FabSwingers.com forum: Time wasters

By *amster1210 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Haslingden

Hi we are not naming people but lets here so if the excuses people have made and how many let downs from same person

I am going for a record of 20 excuses for not meeting from same person used child for not being in colleor home before he should and hubby for being off work due to illness. Unplanned holiday's, pissed and got up late etc etc

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By *aven RedWoman
38 weeks ago

Liverpool x

I would never let someone get to that amount of cancellations x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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38 weeks ago

East Sussex

In a bit of a twist we had to cancel a meet once for genuine reasons. He wasn't best pleased and left the site shortly after. He rejoined and we arranged to meet again and in a deliberate tit for tat move he cancelled on us last minute.

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By *quirrel!Man
38 weeks ago

The Wirrel

"I would never let someone get to that amount of cancellations x"

Who in their right mind would cancel on you? 😉😘

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By *CExeCouple
38 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

Absolutely hate them. Had more than our fair share, but the last year or so hasn't been too bad.

Annoyingly, I had a meet lined up with an absolute hottie on here a few years ago, started driving to hers and the brakes on my car failed with me nearly ploughing into the back of a truck. It sounded like a typical timewasting excuse and understandably she didn't want to rearrange 😢 I was absolutely gutted lol.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Bristol

That's mad.

I've never reached more than two and that's off people I know.

First bizzare excuse and they generally block me/never ask again.

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By *amster1210 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Haslingden

"Absolutely hate them. Had more than our fair share, but the last year or so hasn't been too bad.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't let anyone get past 2 excuses /let downs op.

There are genuine emergencies and reasons people can't meet when arranged,sure.

If it's everytime you've planned a meet, there's something not right going on there. If have blocked them ages ago.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"In a bit of a twist we had to cancel a meet once for genuine reasons. He wasn't best pleased and left the site shortly after. He rejoined and we arranged to meet again and in a deliberate tit for tat move he cancelled on us last minute. "
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That's really petty, you can tell when someone is cancelling for a genuine reason.

I think the person that stood me up here, did it for similar reasons. I couldn't meet for ages, as I worked and cared for my dad then.

He knew this when we started chatting, when we finally got to a social, he stood me up!.

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By *revaunanceCouple
38 weeks ago

Exeter

You let someone have the opportunity to cancel on you 20 times? Wow!

Many moons ago when we lived in Kent we had arranged a meet at our place. We worked out the journey time from his place to ours was between 30 and 40 minutes. After two hours we figured we had been let down and went to bed.

The next day there were five emails stating we were timewasters, but we were none the wiser as to what went wrong. Well that was until we spoke to friends living nearby who had been woken up at midnight by a guy claiming he was there for a threesome

It turns out their postcode was one letter away from ours and he had put it in his sat nav wrong.

He apologised profusely of course, and tried to rearrange a meet. Unfortunately his five emails had shown a different side to him and we were no longer interested.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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38 weeks ago

East Sussex

That's really petty, you can tell when someone is cancelling for a genuine reason.

I think the person that stood me up here, did it for similar reasons. I couldn't meet for ages, as I worked and cared for my dad then.

He knew this when we started chatting, when we finally got to a social, he stood me up!. "

We knew he was going to cancel, you know when you can just tell, so we didn't get too excited

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By *tlanshiaWoman
38 weeks ago

Chatham

I had one guy tell me he had no petrol in the car 5 mins before a meet. Like okay, but tell me earlier.

Blocked and never rearranged. He seemed to be picture hunting, arranging meets as a way to get new pics

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By *uzzieboyMan
38 weeks ago

Somerset

I’ve had more than my fair share of cancellations and no explanation witch is the worse thing

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

1. Texting from hospital with appendicitis.... yeah right, texting would be the last thing on your mind 🤣🤣

2.Run over by a bicycle.... wuss

3.Heart attack

4.Run over by a car.

5. Came down with a cold or covid an hour before. Numerous times.

6. I'm on the way.... no show Numerous times.

7. Went for a shower and fell asleep.

So we don't arrange no meets no more. It seems we're the kiss off death and we really don't want a text from a guy saying he can't make it as it's his funeral.

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By *uzzieboyMan
38 weeks ago

Somerset

"1. Texting from hospital with appendicitis.... yeah right, texting would be the last thing on your mind 🤣🤣

2.Run over by a bicycle.... wuss

3.Heart attack

4.Run over by a car.

