FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By *erbys_couple OP Couple
38 weeks ago

Derby

For us rejection is a part of Fab, if we aren’t someone’s cup of tea then fair enough. We will respect that decision, send best wishes and move on. We’ve definitely had our fair share of people saying “no” for whatever reason.

Lately we’ve had some nasty responses when we politely decline.

Can’t we just keep things pleasant?

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By *J_1999Man
38 weeks ago

leeds

As fab being a cock party I get rejected 90% of time just how it goes on here no need for anyone to be salty about it.

Weird

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

This is why I now block,straight after I say no thanks.

No need at all op, I got sick of well why not or getting called names when I declined.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
38 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I'd save yourself the aggro.

Send a polite no thanks message then block them.

Some people are unable to manage themselves so don't leave yourselves open to their nastiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Wait wait wait, does that mean people get accepted? Lol

Rejection is part of life, I blame social media for some peoples inability to accept it. They surround themselves with only things they like and affirm them.

My two pence anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

We just laugh at the pathetic comments we get back then hit the block button. There’s just no need for nastiness as there’s already enough negativity in today’s world!

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By *he MinionMan
38 weeks ago

Surrey

Rejection is part and parcel of all this.

Got to be thick skinned on here ! But the nasty back lash ? Never understood that, its very childish and quite frankly, laughable.

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By *orkshireGrizzlyMan
38 weeks ago

Wakefield

A lot of it comes down to maturity and expectations.

It's a swinging site and I think people have an expectation to instantly get something from everyone they message. Unfortunately the maturity part is yet to catch up with the reality of the situation that real life still applies and not everyone is here to say yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Similar to above really

80% of the messages I get I can read in their entirety without even opening them

I just delete them.

That should be response enough, it's not worth replying to most who message in case of the negativity back

I'll make an exception for messages that obvs have some personalisation or effort in.

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By *rigbyMan
38 weeks ago

Skelmersdale

Well what have I taken from the replies here...

One,if you're not thick skinned you've no business being on here

Two,it's ok for messages to not be read and the sender blocked

Three,it's ok to laugh at and ignore certain people.

Ok, everyone has the right not to be abused by random strangers messages,I get that....but realise the frustration that builds up from constant rejection and I mean constant....I just got completely ignored in a thread specifically described for my exact demographic

Did I send abusive messages?no,of course not.... but did anyone even consider a reply to me, even the op who started the thread asking to interact with exactly my details?? No....

Nobody is owed interaction,and certainly unpleasant comments are unnecessary and unacceptable, but understand just how soul destroying it can be on here

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By *avej500Man
38 weeks ago

Stevenage

I know I am not even one’s type. same as lot of people are not my type so put your pants on and move along with it just add to block list

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
38 weeks ago

Bognor Regis

I tend to just block after saying no obviously in a nicer way than that lol. I hate the question why I mean what do you want me to say.

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By *insBadMan
38 weeks ago

& around

The biggest bitches I know, are all men.

You spurn a man's advances you watch some, not all, of them turn nasty

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
38 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west

Its when people get nasty when we don't reply... the first message is usually one word or a single line lol.

No time for nastiness on here, our block list is more extensive than our friends list lol

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By *od-ZillaMan
38 weeks ago

Truro

It is helpful of them to reinforce/confirm you made the correct decision.

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By *ositivity99Man
38 weeks ago

Liverpool

It always amazes me that there are people on here, mostly guys, that get nasty when rejected. There’s probably 1m guys on this site. Be nice…. Or F off!!!

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By *862EastmidsMan
38 weeks ago

NOTTINGHAM

Rejection is part of the process, it makes the invite once you get one so much better, dont put up with the nasty comments, just block

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Think I’m more shocked when I get a positive reply

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By *zzzwazzzMan
37 weeks ago

Nuneaton

I think the let down and shock of being rejected on here turns many guys nasty and savage. Although, this is of course, no excuse for such unacceptable behaviour. A lot of people need to learn how to better deal with being rejected and just move. I'm sure it'll make the eventual invitation even sweeter

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By *heshire fun couple 123Couple
37 weeks ago

Nantwich

We actually find it worse from couples than single guys, single guys can just get a bit pesty and message repeatedly.

Whereas we have had a few occasions recently where we've started chatting but once face pics have been swapped the male hasn't been Sophs type. We say this straight away and have been surprised at some of the sh//ty answers back.

We all have to find the person attractive, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's cool. No need for the nastiness, it's not a personal attack to say sorry not our type.

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By *erbys_couple OP Couple
37 weeks ago

Derby

"We actually find it worse from couples than single guys, single guys can just get a bit pesty and message repeatedly.

We all have to find the person attractive, I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea and that's cool. No need for the nastiness, it's not a personal attack to say sorry not our type. "

Exactly our thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Agreed

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By *unx2019Couple
37 weeks ago

Lossiemouth

I just ignore them and leave messages for cuck to answer. He is useful for somethings 😂

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By *ndianMidscplCouple
37 weeks ago

west midlands

Take it gracefully

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By *hank you sirMan
37 weeks ago

colchester

When youre as "niche" as I am you get used to it quickly

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By *w funwifeWoman
37 weeks ago

near taunton

this is not just a guy thing there were are are plenty of couples/women who cant handle rejection too some react bery badly ... hence iy stopped looking for couples and women via fab ...

as for guys if im nor interested its a str8 block nas im only here to meet im not here for friends ill never meet ...yeo my block list is nassive

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