, how's things", or ... ...

I think that gives an indication of how ingenious those messages are.

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By *lym4realCouple
37 weeks ago

plymouth

Like most couples we do sort of know how hard and daunting it is for males but reading someones profile and not implying you have or saying you have ? and go from there really .....xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
37 weeks ago

Midlands

"What’s the best sort of first message to send to a woman/ couple ? I just put “Hey, how are you?” but even I don’t think that’s great lol. Any recommendations?"

The best first messages are when you comment on someones profile to show you've read it. Don't assume that will get replies though.

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By *aandLoCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

As already said, a few lines which refer to something specific in our profile will grab our attention.

One liners are deleted without even looking at the sender's profile.

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By *.........Couple
37 weeks ago

Manchester

This and hey what you looking for is enough for us to hit delete. It tells they didn't read our profile.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
37 weeks ago

andover

We always have a read through someone’s profile, pick out parts we have in common, things we are interested in and things we could offer. Then try to compile it into a message.

That way they know we have read the bio and messaged because we believe we can offer something they are looking for, rather than just go off pictures

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