5. Came down with a cold or covid an hour before. Numerous times.

6. I'm on the way.... no show Numerous times.

7. Went for a shower and fell asleep.

So we don't arrange no meets no more. It seems we're the kiss off death and we really don't want a text from a guy saying he can't make it as it's his funeral."

There is still some genuine guys out here and like to think I’m one of them

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

"1. Texting from hospital with appendicitis.... yeah right, texting would be the last thing on your mind 🤣🤣

2.Run over by a bicycle.... wuss

3.Heart attack

4.Run over by a car.

5. Came down with a cold or covid an hour before. Numerous times.

6. I'm on the way.... no show Numerous times.

7. Went for a shower and fell asleep.

So we don't arrange no meets no more. It seems we're the kiss off death and we really don't want a text from a guy saying he can't make it as it's his funeral.

There is still some genuine guys out here and like to think I’m one of them "

Yeah, and most of the no shows say they are genuine, won't let us down, 100% I'llbe there. No one will ever say " I'm a wanna come but really I'm a time waster" 🤣

Gave 1 guy another chance after his car broke down. He must have had an old banger as it broke down again. 🤣🤣

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By *uzzieboyMan
38 weeks ago

Somerset

Well, I like to think I’m a man of my word If I say I’m gonna turn up, I’ll turn up

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By *uzzieboyMan
38 weeks ago

Somerset

I would say put me to the test lol 😂 but clearly I’m not your type as I can’t even see your profile

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Cheshire

Been called a time waster for giving reasons for 1 meet not being able to get to. For biological reasons even.

We think of it as a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

The worst one for me was when I simply didn’t wish to meet them.

There was this expectation that since I’m a single male one should just be grateful for the offer - sorry but I have more self respect

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By *iddle ManMan
38 weeks ago

Walsall

Things happen and get in the way of your plans, it's life unfortunately.

When people keep making excuses though, then you have to think do they really want to arrange something or just unreliable. Maybe even a time waster.

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By *aughtyPumpkinWoman
38 weeks ago

between Donny/Scunny/Gainsborough

I generally give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Life happens, fab isn’t a priority, and I have better things to do with my time than overthink someone else’s reasons for cancelling.

So honestly I don’t really mind, but I do lose interest and then the onus is on them to reschedule or try again.

I absolutely won’t tolerate anyone who goes dark and then pops up much later with an excuse though. There is no reason someone can’t message out of courtesy to cancel

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I generally give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Life happens, fab isn’t a priority, and I have better things to do with my time than overthink someone else’s reasons for cancelling.

So honestly I don’t really mind, but I do lose interest and then the onus is on them to reschedule or try again.

I absolutely won’t tolerate anyone who goes dark and then pops up much later with an excuse though. There is no reason someone can’t message out of courtesy to cancel "

It’s that last paragraph that annoys me

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By *arleycplWoman
38 weeks ago

Frodsham

One guys was he forgot it was his sons birthday?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Had quite a few cancellations and some who actually messaged first, start chatting everything going great then "boom" just ghost you for whatever reason

I've just learnt it's either they've got cold feet about meeting or just a time waster.

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By *ealitybitesMan
38 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never had a no show in all my time here.

Every meet I've arranged has turned up on time.

I've had two women use me as a plan B but I could see what they were doing so didn't travel and the next day they had shiny new verifications from their plan A including one which named the coffee shop she wanted to meet me in.

In those cases there was no second chance and I said as much when coffee shop lady got back in touch.

If there was a genuine reason I would give someone a second chance but there would be no third.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
38 weeks ago

North East Lincolnshire

One guy we arranged for C to meet for a social. Meeting in the middle, about 30 mins each way.

C had got ready and was leaving, leaving, leaving….but never messaged to say he had left as agreed.

We got a response about 30 mins later asking if he could straight to ours for sex 🙄

Was a verified account too. The strange walk amongst us.

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By *unguy2429Man
38 weeks ago

worthing

Had a few does my nut in

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By *osh bitch n hornyCouple
38 weeks ago

Warrington

All we are getting lately are time wasters. Mainly couples saying at the las minute saying the lady can’t make it but the male can. Obviously a guy acting as a couple. We have also had a guy ghost K on a solo hotel meeting two days before. We can’t remember the number of different excuses we don’t know where they get them from. We are looking for genuine couples

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By *amster1210 OP Man
38 weeks ago

Haslingden

Never had that one about women can't make it but yes you are right it will just be a male on couple profile

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By *weetSmellingSamTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Consett

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